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Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love | Dani Shapiro
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The acclaimed and beloved author of Hourglass now gives us a new memoir about identity, paternity, and family secrets--a real-time exploration of the staggering discovery she recently made about her father, and her struggle to piece together the hidden the story of her own life. What makes us who we are? What combination of memory, history, biology, experience, and that ineffable thing called the soul defines us? In the spring of 2016, through a genealogy website to which she had whimsically submitted her DNA for analysis, Dani Shapiro received the stunning news that her father was not her biological father. She woke up one morning and her entire history--the life she had lived--crumbled beneath her. Inheritance is a book about secrets--secrets within families, kept out of shame or self-protectiveness; secrets we keep from one another in the name of love. It is the story of a woman's urgent quest to unlock the story of her own identity, a story that has been scrupulously hidden from her for more than fifty years, years she had spent writing brilliantly, and compulsively, on themes of identity and family history. It is a book about the extraordinary moment we live in--a moment in which science and technology have outpaced not only medical ethics, but the capacities of the human heart to contend with the consequences of what we discover. Timely and unforgettable, Dani Shapiro's memoir is a gripping, gut-wrenching exploration of genealogy, paternity, and love.
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jdiehr
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Imagine sending off a DNA sample on a lark and finding out your dad is not your biological father. This is what happened to Dani Shapiro. She was the product of donor conception and never knew a thing.

I spent much of my time listening to this audiobook saying, "Can you imagine??"

An enjoyable and thought provoking read. I highly recommend it.

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MeganAnn
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A thought provoking, emotional memoir. Shapiro found out through a DNA test that her father was not her biological father, but instead she was conceived by a sperm donor. I found this fascinating! Shapiro allows the reader to feel her roller coaster of emotions without becoming overwhelmed by them. The ramifications and possibilities of her situation are enormous and traumatic and I enjoyed the way she presents them. #newyearwhodis book 2
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monalyisha Five stars? Nice! 🙌🏻 Also, sweet nail color combo! 1w
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MeganAnn
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I‘ve been suffering from a book hangover after Daisy Jones & The Six. I was a little worried that anything I picked up after was going to feel insubstantial or difficult. This one has pleasantly surprised me! It‘s interesting and thoughtful. I can relate to her connection with the past she thought was hers and understand how she feels shattered after finding out it may not be. Up to page 72 so far and loving it! ❤️
#newyearwhodis Book 2

Chelsea.Poole Love this one! ♥️ 2w
Amiable I really liked this one 2w
4thhouseontheleft I‘m glad you like it! 2w
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katiebee
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The audiobook was a great listening experience

BarbaraTheBibliophage I haven‘t read this yet, but her podcast Family Secrets is fab. 1mo
katiebee I am loving the podcast, too! It was such a treat to find out about it after I finished the book! 😀 1mo
VioletBramble Welcome to Litsy!! 1mo
katiebee Thank you!! 😀📚 1mo
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Samplergal
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Next up. DNA a and paternity. Similar to a book my cousin‘s wife wrote. Exposed by DNA. By Katie Hopkins. This is likely happening often now.

Crazeedi Great book 1mo
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Amiable
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Day 8 of #adventrecommends ...

A favorite read of 2019

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Mitch
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The first of Shaprio's books i've read, & i'll definitely be back for more. She tells the story of accidentally discovering her genetic identity with warmth & passion. The first half is a real page turner as the mystery unfolds & she connects with the story of her creation. The pace then shifts as she broadens to contemplate wider issues of religion, family and genetics. I found it heart breaking at times, sad at times and very thought provoking.

Cinfhen I really loved this book! I went on a Dani Shapiro reading binge after this book!!!! 2mo
Blaire @Cinfhen same! After receiving the audio of inheritance from you!! and then went on to listen to a couple others. Really enjoyed it on audio. (edited) 2mo
Cinfhen Same @Blaire I thought her narration was really engaging and added to all of the memoirs 🎧♥️ 2mo
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Mitch
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On the train to Bath - spending the day browsing the Christmas market. Got at least 90 minutes to start a new book!

Chelsea.Poole I love this one! ♥️ 2mo
Nute Reading on a long train commute...I‘ve never had that experience, but it seems so perfect to me! Have a fun day today!🙂 2mo
Emilymdxn Sounds like a lovely plan! I really want to read that book too 2mo
Mitch @Emilymdxn it‘s good. She tells a compelling story and it moves very fast! 2mo
Mitch @Nute ahh - I always book my ticket for the quiet carriage - no phones, whispered voices and time to read! 2mo
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thebluestocking
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A journalist‘s memoir about finding out via DNA testing that her father was not her father because of the use of a sperm donor. This looks at infertility medical advances through the lens of the children born as a result. Interesting and heartbreaking.

Amiable I was enthralled by this book! Also, did you know that the author has a podcast called “Family Secrets,” where she interviews other people who have discovered secrets in their own families? 2mo
thebluestocking It was so good!! I remember hearing about the podcast, but I haven‘t checked it out. Thanks for the reminder! 💙 2mo
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Crazeedi
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I read this and was fascinated by Danis stunning discovery that changed the whole way she viewed her existence. Testing DNA has consequences far reaching and unexpected results. The pluses and minuses can't be understated. A compelling book

4thhouseontheleft There are so many amazing things that affordable 🧬 testing helps to achieve, but I do think companies like Ancestry need to do a better job informing customers what they are really getting into when they buy a kit. Most people do it for ethnicity reports, having no clue that they will also get matched to living biological relatives, and what that can mean. NPE are quite common. 2mo
MicheleinPhilly @4thhouseontheleft When I did 23andMe I had to read a boatload of disclaimers about potential revelations and relatives and the like before I was allowed to access my results. 2mo
arubabookwoman My husband just had a bone marrow transplant, and his donor is a female. Any DNA testing of his blood or blood products would show as female. Other readings (from skin, hair, saliva etc) still read as male. 2mo
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LeeRHarry @arubabookwoman I work in this area and that is very handy for follow up monitoring 😊 2mo
BibliOHIOphile Just bought. Do you listen to her podcast? 2mo
Crazeedi @BibliOHIOphile dani Shapiro has a podcast? No I havent listened to it 2mo
BibliOHIOphile Yeah it‘s a good one, it‘s called Family Secrets 2mo
Crazeedi @BibliOHIOphile I'll check ot out 2mo
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Court7
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Will written, difficult, beautiful, hopeful.

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Hooked_on_books
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I thought I‘d give this book a try because it sounded interesting—a woman learns her father is not her biological father after an Ancestry DNA test. But frankly it‘s reading like overwrought melodrama to me. And I just don‘t relate, but I‘ve always felt how one feels is more important to family than biology. #unpopularopinion

Texreader Good to know. Thanks for the honesty. Genealogy is a hobby of mine and I might have wanted to read this one. But your bailing and review are persuasive 2mo
cathipink I finished this, but felt the same- I had a hard time connecting with her. 2mo
LauraBeth I‘m always down for an unpopular opinion! 😀 2mo
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Copwithabook The audiobook didn‘t seem so bad. I remember thinking it was fairly good 2mo
Hooked_on_books @Copwithabook A lot of people really loved this book! I‘m just not among them. When I looked at the other reviews, those that disliked it seemed to have a similar response to mine. We‘re a small subset. 2mo
Copwithabook @Hooked_on_books it happens. I recently had to put down On Earth We‘re Briefly Gorgeous for the same reasons 2mo
Hooked_on_books @Copwithabook We‘re in agreement on that one. It kept taking off in different directions so often I just couldn‘t get into it. 2mo
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Lcsmcat
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A quick read, it nevertheless gave me lots to think about. How do you balance the 1960s idea of what‘s right with the current idea? A promise of anonymity, with easy access to DNA testing? The rights of the child v. the rights of the parents? And what effect do secrets have on families and individuals?

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4thhouseontheleft
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This was an incredibly honest and emotional memoir, definitely the best I‘ve read so far this year. Her writing evokes the raw, guttural emotions that comes from a shocking DNA discovery. She describes the pain, trauma and processing of all the conflicting feelings perfectly; I felt much the same way on my personal journey discovering biological family. Thought-provoking and a must read!

#NFNov
#nonfiction2019 : With History

Insightsintobooks I loved this book as well as her other book Devotion. 2mo
Crazeedi I just got this from overdrive today! I had it on hold for like 4 months! 2mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa Sounds great! 2mo
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4thhouseontheleft
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#bookandlunch 🥪 🥑 📖

Hoping to finish this one today.

ImperfectCJ Beautiful photo! Is that GF bread? 3mo
4thhouseontheleft @ImperfectCJ It is! Udi‘s. Not my first choice for GF bread, but I always keep a bit on hand in the freezer. 3mo
ImperfectCJ @4thhouseontheleft Thought it looked familiar! Trader Joe's Multigrain GF is my not-favorite-but-on-hand. My favorite store-bought is from a local bakery that supplies the Whole Foods in Asheville, NC (or at least it did in 2014). Insight Meditation Center in Barre, MA, also has spectacular GF bread. I got the recipe, but it's for large batches and doesn't scale down well. And so ends my “GF breads of the US“ tour. 🙄 3mo
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Sharpeipup Udi‘s is not my favorite either but they‘ve improved the recipe in recent years. 3mo
Sharpeipup @ImperfectCJ add sift gluten free to your GF bread map...it‘s a small batch bakery in Minneapolis 3mo
ImperfectCJ @Sharpeipup Time for a visit to Minnesota! (City Cakes in Salt Lake City is excellent, too. Vegan as well as GF.) 3mo
4thhouseontheleft @ImperfectCJ Which bakery? We‘ve bought delicious GF bread from an Asheville bakery before, Rhu! It‘s available in the grocery delivery coop we belong to, most of the products are from Western NC. (edited) 2mo
ImperfectCJ @4thhouseontheleft I actually don't know the name of the bakery. I just remember that I got it at Whole Foods and it was from NC. There used to be a dedicated GF bakery (in Mooresville, maybe?) that supplied WF, and I think I assumed it was from that one. But we're headed through Asheville again next summer, and now I know to check out Rhu! 2mo
tracey38 That's a pretty fall picture. Your lunch looks yummy. 2mo
4thhouseontheleft @tracey38 Thank you! It was yummy. 2mo
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#NFNov #TIL : I love that Dani Shapiro takes us through the step by step of her discoveries. Kind of morbid, but obituaries are a gold mine for genealogists and adoptees searching for family.

This is the obituary that filled in the missing 🧩 that led me to the cousin that would help me identify my birth father: https://www.heraldmailmedia.com/obituaries/clara-dickson-wagner/article_c919e68b...

GlassAsDiamonds Wow! That‘s quite amazing! 😊😊😊 (and that‘s one hell of an obituary too!) 3mo
Clwojick Ohh! Going to have to read the obit once I‘m off work. ♥️♥️ 2mo
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Lcsmcat
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Trying to distract myself from election results with a new book. Thanks to @4thhouseontheleft for reminding me that this was in my shelf waiting to be read.

Cinfhen SUCH A GOOD BOOK!!!!!!! 3mo
4thhouseontheleft I just finished it, and thought is was excellent! 2mo
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4thhouseontheleft
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It was a busy and exhausting day! I‘m feeling worn out, so I cancelled attending a social event tonight, and this is where I‘ll be! A book, throat coat tea, and some downtime at home is sorely needed.

TheBookHippie I loved this book! 3mo
Lucy_Anywhere Very cosy! 3mo
tracey38 Sounds like you did the right thing! 3mo
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4thhouseontheleft
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I have a new strategy this year! I have a bunch of nominee books checked out from the library, I am trying to read during the voting period, before casting a vote.

Next up is the tagged book, which also counts for #NFNov and #nonfiction2019 #history.

It‘s a topic close to home, since I found my birth family with DNA testing, including. birth father who had no clue I existed, so I was dragging my feet on reading it. Now is the time! #Goodreads

Amiable This is a great book. I also saw the author talk about her experience at a bookstore in Connecticut when the book first came out. She has a fabulously soothing voice —she hosts a podcast called “Family Secrets,” if you haven‘t already discovered it! 3mo
Bookwormjillk Oh, I love the Goodreads awards! I‘ll have to go check out the list. 3mo
Chrissyreadit Wow! It sounds like DNA testing made a huge difference! All it did for me was confirm I‘m related to my brother- and I wish we were not. 3mo
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4thhouseontheleft @Amiable I haven't, thanks!! I'll check out the podcast. 3mo
4thhouseontheleft @Chrissyreadit It did. My search for my birth family turned up nothing until DNA testing went mainstream. I had the first name of my birth mother (but nothing else), and the father was always listed as Unknown on my adoption paperwork. I would have never found him without DNA, and we now have a close relationship! He last saw my birth mother when she would have been 3 months pregnant, and had no clue about the pregnancy. 😊 3mo
4thhouseontheleft @Bookwormjillk I see a lot of nominations that are popular on Litsy! 3mo
Amiable @Chrissyreadit Ha! I said the same thing —I took the Ancestry DNA test sort of hoping to find a different family. But I‘m definitely related to my sister and my mother —and I wish we were not as well. 3mo
Amiable @4thhouseontheleft I love hearing these types of stories! The husband of a friend of mine discovered a first cousin he‘d never known—turns out his uncle had left Vietnam after serving in the war and didn‘t know he‘d gotten a woman pregnant. That baby — a daughter —is now living in London, and she flew to the US last summer to meet her father. 3mo
4thhouseontheleft @Amiable @chrissyreadit 😂 😂 Family is such an interesting thing, isn't it? I don't have the best relationship with my parents, and my mom never wanted me to search for my birth family, so we still have a strained relationship over it. Although they have bonded with my two younger half-sisters, and just met one recently. None of us were raised with our bmom, she chose an adoption plan for all 3 of us. 3mo
4thhouseontheleft @Amiable That is really neat! These stories, as well as NPE's (non paternal events) like the author's story, are incredibly common. DNA testing is truly changing the way we view family history and identity, and definitely shaking some skeletons in the closet. I personally think it is a good thing if handled delicately and gently, and may help to break some of the old taboos that still linger. 3mo
Chrissyreadit @Amiable oddly I‘ve always wondered if a half sibling would show up from Vietnam Nam because I know my father had a girl friend there. But he did not know of one when he was alive. 3mo
Chrissyreadit @4thhouseontheleft I agree about family needing to be redefined. Sometimes family works- sometimes it doesn‘t. My niece moved in with us and has so much pain as a result of her parents. It would have been better and easier if they had let us adopt her than keeping an unwanted/unvalued child. Meantime I‘m going to go ahead and redraw my family tree to one I prefer...😎 (edited) 3mo
Amiable @4thhouseontheleft During the author presentation there was a very interesting discussion about whose rights should prevail -- the adopted person looking for information (medical and otherwise) about their roots, or the biological parent who gave up the child with an expectation of privacy. Nobody could have predicted 60 years ago that DNA would enable us to track down our biological families- - whether or not those families wanted to be found. 3mo
4thhouseontheleft @Amiable That is a common debate. The other side of that argument is that adoptees don‘t have the same legal and social rights as non-adopted in regards to access to original birth certificate and identity. I‘m obviously biased, but the laws prevented my birth mother and I from reuniting and meeting each other before she passed away in 2009 (we were both searching for each other in the 2000‘s), a situation I will forever wish was different. 3mo
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Ashley_Nicoletto
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I was not emotionally prepared for this memoir. It‘s a gut punch. There‘s so much interesting history here about medicine and I couldn‘t imagine learning the things this woman did. I consumed the entire audiobook in one after.

hes7 I just read this one, too, and enjoyed it! It‘s definitely one of those unimaginable situations you would not expect to be in. 4mo
auntie_jenn i was so captured by this one, too.i‘ve 4mo
auntie_jenn oops...i‘ve subscribed to Shapiro‘s Family Secrets podcast 👍🏻👍🏻 4mo
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hes7
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Finished this memoir earlier today. Another quick read that explores Shapiro‘s experience discovering the truth of her identity and paternity, thanks to a DNA test.

Book 3 of #24b4Monday ✔️
Time: 13h10m

TheReadingMermaid Doing great! 4mo
Andrew65 Fantastic time. 👏👏👏 4mo
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jamicuns
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3.5 stars. It was a fascinating book about loss of identity and rediscovering oneself after putting the pieces back together again. She weaves in the history of sperm donors and raises some valid ethical questions. She describes her processing in great detail, at times it seemed to be redundant though, and brings you along as you find yourself questioning what would you do, how would you handle it, and how would you move forward?

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Joyfulmimi
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She basically told a “mistruth” for no good reason and I read the other reviews. I don‘t have time for this just after reading such a wonderful book. There‘s too many other great books I need to find and read. I get it. Your father was not your biological father.

BarbaraBB Haha great review (the book is on my tbr, but I now am thinking of unstacking!) 5mo
Joyfulmimi It‘s not for ME @BarbaraBB 5mo
Joyfulmimi I decided that I may give her another chance when I am in the mood. I heard her interviewed today on a podcast. I do love her writing. 🤔 5mo
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Joyfulmimi
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I am so irritated that, in this book, she clearly keeps saying that her father died in a car accident. In “Slow Motion”, the book including the story of her life after her parents‘ accident, he did not die until much later after the accident. So, is she a trustworthy memoir writer?

Lindy I haven‘t read her books. I wonder if she might be talking about two different fathers, one biological, one not? 5mo
Joyfulmimi No. It‘s the same father. In Inheritance, she discovers after his death that he really was not her biological father. 5mo
Joyfulmimi It‘s not a major issue in the story but it makes me not trust her @Lindy 5mo
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Joyfulmimi I decided that she may have meant that her father as she knew him died in the accident although he did not die physically but yet she could have made this clearer @Lindy and all 5mo
Lindy @Joyfulmimi The English language can be so ambiguous. 5mo
Joyfulmimi I guess I like it when folks are explicit @lindy 5mo
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MallenNC
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Dani Shapiro is a great writer who weaves context into her personal story in a compelling way. She gives the reader a lot to think about, including parenting, medical ethics, DNA testing, and what makes us ourselves. As someone who lost her own dad at a young age, I cannot imagine finding out he wasn‘t my birth father. I‘d like to think that wouldn‘t change anything, but as Shapiro‘s book shows, it would throw every memory into question.

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Brooke_H
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When Shapiro was in her early fifties, she took an Ancestry DNA kit for fun. What she found out from the results was that her dad was not her bio dad.

I expected that she would do everything she could to try to figure out the how/who/what/why/where of that story. Did her parents know the sketchy fertility doctor used someone else's sperm to inseminate her mother? Was the "doctor" even actually a doctor? Instead we get a midlife crisis. Snooze.

Joyfulmimi Oh My! I might bail on this. I have already gotten irritated with her (edited) 5mo
Brooke_H @Joyfulmimi Right?? As someone whose dad is not her bio dad, I have enough sense to know being a parent takes more than genetic material. I never once have questioned who I am. I kept wanting to say, “Girl, you are in your 50s! Get it together!” 5mo
Joyfulmimi Exactly @Brooke_H ! 5mo
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JenReadsAlot
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Very interesting memoir. #audio

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suvata
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Inheritance certainly gave me much to ponder, specifically ethical and legal ramifications of artificial insemination and other infertility treatments. Shapiro‘s story was compelling and well written but I seemed to get repetitive in parts causing me to consider ditching it. But, I felt so much compassion for this woman that I persisted and was rewarded with a solid 3-star book.

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#24in48 snack break! Raspberries from my garden, vanilla Greek yogurt, and a spoonful of lemon curd 🍋

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Book one of the #24in48 readathon!

readtheworld Hope you enjoy this one! I just discovered her podcast and need to pick her book up soon. 6mo
FeministBookClub @readtheworld Her podcast is excellent! I saw her speak on her tour for this book. She‘s fantastic. 6mo
IvoryLunatic I just got this the other day too but haven't started it yet. 6mo
Megabooks Great book! 6mo
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marleed
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I had so much fun doing the ancestry kit with my siblings that I purchased four more kits for my two grown children and their spouses. My son, created through AIH, is the spittin‘ image of his dearly departed father in both looks and characteristics. I can‘t even - if his kit had shown the H in AIH was donor rather husband! Yikes! Yikety, yikety, yikes!

Amiable Isn‘t it addictive? I did the test years ago (I was actually one of the first members of Ancestry. Com, and we got to do the test in the beta phase as they were building the database) — it‘s so much fun to get notifications of new matches and new “cousins”! 6mo
marleed @Amiable I love it. Funny too when I gifted my kids with kits, it was their spouses that were most exited. Both had unanticipated results. For my DIL, a cousin found her - he was a long lost nephew to her grandmother. That was an exiting reunion. (edited) 6mo
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A timely book about artificial insemination. The author learns her father isn't her biological father. Through Ancestry.com she discovers her sperm donor. Now she has to align this with the life she's led and what she was told her entire life by her parents (both are deceased). This book reinforces that we no longer live in a world of privacy. Due to science, it will be nearly impossible for people to continue to donate sperm anonymously.

rather_be_reading welcome to litsy 📚☕📚 @LitsyWelcomeWagon 6mo
Nute Welcome to Litsy! It‘s a warm and friendly community. I know that you will enjoy yourself here. I‘m looking forward to getting to know you!🙂 2mo
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echalpan
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I enjoyed this quick, thought-provoking memoir. The author, who has always felt somewhat out of place in her family, takes a DNA test on a whim and learns her biological father is not the dad who raised her.

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sarahljensen
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I went through this book in two days. I keenly felt her distress over finding out that her biological father and the man who raised her were different people. The whole thing is a whirlwind of anxiety and discovery. It's very well done.

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This quote was in Shapiro‘s book. I‘ve been thinking of it a lot lately as my son tells me of the folks he leads on multi-sport adventure trips. People who are out of their element can either panic and blame the leaders for their discomfort or they can live fully and embrace the challenge. Ultimately, though, by the end of the trip each person has had the experience of a lifetime. Embrace the no-man‘s-land!

Leftcoastzen I love Pema Chodron 7mo
ValerieAndBooks This is a great and thought-provoking quote. 7mo
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Susanita
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1. Lilies
2. So far it‘s the tagged book.
3. Queer Eye - and have tissues ready
4. Emily Dickinson
#humpdaypost

Megabooks That‘s a beautiful lily! 7mo
Susanita @Megabooks Yes! It‘s from the botanical gardens. 7mo
Mamashep Love Queer Eye! Wasn‘t sure I‘d like the reboot but now I‘m just as attached to this five as it was to the original group. 7mo
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Suet624
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I may change my mind later, but this was a so-so for me. I am generally a Shapiro fan, but this one almost felt self-indulgent. Blasphemy! I know! She raises interesting questions about paternity and brings to light early practices of artificial insemination and for that I am grateful. 😀

Redwritinghood Happy birthday! 🎂🎂 7mo
LeahBergen Happy Birthday!! 📚📚📚📚 7mo
NHLibrarian Happy birthday!! I hope you are enjoying the warm weather and having a lovely day. 7mo
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Suet624 @NHLibrarian Thanks so much!!! The weather couldn't be nicer. The kids, however, could be a little less whiny!!! 7mo
Suet624 @LeahBergen @redwritinghood Thanks so much!!! It's been a wonderful day. 7mo
ValerieAndBooks I‘m glad you‘ve had a good day 🎂! While her story is interesting, it has recently been discussed in various articles so often that I feel no need to read the book now. 7mo
Reggie Ohhh, Happy Belated Birthday Sue!!! I hope you got some 🎂!!! 7mo
Suet624 @Reggie Thanks so much, Reggie. In fact I had 2 cakes! Gluten free and sugar free. 😁😁 7mo
kspenmoll Apparently I missed your birthday!!!😩 what date is it exactly? 7mo
Suet624 @kspenmoll June24th. 😁😁 7mo
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MEGR
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“My newfound awareness was both gauntlet and gift. The choice wasn‘t to see it as one or the other. It was to embrace it as both.”

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MEGR
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“...either all of us are accidents of history or none of us are. “

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MEGR
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“After listening to my entire story, he quietly said: “You can say, ‘This is impossible, terrible.‘Or you can say, ‘This is beautiful, wonderful.‘ You can imagine you are in exile. Or you can imagine that you have more than one home.”

Cinfhen I loved this memoir 7mo
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MEGR
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‘“Do you know the three great spiritual questions?” he asked...

“Who am I?” I whispered and paused. I couldn‘t remember the other two...We were silent for a long moment.

Finally, he continued. “Why am I here?”
Tears ran down my temples into my hair. He paused before offering me the last question. “And how shall I live?”

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MEGR
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“I was exhausted from my week of making room for other people‘s stories when I hardly had the space for my own.”

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Susanita
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Intriguing and poignant story. Not the first #newin2019 I‘ve read or the last I‘ll read this year, but it‘s the one I‘ll use for the #Booked2019 challenge.

Cinfhen I really enjoyed this book so much 👍🏻good choice 7mo
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Megabooks
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I‘m choosing this book for #GypsyRoad because the surprise when we did my grandmother‘s DNA before she passed away was that we have some Roma Gypsy in our past. You can kind of see it in her sister if you tilt your head and squint!

#WanderingJune @Cinfhen @BarbaraBB

This is my grandmother.

Cinfhen That‘s great!!! Im fascinated 😄 7mo
LeahBergen Well, that‘s cool! 7mo
Megabooks @Cinfhen I am, too! It was very unexpected. 7mo
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Megabooks @LeahBergen Yes, it is!! 👍🏻👍🏻 7mo
BarbaraBB That is cool! Do you have many Roma in the US? 7mo
Megabooks @BarbaraBB I didn‘t know, so I just googled it, and apparently estimates are as high as 1 million! Interesting! 7mo
BarbaraBB That is really interesting indeed! 7mo
Crazeedi So very cool! 7mo
Megabooks @Crazeedi Thanks! 7mo
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Pickpick

This author does a beautiful job describing what it‘s like to make these sort of discoveries. I am adopted and recently found my birth family. Whether it‘s a good experience or not, mine was mixed, we deserve to know the truth of where we come from. It‘s importance cannot be measured.

I knew I had a mystery to solve, this poor woman didn‘t know until she was 54. I cannot imagine the shock. Well
Done.

Megabooks I hope you are able to build a relationship with your birth family. 💙 7mo
Booklover2 I am! It‘s so exciting! I have a full sister and brother and one half brother. We are building from here❤️ 7mo
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Bibliotekate
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Picked this up to read a chapter before bed and got halfway through before noticing it was way past bedtime. So far, real good.

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Writeme
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Pickpick

So fascinating! It read like a thoughtful thriller. Beautifully written.

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bookandbedandtea
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I read this a couple weeks ago and have been thinking about it since. As a family fascinated by genealogy we have had our DNA done. We found it fascinating and there were no surprises for us but we know people who have had shocking results which, along with this book, makes me think about how "family" -bio or social- effects how we perceive ourselves. Incidentally, every book I've read since this one seems to be, in part, about identity.

AmyG My daughter‘s friend‘s husband learned his father was not his biological father- and he had to confront his mother. I can‘t imagine. 8mo
bookandbedandtea @AmyG I never even thought about situations like that when we had ours done. It wasn't until a few people in my circle got some shocking results that I realized the potential downside. 8mo
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Princess-Kingofkings
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I'll definitely be borrowing this magazine thru MeL until I'm gifted a subscription. Interesting article about Dani Shapiro prompted me to add her latest book to my TBR pile.

Megabooks I just finished it. The book was really good! 8mo
Princess-Kingofkings @Megabooks thanks for the endorsement ~ that means a lot! 8mo
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Megabooks
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@Cinfhen Thank you for sharing this deep, beautiful memoir with me! I appreciated Dani‘s introspection and struggle to find her place in the world after the life-upending news that she is not her beloved father‘s biological daughter.

I wish there had been more discussion about the ethics of 1960s sperm donation. Perhaps she and her biological father, a medical ethicist, will write about it later.

Highly recommend this #audiobook! 4.5⭐️

Megabooks @Cinfhen Do I need to do anything to return this to you? Thank you again!! 8mo
bookandbedandtea I just finished this yesterday! I've been organizing my thoughts before posting about it. 8mo
Megabooks @bookandbedandtea It is a book that really makes you think. 8mo
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bookandbedandtea @Megabooks Absolutely! My family is into genealogy and we've had our DNA done so this topic interests me. Luckily we haven't had any surprises but I know people who have. 😯 I really felt for Dani. 8mo
Megabooks @bookandbedandtea We have a family Bible that traces back lineage on my dad‘s mother‘s side through the founding of the US. (John Hancock is a many generations removed uncle.) I haven‘t gotten my DNA done. I‘m still worried that privacy laws aren‘t where they should be, but my grandmother did hers shortly before her death, and we were surprised to find a small amount of Roma gypsy! 8mo
Dragon A friend of a friend found out her siblings were her cousins and her UK cousins were her siblings. No one knows why. 8mo
Megabooks @Dragon Wow! That‘s really interesting and must‘ve been very surprising to her. 8mo
Cinfhen Great review, Meg! I‘m happy I was able to share it with you. That‘s crazy @dragon 😱 8mo
Megabooks @Cinfhen Thanks! I‘m going to read her other books now. 👍🏻 8mo
Cinfhen I‘ve only read and LOVED 8mo
Cinfhen But parts of it are covered (again) in Inheritance. 🙄I still think it‘s worth listening too 8mo
Megabooks My library has this tagged one and didn‘t you say Devotion is on #hoopla? 8mo
Dragon Apparently, and there‘s no one alive to tell her the story. 8mo
Megabooks @Dragon Oh that‘s terrible. It must be very frustrating for her!! It‘s a strange world that we live in where a simple cheek swab can change an entire lifetime. (edited) 8mo
4thhouseontheleft DNA tests can uncover many surprises in families, but what they can‘t do is change the past and our memories. I‘m forever grateful for the technology as otherwise I may have never met my bio family. There was barely a paper trail, so all I had to go on was 🧬. ☺️ 8mo
Cinfhen 100% 🧡 8mo
Cinfhen I‘m pretty sure I listened to Devotion via Hoopla 8mo
Dragon Thanks @Cinfhen it was surprising but apparently it explained why she looked more like her “cousins “ than her “siblings “. The power of the cheek swab. 8mo
Megabooks @4thhouseontheleft That‘s fantastic!! 😊😊👍🏻 8mo
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