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Who Are You, Really?: The Surprising Puzzle of Personality | Brian Little
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This fun, smart read for anyone eager to better understand (and improve) themselves argues that personality is driven not by nature nor nurturebut instead by the projects we pursue, which ultimately shape the people we become. Traditionally, scientists have emphasized what they call the first and second natures of personalitygenes and culture, respectively. But today the field of personality science has moved well beyond the nature vs. nurture debate. In Who Are You, Really? Dr. Brian Little presents a distinctive view of how personality shapes our livesand why this matters. Little makes the case for a third nature to the human conditionthe pursuit of personal projects, idealistic dreams, and creative ventures that shape both peoples lives and their personalities. Little uncovers what personality science has been discovering about the role of personal projects, revealing how this new concept can help people better understand themselves and shape their lives. In this important work, Little argues that it is essential to devote energy and resources to creative endeavors in a highly focused fashion, even if it takes away from other components of our well-being. This does not mean that we cannot shift from one core project to another in the days of our lives. In fact, it is precisely that ability to flexibly craft projects that is the greatest source of sustainability. Like learning to walk, forcing ourselves out of balance as we step is the only way in which we can move forward. And it is the only way that human flourishing can be enhanced. The well-lived life is based on the sustainable pursuit of core projects in our lives. Ultimately, Who Are You, Really? provides a deeply personal itinerary for exploring our personalities, our lives, and the human condition.
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Nothing new here. This all seemed intuitive stuff to me.


If you‘d be bored with details of psychology studies/ explanations, go with the TED version.


meh. watch the ted talk instead

bookandcat This might be my favorite review ever 🤣 1y
dawn-pInk @bookandcat Thank you! 1y
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Audio book number 2. I think ai‘ve figured out a way to do this.

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Stumbled on this fun one on @collegecatlady ‘s page.
1. Romance
2. Babysitter
3. Freelance copywriter
4. ^ ^ ^ with a doggy daycare on the side
5. Coffee + about 3/4” milk🥛

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I love quizzes. I saw a few people doing this on Litsy so I had to also.😋😋😋 https://www.buzzfeed.com/rinri/if-you-were-a-book-what-genre-would-you-be-3c8kx?...

CaliforniaCay I got mystery too! It's not really my genre, but I feel like that description is pretty spot on 😳 2y
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Saw this on @GarthRanzz ‘s Page. I love book quizzes! 💕 (Confession: I might have gotten YA the first time I took this. 😳)
And here is the quiz: https://www.buzzfeed.com/rinri/if-you-were-a-book-what-genre-would-you-be-3c8kx?...

GarthRanzz That‘s okay. I got Literary the first time. Couldn‘t make my mind up on the business so I retook it and changed my answer. 😊 2y
Leniverse I got Romance. 🙄 Which would make anyone who knows me, and especially anyone who's dated me, laugh incredulously. Think I should try again then? 😂 2y
CoffeeCatsBooks @Leniverse 🤣 Too funny! The YA actually mocked me and called me immature. Thank you but I prefer the phrase, young at heart. 2y
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CouronneDhiver I got Western! 2y
CoffeeCatsBooks @CouronneDhiver I can‘t even think what answers would have gotten you that, lol! 🌵 2y
hyperhawk I got fantasy 2y
CoffeeCatsBooks @hyperhawk I think fantasy is one of the nicer descriptions “creative, free-spirit” 🎨🎭🎼 2y
hyperhawk @CoffeeCatsBooks ya but I am not creative or free spirited 2y
4thhouseontheleft I got YA as well and thought the description was rather mean-spirited! 2y
CouronneDhiver I just went with my honest opinions ... “earth” “go for hike” “realist” and so on. Definitely had a good giggle at the answer! 🤠 Yeehaw. 2y
Laura317 I got mystery. I‘m curious about the other choices though. 2y
drokka I got YA too. There are a couple spots where none of the options was even close to the right answer. Like the date one. Oh and the what annoys you most question, I struggled because almost all those things are on my pet peeves list 😂 2y
CoffeeCatsBooks @Laura317 I know there was also literary, romance, western, YA, and fantasy but I don‘t know if they did any other genres. 2y
CoffeeCatsBooks @dronka I think it was the crying babies that might have cinched YA for me, lol, 🍼 2y
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1. 52
2. One sister, 50 yo
3. Boy 22 1/2, Girl 19 1/2, Boy almost 17
4. Several, including in my profile
5. 😄 many!
6. 😊💖📚
7. Books!
8. I‘m 5‘2 1/2”— I guess I look taller? I never wear heels.
9. Both, but allergic to cats 😢.
10. Coffee
11. Book Lust
12. Anyone left who wants to play! #hallowhoareyou

Thanks for the tag, @Lynnsoprano and @Hollie 😊

Hollie Great favorite word!! 2y
ValerieAndBooks @Hollie first word that came to mind 😊 2y
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#Hallowhoareyou @Gyldholm

1. Creeping up to the big 40
2. Yes, three
3. In spirit
4. Spinner by Michael J Bowler
5. That's like picking a fav child. Too hard. Broader... Anything Sherlock.
6. 😆
7. phenylalanine. Followed by trebuchet. They are just fun to say.
8. Prosthetic eye
9. 🐈 😻
10. Cold teas, hibiscus best
11. Dragonlore by Ash DeKirk. My life's work. Or at least, that of my anthropology thesis 😅
12. @TricksyTails @JayeWells

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I haven‘t posted on litsy in over a year, so I decided this was a good way to get back into it
1. 18
2. 4 sisters and 1 brother
3. No
4. Rereading Mistborn by Branden Sanderson
5. Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern or Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer
6. 💕
7. Bustle
8. I‘m actually very spiritual/ involved in the world of yoga and meditation
9. Dogs but I love both
10. Tea
11. Egghead
12. Lol

Cinfhen Welcome back!!!! 2y
GarthRanzz Welcome back and thanks for the follow! 2y
RaimeyGallant Welcome back. :) 2y
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1. 66 and proud of it😄 2. One brother 3. One son, one daughter @Ambrosnazzy one grandson, one granddaughter 4. The House at Riverton 5. Really???😂 6. 😂😘 7. Specifically 8. I‘m a certified soccer referee 9. Both 10. Tea if I‘m forced to choose 11. Teaching Kids to Sing 12. @ValerieAndBooks @hermyknee #hallowhoareyou

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1) 25
2) yes 2 brothers and 2 sisters
3) nope but I have nephews and a niece
4) geekerella
5) probably the outsiders it got me into reading again
6) 😂
7) nonsensical
8) I love Korean dramas that usually gets me weird looks
9) definitely cat lover 🐱
10) probably coffee but I like all 3
11) king of the dorks I guess
12) @GondorGirl
#hallowhoareyou @Gyldholm

llwheeler Kdramas ❤! no weird looks from me! What are some of your faves? 2y
hyperhawk Currently I'm watching Hwayugi but I think healer is my favorite one 2y
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1. 28
2. 3 sisters
3. Nope
4. Gallery of the Dead / Surviving AI / David Copperfield
5. Harry Potter
6. 😂
7. Mellifluous / Discombobulated / Petrichor
8. I suck my tongue when falling asleep 🙈
9. Dog lover
10. Hot Chocolate
11. I Know What I‘m Doing - and Other Lies I Tell Myself
12. Anyone who hasn‘t been tagged already!

TrishB Discombobulated- it‘s a great word isn‘t it 👍🏻 2y
ooomeooo 11.) 😂🤣👍👌 2y
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Itchyfeetreader With you on mellifluous! 2y
Lizpixie Dr Who fan huh💙 2y
IndyHannaJones Ok stupid question, but how do I share this image for myself? 2y
ScorpioBookDreams @IndyHannaJones I screenshot and crop. Not sure if there‘s another way! 💕 2y
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1. 40
2. 1 brother
3. 3 dog babies.
4. Meddling Kids, Lonesome Dove, Sense and Sensibility
5. I don't think I have an answer for this question.
6. I don't really use emojis
7. I asked my husband about this and he said 'list'
8. I am a terrible cook. My husband cooks all of our meals.
9. Dog
10. Coffee
11. Sarah, Plain and Tall(then substitute short for tall)
12. @Weyrwoman

Thanks for the tag @sudi
#hallowhoareyou @Gyldholm

Itchyfeetreader 😂 at list. If I asked my husband he might say the same thing or plan or ‘on time‘ !! 2y
shahn77 @Itchyfeetreader He also said that my favorite sentence is 'What are you going to do today?' 2y
Itchyfeetreader @shahn77 😂😂😂😂 2y
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1. 34
2. One sister, Andee
3. Owen- age 11👩‍👦
4. The Almost Sisters
5. A Tree Grows in Brooklyn
6. 😘 to my Anthony
7. Acquiescence
8. I don‘t hold back- just say what I mean and mean what I say!
9. 😻
10. Tea and coffee
11. Let‘s Pretend this Never Happened
12. @JacintaMCarter @ValerieAndBooks
#hallowhoareyou @Gyldholm

Sharpeipup Cheers to #8 2y
LauraBeth I love people who have #8 as a quality! 2y
Hollie @LauraBeth I do, too! 2y
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1) 42!
2) Nope only me!!
3) 17 and 23 year old daughters (beautiful btw!)
4) A Gentleman in Moscow and The Good Daughter
5) The Nightingale ❤️
6) hearts 💕
7) 🤔🤔 phrase maybe... “that‘s crazy!”
8 people other than my litten family think it‘s strange to want to be at home, reading and surrounded by all of my books! 🤷🏼‍♀️
10)sweet tea!!
11) Maybe The Velvet Hours...
12) @Christine11 @vkois88


Jensol77 The Nightingale ‼️💜 such a powerful book 2y
Christine11 💗😊💗 2y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @Jensol77 yes!!! @Hollie got me a signed copy and I cherish it ❤️❤️❤️ 2y
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Hollie @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I love the new profile pic! ❤️ 2y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @Hollie thank you!!! 😘 2y
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1. 31
2. Only child
3. Not yet
5. I don‘t have favorites but I‘ve read “She‘s Come Undone” more than once so I kinda like it 🙂
6. 😉
7. Again, not big on favorites but I‘m very much a WORD NERD
8. I‘m a good singer? Question mark b/c I think people generally aren‘t surprised when people sing well! Lots of good singers in the world Lol
9. Cat lover now
11. “She‘s Come Undone” jk jk
12. @Haleyh_08

RiotMom She‘s Come Undone is one of my favorites! 2y
Readage @RiotMom it‘s great 👍🏼 2y
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1. 51
2. Two older brothers
3. My only kids have 4 legs 🐱🐶
4. Just finished Broken Girls. not sure what is next.
5. 🤔I guess The Outsiders, Grapes of Wrath, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn.
6. 💜
7. Awesome
8. I suffer from depression and anxiety
9. Both. I have one of each.
10. Not a fan of hot drinks but occasionally enjoy a chai tea. I am a Dr Pepper addict! 🤣
11. The Outsiders
12. @Tiffy_Reads

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#introvertextrovert It was fun to do this quiz. I hadn‘t done something like this in quite a while. I think it‘s pretty accurate.

HotMessJess This makes me think you‘re actually a wizard 😅 2y
JuliaTheBookNerd I‘m INFJ-T too! 😊 2y
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Not surprising at all, I‘ve taken the Myers-Briggs several times and always gotten this answer ha! It is very applicable and has helped me to understand my strengths and weaknesses much better! #enfp #assertive #nooneissurprised

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I found this really fun personality quiz. For each section in the results they give you three book recommendations (for me it was mostly non-fiction books about putting an end to procrastination, and becoming more organised but, you know... 🙄😂)

Test link here if you want to try it: http://you.visualdna.com/quiz/personality#/quiz

saresmoore Hahaha! That‘s great! 2y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I‘m also a seeker! 2y
LauraBrook I‘m a seeker too! 2y
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Leniverse @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @LauraBrook I guess it's not terribly surprising that Litsy contains a number of open minded bookish dreamers. 😉😁 2y
vivastory I embraced my procrastination a long time ago. 2y
Leniverse @vivastory I've made it a lifestyle. 2y
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What type of reader are you? (c/o Penguin Random House) http://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/what-type-of-reader-are-you/?mcg=261E063074FB4...

Sha0102 Fan girl! 2y
JackOBotts @Sha0102 🙌🏼 2y
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These are not incoming (for once!), they are OUTgoing packages to various Litsy friends, postal book group, and penpals. I just want to say how much fun it is taking Litsy-likes and making real world book-friends.
I just hope y'all are real and not just creations of an over-active imagination that needed to make up book buying #enablers and other bookish freaks just to survive...

shawnmooney ❤️❤️❤️❤️ 2y
aeeklund Right back atcha! 💜💜 2y
rubyslippersreads I agree—so many kindred spirits here. BTW, be watching your mail. 😄📚📫 2y
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Avanders Lol at least some of them have to be real ... 😆 Looks like so much fun! 🎈 2y
LeahBergen I'm real! 😂😂 I loved the parcel you sent me SO MUCH. Yours is in the works right now. 😏 2y
Bklover Looks wonderful! Litsy is wonderful- so many kindred spirits!❤️ 2y
elkeo_TheBookDragon @LeahBergen Are you sure you are real? Because your shelfies sure seem like they could just be a book-lover's fever dream 😉 2y
Kalalalatja Sometimes I wonder if Litsy is only a dream too, but then again, a dream wouldn't be this expensive 😄 2y
Simona 😍♥️😍♥️😍❣️ 2y
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Hmmm I maybe... I feel like I identify more with the Explorer personality I've seen around on litsy! Thanks @dariazeoli for the link!!


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Now that I have read a couple of TED based books, I'm going to go out on a limb and make a proclamation: Watch the talk; skip the book. The talks are more dynamic and short. This book has some interesting ideas, but doesn't have enough meat for a book and the writing is much less dynamic than a talk might be. Just ok


Lcsmcat I would disagree as far as one book goes. I found Quiet to be excellent at expounding on her talk. I highly recommend it for any introvert. 3y
Onceuponatime I also enjoy the talks for the same reasons you mentioned! I do like Brene Brown's books, though, and Simon Sinek's "Start With Why." Two of my favorite TED speakers. 3y
Well-ReadNeck @Onceuponatime @Lcsmcat I wonder if it matters which came first, the book or the talk?! I agree with both of you about the books you mentioned. Haven't seen either talk nor were either book marketed as TED books. Hummmmm. 🤔 (edited) 3y
Onceuponatime That's a good question...I never thought about which came first! 3y
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