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Stay With Me
Stay With Me | Ayobami Adebayo
'There are things even love can't do . . . If the burden is too much and stays too long, even love bends, cracks, comes close to breaking and sometimes does break. But even when it's in a thousand pieces around your feet, that doesn't mean it's no longer love . . .' Yejide is hoping for a miracle, for a child. It is all her husband wants, all her mother-in-law wants, and she has tried everything - arduous pilgrimages, medical consultations, dances with prophets, appeals to God. But when her in-laws insist upon a new wife, it is too much for Yejide to bear. It will lead to jealousy, betrayal and despair. Unravelling against the social and political turbulence of 80s Nigeria, Stay With Me sings with the voices, colours, joys and fears of its surroundings. Ayobami Adebayo weaves a devastating story of the fragility of married love, the undoing of family, the wretchedness of grief, and the all-consuming bonds of motherhood. It is a tale about our desperate attempts to save ourselves and those we love from heartbreak.
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youneverarrived
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The overwhelming feeling from this novel is sadness, although the ending is more uplifting. It‘s written quite simply; generally short, blunt sentences. It takes you on an emotional journey through the highs and lows of a marriage. It kept on surprising me and every time I picked it up I just wanted to keep on reading. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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Tamra
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Not a novel for readers who are sensitive about fertility issues & loss of children.

Very strong writing voice; well conveyed a sense of place & culture. Could have been edited down as the story sprawled - bit like Mahler & Wagner (GASP) with too many climaxes and the end was not believable. But, with all that the audio narrator made it a great listen.

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Tamra
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I‘m only in the middle of listening to this novel and holy cow! What writing and narration. Completely drawn into the MC.

saresmoore This makes me want to bump it up the list! I look forward to your review. 2mo
Tamra @saresmoore definite trigger warnings for readers having fertility difficulties or death of a child. 2mo
LauraBeth I read this book a while ago but really enjoyed it! 2mo
Tamra @LauraBeth I can see why! 2mo
Christine Loved this one. ❤️ 2mo
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HardcoverHearts
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This is on ebook sale ($2.99) now in some platforms and I highly recommend it! It‘s a well crafted tale of the pressures one couple and specifically one woman faces to have children.

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juliegumdrop
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I completed 5 books in February, including a couple for #blackhistorymonth. Two ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ reads: Stay With Me and Circe. #currentlyreading Washington Black, but won‘t finish it tonight. #februarywrapup

StillLookingForCarmenSanDiego Great reads! 📖💖 5mo
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Peaceful_Reader
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A mother must be vigilant. She must be able and willing to wake up 10 times during the night to feed her baby. After her intermittent vigil, she must see everything clearly the next morning so that she can notice any changes in her baby. A mother is not permitted to have blurry vision.

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peaches10
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This has my emotions everywhere..only on chapter9 but torn!

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juliegumdrop
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Starting this tonight. #currentlyreading #blackhistorymonth

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andrew61
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I picked this up after hearing the author on the robin ince book shambles podcast and it was an interesting read about the effects of sickle cell disease upon a Nigerian family. Told in the narrative voice of yejide and her husband akin it is a story about family, deception and loss. A book i enjoyed.

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Robbes412
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Taking advantage of a snow day with my newest read!

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teddysj3789
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One of the best books I have read recently. The depiction of different first persons in different chapters gave an in-depth look to the characters‘ dilemma, sadness, joy, lies, secrets, and so much more.

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readsforkeeps
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Where do I even begin? Honestly, I feel like my words aren‘t gonna do justice to how good this book is. I think the main reason why I was so invested in it was because of the way it was written. The plot itself had me glued to the book for hours

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Litlady
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Enjoying this very much! Such beautiful, mystical storytelling at its finest with a deeper message at its core. Nice debut from Ayobami Adebayo. @BeaG @monalyisha #NewYearWhodis

BeaG @Litlady I'm glad you are enjoying it! It is such a great story. 6mo
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Leigh0906
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Semester break is over tomorrow. I don‘t want to go to work 😫 I‘ve got to stay late for nighttime registration- hopefully I can sneak a few chapters in 😝 #currentread

Lindsbooklover93 I go back to work on Thursday 7mo
Leigh0906 @Lindsbooklover93 I‘m jealous! It‘s amazing how little time it takes to get out of a routine! 7mo
Lindsbooklover93 I agree! I really enjoyed having two weeks off. I work for a private school. We start back on Thursday. 7mo
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rmaclean4
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2018 favorite reads: Part 1
Literary Fiction:
Stay WIth Me: Ayobami Adebayo
Purple Hibiscus: Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Home Fire:Kamila Shamsie
Elmet: Fiona Mozley
Historical Fiction:
The Song of Achilles: Madeline Miller
West: Carys Davies
The Essex Serpent: Sarah Perry

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LauraRenae
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Mehso-so

Compelling story with simple writing but still felt a bit long and dragged at times.

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Joanne1
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Sometimes you just read books at the wrong time. This is what happened to me here. Stay with Me is a fascinating exploration of marriage, motherhood, family and tradition in Nigeria. It was culturally eye-opening and beautifully told, tragic and hopeful at the same time, and complex. But my reading was interrupted by other more urgent tasks and came in the middle of some tricky personal circumstances. All of this meant I lost focus on the story.

Tamra Happens to me too. 7mo
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Joanne1
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Finally recovered from my weekend migraine and have time to read. I‘m determined to finish this book.

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Joanne1
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I really wanted to finish this book today but I‘ve been struck down with a killer migraine for the last two days and can‘t handle reading at all. I‘m hoping some strong pain killers and a good sleep will do the trick.

TrishB Hope you‘re feeling better soon. 7mo
Anovelobsession Migraines suck 😩 feel better soon!! 7mo
irre Feel better 7mo
DivineDiana Sending healing thoughts. ❤️ 7mo
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Joanne1
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Started this a couple of days ago and so far it‘s been eye opening.

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whatrebeccasread
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Although “Stay With Me” is full of grief and sadness, it‘s beautifully written. Focused on marriage, love, family and motherhood, it explores how people need more than love to be truly happy. It wasn‘t perfect for me, but still a good 4 stars.

Head over to my blog to see my full review (link on my profile) 📚

Ashley85 I love this cover! 9mo
erzascarletbookgasm This is a great cover and great pic! 💚 9mo
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Carleneishere
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Bought it for the pretty cover. Staying for the intricate exploration of marriage

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catreadsbooks
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“Sometimes I think we have children because we want to leave behind someone who can explain who we were to the world when we are gone.”

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KGlibrarian
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A fascinating story of a young married couple in Nigeria from the 1980s to 2008. Filled with troubling cultural traditions, complex emotions, and questionable decisions it highlights the effort it takes for a marriage to survive.

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Beachesnbooks
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Here‘s my haul from the library book sale! They had a great section of new hardcovers with special pricing—I haven‘t seen that before at a library sale in my area and it was really nice. All of these came to only $7.50; some were on my TBR already and then I found a few random impulse buys. I‘m most excited about finding Stay With Me by Ayobami Adebayo in perfect condition 😄

irre Stay with me is great!! 10mo
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mdhughes72
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Mehso-so

Soapiest book I‘ve read in quite a while. I‘m not sure what the lesson of the story is, except maybe you don‘t really ever know the one you‘re sharing your bed with. The relentless drama of family tragedy really wore me down. Someone else called it tragedy porn. I was just hoping for things to turn around, which (spoiler alert) they sort of do, eventually, I guess?

LaLecture Tragedy porn xD. That is great, I will have to borrow that term 😂. 10mo
Tamra Good term! 10mo
ReadingEnvy I called it that but I'm sure I'm not alone. 10mo
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HotCocoaReads
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Heartbreaking and shocking, really. The story is told alternating between husband and wife, telling their difficult time having a family and staying together. I learned so much about Nigeria and the things that still happen there, politically and culturally. It gripped me but was definitely not a light read. #deepreadersclub

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Effischer
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First book of my Goodreads Seasonal Reading Challenge...came in this morning from the library...perfect timing 👍🏼📖

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ReadingEnvy
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Mehso-so

My book club is going to be mad at me because I just know l'll be the only one feeling meh about this book. I was never going to read it because of the fertility storyline but the tragedy porn is just too much. Spoiler comments continue my review below

ReadingEnvy Akin is too chicken shit not to stand up to his relatives about the second wife but he will kill a person and ask his brother to have sex with his wife? 11mo
ReadingEnvy The Yoruba are all about family which is why she makes so many sacrifices and puts up with so much. So would she really just leave? And would she really he able not to know her daughter lived? 11mo
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MirrorMask
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Beautiful and depressing story, Yejide and Akin have a great marriage but they let familial and societal pressures get the best of them.

I love reading books by Nigerian authors because I get a glimpse of Nigerian culture, and get to see a bit of the political climate— the elections and coups that take place in the background.

DannyOlda I just finished this one a few minutes ago. The first time in a very long time I've full cried at the end of a book. Loved it 11mo
irre I really liked this one as well. 11mo
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LitDrivenGirl
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So happy it's Friday. Only thing that would make it better is if I didn't have to work this evening. That way I could cuddle and read with Page...though she's more prone to biting than cuddling right now 😂. I started 'Stay with Me' last night and it is so good already! Does your weekend = reading? #PageTurner #booksanddogs #fridayreads

JoScho ❤️❤️❤️ 12mo
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Djkpanic
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This was one of my top favorite books of 2018. Heartbreaking to read, but gives you such an intimate perspective of a couple‘s relationship in trying to start a family and the devastating events that follow.

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Thousand-Lives
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Lots of drama and lots of heart ❤️

CindyE09 I really enjoyed that one too! 12mo
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Thousand-Lives
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This book is addictive - I can‘t put it down! It‘s raining and my youngest is about to take a nap...can‘t wait to settle in and finish this one.

Ashley85 This was great! 12mo
Christine Love this book (and that cover)! ❤️ 12mo
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Lola
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Absolutely loved this 2017 Baileys Prize Shortlisted book. I read it in essentially one sitting. It‘s been a long time since a book pulled me in like that. And I did end up having a wee bit of the Baileys as an accompaniment 😉 @24in48 #24in48

emilyjwhit9 I am so glad you liked it!! 12mo
Lola @emilyjwhit9 Such a great pick! I‘m sorry it look me so long to get it it! 😕 It will be on its way home to you soon. 12mo
emilyjwhit9 @Lola Don‘t worry about that! Can‘t wait to see what everyone else thought. 12mo
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Brooke_H
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For volunteering at the library book sale in my town, I got to take home 2 free books! It was so hard to choose!

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Lola
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Same book, different beverage as I start round two of #24in48. I slept in to give me maximum staying power tonight. We‘ll see if that works...as soon as this cup is a little less full, I‘m adding some Baileys in a nod to this book‘s spot on the ‘17 Baileys Prize Shortlist-and just because it‘ll be kind of fun to have boozy coffee 😛 Perfect book for the Hour 12 Challenge, taking me to far away Nigeria and a cultural experience far from my own.

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Lola
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Let‘s get this party started! #24in48 @24in48

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mrozzz
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Last night Morgan Jerkins (This Will Be My Undoing) doled our great questions and just the right about of praise for Ayobami Adebayo, who despite her brilliant work is incredibly humble.

I feel so lucky that I got to see the author of one of my favorite reads from 2017. Stay With Me is a beautifully sad novel and I‘m happy to finally own a copy!

If you haven‘t read this yet, I highly recommend it!

2BR02B I seriously need to read 12mo
Christine ❤️ 12mo
BarbaraBB That‘s the third reminder to read it I get in one day! 12mo
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readordierachel Sounds like a fantastic night! 12mo
mrozzz Seems like the time is right! @BarbaraBB 😃 12mo
mrozzz I agree 😉 @2BR02B 12mo
mrozzz @Christine 💜 12mo
mrozzz @ReadOrDieRachel it was!! I also grabbed a drink and a gourmet grilled cheese at these fabulous neighborhood bar nearby... exactly what I needed when my week was DRAGGING @ReadOrDieRachel 12mo
DivineDiana How wonderful! 12mo
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Kalalalatja
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When Yejide‘s husband tells her he is going to take a second wife because of their lack of children, Yejide becomes furious. She‘s thinking “#theboyismine” and she‘s not about to share Akin with anybody 🙅‍♀️

#HeatofJuly

BarbaraBB Beautiful edition. Is the book good? 12mo
Cinfhen Good choice!! Loved this book @BarbaraBB 12mo
BarbaraBB @Cinfhen good to know. I have it stacked but can‘t remember why. Now I‘ll keep it that way! 12mo
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Kalalalatja @BarbaraBB I agree with @Cinfhen this book was great, and so filled with twists, emotions and overall wonderfulness 👌 12mo
JennyM A fabulous read. Heartbreak and hope in one x 12mo
HardcoverHearts Fantastic book! Much more than I expected. 12mo
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LWagoner
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Such a powerful and expertly woven story about love, loss, deception and grief; Strong character development with a storyline that comes full circle with ease and grace. This one stays on the shelf.

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BeaG
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So many emotions. This was a well written novel about marriage. There were so many issues that it was heartbreaking and sometimes hard to continue. I listened to the novel in 2 sittings. One day I didn't even turn the television on at all.

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BeaG
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"...What would be left of love without truth stretched beyond its limits..."

I'm listening to the audio book.

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Nute
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I‘m trying to do better with reading the shortlisted books for the Baileys Women‘s Prize for Fiction at least within the same year of nomination, but last year the effort was nil. I was happy to see that this book was released in paperback this week. All the selections were interesting last year so I plan to backtrack and get with all of them.

charl08 Great list this year: longlist strong too. 12mo
youneverarrived I‘m doing the same! Haven‘t read this one yet. (edited) 12mo
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daniwithtea
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I‘m not sure how I feel about this one. It was beautifully written, for certain, but I had a hard time relating to any of the characters, possibly because the story was so driven by the desire for children, which is a desire I‘ve just never had.

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BarbaraJean
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I love buying a book for a dollar and finding the original price tag still on it. 😁 Well, when the original price tag comes off easily, which this one did!

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Alytrue
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This novel is often summarized as the story of a couple forced to take a second wife due to infertility, and yes, but there is SO much more to it. Fascinating look into Nigerian culture, the costs of pride, the secrets we keep, and the tremendous joys and overwhelming heartache of motherhood. The audiobook is wonderful - highly recommend!! (When I discovered the meaning of the title😭😭😭)

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Ms_T
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This book is a wonderfully heart-wrenching look into a Nigerian couple‘s struggle with infertility, male dominance, female power, tradition and modernity. With shocking revelations in abundance and a breakdown of communication leading to years of loss and regret, Adebayo weaves a story that is easy to invest in and difficult to draw away from. A skilful debut novel with impeccable narration. Highly recommended. #Audible ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Cinfhen Excellent review 💚 13mo
Ms_T @Cinfhen Thank you 😊 I saw that you enjoyed this book too 👍🏻 13mo
TrishB I still have it on the tbr! 13mo
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Ms_T @TrishB Push it to the top, I think it‘s right up your street! 13mo
TrishB All my choices have to wait as kids picking my books this month!! 13mo
Ms_T @TrishB That‘s a great way to add interest to your reading 😃 I‘ll wait until next month to see your review of this book 😂 13mo
TrishB I‘ve had to read two NF! Which is double my normal monthly amount! 13mo
Ms_T @TrishB 😂😂😂 13mo
batsy Lovely review! It's on the tbr :) 13mo
Ms_T @batsy Thank you! I think you‘ll really enjoy it 😃 13mo
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