Resilience Is Futile

Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie Lalonde | Julie S. Lalonde

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A tough read, but a definite pick. This book deals with stalking, the coping mechanisms used to get by, convince ourselves it‘s not really a big deal, the lack of useful services or help to deal with the issue, and the trauma and lingering issues long after the persistent looking over one‘s shoulder is finally over. Just like the #MeToo movement this is a topic that needs a bigger spotlight, because only by seeing how widespread it really is,⤵️

Riveted_Reader_Melissa ↪️ can we see the pattern of coping mechanisms for what they are, survival techniques, and maybe start to really deal with this issue as a society. #SheSaid (edited) 1y

KathyWheeler I‘m glad I read this for #SheSaid, but it was definitely difficult to read about her experiences. 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @KathyWheeler I agree, thank goodness for book club to talk with about the tougher issues…and vent frustration to about the system…and most importantly encouragement to keep reading. I honestly probably wouldn‘t read some of these books alone, and this one wasn‘t even on my radar before someone nominated it. 1y

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Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie Lalonde | Julie S. Lalonde

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This is one of those books that is heartbreaking to read but necessary to understand what someone else has gone through. The author spent many years in an abusive relationship with a boy she started dating in her teens. She discusses the trauma of being stalked and the burden of proof that she had to provide to authorities about what was happening to her. Domestic violence in any form is an exhausting & traumatic experience that unfortunately too

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ncsufoxes Many women (& children) experience in our society. Stories like this are important to understand to help raise awareness & hopefully work towards better solutions/resources. #bookspin #nonfiction2023 propmt: I Will Survive 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa Good review 1y

TheAromaofBooks Great progress!! 1y

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa

Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie Lalonde | Julie S. Lalonde

Hello #SheSaid!!!

Another month has flown by…and another great book. Thank you whoever for recommending this one originally!

So final thoughts? I was very glad she left it…unfinished, sort of… because when there is trauma and stress, that never just disappears and goes away, it‘s something that lingers and must be dealt with forever…so I found myself very glad she touched on that and not a he‘s gone all‘s well ending. (See you in the comments)

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa ↪️ @Smrloomis @KathyWheeler @Bookwormjillk @bibliobliss @JenlovesJT47 @Karisa @fredthemoose @Christine @mandarchy @rjsthumbelina @Tera66 @Megabooks @BookBosomed1 @CBee @MoonWitch94 @sabyym @ncsufoxes @Readergrrl @wanderinglynn @TheKidUpstairs @psalva As always if anyone would like added or removed from this tag list, please just let me know. And if you asked and I forgot, please remind me. Thank you! 🤪 1y

MoonWitch94 I think it was the best way to end it. She‘ll continue to fight the darkness he left, making the choice to choose moments of happiness, joy, and living. But she‘ll be forever changed and alway have to navigate her trauma. Considering all she‘s endured, she‘s pretty incredible. 1y

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AllDebooks @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Yes, I agree 💯 The way she writes leaves it all open. Trauma & grief, don't dissipate. They're always present. It just tends to fade in and out of our lives. I think it's remarkable that despite such a terrifying experience, she continues to work in the field. Hats off to her, she's an inspiration x 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa It‘s always one of the things that‘s most bothered me with throwaway lines…like Brock Turner‘s dad at his hearing…he shouldn‘t be punished forever for a moment of action…. But survivors will tell you, if you listen, like Chanel Miller in her book… it effects every bit their self & self-esteem, for the rest of their lives. So I was very glad she touched on that, it doesn‘t matter if the person who did it is gone, it doesn‘t repair the damage done. 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa ..and with him being gone Gone by the end of this book, I was worried how she might rap it up. There is recovery and moving on, but it comes with long term dealing with the aftermath. 1y

MallenNC What stood out most to me about this last section was that she wasn‘t “healed” because he died. Her trauma and the way her life was impacted doesn‘t just go away. I‘m glad we read this one because I hadn‘t heard of her previously. 1y

Julsmarshall I agree with all of you, she is an inspiration despite the fact that this will always be something she deals with. Our histories are just that, and hers is unbelievably powerful. 1y

vlwelser I'm glad that she told her story. There should be more of these types of books out there so that others can see the bravery and know they are not alone or crazy and that someone else understands. Celebrating her own life when her tormentor just died might be a little bit weird. But no one thinks divorce parties are in bad taste so 🤷 1y

KathyWheeler @vlwelser Yeah, that celebration of her life after Xavier died was a little odd, but I get why she did it. I hoped it helped her in her healing process. 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @vlwelser That‘s what it made me think of too…people that celebrate divorced or bad breakups. I was struck by the fact that so many of those do burn letters or notes to “let it go” but she couldn‘t even do that without scanning them all first for the record still to prove she wasn‘t “making it all up”…so she really couldn‘t even have that burning notes, let go moment 1y

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Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie Lalonde | Julie S. Lalonde

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Clwojick Great match! 1y

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Julsmarshall

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Heartbreaking to read this account of continued abuse by a trusted partner, those who are supposed to protect us, and society as a whole. This isn‘t a one country problem, this is a whole world problem that we must find a way to solve. The honesty and bravery with which she shared her story was amazing, I recommend leaning her story, but with all the trigger warnings. All of them. #shesaid @Riveted_Reader_Melissa #bookspinBingo @TheAromaofBooks

TheAromaofBooks Great progress!! 1y

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vlwelser

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TheAromaofBooks Woohoo!! 1y

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa

Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie Lalonde | Julie S. Lalonde

Hello #SheSaid

A tough section to read, so much systemic issues then and still today…. It‘s tough to read even though it‘s all way to familiar. But hey, boys will be boys 🙄 and all that stuff that excuses the bad behavior so there is no real accountability for adults and their behavior.

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MoonWitch94 This section made me so mad! I literally had to take breaks while reading it. When I was in my teens & early 20s, I put up with “boys will be boys” behavior because as women we are “trained” to do so. But now in my 30s, it enrages me. 1y

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa @MoonWitch94 This section really bothered me too….I think because it reminded me so much of my growing up years….where boys will be boys and remember girls mature faster than boys, you need to cut them some slack and give them time to catch up. So many standard qualifiers in our language now that are just platitudes really for excusing and no accountability… because what boys learned is they never had to grow up or be responsible. 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa ↪️ girls need to act their age and then some to help out mom (because her husband sure won‘t 🙄), but boys different story & rules, it‘s biology…. Very frustrating to read and I think both because of her experience trying to teach about assault to cadets and only 1 lone soul saw the issue (and tellingly not their instructors) …. Plus all those feelings that section dredged up. 🤷‍♀️ (edited) 1y

MoonWitch94 @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Absolutely! 1y

TheKidUpstairs Chapter 6 was an interesting reading experience for me. I went to university in Kingston (10-15 years before her experience there). I remember being told pretty early on that I should always keep my guard up around RMC guys. Then I dated a guy from there, and he was very wary about me being around RMC guys without him. That always struck me as odd because he was so not like that in general, not controlling at all, he just didn't trust them. 1y

Julsmarshall Oof, this book is hard to read. Her experiences and lack of support-I think some of the people around her were trying but they (and she) lacked the tools she needed. So much trauma in her life, and so much systemic to our culture. It is difficult to wrap my head around how she was able to keep moving, keep helping others with her day to day challenges. I read a bit ahead and will likely finish early, just because I need to know she‘ll be okay. 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @TheKidUpstairs to me that means, they knew there were issues, it was basically a known fact…and you got good friends & a good one from there who tried to protect you. But even 10-15 years later, they finally got someone in to give a talk about it, but it went badly and they blamed her.🙄 1y

vlwelser Holy cliffhanger, Batman! 1y

vlwelser And the cadets. OMG. 1y

KathyWheeler The RMC section just enraged me. 1y

MallenNC I had to go ahead and finish the whole book. In this section I echo others that the RMC section was especially hard to read. 1y

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I‘m reading this for #SheSaid and finished it early. LaLonde writes of her abuse and stalking in an honest and compelling manner. I was angered by the reactions of the police and others to her situation. She became an advocate for victims of sexual assault and gave educational sessions all around Canada. Her experience at the Royal Military College was galling. There are reasons women underreport sexual assault, stalking, and domestic violence. 😡

Suet624 That experience at RMC was terrible. 1y

KathyWheeler @Suet624 Yes, it was. 1y

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa

Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie Lalonde | Julie S. Lalonde

Hello #SheSaid! I hope the new year is treating you well so far and you are having a good weekend!

See you in the comments!

MallenNC This book was hard to read. I felt very anxious while I was reading it but I also wanted to know her story. She did a great job being honest about what she went through. I wasn‘t familiar with her until this book and I‘m impressed with all she accomplished while dealing with stalking and abuse. 1y

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa @MallenNC I felt the same way… abuse is so hard and everyone deals with it differently, but yet the more women who wrote these books very honestly…it‘s very telling how much of a pattern emerges. Maybe if we write & read it more, the ptsd coping spiral would be more recognizable and less shameful and misunderstood 🤷‍♀️ 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa …and less judges will say, well obviously you are a liar and ruin it for the really abused, instead of seeing the just trying to deescalate and get through another day with your sanity. 1y

MoonWitch94 As a woman who got out of a verbally & psychologically abusive relationship, I absolutely felt validated and seen reading certain sections of this book. So often we only view abuse through the lense of physical, not emotional, verbal or psychological. If we can‘t see it, it doesn‘t exist mentality. I didn‘t realize the extent of my abuse until I ended the relationship. It was nearly 6 years, & signs were there from the get go, but ⬇️ 1y

MoonWitch94 Not noticeable until much much later. It‘s haunting and shocking. This book touched me deeply and I think the author is so brave for telling her whole truth. 1y

MallenNC @MoonWitch94 I am glad you aren‘t in that relationship anymore. I thought this book might help others who can see themselves in her story. The truth is it could be any of us. I‘m glad it was validating for you. 1y

MoonWitch94 @MallenNC Thank You! ♥️ 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @MoonWitch94 I am very glad you got out, and yes…glad this was validating and not triggering. For me it often helps when I read stories that let me know I‘m not alone in whatever craziness I‘m dealing with, but I know it doesn‘t always work that way for everyone…and sometimes it all depends on where you are in the process. And yes… hindsight is so much clearer often, I think abusers know that, it‘s the frog in boiling water thing…lots of ⤵️ 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa ↪️ wooing and great and then little by little the other slowly boiling water creeps in and you keep thinking fluke, 1 odd experience, until it builds up to overflowing. 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa I wish we all felt more validated in trusting our early instincts to red flags too… but I think we and society have all been socialized to cut the other person slack, be the good girl, give them another chance, and another, and another, and take pity on more the other person 🤷‍♀️ not poor us 🫤 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa The cop with the “he‘s just a baby” in this one bothered me…. Like she‘s not too 🤷‍♀️ what the heck was that. And I‘m saddened to see the police issues & judge issues are more universal than just US (edited) 1y

MoonWitch94 @Riveted_Reader_Melissa All good points! So very true. And my Ex suffered from mental health issues that I knew about (PTSD/Anxiety) and issues I did not know about (Bipolar, Schizo-Affective disorder) so it was easier to rationalize and give him a wider berth bc of those things. But I make that mistake next time. And it was so disappointing to see these issues more universal, as you said. We as Americans see Canadians as the “nicest” folks⬇️ 1y

MoonWitch94 So it‘s surprising when we hear the opposite of that. It is definitely a predominately white male Supremacist ideal as opposed to an individual country issue. 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @MoonWitch94 Yes it is, that ideal underlies so many issues in so many countries, and provides so many rationalizations for so much bad behavior. 1y

vlwelser I like the little anecdotes she adds in as well as some of the other crazy things that are happening. The crazy roommate, the friend dancing in the Viking helmet, the dudes that come to the bus station to help her. Like things are shitty but she also has a lot of good things too. Ok, maybe not the crazy roommate. 1y

vlwelser @MoonWitch94 I'm glad you made it through and out the other end of that. One thing she doesn't seem to mention in this is that it does really weird things to your self esteem. 1y

MoonWitch94 @vlwelser Thank you 😊 Yes, I noticed that, too. It does wreck your self esteem terribly. 1y

KathyWheeler @Riveted_Reader_Melissa That really bothered me too! As you said, so is she! I fail to understand police attitudes toward abuse. 1y

Julsmarshall This is such a challenging yet important story. It is hard to read but her writing is so compelling it is hard to put down. I have to make myself stop and not read ahead. I too was surprised by the fact that this happened in Canada, though I shouldn‘t be. Male supremacy and violence are, unfortunately, everywhere. 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Julsmarshall I think it boils down to we deeply want to believe it‘s better elsewhere, when really that white supremacist male entitlement was shipped around the world with colonization as the justification for colonization from the start 🙄 1y

Julsmarshall Well said, @Riveted_Reader_Melissa 😔 (edited) 1y

ncsufoxes It‘s always so frustrating to read what women have to do to prove that they are in an abusive situation. ie, write out everything that has happened, provide proof if available. Also to read that she couldn‘t get a lawyer to protect her but he could for free, I unfortunately can see why she didn‘t follow through with the courts. It‘s so exhausting have to prove what is happening to you not to mention the time involved. She‘s single but what about a 1y

ncsufoxes mom with kids or having to work multiple jobs. Like most services in the US (& Canada it seems) there are lots of hoops to jump through to access services or assistance. People wonder why women don‘t get help, it‘s exhausting, humiliating, self deprecating, & isolating. It‘s all hard to read but unfortunately in order to make headway with any difficult subject it is important to lift up stories like this. 1y

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4/5⭐️
To say I enjoyed this book feels wrong. But I did feel validated and seen. As a woman who removed herself from an abusive partner, I saw some of my own experiences mirrored in this book. It was frightening, captivating, brutally honest in a way that needs to be understood. Intimate partner abuse of any kind is not talked about enough. Bravo to the author for her bravery & tenacity. #SheSaid #January #LitsyLoveReads

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BennettBookworm Thanks for sharing- adding to stack 1y

MoonWitch94 @BennettBookworm You‘re most welcome 🙂 1y

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MoonWitch94

Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie Lalonde | Julie S. Lalonde

#JoyousJanuary Readathon is upon us!

📖My goals are simply to catch up on my monthly group reads such as #pemberlittens #auldlangspine etc etc AND refrain from being distracted when my #bookmail arrives with a certain blue-eyed, ginger-haired Prince‘s memoir 🤷🏻‍♀️😂🤣😂🤣😂 HRH will have to wait until next month. I‘m all booked! 😉

Andrew65

Andrew65 Great to have you with us for the Readathon, good luck 😁 1y

MoonWitch94 @Andrew65 Thanks! 1y

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa

Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie Lalonde | Julie S. Lalonde

Hello #SheSaid!

I hope the new year is treating you all well!

And I see a few of you have flown through this book already, and I agree…I had a hard time putting it down after this section!

…I‘ll add my thoughts in the comments 😉

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @tenar @vlwelser @KVanRead @SamAnne @Julsmarshall @arlenefinnigan @Chab256 @Scochrane26 @CoffeeK8. @MallenNC @Caroline2 @DebinHawaii @Nute @Currey @Augustdana @Suet624 @Singout @mhillis @megnews @Jgotham @AnneCecilie @kspenmoll @staci.reads @AllDebooks @MilesnMelodies ⤵️ 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa ↪️ @Smrloomis @KathyWheeler @Bookwormjillk @bibliobliss @JenlovesJT47 @Karisa @fredthemoose @Christine @mandarchy @rjsthumbelina @Tera66 @Megabooks @BookBosomed1 @CBee @MoonWitch94 @sabyym @ncsufoxes @Readergrrl @wanderinglynn @TheKidUpstairs @psalva As always if anyone would like added or removed from this tag list, please just let me know. And if you asked and I forgot, please remind me. Thank you! 🤪 1y

MoonWitch94 I‘m a bit behind….but I am finding it hard to stop! 1y

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa I can‘t help but think how brave she is to put it all in here, even the parts she feels “guilty” about…all those attempts to appease and mollify him into letting her go. I think it will help many others to read that and know they are not alone there, it‘s part of the process, and the best we can do to change that is teach girls they don‘t have to always be the peacemakers and help everyone….that there are times it‘s ok to be mad, stay mad, and⤵️ 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa ↪️ and think about your wellbeing and safety first. It hurts my heart to see it reflecting in writing how much we will put up with and go through to make things easier for others…even easier for people who abuse us so they aren‘t too hurt when we leave. We need our social standards and expectations to change so very badly. 1y

KathyWheeler I found myself very frustrated with her for continuing to go back to him and for letting him do the things he did to her, but I also recognize that that‘s because I have never been in her situation. It‘s so easy to say what you‘d do when you are outside looking in. 1y

vlwelser This was hard to put down. I'm curious about where she is going. I cannot even imagine confessing all of these embarrassing things she did. It may be easier since she already stated at some point that he's dead. Like the fear was taken away at some point. 1y

Suet624 I wouldn‘t have known about this book or this person without this group. Thank you. I couldn‘t stop listening and appreciated her honesty. We continue to see women and children killed as they attempt to leave an abusive relationship. I wish judges would read stories like these and make different choices about believing the true threats against women. 1y

ncsufoxes I think that so many times people equate domestic violence with actual violence (he‘s not abusing me because he didn‘t hit me). I‘m sure as she was writing this memoir she was able to reflect & name the DV: shame, manipulation, psychological & emotional trauma/abuse. Those are the areas that I don‘t think young people realize is abuse. Couple that with being young & wanting to prove everyone wrong especially if friends & family aren‘t 1y

ncsufoxes enthusiastic over your relationship. For some people they might be so determined to prove everyone wrong they‘ll continue in a horrible relationship. Even though they know something isn‘t right. It also starts to become isolating. 1y

MallenNC I hadn‘t gotten this book in time to read last week‘s section but now I‘ve caught up to where we‘re supposed to be for Sunday and I‘m not sure I can stop! This is a hard and upsetting book to read, but I‘m glad to have been introduced to it. 1y

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#SheSaid
I admire her so much for coping with constant stalking from her ex and dedicating her career to helping others escape and deal with the aftermath of assault/rape. At times, this makes for difficult reading amid the description of her relationship. Her struggle to provide services on campus, her research on older women's experiences, the RMC presentation all reflect who she has become based on her experiences.
A harrowing but worthy read.

AllDebooks @Riveted_Reader_Melissa 1y

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My January TBR is towering, so I read ahead for #SheSaid. I won't say much to avoid spoilers, but this was an anxious read (in a very effective way). All the trigger warnings for relationship abuse and the trauma our social systems pile onto victims.

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TheKidUpstairs I'm interested to read the discussions in January, especially to hear from non-Canadian Littens. There are lots of very Canadian references, so I'd be interested to hear how those references worked or didn't for those who didn't necessarily grow up around them, and with the constant news coverage they created here. 1y

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The January #SheSaid read. I found every chance I could to listen to this audiobook once I got it from Hoopla & found it riveting. Lalonde, a Canadian, details her experience of being stalked by her boyfriend for years & attempting to get protection from a variety of sources: police, the courts, etc. Especially interesting to me was a chapter about her presentation to cadets at the Royal Military College of Canada on sexual violence prevention.

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kspenmoll Planning to read this in January! 1y

Reggie Ughhh this reminds me of that Hooters waitress in Florida that was gunned down in her honeymoon by a customer who stalked her. After she died they found out she had been trying to get a restraining order against him and had a binder full of threatening notes and the judge still said no. What does it take!!! 1y

MicheleinPhilly @Reggie WTF? That‘s sickening. 1y

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Suet624 @Reggie @MicheleinPhilly I have to imagine this is too often the case. Lalonde does a good job of outlining the ways in which judges (and others) end up blaming the victim even as the victim is desperately attempting to remove themselves from a volatile situation. It's so messed up. Meanwhile the perpetrator is able to carry on behind the scenes without being held accountable in any way. 1y

Suet624 @kspenmoll It's a very quick read and an even quicker listen. 1y

merelybookish Thanks for this review! I follow her on IG but haven't read her book. 1y

Reggie @MicheleinPhilly https://www.sfltimes.com/uncategorized/wake-up-call-how-a-stalker-became-a-murde... 1y

Suet624 @merelybookish I hadn‘t thought of looking her up on IG. I‘ll have to do that. 1y

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LitsyEvents

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repost for @Riveted_Reader_Melissa:

Hello #SheSaid

I hope you are enjoying your holidays and relaxing with your families somewhere warm (it‘s frigid here right now).

Our first #BuddyRead of the new year has a schedule, and if your local library uses the app Hoopla, it is available on that service….otherwise put in your library holds and interlibrary loans!

See you all in January!

LitsyEvents #buddyread (edited) 1y

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa

Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie Lalonde | Julie S. Lalonde

Hello #SheSaid

I hope you are enjoying your holidays and relaxing with your families somewhere warm (it‘s frigid here right now).

Our first book of the new year has a schedule, and if your local library uses the app Hoopla, it is available on that service….otherwise put in your library holds and interlibrary loans!

See you all in January!

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @tenar @vlwelser @KVanRead @SamAnne @Julsmarshall @arlenefinnigan @Chab256 @Scochrane26 @CoffeeK8. @MallenNC @Caroline2 @DebinHawaii @Nute @Currey @Augustdana @Suet624 @Singout @mhillis @megnews @Jgotham @AnneCecilie @kspenmoll @staci.reads @AllDebooks @MilesnMelodies 1y

vlwelser 😘 1y

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa @vlwelser Today I believe is also Thank You Note Day according to Andrew65, and I owe you a huge Thank You! You keep me on track even when I get distracted by other books and real life. Thanks for being a great co-pilot on this reading group journey. I appreciate it more than you will ever know. 😉 1y

kspenmoll I just got the book@on kindle so ready to join in! 1y

Chrissyreadit I‘m going to try and get it. I‘m still reeling from the trauma of an abusive marriage that I stayed in so courts could not order visitation for my children. I have seen too much in my work that terrified me about that. Women are constantly harmed and undermined in so many ways in this country. 1y

Suet624 Thanks for letting us know it was on Hoopla. I wouldn't have been able to get it otherwise. 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Chrissyreadit If it‘s to much for you, don‘t be afraid to bail this month… I know not every book (and topic) is for everyone 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Suet624 You‘re welcome! I was in the same boat.. not at either library I belong too 1y

Singout Thank you for picking an excellent #Canadian book, edited by my friend Tilman! I‘ll pass as I‘ve already read it, but it‘s definitely worth it. 1y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Singout Well tell Tillman thanks for editing a great book with such an important topic! We appreciate their hard work! 1y

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Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie Lalonde | Julie S. Lalonde

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Just a reminder of what‘s coming up with #SheSaid in the coming year! I can‘t wait! Put in your library holds 😉

Our January pick is available on Hoopla if your library supports it.

original post: https://www.litsy.com/web/post/2519071

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Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie Lalonde | Julie S. Lalonde

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Excellent and powerful read. Lalonde juggles searing, painful honesty, dry wit, and burning passion in this account of spending her 30s being stalked by her ex-boyfriend. She has a sound analysis of gender justice from over a decade of working to end violence against women and a down-to-earth voice that make the issues she addressed hit home.
#Booked2020 published in 2020
#Nonfiction2020 Gender issues

Cinfhen, Riveted_Reader_Melissa, BarbaraTheBibliophage, alisiakae

Cinfhen Sounds really powerful 3y

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Cinfhen Agreed! Sounds very good! 3y

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