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Seek You: A Journey Through American Loneliness | Kristen Radtke
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From the acclaimed author of Imagine Wanting Only This--a timely and moving meditation on isolation and longing, both as individuals and as a society. There is a silent epidemic in America: loneliness. Shameful to talk about and often misunderstood, loneliness is everywhere, from the most major of metropolises to the smallest of towns. In Seek You, Kristen Radtke's wide-ranging exploration of our inner lives and public selves, Radtke digs into the ways in which we attempt to feel closer to one another, and the distance that remains. Through the lenses of gender and violence, technology and art, Radtke ushers us through a history of loneliness and longing, and shares what feels impossible to share. Ranging from the invention of the laugh-track to the rise of Instagram, the bootstrap-pulling cowboy to the brutal experiments of Harry Harlow, Radtke investigates why we engage with each other, and what we risk when we turn away. With her distinctive, emotionally-charged drawings and deeply empathetic prose, Kristen Radtke masterfully shines a light on some of our most vulnerable and sublime moments, and asks how we might keep the spaces between us from splitting entirely.
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jack777
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Such a beautiful and moving graphic nonfiction. Definitely had some pages that grabbed me and just about pulled my heart out. Also loved the insight into American media depictions of loneliness in men (the cowboy) and women (the romcom heroine), and what aspects make loneliness cool or pathetic. Such a fitting read for my covid quarantine. Want to read her other work now.

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Schwifty
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I really enjoyed this graphic novel. It combined history and psychology with personal experience in just the right proportions to explore how loneliness is spreading, how it changes the behavior and perceptions of those that slog through it and what the consequences for culture at large may be. I could directly relate as a former grave shift worker of seven years and then living through lockdown immediately following. The art is moving as well.

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Erynecki
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Not exactly a graphic novel. More of a memoir, and personal essay (but with illustrations) about what it means to experience loneliness, along with an exploration of the science of what it means to be alone, feel alone, and what our private and public selves lose and gain when we find ourselves isolated from others. NPR said, “…perhaps the most important thing it accomplishes is telling everyone that they aren't alone in their loneliness..”

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Lindy
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My latest booktube video is all about graphic novels and picture books -
Friday Reads October 14: the visual narratives edition
https://youtu.be/M-ofeQjfcH8

#IndigenousBooks #Canadian #kidlit #comics

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Lindy
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Stories are how we draw ourselves closer to one another, and how we remember, and sometimes how we reshape.

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Robotswithpersonality
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A pastiche of quoted research on the topic and the author's own reflections, I think it's the art that is the most impactful. I do like the idea of non-fiction graphic novels, though for the sake of the medium, I feel like straight memoir, is easier to illustrate around than facts and headlines. Some data functions as further evidence of the grotesqueries and sexism inherent in early modern medical/scientific experiments, so be warned.

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Robotswithpersonality
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Depending on your definition of what counts for a book...third quarter stats updated for latest read.

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Robotswithpersonality
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It's the non-info-filled pages where the feeling of isolation is represented clearly by figures surrounded by space that are the most beautiful.

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ManyWordsLater
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“To arm ourselves is the most extreme form of separation … to move through a life without weapons is another way to remain open to the world, and it‘s mercy.”
❤️❤️❤️

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erzascarletbookgasm
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I find this a good attempt on the subject of loneliness in its many aspects. In between telling her own story in words and images, Radtke jumps in and out with some history and results of scientific studies. There‘re loads of information, some powerful like the fascinating but disturbing Harlow‘s experiments, but generally it feels lack of cohesion; it reads like scattered thoughts. Interesting read, though.

BarbaraBB This illustration 🥰 2y
stretchkev I think I'll skip this one. Read Imagine only wanting this that also lacks cohesion. Too bad it sounds like she has improved much. 2y
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AnneCecilie
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Radtke looks at different aspects of loneliness and how humans try to connect by listening to the radio, connecting on social media, hugging buddies.

What left the biggest impression on me was the experiment conducted on monkeys by Harlow to look into the consequences of loneliness, not only on the individual, but also the group and the next generation.

I‘m so glad you made me aware of this graphic by posting your review @vivastory

MidnightBookGirl The Hubs and I were watching a bunch of TikTok videos put together on YouTube of people answering the question about something no one prepared you for as an adult, or something along those lines, and it made me sad that so many 20 something year olds kept saying that no one told them how lonely adulthood was. 2y
vivastory Wonderful review. I read this several months ago & still think about it often. I'm glad it worked for you. If you haven't read her previous work, I recommend it as well. 2y
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AnneCecilie @vivastory Thank you. I‘ve already ordered that from the library 2y
AnneCecilie @MidnightBookGirl I know. But I think she mentioned that a certain point in your 20s was a period when a lot of people felt alone, moving to new places and not knowing anyone. Hopefully they felt it temporarily 2y
Andrew65 Well done 👏👏👏 2y
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BekaReid
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This work of non-fiction in graphic novel format is an exploration of loneliness - a topic nobody really likes to talk about, but something everyone feels at some point. I enjoyed the different real world examples and appreciated how the author combined memoir elements with sociological and psychological content.

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Soubhiville
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A study of loneliness in graphic novel form, Seek You made me think about human relationships in a new way.

I wonder how many people, on reading this, reached out to someone they‘ve been meaning to talk to or set up a meeting with a friend. That‘s what I‘m going to do.

Content warnings- discussion of suicide, isolation, animal torture, among others.

On a happier note, Venkman sure was sleeping comfy this morning!

Leftcoastzen So cute! 2y
Hooked_on_books I didn‘t know cats slept like this! So funny. 😂 2y
RaeLovesToRead Awww Venkman looks so happy! 🥰 2y
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GondorGirl Venkman is so relaxed! 🥰 2y
WJCintron 😍 😍 😍 I LOVE your cat!!! 2y
BookNAround Venkman looks totally blissed out. 😂 2y
EvieBee Just want to rub that belly!! (edited) 2y
Magpiegem 1 - Venkman is the best name ever. 2- From that angle I thought Venkman was a dog! He sleeps just like my staffy. (Sorry Venkman). (edited) 2y
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ReadingEnvy
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This graphic nonfiction book takes the subject of loneliness and explores it from many angles, and then it is illustrated too with art that suits the mood. I was intrigued by the laugh track discussion, impressed by the discussion of loneliness and terror, and horrified by the reasons we know what we know about attachment. ↘️

ReadingEnvy I think it is the author who defines loneliness as the gap between where you are and where you want to be, or who you want to be with, and she talks about how that can be even more magnified in big cities, as a new spouse or new parent, and why rapid change and loneliness go hand in hand. 2y
vivastory I read this last month & loved it. Very insightful & the passages about Harlow & his experiments were horrifying. I think I'll be thinking about it for awhile. 2y
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TieDyeDude
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This was pretty good. Lots of great information and interesting points of view. I feel like it lost the thread a couple times, especially later in the book. But overall a solid examination of not just loneliness but also society's perception/expectation of the lonely.

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Suet624
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I feel as though I‘ve hit a sweet spot in my life. I used to feel very alone/sad even in the midst of a large family of my own. Now I am alone in an apartment with children/grandkids close enough to see if I wish and yet I enjoy being alone very much. This graphic novel explores the science on loneliness and connection and the need for touch. I found the book to be a bit disjointed but enjoyed it nonetheless.

Amiable I empathize with you —I am from a large family (I have 5 siblings and 2 step-siblings) that is rife with complicated relationships and for most of my life have felt alone/lonely in the midst of gatherings. It‘s only now that I‘m in my 50s that I‘ve come to embrace solitude and have stepped back from the family drama. There‘s a freedom in maturing and coming into your own. And being able to enjoy your own self. 2y
Suet624 @Amiable thank you so much for sharing your experience. Yes! Your last two lines are perfect. 2y
vivastory I'm glad that you enjoyed this one. I agree that one of the strengths of this is how Radtke explores the difference aloneness vs loneliness. I have rarely felt more lonely than in the final few months of a relationship I was once in. 2y
Suet624 @vivastory I hear you. 2y
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rsteve388
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Wow! What a powerful graphic novel about Loneliness within the American Culture. Such a depth of understanding and an eye opening understanding of how we are all lonely at various points in our life. I love graphic novels as a format for non fiction. They really help explain the topic in smaller bits to think on. The illustrations also help to push the story further. What a great format.

Megabooks I love graphic nonfiction as well. 2y
vivastory I read more graphic nonfiction than in other formats 👍I think it takes a real skill to explore the subject AND to do so with a memorable art style 2y
rsteve388 @vivastory I agree. What a delightful way to read non fiction. It is really a great way to read really hard topics. Almost buffers them a bit if that makes sense. 2y
vivastory Absolutely. I read Derf Backderf's graphic memoir “Trashed“ & his graphic nonfiction “Kent State“. They were incredibly informative & memorable, but I would have never read them had they been in a regular format. 2y
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vivastory
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Radtke's Seek You is a long form graphic essay exploring the long term biological costs of loneliness.Radtke makes the useful distinction between loneliness & aloneness (this line from the Huffington Post article Loneliness vs. Aloneness: What's the Difference succinctly illustrates the difference, 'Aloneness is presence, fullness, aliveness, joy of being, overflowing love. You are complete. Nobody is needed, you are enough.'). There is a👇

vivastory particularly moving section of the book, a compilation of testimonies of when people have felt most lonely in their lives. Radtke talks at length about the unethical social isolation experiments performed by Harry Harlow on rhesus monkeys & the impact that this has on contemporary understanding of human needs. Writing with the cultural finesse of Joan Didion & a graphic style all her own, I thought this work was absolutely extraordinary & it 2y
vivastory cemented Radtke in the top echelon of my favorite graphic artists/thinkers. #NewYearWhoDis @megabooks @monalyisha
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Pip2 That sounds very compelling. 2y
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Suet624 What a great review. This sounds like a book I'd really like. 2y
BarbaraBB Wonderful review again. 2y
vivastory @Pip2 It definitely was. I stayed up much too late in order to finish it. No regrets! 2y
vivastory @Suet624 I think that you would. If you do I def recommend that you also look into her previous book too. 2y
vivastory @BarbaraBB Thanks! I hope that you are doing well. 2y
Suet624 @vivastory okey doke. Will do. 2y
erzascarletbookgasm Great review. I‘m interested to read it. Just placed a hold, 7 weeks wait 😄 2y
vivastory @erzascarletbookgasm Thanks! 7 weeks! Well, it's worth the wait...looking forward to what you think,,, 2y
sherrisilvera I listened to the audio which was also good but would akso like to see the illustrated version. 2y
BarbaraBB I am, thanks 🙏 . I was wondering about you too. Hope you are doing well too! 2y
Suet624 Just found this one at my library. 2y
Megabooks This really hit me hard after 2 years of a pandemic living with 70+ year olds. At times I feel both lonely and alone. I‘m glad you enjoyed it too. Fantastic review. 2y
vivastory @BarbaraBB I'm doing well. I have good days & difficult days, but I know it's part of the process. Thanks for thinking of me 🙂 2y
vivastory @Suet624 Great 👍 I'll be curious to see what you think of it 2y
vivastory @Megabooks I'd be interested to know more about Radtke's process writing the book and how much of it was created during the pandemic. One aspect I appreciated is that she addresses the amplified loneliness caused by the pandemic but doesn't make it a focal point. 2y
monalyisha I‘m not much of a graphics reader (I find them very challenging; you have to pay a different sort of attention) — but I occasionally branch out & it seems like this one‘s more than worth the effort! I think I may have already added it to my sprawling Goodreads TBR but I‘m bumping it up! 2y
vivastory @monalyisha I will be very interested to see what you think! I think you would also be interested in her previous book 2y
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tphil10283 For me that is a huge understatement. 2y
Megabooks Yes. So true. 2y
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Cathythoughts ❤️💔 2y
Megabooks That hit me too. 2y
Leannmarie That hit home! 2y
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vivastory
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New day, new book, #NewYearWhoDis
*Really* looking forward to this one. Radtke's Imagine Wanting Only This was one of my favorite graphic memoirs of the latter part of '21. @Megabooks @monalyisha

MallenNC This one was great! 2y
Megabooks I hope you find it as enlightening as I did. Enjoy! 2y
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fredthemoose
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Graphic novel/essay looking at loneliness and connection in humans. It was interesting, but if I‘m honest, I don‘t love graphic novels…

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jackday
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Such a beautiful and moving graphic nonfiction. Definitely had some pages that grabbed me and just about pulled my heart out. Also loved the insight into American media depictions of loneliness in men (the cowboy) and women (the romcom heroine), and what aspects make loneliness cool or pathetic. Such a fitting read for my covid quarantine. Want to read her other work now.

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Bookwormjillk
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An examination of what loneliness looks like in America told through graphic format. This is in no way a holiday book, but it is fitting to read this time of year.

#WinterGames #MistletoeManiacs #DashingDecember book 3/5 #WinterCosy #AVeryMerryReadathon #WrapItUpReadathon #ChristmasMyWay

TheSpineView Way to go! 📖📚📖 2y
MallenNC I read this last month and thought it was so well done. It was not light reading! 2y
Bookwormjillk @MallenNC not light at all! Gave me a lot to think about. 2y
Andrew65 Great 👏👏👏 2y
DieAReader Awesome!🎉 2y
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Sharpeipup
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An interesting look at loneliness and it‘s causes - all in graphic form.

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MallenNC
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While this graphic nonfiction work was written prior to the pandemic, it feels especially relevant now. In it, she covers the issue of loneliness in American society, including how loneliness, “rugged individualism,” and being alone is represented and experienced in U.S. culture. There‘s a fascinating section on research into attachment and love. She also includes her own efforts at connection. It‘s a pretty deep work to be this concise.

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Smartypants
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Typically, I take a picture of the book, but seeing as it is currently in my luggage…finished this book on a cruise that I had taken solo. Definitely reminded me why I need to do a better job creating a community around me, hard to do when you are an introvert! Lol.

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Well-ReadNeck
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This book is such a mood. And, lots of great tidbits both to share at cocktail parties (if we ever have those again) and to think on.

vivastory I have been meaning to read Imagine Wanting Only This for awhile. Adding to my tentative stack for #nonfictionnovember 2y
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🤔

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Chelsea.Poole
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A thorough examination of how being alone impacts us individually and also as a nation. America personified as the cowboy, a symbol of rugged individualism, something I hadn‘t considered before reading this. Connection to others has changed tremendously over time and the lack of community has a negative impact on our health. Amazing artwork with interesting facts make an impressive, page-turning graphic novel.

BarbaraBB I am not American but very intrigued. 3y
Megabooks Glad you enjoyed it too!! It is very good @BarbaraBB 👍🏻 3y
Chelsea.Poole @BarbaraBB I honestly wondered why she put an emphasis on America in the subtitle. While there is some focus on the US, I felt most of the topics are universal. 3y
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Chelsea.Poole @Megabooks I saw your review! I‘ve been reading several great graphic novels of late 😊 3y
BarbaraBB I‘d think so too! 3y
Megabooks I enjoyed both! 3y
Chelsea.Poole @Megabooks oh my gosh I just, today, checked out from the library 3y
Chelsea.Poole @Megabooks I haven‘t read Dr. Laura but I believe our library does have it. I‘ve seen it around a lot but haven‘t opened it. Now that I have a trusted reader‘s opinion I‘ll have to change that! 3y
Megabooks @Chelsea.Poole lol! We are such 👯‍♀️!! Definitely check out Dr. Laura when you have chance! 👍🏻 3y
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JenReadsAlot
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I really enjoyed this one. Serious look at the impact of loneliness. #bookspinbingo @TheAromaofBooks

TheAromaofBooks Woohoo!! 3y
Trashcanman I need to buy this. 3y
JenReadsAlot @Trashcanman I hope you like it. 3y
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Megabooks
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Part memoir part sociology, this graphic nonfiction explores what it means to feel alone. Radtke takes on how loneliness affects each of the five senses. She shares times she has felt alone and the scientific research into loneliness, including the controversial UW-Madison experiments with monkeys. This book was truly fascinating, and the artwork was great. Definitely recommend!

JenReadsAlot Picked this up at the library today so glad to see your review! 3y
Chelsea.Poole @Jenreads same here! 3y
Megabooks @JenReadsAlot @Chelsea.Poole I think you‘ll both like it. Really well done. I read it in Libby and would love to have had it bigger than my phone screen! 3y
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BarbaraBB That artwork looks wonderful indeed. 3y
Cinfhen Interesting! 3y
Cathythoughts Great title 💔 3y
Megabooks @BarbaraBB it was truly impressive! 3y
Megabooks @Cinfhen it really was. You know I like nonfiction graphics. 3y
Megabooks @Cathythoughts the book could be heartbreaking at times, but it was really well done. 3y
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TiredLibrarian
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A series of mini-essays and personal reflections on loneliness. Sometimes heartbreaking; occasionally appalling (looking at you, Harry Harlow). The graphic elements didn't always enhance the work for me, but at its best reminds me of an Edward Hopper painting (like the apartments on the cover). #nonfiction #graphic #graphicnovel #psychology #sociology

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TiredLibrarian
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Just started this nonfiction graphic book on loneliness; very good so far. I'm not a big fan of graphics, but the color palette & illustrations suit the text beautifully. #nonfiction #graphic #graphicnovel #psychology

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Augustdana
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Almost done this book and wow! Lots of research leads to a very interesting overview of loneliness. Kind of horrified with the chapter about the monkey research, but overall really enjoyed this.

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EH2018
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Really enjoying this one

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Eyelit
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As I was checking out the staff person asked if I wanted the books stamped - I said of course. Such a cute idea! 😍 #nowherebookshop

gossamerchild Oh I'm so glad you are able to visit that store in person! 3y
charl08 Love this idea. Wish my local did it! 3y
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Christine
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I love Kristen Radtke bc she‘s from my home state of WI, bc her art rules, and bc of her earnestness re: thinking and learning more about the human condition. Like her first graphic novel, this felt meandering to me, but not in a bad way. She makes a couple of leaps from social science research to broad generalizations that didn‘t quite ring true for me. But I liked this and agree that loneliness is a topic well worth studying from many angles.

MallenNC I have a hold in for this at my library. 3y
Augustdana Oohhh this one is on my list as well. 3y
Christine @MallenNC @Augustdana Looking forward to hearing your thoughts on it! ❤️ 3y
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librarygoddess619
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I identify with this so much. I always feel on the outside of things.

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Avanders
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Anytime I accrue enough points to get a free book from @penguinrandomhouse I think about how grateful I am that @LibrarianRyan told me about it. Thank you again!! This book is gorgeous and I can‘t wait to sink into it. 😍😍

LibrarianRyan Yeah. I have a free one to claim and just haven‘t yet. 3y
Avanders @LibrarianRyan lol I *never* let them linger… credits just burn holes in my proverbial pockets until I use them 😳🥸 3y
LibrarianRyan @Avanders I usually use mine the minute I can. However I lost my debit card on 4th of July and STILL don't have a new one (USPS fault, not my bank). And I had some books I wanted to order at the same time so I could use the free shipping. 3y
Avanders @LibrarianRyan 😟 oh no!! Ugh the Usps is so unpredictable these days 😔 3y
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Flaneurette
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Oh dear, I shouldn‘t be allowed in the bookstore.My 12 yr old has a reasonable stack of only 2 books

Christine I think this is a fantastic stack, and I‘m especially coveting the tagged and the NYT cookbook! ❤️ 3y
Flaneurette @Christine the cookbook has a really nice fabric cover that‘s flexible, I had to get it once I saw it in person 3y
Flaneurette The journaling stuff is for my 17 yr old that‘s heading off to college this fall so it‘s not all for me 😆 3y
ValerieAndBooks Don‘t feel bad…maybe your 12 year old will get to some of them someday 😂 3y
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Schlinkles
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Finally have had a few days away from work and responsibilities so I‘m getting to read things that I‘ve been looking forward to.

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