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Stay Sexy and Don't Get Murdered
Stay Sexy and Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide | Karen Kilgariff, Georgia Hardstark
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In STAY SEXY & DON'T GET MURDERED, Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark, hosts of true crime comedy podcast 'My Favorite Murder,' open up about their lives more intimately than ever in their confessionally honest and hilarious debut book, titled after their podcast sign-off. Sharing never-before-heard stories ranging from their struggles with depression, eating disorders, and addiction, Karen and Georgia irreverently recount their biggest mistakes and deepest fears, reflecting on the formative life events that shaped them into two of the most followed voices in the podcasting world.
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tokorowilliamwallace I'm trying! Hopefully I'm succeeding. I don't wanna be a dick... 2mo
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⭐⭐⭐⭐
I've only listened to 4 or 5 episodes of MFM, but I enjoyed them so I thought I'd listen to this book. It wasn't what I wasn't expecting (more of the podcast, I guess?), but their chemistry and humor is there, and there's a lot of vulnerability and insight into why they started the show.
#scarathlon #teamhendrix @StayCurious
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#screamathon @4thhouseontheleft #wickedathon #littenlisten @aperfectmjk #fallintoreading

Lucy_Anywhere I love this podcast! 7mo
TheSpineView Great job! 🤩🤩🤩 7mo
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booklover3258
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My review of this book can be found on my Youtube Vlog at:

https://youtu.be/55lrLsWT9fk

Enjoy!

WorldsOkayestStepMom Weet woo! 12mo
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samantharoberts
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Loved this! Read it as an audiobook (which I highly recommend) .. I‘ll definitely be subscribing to their podcast now

#Booked2021 pick for #Hear/Here (audiobook or set where you live)

Cinfhen I‘ve been curious about this book / you have me more intrigued than ever 😍 13mo
Pageturner1 love the title! have friends that remind me of that title. 😁😆 13mo
samantharoberts @Cinfhen i thought it was so good! I laughed, I cried, but I couldn‘t stop listening. The authors (who also read the audiobook version) are so funny and charismatic 13mo
samantharoberts @Pageturner1 such a good title! My fiancé passed by me when I was listening to it and was like “wow, that‘s a really catchy title!” LOL 13mo
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Kris10H
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I am addicted to true crime. I haven't listened to podcasts in a couple of years; since I discovered the joy of audiobooks. I may have to take a detour back to listen to the My Favorite Murder podcast again. Kilgriff & Hardstark are fun to listen to in this book of stories from their own lives.

Kris10H I particularly love their motto "fuck politeness" - which is not a call to rudeness, but a reminder that you don't have to stay in, or get into, a situation (particularly women) that makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. We are taught to be polite, to be flattered when a man pays attention to us, etc. What society has programmed us to do is be "nice". 1y
Kris10H Once, while I was in university, a man, a complete stranger, at a bar grabbed my ass and held it. This wasn't something I'd ever dealt with before, and I had certainly never been taught how to handle the situation. I am embarrassed to say that my amygdala was stuck in the "freeze" zone. Another guy, seeing what was going on, came over to talk to me, as if we knew each other. 1y
Kris10H He looked questioningly at the butt-grabber, as if to say "Is he bothering you?". Butt-grab McGee got the hint and walked away.
Flash forward to me now, and I know that I would react very differently in that situation. But the fact of the matter is that back then, all I had to fall back on was what I was taught about being nice, polite, and being glad for male attention (even when I wasn't, in fact, glad).
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Kris10H Not long after this incident, I was again downtown dancing with friends when a man came up to ask me to dance. We were having a girls night, and one of my friends was having a mini-crisis, so I politely said "I'm sorry, I can't. I need to be with my friend right now", and he yelled "BITCH!" before walkng away. 1y
Kris10H So long story...well...it's still long... but my point is, being polite in this type of situation doesn't get you anywhere, and neither does inaction. We do not owe men anything, and we do not have to allow them to treat us a certain way in fear of being called a bitch. F*ck politeness.
Thank you for listening to my TED Talk.
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Patchshank
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My choices. I know SSDGM isn't really a true crime book, but I thought I would add it just in case.
@Reynosa8701 @Mynameisacolour @booksellerofyourdiscontent
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Patchshank Killed strangely doesn't seem to be in the database. It's an older murder from like th 1800's. It's the murder of Rebecca Cornell. They use like ghosts and dreams and stuff as evidence during the court case I guess. I don't remember all th details, but the whole thing seemed pretty nuts. 1y
booksellerofyourdiscontent Killed Strangley sounds interesting, but I have always wanted to read The Stranger Beside Me. 1y
Reynosa8701 The stranger beside me 1y
HeathHof Ohhhhh tough choice. I Listened to SSDGM on Audio while ago, which was fantastic. Do you listen to their show? Killed Strangely sounds great but I'm down for whatever. 1y
Patchshank @Mynameisacolour I listen to their podcast a bit. But in the last year I haven't had time to listen to too many podcasts in general so it's been awhile. 1y
booksellerofyourdiscontent Sounds good to me! 1y
HeathHof I'm good with that! 1y
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BookishTrish
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An enjoyable listen for lunchtime #audiostitch sessions.

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Amandakay
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Second time ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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teebe
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As a fan of the podcast, this was great. It‘s a quick, funny read filled with new stories and additional info about some of the things Karen and Georgia have mentioned on the podcast.

Ironically, I read this while staying in a forest 👀

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MegaWhoppingCosmicBookwyrm Omg, I say this to my girlfriends/coworkers as my goodbye all the time! 😂🤣😂🤣 2y
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I promised to read more for myself & less for work during wfh downtime. (Those work/life boundaries are tougher to enforce!) I like memoir & this fits the bill. This book made me want to journal some of my own experiences around coming of age & sexuality in general. Recommended by a former bookstore coworker, it's been sitting on my TBR for too long.

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Beatlefan129
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I‘m not someone who has an interest in true crime, but I am someone who likes podcasts that are hosted by smart and funny women. I really enjoyed this book, which covers how Karen and Georgia met, their childhoods and young adult years, while still retaining all the humor and vulnerability they are known for in their podcast. I also really appreciate their openness about past struggles with drugs and alcohol and their strong support of therapy.

Ruthiella I like the podcast but it also freaks me out! I bought this book for my sister last year because she introduced me to the podcast. 😀 2y
Beatlefan129 @Ruthiella I know what you mean, I can only take a certain amount of gory murder details, but I still like the hosts overall 2y
MynameisSnow This one of my favs. You may also enjoy the podcast “ Morbid” (edited) 2y
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Emilymdxn
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Still not doing great but plodding onwards pals. Illness in the family and having to keep stuff running is a bit of a challenge. It‘s weird being 24 and feeling like too much of a child to look after people well, but also knowing some 24 year olds have kids and houses and keep families going permanently! I guess this will be one of my ‘growing up‘ moments. Grateful for Karen and Georgia‘s book, it feels like talking with old friends.

Megabooks Yes. I get where you‘re coming from. My dad had a stroke and I am not healthy and my mother is disabled. It‘s hard. So hard. My thoughts are with you! Sending love and hugs across the Atlantic!! 😘💕💖😘 We can do this! 2y
LiteraryinLawrence Sounds like a lot is on your shoulders. Be as kind to yourself as you can. 💗 You‘ve got this! 2y
sarahbarnes ❤️❤️❤️ 2y
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veritysalter I never thought of you as a Murderino! Thinking of you xxx 2y
Emilymdxn @megabooks thank you! I‘m in a much easier position than a lot of ppl probably, it‘s just that this is my first time having to care for people. Atlantic hugs as always. Books have got our backs and we‘ve got each other 💖 2y
Emilymdxn @veritysalter I‘ve got much more into it since lockdown!! 2y
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I‘m being nice with ⭐️⭐️. Okay, when the title is SSDGM, and it‘s a ‘how-to guide‘ by the people who have probably the most popular true crime podcast out there, you expect ... something true crime-ish? Maybe that‘s unreasonable. This was a memoir. And it had funny tales, but it wasn‘t what I was expecting. Maybe the first and last chapter qualified, but by the end, I was skimming. I take one thing from this: f*ck politeness. It wasn‘t for me.

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Most Murderinos will already be at least somewhat familiar with many of the stories recounted in Stay Sexy And Don‘t Get Murdered, but Kilgariff and Hardstark offer more nuanced and detailed insights than they might off-the-cuff in a podcast recording. Their radical vulnerability is very impressive. Full review: http://keepingupwiththepenguins.com/stay-sexy-and-dont-get-murdered-karen-kilgar... #SSDGM #MFM #TrueCrime #Murderino

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I am that kid that calls for everything. Mom Skyped with me to walk me through making a cake the other day. It‘s increased ever since I bought a house. I‘m surprised I can function on my own. #currentlyreading

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AprilMae
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#weekendreads @rachelsbrittain
1) tagged book and The Tattooist of Auschwitz
2) Ebook
3) The new Grady Hendrix book!!

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AprilMae
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Not much to post lately, still reading this beauty for book club.

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Whatshereadnext
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I was so excited for this book and it did not disappoint! Loved learning more about My favourite podcasters....a must read for murderinos!

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AprilMae
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#quarantinereadschallenge
1)tagged book and The Tattooist of Auschwitz
2) hmmm, don't think I have one
3) Horizon Books in Traverse City MI
4) Harry Potter (all), Little House on the Prairie (all)
5) Harry Potter?
6) lol, too many 😂

AprilMae 7) Harry Potter or Mercy Thompson's world
8) Let's Pretend This Never Happened by: Jenny Lawson- I had only read 1 blog post before I read the book. ❤ it
9) Um, 50 books? Read more broadly? DNF if it's bad, don't force yourself to read it
10) outside in the sun
11) These little board books, one about this girl who made soup...idk the name lol. 12) @haileybean
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AprilMae
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#two4tuesday @TheSpineView
1) Honest
2) No, trying to keep spending to a minimal right now

TheSpineView Thanks for playing! 😊 2y
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OrangeMooseReads
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I tried to borrow this one earlier today and it wouldn‘t load so I returned it and got ‘The Witches‘. It seems I‘m able to load it and play it now so up next.
I‘ve never listened to the podcast (I‘m not a podcast person 🤷🏻‍♀️) . I‘ve read and heard mixed things about this one.
We shall see.

Trashcanman 👋🏼👋🏼🤗😊 2y
OrangeMooseReads @Trashcanman ☺️😊👋🏽👋🏽💪🏼 2y
Puredragonstar Oh this might not make sense if you haven‘t heard the podcast... it‘s about their lives and why they started the podcast. I actually haven‘t seen anyone read it who hasn‘t listen to them so I‘m interested in your opinion. 2y
OrangeMooseReads @Puredragonstar I don‘t think you have to have listened to the podcast. I had a general idea what it was all about going into it. It wasn‘t anything the you would HAVE to know and have listened to the podcast to understand. 2y
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#QuotsyMar20 #guide #jealous
Playing catch up on prompts so this one is a two-fer. The #jealous quote is from this book tagged as “The Definitive How-To #Guide” (it‘s on my TBR).

“...if you‘re one of those women who says that you‘ve only had guy friends because you‘re so pretty all women are jealous of you, put this book down and go to therapy immediately. Not only will this chapter confuse you, but you are lying to yourself in a terrible way.”

Crazeedi 💚💚💚💚 2y
Suet624 Haha. 2y
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vkois88
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A humorous look at how the two podcasters got their start. 4.5⭐️

This is the only book I‘ve been able to get through so far this month. Life is so stressful with everything going on. Hope everyone makes smart decisions, stays safe, and keeps their families safe out there ❤️

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BeaG
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I devoured this book! Short true crime stories and commentary. I‘m glad I chose the audio version.

jordanremington Hi there 👋 2y
jordanremington How are you doing? 2y
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BeaG
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1. This photo was taken last week on my 50th birthday in Hawaii.
2. The Fire is Upon Us by James Baldwin.
3. Social plans have been canceled, so reading all weekend and for the next 3 weeks. Schools are closed for 3 weeks @4thhouseontheleft @howjessreads

TrishB Great pic 👍🏻 2y
BeaG @TrishB Thanks! 2y
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CocoReads
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Tonight‘s #bathnbook has been renamed to #bathnpodcast. My allergies hit hard today and unfortunately has resulted in one of my eyes being almost completely swollen shut. When it‘s not closed, it‘s itchy red and weepy which matches my drippy nose. So I‘m resting my eyes and listening to podcasts. I still can‘t focus on an audiobook to save my life but podcasts work as long as I don‘t fall asleep.

BarbaraTheBibliophage Aww. That stinks. Hope the bath and pod help! 2y
CocoReads @BarbaraTheBibliophage thanks. It‘s so annoying. I may call in tomorrow and try to get into my eye dr—while I‘m reasonably certain that it‘s just a bad allergy attack-I did have cataract surgery in October and need to make sure I don‘t have an infection or something. Vision is becessary 2y
CocoReads The bath should help my stress if nothing else. 2y
Nute I‘m always trying to outrun my seasonal allergies! Hopefully a warm bath will do wonders. Take Care!💕 2y
DieAReader Absolutely must protect your vision! Relax & make sure to get to your eye doctor! You‘re in my thoughts 🙏🏻 I have major issues with audiobooks as well. The only things I‘ve been successfully able to finish have been autobiographies & a couple non-fiction/self-help types. Some good comedy autobiographies have made me want to find more of them. 2y
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beautifulcrevice
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my first audiobook 😳 borrowed from my local library 🤩i‘ve already read the book but it was fun listening to this dual memoir.
i can‘t believe i‘ve gone this long without listening to audiobooks! #gamechanger #murderino #ssdgm

ameliashley Yaaaas! 🙌🏼🙌🏼 SSDGM 💛 2y
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AprilMae
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#friyayintro @howjessreads @4thhouseontheleft
1) English and limited German
2) haven't had one yet
3)hmmm.... I don't think I ate dinner last night (oops) lunch was rather colorful though- bbq pork Mac and a salad (so like 6 or so colors)
4)😂❤😉

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biblio_ginger
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I am loving this book, but I knew I would! 😁 I'm so glad I got it for Christmas!!! I hope someday soon I can go to a live show! 😍

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Well-ReadNeck
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Fun, light read to wrap up the MLK weekend.

NovelGirl82 I loved this book! 2y
Seesydneyread I loove their podcast!!! 2y
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Starting the long weekend off right and I don‘t plan on leaving the house until at least Sunday!

Snagged this book a while ago on a Kindle daily deal and I‘m excited to finally read it.

Also on the docket this weekend- start posting my reviews for what I‘ve read so far for #NewYearWhoDis.

BlameJennyJane 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 2y
HeathHof I just started this on audio! 2y
Bookish_AF @Mynameisacolour I‘m only a sporadic podcaster but when I do, I listen to My Favorite Murder and I love them! (And true crime of course 🤣) So I knew I wanted to read this! 2y
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MissAimz_55
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#weekendreads
1. Current Reads : Stay Sexy and Don‘t Get Murdered. ... The Vanishing Year by Kate Moretti
2. I just finished my first book of 2020. It was A Woman is No Man by Etaf Rum which was a 4 ⭐️
3. I have a few but they all revolve around making reading a priority again

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messyxjessy
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First read of 2020 and so far I‘m thrilled. Last year I read about 25 books. This year I‘d like to double that by setting a goal to read 1 book a week. #bookworm #murderino #2020 #goals

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"We barely get any time on this planet. Do not spend it pleasing other people. Fuck politeness. Live life exactly how you want to live it so you can love the life you make for yourself." - Karen Kilgariff

"I tend to think too much and worry a lot, but reading takes me into a totally different world where there‘s no room for my own bullshit." - Georgia Hardstark

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@ReadingRachael - my parcel arrived. Everything is wrapped so beautifully! I cannot wait to open. My daughter loves the moose. He is already on our tree.

ReadingRachael Yay! So glad it‘s arrived 😊 2y
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ShelleyBooksie
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@LeahBergen - did you receive your book swap packages from me (via Amazon). I wanted to make sure they arrived.

LeahBergen Oh, they‘re from you? Thank you!! Yes, I posted about both of them last week. I opened the first box (the chocolate) by accident 🙁 as I was expecting some Amazon parcels myself. When the second Amazon parcel arrived (which sounded like a book 😆), I didn‘t open it! 😆 I‘m looking forward to opening it on Christmas Eve. Thanks so much! #JolabokaflodSwap (edited) 2y
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thebluestocking
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I don‘t listen to the My Favorite Murder podcast and I do not enjoy true crime, so I was not really the target audience for this book. Like most co-written books full of essays and lists, especially ones trying to be funny, some of them were better than others.

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sammisho
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I think I would have enjoyed this more if I had ever heard the podcast. I was expecting more serial killer stories. They had some good advice, but as I am not a fan of them before this their personal stories did not resonate.

thebluestocking I had this exact same experience. 💙 2y
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ImperfectCJ
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Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark, hosts of the wildly popular My Favorite Murder podcast, share personal stories about what led up to the podcast and how it's affected their lives.

Part laugh-out-loud funny, part fist-pumping "heck yeah!", but mostly just two people talking about their experiences in therapy. I enjoyed their perspectives on victim-blaming and Georgia's love of Ray Bradbury, but it wasn't very engaging to me overall.

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Audiocooking. I now will forever associate the voice of Karen Kilgariff with the smell of fresh ginger. Homemade curry paste in the works to make some yellow curry soup with black rice once I acquire some black rice. Also featured: my squash stash.

#24B4Monday #LitsyPartyofOne #MrBook1inaMillion
@MrBook @Andrew65 @Alisnazzy @Rachel.Rencher @Lucas.Rencher @TheReadingMermaid

Andrew65 Should Make for interesting meals in the future! (edited) 3y
xicanti I like the sound of that soup. 3y
ImperfectCJ @xicanti It's one I like a lot, although my family aren't as excited about it. It's based on a recipe on the Fitness Blender website, if you're interested in trying it. I just bump up the number of veggies and use my own curry paste instead of store-bought: https://www.fitnessblender.com/articles/yellow-curry-soup-with-black-rice 3y
xicanti Thanks! I‘m gonna give it a try. 3y
MrBook 😁👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 3y
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ImperfectCJ
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Well, I got in about ten minutes of listening before my ten-year-old said, "Sorry for interrupting you, Mom. I just love talking to you." And suddenly I couldn't enjoy my audiobook. But I did manage to get a photo of the beautiful persimmons I plan to devour during my reading time this weekend.

#readathon #24B4Monday #MrBook1inaMillion #LitsyPartyofOne
@MrBook @Alisnazzy @Andrew65 @Rachel.Rencher @Lucas.Rencher @TheReadingMermaid

Settings You have persimmons... I am ridiculously jealous. 3y
ImperfectCJ @Settings I'm a little jealous of myself, actually. 😆 I love persimmons. We've been getting them in our CSA box. We were supposed to go persimmon picking last weekend but my son had a fever. I'm lobbying to go this weekend, but as the only persimmon fan in the family, the others aren't very motivated. 3y
TheAromaofBooks Sometimes we have to remember that we can always come back to a book, but we can't always come back to a person. Glad you got to spend some time with your little guy. ❤️ 3y
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Scochrane26 That‘s so sweet 3y
Andrew65 A healthy snack. 👍 3y
ImperfectCJ @TheAromaofBooks Indeed. It's often easier to immerse myself in reading than to engage with other people, including a young person intent upon quizzing me about WWII, but you're right. Books will wait. 3y
ImperfectCJ @Scochrane26 Right? He tests me at times, but then he comes out with this kind of thing and I melt. 3y
ImperfectCJ @Andrew65 I've been pushing it with sugar lately, so healthy is what's on the menu this weekend. 🙂 3y
Andrew65 @ImperfectCJ I‘m having to avoid sugar so fruit and nuts for me. 3y
MrBook Aww 😂👏🏻🙌🏻! One of the few acceptable excuses 🙃. Thank you for participating when you can! ☺️🤗 3y
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All you had to do was pull a book from the shelf and open it and suddenly the darkness was not so dark anymore 📖🎃

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saguarosally
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Hello! I‘m starting on a trip of reading from a whole bunch of American states. Anyone want to come along on a #bookroadtrip? #Arizona can be our starting point, how about it?

BarbaraBB There is this year‘s challenge: #ReadingUSA2019 in which a few of us have read a book from all states. You can check it out for inspiration! Good luck, it‘s a great trip! 3y
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Caffeinated_Reader
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#108 of my year. Haven‘t heard too much about this one, I‘m looking forward to reading it!

Caffeinated_Reader 😂😂😂 I‘m on page 31 and omg it‘s so hilarious! This is the type of laughter I needed to start my day with. 3y
Caffeinated_Reader Hilarious. It‘s definitely the wit and snarky humor that makes me give this 5 stars. I absolutely love the tone of this book. It‘s well strung together and oddly empowering. I really enjoyed thinking about everything that was said and of course laughing my fucking ass off! 3y
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mnjacques
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This book was AMAZING! It was funny, quirky, and an all around great read. There were so many relatable things. It made me realize it's okay to be who I am.

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PirateJenny
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Pickpick

As a long-time Murderino, I very much enjoyed this book. It won't be for everyone. I have made some great friends through the community and the podcast has helped a lot of women learn how to stand up for themselves. And learn that we aren't alone in our weirdness. Also pictured: obligatory cat.

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Spotted yesterday in Portland, Maine! ❤️📚✨🍂

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