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I have been wondering why this subgenre is so popular. As someone who has been stalked and assaulted I have a hard time finding the romance in any of this- it lends more to horror for me (although i did think Hooked told a good story and was shocked i liked it) But when reading chapter 2 in the book I wonder if this is a different way to understand the dark man in our psyches. Or is this representing our Shadows and our own dark sides? I have

The sentence before this refers to the way families of origin impact emotional health, then recognizes the way culture impacts mental health. The discussion around this is the source of many books. In this case the dark man is the entity that threatens our cultural health. What are ways we can create and strengthen our emotional energy when culture is ruled by a predator?

Do you recognize parts of yourself that can feel toxic but are actually also healthy and necessary?

This chapter was intense! Was there a quote or thought you want to discuss? Please post and share!
Have you ever considered what archetypes you embody? Both the light and shadow side?

I can‘t remember who I was talking about this with a few weeks ago… but I did find both this book and this app with a complete deck in it. Maybe this is our next discussion on archetypes. lol
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Hey #WildWomen - I haven‘t gotten into the discussions because my new copy (bigger print!) was stinky and needed airing out. I thought I‘d catch up this weekend, but I landed in the ER today for a few hours (tried to get a tattoo, now I have 3.5 octopus tentacles and that‘s it 😆 because I had a vagal seizure partway through) so my plans have…changed. I‘ll catch up when I‘m able! I‘m home, resting and recharging, and headed for okay.

I've been having a lot of trouble with the way this book is written (so. many. words.) so I picked up the abridged audiobook on Libby, with Estes telling some of the stories and explaining some of the concepts, and I found it much more accessible. I think sometimes storytelling and writing are two very different things. Figured I'd mention the audiobook in case others are having trouble with the book as I was. #womenwhorunwiththewolves

I alluded to this in a previous post, but the most lasting traditions in my family center around bedtime routines. We've tried a lot of things, but this one has stuck the longest. Since my younger kid was 2 or 3, we've been doing a bedtime routine we call "gratefuls, sorries, and intends" in which we go around and each list one thing from the day for which we're grateful, one thing for which we're sorry, and one thing we intend for the next day.⬇️

I wonder how accurate this claim is, because I am almost 40, I‘ve hand many nightmares, night terrors, and nocturnal panic attacks (thanks Wil Wheaton for that term) in my life, but I have never had a dream like she describes. Maybe it‘s just me. She would have me believe it is, but I‘m curious about evidence for this.
#ClarissaPinkolaEstes #WomenWhoRunWithTheWolves #dreams #RiteOfPassage

Some places that healing, inspiration, miracles & more happen for me: my porch, my hummingbird friends, sunrises,our magnolia,the “Robert tree”,my garden,the river in my neighborhood that I walk by, the ocean. After all I am an Aquarian- Water, water, everywhere.🌊

I don‘t think I would call this “dead and dismembered aspect”of myself back because she lives in me.The summer after I turned 30,I was in a car accident that took me 5+ years to recover from-I still go to PT now. At that time I was single & living in Boston,so I needed to go back to my parents in CT for surgery.I gave up my job,my apartment, my social life.Surgery was successful in rescuing a damaged nerve,but was I left in severe chronic pain.⬇️

Amor Eterno - Brings me to tears every time I hear it. I personally enjoy Vicente singing it the most (because I like him the most), but of course, it's Juan Gabriel's song and Rocio Durcal brought a feminine beauty to it.

Links:
Chete: https://youtu.be/giRA5xFG294?si=Jz5FnN-PJOdFv3_0
Gabriel: https://youtu.be/RgKqxLAhRKE?si=8cm0zINc1WvEac-7
Rocio (with translation) : https://youtu.be/JRCQGw9y3O8?si=HPAo8RXPek6nOHC_

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I was in a severely abusive relationship, which almost killed me (literally). Not only was this physically abusive, but it was also emotional (the lasting effects have lingered). I used to dance, my whole life, since childhood, (tap, jazz, flocorico, ballet, cheer) I danced, used to dance in our relationship, around the house, wiggle here, wiggle there, sing, play... He frequently told me I was too ugly, fat, and unworthy of enjoying my body ⬇️

My “La Loba's“ place would be a hammock on the beach. I love the sun, so during the day, I read out by the hammock, lightly swaying in the breeze (add a stand/table for drinks and snacks). At night, sleeping outside under the stars, hearing the waves. PERFECTION!

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#LaLobaWithin

Traditions ground me: didn't realize how much I rely on them
1. Dia de Los Muertos - we celebrated growing up, and my husband and I celebrate in our home
2. Tamales during winter
3. Reading Christmas Carol every Dec 1 - something I used to do with my grandmother
4. Bunuelos on NYE
5. Talking about our gratitude during Thanksgiving Dinner
6. Reading Jonathan Livingston Seagull on Sept 15 - Daddy's Bday
7. Taking the day off on my Bday - Oct 14 ⬇️

Early morning coffee and a book. #wildwomen #doll #intuition

I used to make up jingles about whatever I was doing and I was always listening to music and singing.At some point in my 20s I was raped and shortly afterwards I ended up in an abusive relationship that lasted many years.I can't really remember anything that happened for some time after the relationship ended, there is a blank space, I remember things that happened to me, but as if someone had told me a story, not as if I had actually lived them⬇️

Too many traditions so picturing a few:Thanksgiving & watching Macy‘s parade;Christmas table setting & Christmas Eve book stack-my aunt gave each of us 2 books Christmas Eve & continued with the next generation #Jólabókaflóðið;we take pictures every Year when my son‘s magnolia tree blooms(planted when he was 6 mths);annual Cape Cod weekend with my 3 sisters; hiking with my son since he was little;coffee & a book on our porch.#wildwomen

#wildwomen #lalobas

For me, I escape into the trees. I talk to them, hug them, smell their bark, listen to them in the wind ... they are my soul-source. Favorite spot? Going around the aspen loop trail up to Arizona's highest mountain, Mt. Humphreys (12,000+ feet). That is where I find my idea of god.

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My go-to book for poetry, story-telling, wisdom, solace, friendship, love ... is this one, especially the scenes between the fox and the prince. When I was younger, this passage and their eventual parting helped me deal with losing people I loved, whether physically, emotionally, or both. This book makes me sigh in all good ways possible. It helps me heal. 💛💜🧡

#LaLobas

If there is water to be found I will find it. Ocean, river, waterfall, stream or creek. And if possible my feet will be in it at the very least. I was very fortunate to live right on the Pacific Ocean the year before and during my parent‘s separation and divorce. The ocean and I spent hours together. The ocean held all my tears, all my screams. Water is where I go to process, to heal and for solace.

Photos of where my Dad's side of the family has found solace for 3 generations. I love this place and the people that belong. This is where I feel my wild the most, where I feel free and alive. This is where I go to heal. 💓

#badwolfbitches #wildwomen #badasswildwomen

I'm 100% Finnish-American, so saunas have always had a cultural significance in my family. For me sauna is a cleansing, healing ritual. I have many memories of taking sauna with generations of women.

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This album got me through high school. Silent All These Years has specifically spoken to me ever since I first heard it. Finding my voice again was everything.

https://youtu.be/HSYr0etDzRM?si=vW1UK80rXr3m0aUr

And also:
White Flag by Joseph: https://youtu.be/x3kXDMPwfMc?si=EGwLK1qyoBD5mhEi
The Bullpen by Dessa: https://youtu.be/vvi3UDQdl7k?si=HgcjtdvE1vVmEEDT

#badwolfbitches #wildwomen

#WildWomen #WomenWhoRunWithTheWolves

Chapter 1
So many emotions, “Regrets are the natural property of grey hairs” says a character in another current read. I don‘t see regrets as much as methods of survival. I marked many passages, “bad wolf” stood out to me. The decal is on my car. Most whovians will recognize this. Rose stared into the heart of the TARDIS and absorbed the power of the time vortex, she becomes God like, omnipotent, she saves 🔽

I can picture myself lost in the woods, and just meeting an ancient looking librarian who invites me to stay for a while. All the rest, all the thoughts, all the quiet and all the conversations. Cafe with miraculous coffee… and the clearly adopted Motto “Not all who wander are lost”

Watching It‘s The Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown when my kid gets home from trick or treating with hot chocolates and cozy pjs. I also always have a solo wrapping party sometime in December while the husband and child are out doing their shopping so I can watch Miracle on 34th Street in peace 😂.

I‘ve always wanted to take a solo vacation for a long weekend but have been afraid of being judged for it.
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Definitely Shadow of the Day by Linkin Park. We played it during my younger brother‘s funeral when he passed in 2008. The Last Goodbye from Billy Boyd also makes me feel ALL the feelings along with Leaving Earth from Mass Effect 3. The final two are from series that deeply impacted me (like I have plans for both a LOTR tattoo and a ME one). #wildwomenreading #womenwhorunwiththewolves

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#wildwomenreading I loved how this chapter brings our awareness to the parts of us that we have buried. Some are better gone, and some we may mourn. Are there any parts of yourself that you mourn and perhaps can be revitalized?

This nightmare occurred again & again.I would usually seek my 5 1/2 yr old brother & his bed for solace & security.
I do remember some neighborhood boys would follow me-I would climb up a tree & they would chant “I declare I declare I see Kathy‘s underwear!”If my brother was nearby he would chase them away.Also around the same time a man in a car offered candy to kids in our neighborhood-told my mom who called the police & we were interviewed.

The first that came to mind was "Ring on the Sill" by Cowboy Junkies. Also "Beloved Wife" by Natalie Merchant, and "Both Hands" by Ani DiFranco, and "Jezebel" by 10,000 Maniacs. Although I pretty much cry through that entire 10,000 Maniacs album. @Chrissyreadit

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Chapter 1 of Women Who Run With The Wolves. Responds here, or create your own post! This holds true for all of today‘s posts!

My book, Women who run with Wolves just arrived. Already a connection on p. 4. We are reading the short story “Girl” by Jamaica Kincaid in 10th grade English Among other things, we are using Barbie‘s monologue in the movie to further illustrate society‘s contradictory expectations for women as a springboard for discussion & written reflection. https://youtu.be/CBqlDWHkdHk

Okay, I think I‘ve caught up. I‘ve finished chapter one. I‘m still processing, but I felt like there was a connection between this first chapter and this video is a on YouTube the other day. Maybe it doesn‘t connect. I may still be under the influence of cold meds, but I kept thinking about this video all throughout the first chapter and wanted to share.

https://youtu.be/UmpdyNe9RAg?si=HmxRbReu_c7edLsB

I read the intro and underlined about 90% of it. After sitting with it for a few days, this section about fear was what I kept coming back to. Fear and anger are emotions that are inextricably linked for me. If I feel one, the other follows almost instaneously. Because I taught myself early on to suppress those feelings, I believed they were bad emotions. ⬇️

Took a break from school - not sure how long yet (was going for my nurse practitioner's license, but really burned out on nursing right now). I have a lot of healing to do, which involves relaxing, loving myself, and protecting myself from negativity (hard to do when you are in health care) - This group is part of this journey. Feel so much freer knowing I don't have to listen/read/work on difficult cases while I am off work. #WildWomen

I just got my new copy, and it is SIGNIFICANTLY larger than the previous one! It needs to spend a day or two in the freezer (it‘s a little funky) but then I intend to get this party started!
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Having taught comparative literature and archetypal literature, I cannot explain how much I am looking forward to revisiting these elements and learning even more--now as a peer and student. I tagged the book that I used with my kids (it's incredible and not at ALL about myths!), and even shared some teacher notes in the pic above. ⬇️