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Gender Queer: A Memoir Deluxe Edition
Gender Queer: A Memoir Deluxe Edition | Maia Kobabe
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2020 ALA Alex Award Winner 2020 Stonewall Israel Fishman Non-fiction Award Honor Book In 2014, Maia Kobabe, who uses e/em/eir pronouns, thought that a comic of reading statistics would be the last autobiographical comic e would ever write. At the time, it was the only thing e felt comfortable with strangers knowing about em. Now, Gender Queer is here. Maias intensely cathartic autobiography charts eir journey of self-identity, which includes the mortification and confusion of adolescent crushes, grappling with how to come out to family and society, bonding with friends over erotic gay fanfiction, and facing the trauma and fundamental violation of pap smears. Started as a way to explain to eir family what it means to be nonbinary and asexual, Gender Queer is more than a personal story: it is a useful and touching guide on gender identitywhat it means and how to think about itfor advocates, friends, and humans everywhere. This special deluxe hardcover edition of Gender Queer features a brand-new cover, exclusive art and sketches, and a TK from creator Maia Kobabe.
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Chelsea.Poole
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Thanks to @TieDyeDude for reminding me I need to read this after posting about it here! #BlameItOnLitsy
This is an amazing graphic novel that opened my eyes, which I so appreciate. It‘s one of the best things about reading…gaining new perspectives. Maia‘s book starts during eir childhood and continues through many stages, helping readers see experiences with gender along the way. Available instantly on hoopla, this was a great read!

TieDyeDude Yay! Glad you liked it. Such an important book 5d
Addison_Reads I just got this from my local library today. I can't wait to start it. 5d
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Julsmarshall
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This vulnerable, open, graphic memoir is so tender and honest. It offers a perspective to others around gender and some of the questions folks may have around this topic. This is so important to be in the world right now and I‘m honored to have read it. A quick, lunchtime read. I highly recommend! #queer #pride #lgbtqia+

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ErraticElle
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A fantastic read. Maia Kobabe has written a graphic memoir regarding the journey to understand & accept eir identity. There was a lot of honesty in these pages, with great exploration of anxiety. Kobabe presents gender issues simply, yet with great emotional content. The rawness of the introspection is touching. The discussion around pronouns was incredibly well done & easily followed. This is an important, heartfelt read. Highly recommend.

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JackOBotts
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My thanks to @TieDyeDude for posting about this memoir earlier this week and to my library for carrying it and displaying it atop the YA Graphic Novel section. Kobabe‘s vulnerability in sharing eir story, eir pain, eir journey will help another (young) person/many (young) people understand that they are not alone; they deserve to live their life as who they are. #representationmatters
❤️🧡💛💚💙

TieDyeDude Glad your enjoyed it! 3w
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TieDyeDude
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If you haven't read what has become one of the most challenged books of all time, make sure to seek it out this Pride Month. It is available on hoopla if you can't find it at your local bookstore or library. Absolutely essential reading.

JackOBotts Just saw that this is available at my local library…trying to swing by to grab it today. 📚 3w
TieDyeDude @JackOBotts Good luck and enjoy 💪 3w
Chelsea.Poole Thanks for the rec! 3w
TieDyeDude @Chelsea.Poole Anytime 😁 3w
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hissingpotatoes
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5/5⭐ Kobabe is so good at expressing emself and eir complex inner workings. I hope as many people experiencing similar thoughts as possible read this book to help them articulate their identities and feel seen. #bookspinbingo

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Nutmegnc
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In honor of #gaymay @xicanti this is my updated #lgbtqbookbingo @Kenyazero

xicanti Love it! 2mo
CuriousG I've ordered my copy of the special edition of this book...can't wait until I actually have it in my hands and can read it! 2mo
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HatefulGrablin
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This book was very eye opening about gender identity issues, which is something I don't have much experience with. I was taken aback by this panel, since it's an anxiety dream I have often too. I didn't realize it might be a common nightmare.

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DGRachel
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#booked2022 #acomingoutstory This was an informative, touching graphic memoir about Maia‘s discovery of em gender identity. I had not heard of Spivak pronouns prior to this. There‘s a lot here that I didn‘t know. I appreciate having this memoir for an experience very different from my own and so glad that e felt secure enough to write this. My only quibble is that the art style is not to my liking, but it‘s the story that is really important.

Bookzombie Excellent review! 2mo
Nutmegnc I have this one in my TBR!! Great thoughts! 2mo
Cinfhen Excellent review!! I‘ve heard wonderful things about this GN 2mo
Cinfhen Too bad you didn‘t enjoy the artwork. 2mo
DGRachel @Cinfhen I‘m super picky about the art style I like. This one is fine, and it suits the story, it just isn‘t one I find particularly appealing. 🤷🏻‍♀️ 2mo
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TheKidUpstairs
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I've read All Boys Aren't Blue and The Hate U Give, and they're two of my favourites of recent years. Now excuse me while I make sure the others are on my TBR!

Lindy Good idea! 3mo
Suet624 This list bothers me so much. 3mo
Bookzombie I read All Boys Aren‘t Blue last year and need to pick up their latest. Gender Queer was a recent read and it will be one I revisit. The other three are on my list too. 3mo
TrishB Read 2 and have screenshot the others. 2mo
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WellReadCatLady
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Absolutely no reason why this book shouldn‘t be available in a high school library.

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Chittavrtti
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Nutmegnc
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My March #bookspinbingo. I ended up reading off-list so I I just added them to the free spaces. Still not quite one bingo. 🤔 oh well. Next month, right? @TheAromaofBooks

TheAromaofBooks Still a great month!!! 3mo
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Bookzombie
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#reviewcatchup

Gender Queer is one of the most banned books in the US. Below is a quote from the author I found in an news article linked in comments.
“There are a lot of people who are questioning their gender, questioning their sexuality and having a real hard time finding honest accounts of somebody else on the same journey. There are people for whom this is vital and for whom this could maybe even be lifesaving.”
I absolutely agree with ⬇️

Bookzombie Kobabe. I wish everyone would read eir story and more, so that we can all understand each other and support and love one another. I will be rereading this one again, but I wanted to make sure it got to the next person who had it on hold at the library. 3mo
brittanybooks Banned?!! Can‘t wait to read it now! 3mo
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Branwen I love this graphic novel and I'm so proud that we have copies in my library! 💕📚 3mo
Bookzombie @brittanybooks It‘s really good! 3mo
Bookzombie @Branwen I feel the same! I‘m happy when I see mine has repurchased it in physical and ebook form. 3mo
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rsteve388
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Wow what a powerful graphic novel, that I related to! It was such a beautiful story to hear about Maia Kobabe's life and eir journey towards Non Binary identity. Beautiful, magnificent delightful.

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Librariana
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Finished Maia Kobabe's memoir and I'm grateful for eir willingness and vulnerability in sharing so many aspects of eir life and eir gender journey. A deeply personal account with many questions and reflections on identity and sexuality.

A little late in the day with my #bookreport, but I wanted to squeeze in a bit more reading in a day filled with house chores and a fair amount of TV viewing.

@Cinfhen

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Librariana
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I'm trying to find my way back to reading. To being excited about and completely absorbed by a book, but so much continues to happen in the world and it seems to be all consuming... emotionally draining. I'm trying to still be a part of the world, but it hurts. I'm trying to find comfort and solace in books... maybe even a little distraction from the atrocities and the doom scrolling while still being aware. I'm trying to find a balance.

Kenyazero I‘m glad you‘re looking for balance right now. That‘s important to work toward and I hope you settle into feeling a little more balance soon ❤️ 4mo
Hooked_on_books Balance is so important. It‘s easy to get mired in the awful things in the world. But there have always been awful things. And there have also always been wonderful things. Sometimes turning away from the awful things you have no control over and focusing on the wonderful things for a while instead can be really healthy. I hope you find your way, Ana. 4mo
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Sarahreadstoomuch
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Curious about all the book challenges, I thought I‘d check this book out myself. I could guess at the reason for the challenge, which is ridiculous. What I found was an emotional, raw, and brutally honest memoir by the author telling eir path to understanding queerness, the pronouns and identity that fit best (e/em/eir) and also being asexual. This could really be a comfort and help young people who are questioning or need to feel seen.

Sarahreadstoomuch It makes me sad that this book has a 50% approval rating on here, yet absolutely no thumbs down reviews. 4mo
CarolynM I've often wondered about how books get their overall % rating in their profile because it's often not consistent with my impression from the reviews. I guess there are people who just give books one of the 3 ratings without posting reviews ☹ 4mo
Sarahreadstoomuch @CarolynM it‘s up to 60% now with no new reviews! 4mo
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mgschu
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Just like the author, I identify as genderqueer & yet, there‘s very little in this book I directly related to (except a love of 1D & fanfic!)— and that‘s exactly why I adored it. The range of queer & trans experience is so rad. It wasn‘t my experience but it was a gorgeous one. All of us have carried weight. Of confusion & play & euphoria & pain. The way that manifests looks vastly different for all of us, but we still understand one another

GondorGirl I agree completely! This was such a great representation of one person's queerness and I really respect the author's openess in sharing their experience. 5mo
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Megabooks Nice choice! 5mo
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IndoorDame
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I loved this memoir! It really spoke to me. It has one more #LMPBC reader left in Group P, so I won‘t say too much about it. But I‘m really glad we read this one! #LGBTQBookBingo #GenderQueerMainCharacter #Nonfiction2022 #ImARuleBreaker #PopSugar2022 #ReflectedImageOnCover @Kenyazero @suvata @WanderingBookaneer @bibliobard @phantomx @Riveted_Reader_Melissa

Kenyazero One of my favorites ♥️ e just released a hardcover version recently. 5mo
Nutmegnc Just got it!!! 4mo
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IndoorDame
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My January #LMPBC package arrived today as predicted! (Or possibly January and February for Group A as there are 2 MG books). Definitely excited to start on this lot! Thank you for the awesome tote bag @phantomx !

Branwen Beetle and the Hollowbones is soooooooo good! Very cute and colorful! ❤ 5mo
JenniferEgnor All the book bans only make me want to read Gender Queer even more😍 5mo
phantomx @IndoorDame I'm glad they arrived to you on time! I'm not sure if the tote bag is from Jeimy or Ryan 5mo
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IndoorDame @phantomx is it something I should pass along? 5mo
phantomx @IndoorDame I believe you can keep it 5mo
IndoorDame @phantomx okay thanks😊 5mo
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Meghan1
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What a beautiful memoir about growing up non-binary. I really hope e comes out to the students e teaches comic writing to next time.

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LiteraryinLawrence
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Finally borrowed this graphic novel after having it on my radar for quite some time. Maia does a wonderful job of sharing eir lived experience of what gender and sexuality mean to em, and how that has become clearer over time. I found it really impactful to read Maia‘s story, and there is no doubt e is a talented artist as well.

Smrloomis Keep meaning to read this one. I keep seeing parents trying to remove it from school libraries in the US (which totally makes me want to read it more!). 6mo
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KathyWheeler
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Last night I finished up Ida B. the Queen (for #SheSaid) and Word Watching. I also read Gender Queer and Fortunately, the Milk. I liked Gender Queer and learned a lot from it but ended up really concerned about Kobabe over the gynecologist visits. The art is lovely. Fortunately, the Milk was delightful, while Word Watching was interesting but not my favorite word book. Ida B. the Queen was informative but not well organized.

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Cortg
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Fantastic graphic novel memoir about gender identity. I learned some new to me things and feel it‘s an important read to understand differences and to understand our LGBTQIA+ community of friends.

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Graciouswarriorprincess
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Book 71/150.

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Kenyazero
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Thanks for the tag, @Ast_Arslan Hmm, this is a tough one... It was a close call between 3 excellent titles, but I finally picked Gender Queer because it's such a well done graphic memoir (e has such good bookshelf drawings too! 😍). #ComicComfort
@crimson613 @ShyBookOwl @LokiDokey @maich @emtobiasz @Tracyantoon @Bookzombie @LibrarianRyan @kwmg40 I KNOW I'm missing some lovely littens, so please share if not tagged too!

mavey Thanks so much for sharing!💕 1y
Kenyazero @Mavey Thank you for starting this! I look forward to seeing what people say! 1y
mavey @Kenyazero Yes!😃Me too! 1y
maich Thanks for sharing❤ 1y
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TiminCalifornia
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Great book club recommendation - memoir in comic form. Accessible telling of the experience of growing up with an internal gender identity that is neither male nor female as those identities are traditionally perceived.

Many of the author‘s experiences were akin to my trans experience in the ‘90s though not exactly the same. I learned a lot reading this. #maiakobabe #genderqueer #asexual #doublespin

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TiminCalifornia
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Starting this tonight. Should be quite a departure from Walter Benjamin.

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WanderingBookaneer
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Fantastic graphic memoir published by Simon & Shuster. #SupportSS

WanderingBookaneer @ChasingOm : I loved it too! 1y
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alisonrose
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Brave & beautiful book! I think graphic memoir was the perfect way to depict Maia‘s gender & sexuality journey & bring it to visual life. I‘m cis but a lot here was familiar regarding my path thru various sexuality IDs to finally knowing myself as gay & ace. I hope this book helps ppl to discover their truths, & others to understand them better. Some triggering images, wish there‘d been content notes, use caution if needed. 4/5 ⭐️ #NewYearWhoDis

Emilymdxn I‘m so glad you liked it! And apologies for not providing more detailed content notes, I read it a while ago and couldn‘t remember exactly what would need warnings for 1y
alisonrose @Emilymdxn Oh, no no, no worries at all! Probably for most people it would be totally fine. It was the images of menstrual blood and Maia being sick in the bathroom that were a bit jarring for me. But I know for most readers those wouldn‘t be issues. 1y
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As I pondered a pronoun change, I began to think of gender less as a scale&more as a landscape. Some ppl are born in the mountains, while others are born by the sea. Some ppl are happy to live in the place they were born, while others must make a journey to reach the climate in which they can flourish&grow. B/t the ocean&the mountains is a wild forest. That is where I want to make my home

[I‘m cis but this struck me as a beautiful way to put it!]

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alisonrose
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My personal fave from my local Pride parade in 2018: Asexuals: We just don‘t give a fuck! 🤣🖤🤍💜 I immediately found a shirt online with IDGAF with the Ace Pride colors.

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alisonrose
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I too remember experiencing such queer joy about the gay penguins 🐧💜🐧

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alisonrose
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Gonna kick off my 2021 reading with the first of my three #NewYearWhoDis books! Figured this would be a good first book of the year—it‘s short, it‘s queer, and it was one of @Emilymdxn ‘s faves of last year. Thanks again for organizing this @monalyisha 😊🗓📚 #NowReading

monalyisha Love the cover art already! 1y
Emilymdxn Yay! One of my fave memoirs and fave graphic novels ever! 1y
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alisonrose
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Such an awesome match up, @monalyisha !!! @Emilymdxn has a fantastic list of favorites here—a few I‘ve read and loved, and a bunch that were on my list already! Definitely gonna read the tagged book, and will have to figure out which few others I want to go for. Yay books and book lovers!!! #NewYearWhoDis

monalyisha “Yay books & book lovers,” for sure! Every time I do this, I marvel at how we all get so excited to what basically amounts to English homework. I try to explain the event to other friends, even other book-loving friends who aren‘t on Litsy, & they usually just look at me funny. 😆🤷‍♀️ Bless our tiny, niche community. 2y
Hestapleton Gonna HIGHLY recommend Pet Sematary on audio!!!! 2y
batsy That's a fab list 😍 2y
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Emilymdxn So excited to see what you think!! And three cheers for English homework @monalyisha !! Also, HOW GOOD was the one hundred nights of hero??? 2y
alisonrose @Hestapleton Haha noooooo no horror for me! Can‘t do it. 🙅🏻‍♀️ 2y
alisonrose @monalyisha we are nerdy and awesome! 2y
alisonrose @Emilymdxn SO GOOD!!!! I legit cried a little and I rarely cry over books 2y
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ephemeralwaltz
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A vibrant, funny, tender and intimate graphic autobiography that explores the author's relationship with the process of eir understanding of eir sexual and gender identity. HOWEVER, this has been marketed as a sort of "how-to-guide" to being trans or genderfluid, and it is NOT that. This is one experience, and shouldn't be read as a masterclass for anything else. But it is a wonderful guide to understanding Maia's experience ✨

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Soubhiville
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This memoir would be a great read for anyone who doesn‘t understand gender dysphoria or what it means to be non-binary and asexual. Maia‘s memoir is brutally honest even about taboos, and also goes into preferred pronouns in a thoughtful way. Definitely recommend!

wanderinglynn And you have a great model! ❤️🐱 2y
AmyG He is so handsome! 2y
Megabooks And also being asexual! (edited) 2y
Soubhiville @Megabooks ah yes! I‘m editing my post to add that, thanks! 2y
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faelinwolf
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The books e included on this bookshelf!!! I love so many of them! 💗💗💗

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faelinwolf
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There are so many things that I loved about this book--Maia's exploration of eir gender and sexuality, eir bravery in telling eir story, eir relationships with eir friends--but the part I loved the most was eir love of reading & books! It made me so happy to see books that I also love represented! I think Maia & I would be awesome reading buddies! 💗💗💗

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Megabooks
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E has opened up about such a difficult journey to unknot gender and sexuality. It is so heartening to hear the story another person that has had a less straightforward relationship with sexuality. Highly recommend!

#bookspinbingo #graphicnovel @TheAromaofBooks

UnRuLee I loved this graphic novel! So many pages had me nodding and going “ME TOO!” 2y
Megabooks @UnRuLee yes! I related a lot to eir sexuality journey! (Pronoun corrected 🤦🏻‍♀️) (edited) 2y
TheAromaofBooks Great progress! 2y
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Shay
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This graphic memoir follows Kobabe on eir exploration of gender & recounts eir confusion about increasingly gendered expectations in childhood. As e gets older there is an increasing focus on body dysmorphia, particularly body horror related to menstruation & gynecological exams. The memoir comes to an open ending, as Kobabe has realized eir nonbinary identity, but is still struggling with being open about it. Full review: https://wp.me/p2P6GA-5gh

LiteraryinLawrence This has been hanging out on my TBR for a long time. Thanks for the reminder- I will see if my library has it! 2y
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Joriebooks
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This book was amazing! It‘s a graphic novel and that was refreshing because it‘s a format I don‘t read a lot.
It‘s a memoir chronicling a person‘s journey to realizing e is nonbinary and asexual.
I connected with this book more than I was expecting. ❤️🤓📚

ephemeralwaltz I don't read many graphic novels either and agree that every single one that I read feels so fresh!! 2y
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Shay
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Loved this graphic memoir about Maia Kobabe‘s experience exploring gender identity beyond the binary. Particularly enjoyed the evolving relationship with eir parents as e figured out how e identified. Warning: lots of graphic body dysmorphia in this one, if that is a trigger for you.

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Kenyazero
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I'm creating graphic book reviews about books by LGBTQ+ authors or books with LGBTQ+ characters. I went ahead and started with one of my favorites. Since I can't stack pictures on Litsy, I'm only sharing the first of five pages. You can see the rest on my Instagram popcultureliterary. #lgbtq #infographic #bookgraphic #bookreview

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Eyelit
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I love, Love, LOVED this graphic memoir. Even if I hadn‘t found so much of it personally relatable I would have loved this. Maia writes with such candor and grace, and I loved the art. I‘m thankful that e shared eir journey in this book and I think my only critique is I wanted more. 🙂

I read this on hoopla for #LitsyATXReadersSociety June book club theme of LGBTQIAP books - but I I will definitely be purchasing for my collection. 💜

UnRuLee I just recently read it and had very much the same experience! 2y
Emilymdxn I adored this one too I just read it last week and felt exactly the same! Why couldn't it be twice as long??? 2y
ephemeralwaltz These illustrations😍 2y
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Emilymdxn
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Probably the most perfect graphic novel I‘ve ever read? I didn‘t want to let it end. Beautifully drawn and an incredible story. I was surprised by how much this rang true with me as a cisgender queer woman, I felt I had so much in common with Maia and my journey and eirs chimed together so well. I see myself rereading this a lot. Recommend SO much particularly to anyone wanting to give some money to trans writers in the wake of JK-gate.

Megabooks Yes. I love the way she talks about her asexuality. It‘s pretty much the only asexual book I‘ve read so I feel like I relate to as an asexual. Maia is just fantastic! 2y
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UnRuLee
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“The clearest metaphor I had for my own gender identity...was the image of a scale. A huge weight had been placed on one side, without my permission. I was constantly trying to weigh down the other side. But the end goal wasn‘t masculinity—the goal was balance.” This is the most seen I‘ve ever felt. Holy shmolies. That‘s EXACTLY what my gender identity feels like.

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