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A Woman Is No Man
A Woman Is No Man: A Novel | Etaf Rum
Three generations of Palestinian-American women in contemporary Brooklyn are torn between individual desire and the strict mores of traditional Arab culture in this powerful, heartbreaking and hopeful debut novelan emotionally resonant and culturally relevant story of love, secrets, courage, and duty that speaks to the lives and experiences of all women today, giving voice to the silenced and agency to the oppressed. Where I come from, weve learned to silence ourselves. Weve been taught that silence will save us. Where I come from, we keep these stories to ourselves. To tell them to the outside world is unheard of, dangerous, the ultimate shame. Palestine, 1990. Seventeen-year-old Isra prefers reading books to entertaining the suitors her father has chosen for her. Over the course of a week, the nave and dreamy girl finds herself quickly betrothed and married, and is soon living in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn, in a house thousands of miles from the only place she has ever known. Fearful and uncertain of her strange new husband, Isra struggles with her duties as a traditional wife and the expectations of her oppressive mother-in-law Fareedapressure that intensifies as she begins to have children, four daughters instead of the sons Fareeda tells Isra she must bear. Brooklyn, 2008. Eighteen-year-old Deya, Isras oldest daughter, must meet with potential husbands at her grandmother Fareedas behest, though her only desire is to attend college. Deya cant help but wonder if her options might have been different had her parents survived a fatal car crash that left her and her sisters orphans in their grandparents care and if she was free of Fareedas fierce attempts to protect her granddaughters from a world she has decided is unfit for them. But fate has a will of its own, and soon Deya will find herself on an unexpected path that leads to shocking truths about her familyknowledge that will force her to question everything she thought she knew about her parents, the past, and her own future. Set in an America that may feel removed yet is all too close at hand, A Woman Is No Man is a story of culture and honor, secrets and betrayals, love and violence. It is an intimate glimpse into a controlling and closed cultural world, and a universal tale about family and the ways silence and shame can destroy those we have sworn to protect.
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WorldsOkayestStepMom
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This fell between pick and so-so for me. It was beautifully written, but at some points the timeline was hard to follow because the story line jumped from between 3 characters' perspectives.

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Come-read-with-me
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My first BOTM box! This is truly exciting!

lele1432 🥳 Hope you enjoy your first picks! 1w
Twainy Woo HOO! My 1st box was August! I picked The Whisper Man & Lock Every Door. I enjoyed both!! I hope you do too! Happy reading!! 1w
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Come-read-with-me @Twainy Thanks! 📚📚📚 1w
rather_be_reading OMG We def have to talk about these picks!! 1w
rather_be_reading @Twainy those were great picks for ur first month!! 1w
Come-read-with-me @rather_be_reading can hardly wait to here your thoughts! You are my guru 🙏🏻 1w
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hermyknee
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Heartbreaking. Etaf Rum tackles the pervasive and generational trauma of domestic abuse and the silence surrounding it. I think this article by Diana Abu-Jaber does a good job discussing the context of the novel (the Israeli occupation of Palestine, strict cultures, and religious misinterpretations). I appreciate the Abu-Jaber‘s thoughts on how the novel might be perceived by a western (American) audience.

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hermyknee She says, “Still, a potential concern for Arab authors writing for an American audience is how to portray Arab patriarchy within a Western milieu of Islamophobic and anti-Arab stereotypes. The book tells us that these men are broken — by the occupation, by hardship, by bigotry — but what readers see, for the most part, is their assault on women.” 4w
hermyknee Overall, the writing is beautiful—heartbreaking and hard to take at times, but beautiful. I read it in no time at all. I‘d love to have the chance to hear Etaf Rum speak about this novel herself. Each of the voices Rum created experience different pain, but bleed from the same wound. It‘s definitely worth a read. And once you read it, let‘s talk! (edited) 4w
Chrissyreadit This is one of my BOTM books. 4w
Megabooks Great review of a fantastic book! 4w
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hermyknee
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♥️ #readingbuddies

I‘ve been reading and listening to the tagged book on and off all day. I can‘t believe how far into it I am already! It‘s really good so far. I‘m always intrigued by multi-generational stories.

#charliethefox #nicobluehound #dogsoflitsy

JoScho ❤️❤️❤️ 1mo
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hermyknee
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Saturday morning reading while it‘s still dark outside with my sleepy dogs next to me and delicious coffee in my hand is one of my favorite things in the world ♥️

Jari-chan Beautiful reading mark 💕 1mo
hermyknee @Jari-chan thank you! It‘s from ink & wonder designs. I love her woodmarks! 1mo
JoScho Sounds perfect 1mo
ShelfRighteous That bookmark🤩😮❤ 1mo
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pigeonsandcrows
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A debut novel and the author is sometimes painfully earnest and a bit heavy-handed but overall I thought this was extremely well done. It's an exploration of misogyny, intergenerational trauma, and their effects on 3 generations of women who struggle to define themselves in a patriarchal society. While it's got a specific cultural background as its setting, the themes and struggles are universal. Ends on a note of hope despite a lot of tragedy.

Eggs Welcome to Litsy 👋🏻🎈 1mo
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pigeonsandcrows
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I'm actually a fan of being happy, but still really liked this quote. "If anything, I think it's sadness, or discontent at least, that's at the root of everything beautiful." -A Woman Is No Man, Etaf Rum

Susannah This is a good quote, though I don‘t agree with it. I don‘t think it‘s that easy to be happy. It‘s like talent—you‘ve either got it or you don‘t. If you don‘t, you can train yourself to be skilled at it, but you‘ll never be as good as the people who come by it naturally. 3w
pigeonsandcrows @Susannah Agreed. I more highlighted it because it was a thought-provoking quote, especially in the context of the book, rather than one I completely endorsed. Deciding to be happy is a commitment, and for me it takes more effort to embrace happiness than be unhappy. However, I also find my discontent more often leads to inaction and hopelessness rather than revolution or the creation of anything awesome. (edited) 3w
pigeonsandcrows @Susannah In the context of the book, however, one of the characters, who is being pressured to enter a culturally traditional marriage at age 18 and start a family as a means to be “happy“ is questioning her aunt, who ran away from home and rejected the supposed “happiness“ of domestic life to live as a single working woman who is estranged from her family. So this is her response when the niece asks if she's happy with her life. (edited) 3w
pigeonsandcrows @Susannah I have also been reflecting that maybe part of the reason this quote resonated with me is because I have often felt the need to justify- if only to myself- why sometimes choosing the harder thing that might not immediately be perceived as making me “happier“ has been the better choice. This whole topic is also making me think about our character Samantha from Bunny...but that's a different discussion! 😊 🐇 🐇 3w
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pigeonsandcrows
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I am in the middle of 3 novels at once and somehow I unintentionally have picked a group of books that all have children that are abandoned by their parents and/or society as protagonists. I think I need to be a bit more intentional in my selection next time to mix it up a bit!

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Megabooks
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All the feels. 😭😭😭 One of my favorites of the year. I don‘t want to share more than that. 5⭐️, easily!

#booked2019 #muslimauthor

📷 www.kayswindowseat.com

Cinfhen Oh wow!!! We are soooo not in sync. This was VERY meh for me. I‘m glad you loved it. 1mo
lele1432 I need to get to this one! I have a feeling I'm going to like it. 1mo
Megabooks @Cinfhen There‘s a personal element to my love of this book, but there is something she captures here that is raw and enduring. Ripped me to shreds. I‘ll be thinking about this for awhile. 1mo
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Megabooks @lele1432 I hope you enjoy it! 1mo
Cinfhen Sometimes a book speaks to someone differently, on an emotional or personal level. I‘m glad you connected with it. 1mo
Scochrane26 I also loved this one, while the rest of my book club didn‘t like it that much. 1mo
Megabooks @Cinfhen 😊 That‘s why I love that a diversity of books are published!! We all can find something to connect with! 1mo
Megabooks @Scochrane26 I‘m sorry they didn‘t like it, but I‘m glad you did. It‘s interesting to see what each of us likes! 1mo
Book_ish Just got this, can‘t wait to read it! 1mo
Megabooks @Book_ish I hope you like it! 1mo
k.reads.5 Definitely a five star read for me too, so powerful! 1mo
Megabooks @k.reads.5 For sure! The is tentatively in my top 10 of the year! 1mo
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Megabooks
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1. My depression is not as severe as yesterday. Thank you for your support! It means the world!
2. I have 2 OOP shirts coming tomorrow!
3. And my BOTM, too!
4. I still have very mixed feelings about Three Women, but I‘m reading it again.
5. I‘m loving AWINM! Fantastic! Halfway through.
6. I‘m enjoying Kate‘s book, but while Born with Teeth endeared her to me, I can‘t say this one is having the same effect.
7. I‘ve been bingeing on MTV‘s True Life

Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I‘m glad you are feeling better ❤️ We are reading Three Women in January for our #BotmBuddyRead if you would like to join us!! I‘ve already read it too and I‘m still thinking 🤔 about it... 1mo
Emilymdxn I‘m so glad to hear you‘re feeling a little better! Sending supportive vibes always 💖 1mo
AmyG Glad to hear today is better. Wishing you well, always. And @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Ahhh...our January book! (edited) 1mo
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Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @AmyG We are thinking that one for January, February The Chelsea Girls and The Golden Hours for March and then a thriller! What do you think?! (edited) 1mo
Megabooks @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks It‘s going to be a good one for discussion! We‘ll see if I‘m up for a third read. 😬 Thank you! 💜 1mo
Megabooks @Emilymdxn Thanks a million! 💙 1mo
Megabooks @AmyG Thank you!! 💙 I think it will be a good book for discussion. 1mo
Ruthiella Glad you are doing better!❤️ 1mo
AmyG @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks sounds great!!! 1mo
Megabooks @Ruthiella Thank you!! ❤️❤️ 1mo
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cariashley
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A quick glass of wine before heading to a family party. This book is good so far, though depressing. #vineyardreads

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Megabooks
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For anyone familiar with depression, you probably know about feeling numb. The past three days I have felt so numb/indifferent/whatever you call it. My psychiatrist had a death in the family, so my appointment got canceled. I‘m just having trouble pulling myself out.

I‘m trying a new book. Other suggestions??

C.Perone Taking a walk 1mo
BookishTrish I think reaching out for ideas is a good first step. 1mo
cobwebmoth I'm sorry. I totally know the feeling you're describing. I hope things improve soon.❤ 1mo
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Redwritinghood I occasionally have those days too. I used to fight it, but now I know that, for me at least, it will pass in a day or two. I often just wind up watching stupid tv shows and pampering myself. 1mo
GypsyKat I‘m sorry. I am familiar with this. Just remember it‘s only temporary. ❤️ Self care! I agree with @C.Perone take a walk. Also listen to music that makes you want to dance, reach out to friends or family and see if you can do anything to help them. Helping others often helps me. 1mo
Eggbeater I relate. I always know when I can't read anymore that It's bad. I default to my comfort books and watch comedians on Netflix. More than that, I have to give myself a break and not beat myself up for feeling bad. Hugs to you. 💓 1mo
valeriegeary Connecting with people can be helpful. Puppies. Funny tv shows. Dance music and walks like @GypsyKat suggests. Acknowledging that this is where your are right now but that it will pass. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ 1mo
Meaw_catlady Oh love . I know this feeling and it is so damn hard . Know that I and so many other littens have your back and love you 🤗 do all the self care things that can help you during this time ! Sending you light and love 💕💕 1mo
Librarybelle I‘m so sorry. I know the feeling. TV watching or going back to a favorite book. Take care! ❤️❤️❤️ 1mo
Weaponxgirl I‘m so sorry you are feeling this way and I know exactly what you mean. Just do what you need to do that‘s healthy for you as what helps is different for all of us. For me one thing that I stop doing is cooking and eating properly, it sounds stupid but even just doing that can be a achievement sometimes so don‘t forget to take care of your physical needs if it makes you feel good about yourself. 1mo
BarbaraBB Wishing you well ❤️🌹 1mo
Come-read-with-me @Megabooks I have been in that place many times before. I‘m so sorry that you‘re hurting - it is such a bleak and overwhelming feeling. Dancing helps me, as does any type of physical activity - although it is hard to find the motivation to do it. Try to find people to be with. Even if you‘re just sitting quietly with them it‘s best not to be alone. You are in my heart - try to be gentle with yourself.💗🌸💗 1mo
CoffeeK8 I‘m so sorry. I‘ve been there, no words of advice but sending you 💕 1mo
Ruthiella Hang in there! Is there someone near you (friend or family) you can reach out to? Please take care! ❤️❤️❤️ 1mo
LeahBergen Sending ❤️❤️!! 1mo
Jas16 Sending love and support. 1mo
Tanisha_A Feel better soon. 1mo
Christine Sending good vibes your way! 💓 1mo
Prairiegirl_reading Know you are not alone. As this thread shows. Think of anything that brings you comfort and do that. I think that‘s different for everyone. Be gentle with yourself. 1mo
Owlizabeth I like to burrow when the blues come to town. Bed, books, Litsy, bad tv, snacks. 1mo
Ddzmini I know it‘s hard (been there done that) but see if a walk in nature will help 🙏 hope you feel better soon 🙂 1mo
DaveGreen7777 I‘m so sorry you‘re going through this! 😔 Unfortunately, depression doesn‘t always have a logical trigger, it can just hit us out of nowhere. I do find listening to music sometimes helps me feel better when my depression is acting up. Hope you feel better soon! ❤️ 1mo
Scochrane26 I was going to comment that reading the tagged book will not help your mood, but then I remembered that I read it during one of the worst weeks of my life and it seemed to fit my mood. When I‘m down, I have to get out of the house, see a friend, go do yoga, interact in some way. Hang in there! 1mo
CouronneDhiver I don‘t have a suggestion off the top of my head, but I wanted to say that I‘m sorry for how you‘re feeling and that I‘m sending lots of love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ 1mo
Megabooks I tried walking the dog and talking to my dad. Then I tried reading, watching funny TV, and eating m&m. None of that was cutting it, so I took my emergency klonopin and slept for 2 hours. I had a really pleasant dream, so we‘ll see if that hits a reset like it sometimes does. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Time will tell... @C.Perone @BookishTrish @cobwebmoth @Redwritinghood @GypsyKat @Eggbeater @valeriegeary @Meaw_catlady @Librarybelle @Weaponxgirl @BarbaraBB 👇🏻 1mo
Megabooks 👆🏻👆🏻 @Come-read-with-me @CoffeeK8 @Ruthiella @LeahBergen @Jas16 @Tanisha_A @christine @Prairiegirl_reading @Owlizabeth @Ddzmini @DaveGreen7777 @Scochrane26 @CouronneDhiver see above. Thank you also for the well wishes and especially for sharing your own experiences!! I feel overwhelmed with love and support!! 💜💜💙💙🥰🥰 1mo
Come-read-with-me @Megabooks You are loved and supported. We can all see how engaged and insightful you are. Keep going and if you need to reach out, do it. We‘re all here for you. 1mo
k.reads.5 Sending good vibes! 1mo
C.Perone @Megabooks 🤞 that it does the trick 💕 1mo
xicanti Many, many hugs. I hope the sleep reset helped. 1mo
UwannaPublishme Oh, I‘m so sorry that you‘re struggling. There is a free app called Insight Timer that has many guided mediations that may help. Take good care of yourself. Sending healing hugs. ❤️❤️❤️ 1mo
Megabooks @Come-read-with-me Thank you so much! Your words are a balm on my heart. 🥰🥰😘 1mo
Megabooks @C.Perone So far I‘ve felt about 40% better, which is good! 1mo
Megabooks @k.reads.5 @xicanti Thank you both very much!! ❤️💜💙 1mo
Megabooks @UwannaPublishme Thank you! My psychiatrist has talked to me about Calm, but I haven‘t heard of Insight Timer. I‘ll check it out! ❤️❤️ 1mo
C.Perone @Megabooks Glad to hear that! 😊💕 1mo
Chelsey Not sure if it‘s legal where you are, but a 50:1 or 20:1 CBD tincture is my go to when my regular meds just aren‘t cutting it and my depression‘s got a hold on me. 1mo
Megabooks @Chelsey I‘ve tried the one my pharmacist recommended/carries, but it didn‘t do anything for me. Thanks for the suggestion, though! 1mo
Come-read-with-me @Megabooks Hope you‘re doing better today. Try to focus on something good and know that you are a vibrant member of this community. 1mo
Megabooks @Come-read-with-me I am doing better today. Thanks for checking in!! 💙💙💙 1mo
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GinaKButler
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This month‘s book club pick!

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Hollie
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
This one will stay with me for a long time, I have a feeling. It‘s deeply sad, but powerful and moving. It‘s full of the plight of Palestinian American women, but it is also full of bookish moments and the restorative power of reading. I highly recommend it.

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cathysaid
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Book hangover. Slump cured. Can‘t recommend this book highly enough. Three generations of Palestinian American women navigate the intersection of two very different cultures: one represents freedom and the other is little more than servitude, where Arab women are expected to marry and have children, largely separated from the world. But in this family, the women long for more. It‘s a tough read (violence against women) but oh so good. 5 ⭐️

Trashcanman But I'm a womanly man. That's actually mean to women. I'm an inhuman man. I fucked this all up. 2mo
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Hollie
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I ♥️ seeing my favorite book mentioned in my current read.

I‘ve been so busy that I‘m forced to savor this one slowly instead of burning through it like I want. I‘m absolutely loving it, though.

ValerieAndBooks One of my favorites, too!! 2mo
Hollie @ValerieAndBooks you have good taste! 😍 2mo
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cathysaid
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Reading outside while the husband plans a fire pit. Brief respite from the southern heat before it goes back to our normal mid-90s temps. Loving this book, too.

LauraBeth ATL is nice today! I should go do some much needed yard work but I don't wanna. 2mo
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Hollie
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Starting this one with my morning coffee. Gotta love a book that begins with a quote from Audre Lorde.

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mcctrish
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Reading this and binging The Handmaid‘s Tale at the same time has been seriously intense. I loved how this novel flipped between different timelines and voices. I also loved how books were a refuge to all the key female characters

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arubabookwoman
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@Shadowfat I finally got a chance to get away from the hospital for a morning, so #Upstate is on its way to you a bit late, and #AWomanIsNoMan is on its way to you a bit early. I enjoyed both books (very different) and I hope you do too. @DarcysMom @leslieseidel

Butterfinger Still praying for you. If there is anything else I can do, please let me know.
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arubabookwoman @Butterfinger Thank you. His transplant is considered a “success” (it has “taken” and he is cancer-free), but we are still dealing with a number of side effects, some of them fairly serious. Right now he is in the hospital with pneumonia, but seems to have turned the corner and is slowly on the mend. 2mo
Liz_M I hope the good health tend continues! 2mo
Shadowfat Thank you for letting me know, I'll look out for them! I'm glad the surgery went well and I hope his recovery does too. 2mo
Smrloomis Sending some good thoughts for your husband‘s health 💕💕💕 2mo
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Abby2
Woman Is No Man | Etaf Rum
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Gripping and tragic,Islas story is devastating to read. Deyas parts culminates in a much better ending. I was engrossed throughout.

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Lola
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Current read.

la_rose_noire Love the cover! What is it about? 2mo
Lola @la_rose_noire Isn‘t it beautiful? It‘s the story of a Palestinian family who emigrated to the US, settling in Brooklyn, told in alternating voices from three generations of women in the family. 2mo
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maggie_azevedo
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Finished reading this book recently and I enjoyed it. This novel brought out so many different emotions for me. At times, I felt anger, heartbreak, compassion, sorrow and much more. A great story following three generations of women and their struggles. 👍

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UnabridgedPod
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Etaf Rum's A Woman Is No Man has been all over Bookstagram for a while now, and I can see why. Its story of three generations of Palestinian-American, Muslim women is compelling and alternately desolate and hopeful. Fareeda and her daughter-in-law Isra have both emigrated to America at different times; (continued in comments)

UnabridgedPod Isra's daughter Deya is born into their home, struggling to reconcile her place in the lives of both women and torn between the traditions of their culture and her new society. Rum unveils the three stories simultaneously, moving mostly between 1990 and 2008 but including other time periods as memory and their lives require. The implications of arranged marriages, of the role of women in their culture, ⬇️ 2mo
UnabridgedPod and of the power to choose one's own destiny lie at the center of the narrative, and I found Isra and Deya, in particular, to be empathetic as they work to carve their own paths in the midst of lives restricted by generations of oppression. There is much to admire in Rum's novel, though I did find myself admiring the craft and perspectives from a distance rather than feeling totally immersed in the book. 2mo
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arubabookwoman
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I was very excited to receive this in the mail today from @leslieseidel . I'm excited to read it, in part because it's set in Brooklyn where one of my sons lives. I'm not quite finished with my choice, #Upstate, but it should be on its way to you soon @Shadowfat . #LMPBC #GroupT @DarcysMom

Shadowfat I just wanted to check in @arubabookwoman to see if you had finished your book? I haven't gotten anything so I wanted to make sure it wasn't lost in the mail. 2mo
arubabookwoman @Shadowfat Just sent you an email explaining the situation. @DarcysMom @leslieseidel My husband is in the hospital and I haven‘t been able to go to the PO. I am so sorry for messing up the orderly progression of the LMPBC, and hope you understand. Will mail as soon as I can. (edited) 2mo
Smrloomis Sending good thoughts for your husband! 💕💕💕 hope the situation improves soon! 🤞🏽 2mo
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Hyggescence
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This was just okay for me. There‘s so much to work with here: 3 generations of Arab-American women dealing with misogyny and cultural constraints in their own ways. But the execution fell flat for me. It‘s soooo repetitive. Lots of scenes of characters sitting around having what feels like the same conversation over and over. The slow pacing and repetition really dulled the emotional impact for me.

marleed What, you mean you didn‘t think 20 more references to chai were in order :) 3mo
Hyggescence @marleed hahaha the chai references didn‘t even bother me that much. There was just so much “I can‘t go to college! I have to get married! What should I do??” 3mo
marleed I liked this book but the pointy ends of my star ratings dropped off because i thought of the editors while reading. For me if I consider what the editing decisions were in the midst of the story the characters become less interesting because I‘m evaluating the writing. It a weird click in my approach to reading! 3mo
Hyggescence @marleed I think of stuff like that too. I even spotted a couple of typos! 3mo
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sberley
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A good and thought-provoking read for my second half of #24in48 :) @24in48

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KatieDid927
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I‘ve only squeezed in just over 7.5 hours thus far, but still managed to devour this today! An important and heart-wrenching story. @24in48 #24in48

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KatieDid927
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Someone is making it difficult to get much reading done. #catsoflitsy #24in48

CareBear Oh my god, what a beautiful kitty 😻 3mo
CareBear And nice bookmark! 😉 3mo
KatieDid927 @CareBear Thanks!! 😏 3mo
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rmaclean4
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An interesting and important story. I liked how the author played with the different stories time lines to create the suspense in the novel. That said, this reads like a first novel. It feels repetitive in places and I think it could have been tightened up with the editing. I will be interested to read this author's next work.

marleed I always find it interesting when I‘m reading a book and thinking about its editors- even if I like the book. That was the case for this. Honestly, in a year from now I may not remember this story‘s plot without reading the GR synopsis, but I‘ll remember the hundreds of references to chai! 3mo
rmaclean4 @marleed agreed!! 3mo
Hyggescence I‘m reading this now and I so agree. I feel like the story has a ton of potential but the execution is just okay. 3mo
rmaclean4 @Hyggescence it was disappointing because I think the bones of the story were solid. 3mo
Hyggescence @rmaclean4 totally. I was actually surprised that it wasn‘t more polished given all the acclaim it‘s received. 3mo
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auntie_jenn
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worth the hype ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

marleed Kinda wants to make you get your chai on! 3mo
auntie_jenn @marleed absolutely ☕️ 3mo
auntie_jenn @marleed absolutely! ☕️☕️ 3mo
auntie_jenn @marleed absolutely ☕️☕️ 3mo
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rmaclean4
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#24in48readathon TBR stack for this weekend. So excited!!

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rmaclean4
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So looking forward to this weekend!! #12in24readathon. Here is the short stack I will be pulling from. I am also listening to Dopesick ( amazing) so I need some fantasy to balance out the 💔 of the audio book.

batsy Lovely stack. I'm so curious about A Winter's Promise! 3mo
rmaclean4 @batsy me to!! Hope to get it started this weekend. 3mo
rmaclean4 Posted this before coffee...#24in48readathon 3mo
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marleed
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Less than 2 days after finishing, The Moment of Lift, I finished this book about a three generations of a Brooklyn family living in a patriarchal culture. It gave me even more respect for Melinda Gates‘ passion for the education, voice, and empowerment of women.

...And can I just say, there is a lot, a lot, of chai in this book.

Samplergal I loved this book. And there is a ton of chai! 😂😂😂 3mo
marleed @Samplergal There was so much chai that I couldn‘t help but wonder why the editors didn‘t cut a few cups out of the description. It was my comic relief in an otherwise serious book! 3mo
Samplergal @marleed I just found myself wanting cup of chai! Lol. 3mo
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Owlizabeth

“She knew that the suffering of women started in the suffering of men, that the bondages of one became the bondages of the other. Would the men in her life have battered her had they not been battered themselves?”

marleed I just finished this book - about 10 minutes ago. And honest to god, I did it with a a Starbucks chai latte in hand - wasn‘t even intended! 3mo
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Owlizabeth
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I‘m just about to start Part II and I‘m so into this book right now. My heart is breaking for Isra and Deya, I have a feeling this is gonna be a killer for me. #currentlyreading

keepingupwiththepenguins This one sounds SO GOOD! 😍 3mo
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Mitch
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An intergenerational story about identity, domesticity, legacy, patriarchy & the pressure of family expectations. 3 generations of women struggle to work out how to maintain their culture and family. Every character shows a myriad of experience, with the legacy of violence the consistent strand that draws them all together.
It's beautifully written & gives hope for the future. I loved it, and it will defiantly be in one of my top 10 for the year.

Emilymdxn This sounds so good! 3mo
Mitch @Emilymdxn I loved it. I think you would too 3mo
cathysaid Who is Jenna (mentioned on the cover)? 3mo
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cathysaid @Mitch I wasn't aware of this. Thanks! 3mo
Mitch @cathysaid me neither...👍🏼 3mo
iread2much Is one of the characters older than 60? I always needs books with characters over the age of the 60 for my book club about aging 😄 3mo
Mitch @iread2much I don‘t know her exact age - but one of the main characters is the grandmother. It follows her journey from marriage, motherhood and then choices she makes as a grandmother. I see her as being younger than 60 - but she‘s a mature woman! 3mo
iread2much @Mitch thanks so much! Probably won‘t fit our club needs, but good to know about 3mo
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Mitch
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Started this morning and am now 2/3 of the way through - the pacing of this is sooo good! Pausing now to watch season 2 of Killing Eve ... it‘s been a lazy kinda Sunday ❤️

DGRachel I‘m so glad you‘re enjoying it!😍 4mo
Mitch @DGRachel I‘ve had a super luxurious day just reading, reading, reading - 💕 (edited) 4mo
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Mitch
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There‘s a long list of chores waiting on the kitchen table, so Mr K and I are delaying going downstairs! He‘s surrounded by BBQ books, dreaming of smoked turkey legs and I‘m digging in to this new novel, sent by the wonderful @DGRachel that I‘ve been eyeing for a while... seeing how long we can put off reality!

julesG 😃 😃 😃 That could be me on a Sunday without kids. 4mo
Amor4Libros I loved this book! 4mo
Chrissyreadit Lovely! 4mo
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MicrobeMom Enjoy!!!! 4mo
Mitch @julesG @Chrissyreadit @MicrobeMom Luxurious day - doing almost nothing! Bliss! 4mo
Mitch @Amor4Libros I‘m flying through it - it‘s sooo good! 4mo
catebutler The perfect kind of Sunday, enjoy! 4mo
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Rachel_nyc
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The bad news is that my library card just expired and I can‘t access the ebooks I planned to start because I won‘t be able to renew until next week. The good news is that I have an excuse to get started on my backlog of #botm books (or my other physical or kindle owned books but that‘s another story!). Any thoughts on where I should start from this stack??

BarbaraBB Circe is fantastic! And I have not read but am looking forward to A Woman is no Man! 4mo
Rachel_nyc @BarbaraBB Thanks! I think I am leaning towards Circe since you and others who share my taste highly recommend it and I have it planned for the ATY challenge as well. 4mo
BarbaraBB Then do! I think you‘ll be hooked within 10 pages 💕 4mo
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Rachel_nyc @BarbaraBB Well that was easy! 🤣 ok I‘m sold. I‘m a bit bored with what I‘m reading now so I think I‘ll start it tonight. 4mo
BarbaraBB What book are you bored with? And I really think you‘ll know quite soon if Circe fits your mood! 4mo
AlaMich Circe!!! 4mo
Rachel_nyc @AlaMich Starting it tonight! 4mo
Rachel_nyc @BarbaraBB I liked the beginning because it was whimsical and had fun quirky characters but it‘s become kind of tedious. I usually like a multi-generational story but the characters in the subsequent generations here are not interesting enough to keep the book going. (edited) 4mo
AlaMich I would also say that I listened to Circe, and the audio version is superb, if you do audiobooks. 4mo
Ruthiella Lemonade outta lemons 🍋! 😀😀😀 4mo
Rachel_nyc @Ruthiella Exactly! 4mo
BarbaraBB Ah for the ToB. I had high hopes for that one. 4mo
Rachel_nyc So the NYPL graciously extended my library privileges through the end of the month so I wouldn‘t miss out on holds that I have had that are becoming available. I still decided to start Circe and @BarbaraBB you were right, I was hooked immediately! 4mo
BarbaraBB I am so glad you do! And personally I think that this one is even better! 4mo
Rachel_nyc @BarbaraBB I have a feeling I‘m going to want to read it once I finish Circe. 4mo
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heikemarie
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Last week was off to a great start but will be marked as a learning week! I finished Becoming ✔️I meditated every day ✔️ I did yoga once ✖️ I worked out 20 minutes ✖️ so this week is all about figuring out how to fit in my yoga and workouts. Mentally it was a good week so that‘s a win! Picture of my book haul (I walked to the library!) to start off this week with energy! #bfc

wanderinglynn Great first week! 🙌🏻 4mo
mabell I had the same experience! Starting off, I was doing great, but then it became increasingly harder to meet my daily goal. If it was easy, it wouldn‘t be a “challenge”! 😅🤣 4mo
heikemarie @mabell I‘m late to replying but I wanted you to know I took a lot of comfort from your response this week! Thank you! 4mo
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Mitch
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#bookmail 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

A gift from the best penpal ever @DGRachel Thank you so much you‘ve a very generous spirit. Love it 🥰 #litsylove

DGRachel Enjoy, my friend! 😘 4mo
Mitch @DGRachel you‘ve been so kind to me x 4mo
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BooksForEmpathy
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I think the podcasts and interviews with the author I have sought out after finishing this novel have been even more engaging than the book itself. I finished it quickly, and believe it is one of those “very important” books to read. It is a story we (hopefully) have read before, yet the cycles of abuse and oppressiveness between men and women AND women and other women are striking all the same.

Also, the food scenes made me so hungry 😋.

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8little_paws
Mehso-so

Important story for sure but the plot felt like it was the same conversation over and over again by the halfway point and some of the dialogue felt clunky. I'd still recommend it, 3.5ish/5.

Hazel0303 Completely agree with this assessment. I‘m going to probably get a tomato thrown at me for saying this, but I think so many people think it‘s amazing because of our general ignorance of that part of the world and it‘s culture. That sounds incredibly snobby on my part, but I wrote in my review that this was a great introduction, but it served as the beginning of our learning journey, not the totality of it. 4mo
Hazel0303 I guess my major concern is that people will take this perspective and paint an entire people with this brush when there are many perspectives out there, but we just have to look for them. 4mo
8little_paws @Hazel0303 I'd recommend this book specifically about Palestine over A woman is no man 4mo
8little_paws And I strongly strongly recommend this memoir about Muslim women (but not Palestinian women) 4mo
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jamicuns
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Pickpick

I read 10 books in June. The joy of summer break. This is part 1 of my Read in June 2019. A Woman Is No Man and The Color Of Compromise are must reads. #june2019 #summerbreakisthebestkindofbreak

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Samplergal
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What a sad and yet wonderful book. For a debut novel, this is outstanding. Told from two generations of a family from Palestine living in Brooklyn, it was difficult at times to read, but yet impossible to put down. 5🌟

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I started this one this morning, fresh from a library hold. Only 43 people waiting! 😳. I‘m enjoying this one.

Cpg I usually go look up books people are reading- and so often our library “doesn‘t own” the book! And the wait list on most are 40+ people= 6 months long!!! Crazy, huh? Doesn‘t seem that ebooks would have a wait list! 4mo
Samplergal @Cpg mine often doesn‘t have newer books. I recommend them, but they have started to limit the number you can recommend. Coming from Baltimore County Library ( one of the best in the nation) to Florida has been eye opening. I have several on hold that are over six months wait. Sometimes they buy another. Sometimes they don‘t. ( I have plenty on my TBR pile) 4mo
Cpg Yes, I have recommended some also and then I get a notice that they have ordered it and I will be added to the wait list? I‘m thinking wait a minute....I want to be first! I recommended it! Lol! I‘m in Bham AL area and my daughter and her family have relocated last year to Boca Raton, FL. It‘s like another world!!! 😜🙀😬 4mo
Cpg @Samplergal sorry I thought I had replied- but I actually commented.... 4mo
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People flee to America from war-torn countries every day. Some are Arabs. Some are Muslims. Some are both, like us. But we could live here for the rest of our lives and never be Americans. You think you‘re doing the right thing by wearing this hijab, but that‘s not what Americans will see when they look at you. They won‘t see your modesty or your goodness. All they‘ll see is an outcast, someone who doesn‘t belong.

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Pickpick

I think it is an important book and for a debut author, she did a phenomenal job expressing the pain and tragedy that women experience when caught in a patriarchal, old world, fanatical religious culture. The stories of 3 generations of women are woven into one in a seamless, beautiful story. So much regret, shame, pride, fear wrapped up in one story.

jamicuns I do fear that people will read this book and think it is just another example of how horrible the Muslim religion is. If this is your takeaway, I encourage you to read memoirs from women from other religions. There is fanaticism, oppression, degradation, sexism, bigotry, shame, violence in most religions. This author is just brave enough to shed light on it in her community. 4mo
Caterina Good review! 😊 I thought Rum did a great job showing that the awfulness of domestic abuse, etc. was not coming from Islam but instead from the toxic patriarchal culture. I wish I could guarantee every reader would pick up on that. It's unfortunately definitely a thing for a reason that people who are oppressed/discriminated against feel pressured to close ranks and not reveal anything negative to an unkind world about their people. 😣😠💔 4mo
jamicuns @Caterina I agree, she did a great job showing that it more cultural pressures vs religious beliefs. I hope readers pick up on it too. 4mo
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hope4books
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A touching portrayal of what it means to be a woman of faith and culture and what it means to live and try to preserve it in a foreign country. Told through multiple perspectives, it is an engaging read, seeing how one woman perceives the others but that perception doesn't necessarily reflect the real woman. At times heartbreaking, at times uplifting, I believe most, if not all women can relate to this story in some manner.