I am HATING this book. The way Bob talks about and treats his wife is awful.
He accuses her of gaslighting him for not agreeing with him, then tells her she's being stupid when she flinches at him raising his hand near her, he belittles her work in his head, he has convinced himself she is a narcissist because she doesn't always ask about his day even though he shows ZERO INTEREST in her as a person.
You are the problem, Bob.