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This Is How It Always Is: 'Made me laugh, made me cry' Liane Moriarty
This Is How It Always Is: 'Made me laugh, made me cry' Liane Moriarty | Laurie Frankel
'A very special book about a family with a secret. It made me laugh, it made me cry, it made me think.' Liane Moriarty, No. 1 bestselling author of THE HUSBAND'S SECRET Laurie Frankel's THIS IS HOW IT ALWAYS IS the 'fascinating story of a thoroughly modern family and the giant, multifaceted love that binds them... Sparkles with wit and wisdom' (Maria Semple). Perfect for readers of WE ARE ALL COMPLETELY BESIDE OURSELVES and THE UNLIKELY PILGRIMAGE OF HAROLD FRY. This is how a family keeps a secret...and how that secret ends up keeping them. This is how a family lives happily ever after...until happily ever after becomes complicated. This is how children change...and then change the world. This is Claude. He's five years old, the youngest of five brothers, and loves peanut butter sandwiches. He also loves wearing a dress, and dreams of being a princess. When he grows up, Claude says, he wants to be a girl. Rosie and Penn want Claude to be whoever Claude wants to be. They're just not sure they're ready to share that with the world. Soon the entire family is keeping Claude's secret. Until one day it explodes. Laurie Frankel's THIS IS HOW IT ALWAYS IS is a novel about revelations, transformations, fairy tales, and family. And it's about the ways this is how it always is: Change is always hard and miraculous and hard again, parenting is always a leap into the unknown with crossed fingers and full hearts, children grow but not always according to plan. And families with secrets don't get to keep them forever. 'An intelligent, life-affirming, emotionally charged story' Prima
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Erin.Elizabeth10
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This month‘s book club pick! I loved this book. Amazing story, amazing characters, and thought-provoking topic. Would recommend!

TrishB Loved this too 👍🏻 5d
LiteraryinLititz I really liked this one! 5d
BarbaraTheBibliophage My book group read this and liked it so, so much! 5d
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TracyReadsBooks
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Littens, something strange and unusual happened today—I went to a bookstore to pick up our next book club selection AND I walked out with only that book! No extras...which is weird...I don‘t usually have that much self control! 😂 (And I‘m 100% sure my self control at the bookstore had nothing to do with the fact my second stop was the comic book store.) The tagged book was a member pick and I‘m looking forward to reading it.

Texreader 😂😂😂 6d
Crazeedi What restraint you have!😉 6d
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ladyneverwhere
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This isn't a perfect novel (the family is way too cutesy), but it was a very readable book centering a story that needs to be told more. ❤️

I'm out of town for the holidays but will have it in the mail for you next week @Shakespearience

marleed I think I‘m more compassionate for having read this book. 3w
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AnotherAngstyTeen
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Such a great feel good book. It tackles the subject matter in a fresh light. All the characters are beyond lovable; a must read!

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KarynGood
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Thank you SO much, @BookishTrish !!!! I feel delightfully spoiled. My favourite brand of chocolate! I‘m not sure how you knew that I‘m a dill pickle enthusiast, but I‘m wearing that pin everywhere! And tea! I LOVE tea! And the books, of course! I cannot wait to dive into those stories! 💕 🙏 Merry Christmas!!! #poutinepenpals #canuckchristmasswap

BookishTrish This makes me so happy. I‘m glad you liked your gifts! Happy Christmas xoxo 1mo
StillLookingForCarmenSanDiego Haha you definitely got spoiled! ❤💚 1mo
mcctrish WOW!!! An awesome bookish haul 1mo
PurpleyPumpkin What a wonderful gift package! Looks like you're spoiled for choice for your new year reading.🎄 1mo
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ladyneverwhere
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@Sward7 your book is on its way. It should be there by Friday.

And @inthegreensandblues I just got your holiday card (my boyfriend has buried it under a bunch of stuff). Thank you so much for sending it!

#lmpbc

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ladyneverwhere
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Can't wait to get started on this fantastic #newyearwhodis list from @Amandajoy ! The titles with bees next to them are the ones I'm going to try and read first. I'm also excited for the books with bows next to them, it'll just probably be later in the year by the time I read them.

And I love love love Margaret Atwood, but I'm not including The Testaments because returning to Gilead is too depressing a thought at the moment 😬

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monalyisha So happy you‘re planning to read Glaciers! It‘s almost painfully hip but I *loved* it. 1mo
Amandajoy Totally understand about The Testaments! I liked seeing what happened with the rest of the story. Hope you enjoy them! 1mo
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ladyneverwhere
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I've had a very grinch-y December so I'm making up for lost time and watched everything except the free space (One Magic Christmas, which I watched yesterday) today. 🎄🎅

@GypsyKat I'm so grateful for the bingo card recommendation of Christmas in Connecticut! I can't believe I'd never heard of it. It was fantastic! It's officially on the Christmas rotation now.

GypsyKat It‘s one of my all time favorites! ❤️ 1mo
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MMFinck
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So good! I found Poppy to be too mature in every way for a ten year old, as well as the bully, but it did not detract. I didn‘t need the fairytale; was skimming it by the end, but it does add an element of magic which a lot of people appreciate. I tore through this novel. Will definitely be gifting copies.

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MMFinck
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This novel is a #mustread. I can‘t stop highlighting passages. Nor can I stop reading. 51% in, 122 highlighted passages.

TrishB A great read 👍🏻 1mo
MMFinck @Trish So good! I can‘t stop reading! Reading in line at the bank now. :) 1mo
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Ashley_Nicoletto
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Oh dear lord this was good. ❤️

MicheleinPhilly I LOVED this. 2mo
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HeatherBookNerd
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A moving story about a family coming to understand that their child is transgender. A beautiful book about the complexities of parenting. And even though this family has a particular journey with their child, it really translates to all parents who desperately love their children and have the daunting task of guiding them. Kids all face unique challenges that require parents to make decisions when there are no clear and easy answers. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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Jerdencon
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HeatherBookNerd
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Just started this last night and I‘m completely hooked. I love this family.

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Jerdencon
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I received the last 2 books for #lmpbc #round6 #groupo
I just started the tagged book and will send it on as soon as I finish and then get to the last book and send that back too! So we are sort of back on track. @ladyneverwhere @Shakespearience

ladyneverwhere Take your time, I'm in no rush 😊 3mo
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beautifulcrevice
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i‘m hooked on this one 🧚‍♀️✨ i don‘t think i would‘ve read this one without reese‘s recommendation - just being honest - but now at pg 180 & going strong. (ok technically it was on my book wishlist and husband got it for me on christmas ♥️)
right now i love/hate the way the chapters end in part II. i‘m here for this! 🤓
#cliffhangers #thisishowitalwaysis #reesesbookclub

marleed I actually think I‘m a bit of better person for having read this book. 3mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage We read this for my IRL book group. I‘m so glad I could discuss it! 3mo
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Blaire
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Very moving portrayal of a warm and loving family raising a transgender child. It gets into the complexities of gender identity for a child, decisions that must be made, and the emotional impact.. Lots of wonderful characters. Loved the grandma, and the discussions between the parents. At first I thought the narration might be too witty/precious but I ended up really liking the style and it felt more real as the book progressed.

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BarbaraTheBibliophage
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Frankel crafts a story that is by turns politically correct and relevant for all of us. No matter your beliefs, transgender kids are coming out earlier than ever. This novel gives readers a chance to experience the events and feelings around gender identity mostly from the parental perspective, albeit fictitious. Parts were too perfect, but a lot was charming and real. My IRL book group loved it.

Full review on my blog: https://wp.me/p8swP2-7aN

valeriegeary My book club read this one too and loved it! 4mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @valeriegeary It's a good one to discuss. We often talk about our books for only 15-30 minutes, because we like to catch up and talk about other stuff too. This one we talked about for over an hour. 4mo
Hooked_on_books I thought this book was great. So topical. 4mo
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JulietteGF
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This book wasn't for me. I've read 70 pages, and I honestly couldn't care about the story or about the characters...

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BarbaraTheBibliophage
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Need to get this done by October 3rd. Ten days - ish. Gotta get moving!

#irlbookgroup #amreading #lgtbqia+

kspenmoll You can do it! 4mo
Hooked_on_books It‘s a wonderful book 4mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Hooked_on_books I‘m enjoying it‘s quirkiness. But I‘m also concerned that she won‘t ultimately present transgender in a positive and appropriate way. 4mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @kspenmoll So far, I‘m on track. Crossing my fingers. Life has been so busy. 4mo
Hooked_on_books I think she did in the end. And of course the main focus is on this family and their efforts to do the “right” thing for their child, without having any idea what that is. 4mo
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Sward7
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An absolute gem. Everyone needs to read this delightful story about a family who deals with all the trial, tribulations, and joys of raising a child with gender dysphoria. Beautifully and gracefully written.

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jesseastin
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I really enjoyed this book. It was well written and I loved the characters and the crazy, chaotic, loving family dealing with the challenges of a transgender child. This was one of the best books I‘ve read this year.

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jesseastin
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I‘m about a fourth of the way through this book and I love it so far. It‘s a large, chaotic, loving family dealing with their fifth son who may have body dysmorphia. Dresses and barrettes are fine at home, but what about kindergarten? (Ironically, I‘m reading this right after “George”, a middle reader about a transgender child, but I tend to read things as they drop into my library cart after being on a massive hold list.)Can‘t wait to read on.

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Book_yogi
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This book takes on difficult, relevant issues and handles them with honestly, sincerity, fiercely and with humor, never shying away from the hard questions. Penn and Rose love their kids fiercely, protectively and with so much care, we as parents should all take note as a baseline for successfully raising children. Oh, a shout out to Mr. Tongo, not their doctor, but the best therapist ever celebrating each obstacle as amazing.

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Peddler410
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This book was recommended to me as a mother and educator. I shed a few tears in chapter one and I‘m really enjoying the story and wish I knew this family.

#namastepositive This was a good week for me for #bfc

Got in all my water, made it to Pilates and wish I could add more classes per month. Meeting my reading goal.

This week I plan to add in journaling my food.
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wanderinglynn Way to go! 🙌🏻 5mo
Meaw_catlady Great job!!! 🙌🏻 5mo
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Book_Fairy_Mary
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To be honest, this is probably not a book I would typically pickup. I wasn't excited when my book club assigned it, but, as it so often happens, I found it to be a compelling story that made me truly think about the world around us.

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Jbakesmcgee3
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Reading while I wait to change my name at the social security office, feeling very bittersweet about it

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Book_Fairy_Mary
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Our book club's current read is This Is How It Always Is by Laurie Frankel. I'm curious. How does you club select books?

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RavenLovelyReads
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August TBR- in a perfect world, I would have time to read all the books!

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Areader2
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Love to recommend tagged book, just all around great family story
A star is Born
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#friyayintro

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IvoryLunatic
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Shoutout to my fiancé for gifting me this thanks to his prime day savings. Has anybody read this yet? I keep hearing a lot of good things about it. I can‘t wait for it to get here.

TrishB Yes - loved it. 6mo
BookishEscapade It‘s on my to read list! I‘m slowly getting through Reese‘s booklist, I love her list so far from what I have read! 6mo
IvoryLunatic @Thewanderer92 I keep meaning to look up her list but my own lists are already so long that I'm worried it'll get way worse. 😂 6mo
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BookishEscapade @IvoryLunatic I know what you mean! I read a couple of her books that I didn‘t realise were on her list. So I decided to keep going! That‘s the only reason I have strayed away from my own 🤭 6mo
IvoryLunatic @Thewanderer92 Which list are you using. You just got me to google it anyways but there a several different lists so I'm not sure which one to go with. 6mo
BookishEscapade @IvoryLunatic I just read various media articles that referred to her list and jotted down the books. I‘m pretty certain if you search up ‘Reese‘s book club‘ on Amazon it will come up too! 6mo
JoyBlue I gave it 3+ stars—so, at least slightly better than average. 😉 6mo
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Shakespearience
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Well, I finished my read(s) for #LMPBC and still have a month left. I am not sure if I send it now or wait, but it was definitely a very good read and I hope the rest of #GroupO will enjoy it. Also, I am not sure how it happened, but I ended up reading a graphic novel with similar themes for #GroupU (also really good). If you want to read more diverse/LGBT themed books, I highly recommend both of these! #lgbtreads #bbrc #yeahbaby #goodreadsfind

LibrarianRyan Love Prince. I mailed my group u a few minutes ago. 6mo
Shakespearience @LibrarianRyan So we can mail them as soon as we are done? Do we just use order from the email we got from @suvata (I remember seeing something about “1 mails to 2. 2 mails to 3...”) 6mo
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Jerdencon Looking forward to reading it! 6mo
TheBookHippie Yay!!! 6mo
TheBookHippie @Shakespearience I was just going to find that email ! 6mo
suvata You can mail it early if you want. I don‘t think anyone would complain. It‘s just that the deadline is the last day of the month (or earlier if you prefer 🙃)! 6mo
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derr.liz
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I loved the humor and heart with which this was written. I hope our society/world continues to progress toward greater acceptance of trans individuals of all ages.

#pridemonth 🏳️‍🌈

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Maman929
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What a great read. I loved the story of Poppy and her family. It made me laugh and think and appreciate the love of family.

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shaynarae
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I absolutely LOVED this book! Everything about it wonderful: the story, the writing, the layers - the whole package. It‘s a beautiful tale of family and transformations, fairy tale and real life, examined through the lens of gender-coding and queerness. #pridemonth 🏳️‍🌈

Amiable I loved this book too 👍🏼 7mo
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Shakespearience
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And my pick for the upcoming round of #LMPBC #GroupO arrived today. My TBR for July is looking pretty weighty. I can‘t wait to start my first postal book club 😁

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Maman929
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Been waiting a while for this one to come available at the library.

My reading buddy is not nearly as excited as I am about it. 🐶📚 #dogsoflitsy

Shakespearience That one is definitely on my TBR list. My reading buddy isn‘t much better...then again I fall asleep while reading most nights so I guess I can‘t say anything 😅 7mo
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Areader2
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1. This Is How It Always Is,The Broken Earth Series, Priory of the Orange Tree,Where The Crawdads Sing
2. We‘ll Sleep When Were Old
3. Yes! The Starless Sea by Erin Morgenstern,The Ten Thousand Doors of January by Alice E Harrow,Gideon The Ninth by Tamsyn Muir
4. 25 and I am already at 13 😁
Thanks for the tag @Ofclumsywords
5. @Nute @sudi
#thursdaysurvey

Nute Thanks for the tag!🙂 I want to read The Priory of the Orange Tree soooo bad. It‘s topping the list for many as a favorite book. 8mo
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BritanyA
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️: A book EVERYBODY must read. A little lengthy in parts but one that captured my heart in a way that cannot be described.

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MrsKellyLam
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I‘m only half way and this book as stolen my heart

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kelli7990
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This is my review for the book I read in book club.

#maybookclubpick #thisishowitalwaysis #lauriefrankel

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MeganLindell
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⭐️⭐️⭐️½: I really enjoyed this book. It explores the complications and joys of having a transgender young child well, I think. It was maybe a bit too wholesome for me and some of the word choice made me a little eye roll-y. But, over all a good read.

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marleed
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There are times after finishing a book when I know I‘ll forever be a bit better and a touch more compassionate then I was before I finished a story. This is one of those books.

Crazeedi Welcome to litsy!! I love books like that!❣ 9mo
SW-T 😊😊😊 9mo
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Karisa
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#Booked2019 - Spring - Food on the Cover
@Cinfhen @4thhouseontheleft @BarbaraTheBibliophage

So many issues in parenting are unclear. Life comes at us in shades of gray more often than not. Yes, the novel features a character struggling with gender identity from a young age. However, this book is at its heart about a loving family doing their best. It is also filled with a quirky cast of characters which I just really crave sometimes. 💗

Cinfhen This was a great bookclub book!! Lots to discuss!! 9mo
Karisa @Cinfhen Agreed! I read it on my own but can see the potential. 9mo
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Karisa
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#wondrouswednesday @eggs

📕 Yes, every couple of years or so.

📗 Lighter reads to break up the heavier stuff helps (graphic novels or Sarah Addison Allen books, for example). It's ok to take a break. Reading should stay fun. 😊 One light read favorite: Garden Spells.

📘 I love when fantasy and realism bleed into each other. Ex: Carry On (Rainbow Rowell) and American Gods [Neil Gaiman).

📕 🤗 @the_book_hoarder @JulieSouo @conceptDawg

wanderinglynn I love Sarah Addison Allens‘s books. 💚👍🏻 9mo
BooknerdsLife Oh I love Carry On & Good Omens too 😻 Perfect example!! 🙌🏼😄💓 9mo
Eggs I too enjoy Sarah Addison Allen books! 9mo
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KyrstinElizabeth
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You have to help him see that if he‘s disappearing from the world, that‘s too high a price to pay for fitting in.

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KyrstinElizabeth
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How did you teach your small human that it‘s what‘s inside that counts when the truth was everyone was pretty preoccupied with what you put on over the outside too?

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KyrstinElizabeth
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That‘s what all stories want. They want to get out, get told, get heard. Otherwise, what‘s the point of stories? They want to help little boys go to sleep. They want to help stubborn mamas fall in love with dads. They want to teach people things and make them laugh and cry.

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JoyBlue
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Dear Littens: I'm sorry I've been MIA for a few days. I've been in Washington DC at the Save the Children Action Network Advocacy Summit. Yesterday, we had a good day on the Hill, talking to our legislators about how we can work together to help kids in the US and around the world.

I finished tagged book on 3/31 (Day 1 in DC). I liked, but didn't love, it. Poppy was my favorite character. Overall, book could have been better w/tighter writing.

CouronneDhiver Doesn‘t sound like there‘s anything to apologize for... fight the good fight! 👊🏽 10mo
JoyBlue @CouronneDhiver Thank you for your support! 😀💙🤛🏽 10mo
tracey38 This is awesome. I went to DC once to talk with legislators about a women's health issue. 💜 10mo
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JoyBlue @tracey38 Cool! It‘s such a great experience. My team this year included a retired special ed. teacher, two high-schoolers, and a college student. It‘s great to see others gain and use their voices. I‘m glad you‘ve had that experience, too! 10mo
tracey38 @JoyBlue I'll admit it was a bit terrifying for this introvert, and there was a lot of walking involved. But it was a great experience. 10mo
JoyBlue @tracey38 Yes! I‘m super-introverted myself, so I understand! I knew that being ON for 72 hours was going to be exhausting, so I scheduled myself to be off for 72 hours upon return. Unfortunately, I‘ve used that time (and then some) to do follow-up and catch-up! Sigh. Also, I took a walk Saturday and found I was still sore from running back and forth across the capitol on Tuesday. We must keep up,the good fight! 😉💙 10mo
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Rachel_nyc
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Such a beautiful story. I‘ve read some reviews that criticize it for sugarcoating but I thought Frankel did a great job of showing the ugly side of what Transgender people have to deal with from ignorant and hateful people. Obviously most people do not have a family who is immediately so supportive, especially at the age she comes out, but hopefully this book will help others understand and be less judgmental.

BarbaraBB I‘ve never heard of this one but since you say so, I think it‘s worth reading? 10mo
Rachel_nyc @BarbaraBB I think you‘d like it! The writing itself is good, not great but the story is really beautiful and timely about a family of 5 boys and the youngest comes out as transgender as a young child. I would have liked for more of it to be from her perspective but since the author is the mother of a trans daughter IRL, it makes sense it‘s primarily in the mom‘s voice. 10mo
BarbaraBB Interesting. Definitely. 10mo
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