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Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions
Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
From the best-selling author of Americanah and We Should All Be Feminists comes a powerful new statement about feminism today--written as a letter to a friend. A few years ago, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie received a letter from a dear friend from childhood, asking her how to raise her baby girl as a feminist. Dear Ijeawele is Adichie's letter of response. Here are fifteen invaluable suggestions--compelling, direct, wryly funny, and perceptive--for how to empower a daughter to become a strong, independent woman. From encouraging her to choose a helicopter, and not only a doll, as a toy if she so desires; having open conversations with her about clothes, makeup, and sexuality; debunking the myth that women are somehow biologically arranged to be in the kitchen making dinner, and that men can "allow" women to have full careers, Dear Ijeawele goes right to the heart of sexual politics in the twenty-first century. It will start a new and urgently needed conversation about what it really means to be a woman today.
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cleoh
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I loved this so much! I don‘t know what else to say about it, but I highly recommend it.

NeedsMoreBooks Read this in November and enjoyed it 💕 1mo
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Tashreads
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The final book on my highest rated TBR for 2019. I‘m ready to be blown away.

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NeedsMoreBooks
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This really short epistolary work should be required reading. Adiche mentions 15 ways to her friend who wants her advice on raising her daughter as a feminist. The advice is not only applicable for raising children but also for everyone who wants to be a feminist or know how to be an ally. #NFNov #audiobook

Megabooks Love this one, too! 2mo
NeedsMoreBooks @Megabooks ❤️❤️ 2mo
Clwojick 6 pt. 2mo
NeedsMoreBooks @Clwojick thank you! 2mo
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NeedsMoreBooks

#TIL about Feminism Lite: idea of conditional female equality. You either are a feminist/not. In Feminism Lite, men are naturally superior but should be expected to “treat women well.” There must be more than male benevolence as the basis for a women‘s well-being. Feminism Lite uses the language of “allowing.” FL enables us judging powerful women more harshly than powerful men. More: https://ideas.ted.com/beware-of-feminism-lite/
#NFNov

UnidragonFrag 😬 ew. 2mo
NeedsMoreBooks @UnidragonFrag exactly! The link follows the whole definition, excerpted from the book 2mo
Clwojick 4 pt. 2mo
NeedsMoreBooks @Clwojick thank you! 2mo
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“Teach her that the idea of 'gender roles' is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should or should not do something because she is a girl.
'Because you are a girl' is never reason for anything.
Ever.” #NFNov

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NeedsMoreBooks @Clwojick thank you! 2mo
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NeedsMoreBooks

“Your feminist premise should be: I matter. I matter equally. Not “if only.” Not “as long as.” I matter equally. Full stop.” NFNov

Clwojick 1 pt. 2mo
NeedsMoreBooks @Clwojick thank you! 2mo
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NeedsMoreBooks

“Teach her that if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women.” #NFNov

Clwojick 1 pt. 2mo
NeedsMoreBooks @Clwojick thank you! 2mo
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CoffeeCatsBooks
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After a friend asked how to raise her daughter as a feminist, the author wrote her a letter with fifteen suggestions, which became the basis of this short book.

Although I don‘t have children, I found her suggestions to be thoughtful and affirming. #NFNov

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Schnoebs
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I meant to post this earlier this week but things got away from me during work. Wednesday I got to see Chimamanda speak about her writing and her work as a feminist. I loved every minute of it. I was super lucky also to get my copy of the tagged book signed by her. So far I‘ve only read her nonfiction essays which I loved and hope to get into her fiction soon.

#authorsigning #author #signing #umn #mpls #twincities

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erzascarletbookgasm
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This little book is written as a letter from Adichie to her friend, when asked how to raise a feminist daughter in today‘s world. The author‘s fifteen suggestions are direct, wise and optimistic, talking about motherhood, womanhood and feminism..in relation to life in Nigeria and the rest of the world. Her suggestions are a good reminder for everyone. Just like We Should All Be Feminists, this inspires as well.
#AuthorAMonth

Kalalalatja Great review! 4mo
Soubhiville Logged 🤗 3mo
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ValerieAndBooks
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Short, but powerful. Adichie advises her friend on how to raise her daughter— but all parents should read this, not just mothers of daughters.

Adichie is an author I‘ve been meaning to read, and am glad to finally get around to her for #authoramonth. @Soubhiville this is really essay-length rather than a book, so it‘s up to you to decide whether this counts. Purple Hibiscus coming up soon!

Soubhiville It definitely counts! There‘s a lot of good info in there, I thought. 4mo
ValerieAndBooks @Soubhiville I agree there‘s good info. Requested from the library this one of hers, probably similar message 4mo
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kaysworld1
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I read this book in one sitting.
I really enjoyed this book everything she says is how I have been feeling for ages all the questions, all the anger, all the unfairness and inequality it was nice to read someone else feels the same way.
My favourite part was reading about marriage and the changing of your last name when I had this problem I didn't want to give up my name and it caused so much trouble with his family. #librarybook #feminist ♀️🤟📚

TrishB I didn‘t change mine. But it caused (and still does) so much hassle and anger, still gets me mad now! 4mo
kaysworld1 @TrishB The main hassle was his brother and sister in law he kept saying that I wasn't part of the family because I didn't take their family name. I did eventually very reluctantly and was never happy about it. 4mo
TrishB Sounds awful ☹️ I had all that. My MIL doesn‘t think I‘m a proper wife because of it and I get cheques for gifts in a name I don‘t have! I have to also say my mum didn‘t like it either! 4mo
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kaysworld1 @TrishB My mother lived to far away to care she just wanted kids from me which she didn't get. Were not together anymore thank god. 4mo
TrishB We are and hubby doesn‘t care what people think! He also gets crap from other blokes as to what sort of a wife is that! Small steps 😁 4mo
kaysworld1 @TrishB Sounds like a good guy. Mine was abusive so I eventually left when it became physical but I'm ok 4 years later. Woman and books helped me ❣️ 4mo
Addison_Reads I also didn't change my name when I got married. My husband could care less, and most of our family doesn't have a problem. However, complete strangers at times when I correct them about my last name like to tell me that it's wrong and it drives me nuts. 4mo
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ONH
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👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 This took me an hour or so to read, and it was a pleasure. Can‘t wait to read more of Chimamanda‘s work. Looks like she‘s got several other award-winning pieces.

My new go-to gift for friends, family, soon-to-be-parents, budding feminists, and anyone who can use straightforward tips on how to promote equality in their daily life.

kaysworld1 I've just got Amerikanah from the library I'm excited to read it. 4mo
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MelissaSue81
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This was a short book of advice for a mother for raising her daughter to be a feminist. As a mom of two daughters, I enjoyed it. Nothing here is groundbreaking, but the author makes some good points. The choice of narrator for this audiobook didn‘t quite work for me though.

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hes7
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A quick read with plenty of smart, solid points.

Book 5 of #24b4Monday finished. (#8inTwo, too.)
Current time: 16h12m

TheReadingMermaid 🔥Holy moly you're on fire🔥 10mo
Andrew65 2/3 of the way there! Well done. 👏 10mo
Abby2 I put little copies of this in Christmas stockings last year. I loved it. 10mo
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silentrequiem
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Short but impactful and important.

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silentrequiem
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The fifteenth recommendation is the best one. Yes! So much yes!

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Aaronlisa
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I read this on March 5 & gave it 4 ⭐️. I found it a better book than We Should All Be Feminists. And although it should come as no surprise, it was kind of shocking how easy it is for a new parent to fall into the rigid gender stereotypes when a child is first born, even if the intent is not there.

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Connster
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Also, I‘ve just counted and I‘ve read more books in two months of this year than I did the entire of last year! 17 and counting! I‘m really happy to have started focusing on my reading more and I love how Litsy helps me to track my progress and find new books to read.

TheAliceEvers Congratulations! That‘s awesome! 🎉 11mo
Connster @TheAliceEvers Thank you! I‘m really happy! 😁👍 11mo
Jee_HookedOnBookz Well done! Congrats! I loved the tagged book too! 11mo
Connster @Jee_HookedOnBookz Thank you! I loved it too! 😍 11mo
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Connster
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I did the same thing as I did with ‘We Should All Be Feminists‘ - read it in 20ish minutes flat and loved it!

readordierachel Love the bookmark! 11mo
Connster @readordierachel Haha, thank you! It‘s from Etsy: http://etsy.me/2iC3rk2 😂 11mo
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whatsthEStorey
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This short book is based on a letter Adichie wrote to a friend on how to raise a feminist. Some of her advice is very personal, mentioning mutual friends & family by name, and some of it is culturally specific, which gave interesting insight into being a woman in Igbo culture. And some of it is just plain universal truth. At only 63 pages, there‘s really no reason not to read this! #ReadBlackAuthors #Blitsy #BlackHistoryMonth

wanderinglynn What cuties! ❤️🐶❤️🐱 12mo
hermyknee What an adorable photo 😍😍😍 12mo
whatsthEStorey @wanderinglynn & @hermyknee thanks! This cracked me up because my dog is so blissful while my cat looks like she evilly scheming. As cats do. 😂 12mo
VeganCleopatra I do love the dog-cat juxtaposition. 😆 12mo
JennyM Love this photo 🐶 🐱 12mo
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EllieDottie
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My #Januarywrapup! It was a little bit of a slow reading month for me, but I read some great books!

StillLookingForCarmenSanDiego You did great. I loved the Broken Earth Trilogy! , 12mo
EllieDottie @StillLookingForCarmenSanDiego thank you 😊 I loved it too!!! (edited) 11mo
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BookBelle84
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This was a great book that I think would be a great book for all new parents or anyone really. I wish my parents had this was I was little. Her writing style and her words remind me of Maya Angelou. A must read!

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EchoLogical
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BlackandBookish The #Goodlitsy review is a great idea! 12mo
EchoLogical @BlackandBookish Thanks! I got lazier than ever and this was the result. 😅 12mo
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shadowspeak17
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I only read 11 nonfiction books this year (more than usual for me, so yay for that 😄), so this list is actually about half the nonfiction books I read, but I thought they all deserved a mention. These are my top 5 #nonfiction reads of 2018.

#2018wrapup #bestof2018

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Purrfectpages
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Often times I find writing labeled feminist literature coming across as unintentional man bashing. That is not the case here. Adichie paints a thorough picture of what she views as feminism. It‘s not about one sex being superior, but acknowledging and appreciating what each brings to the table. Many of her sentiments resonated with me enough to research her more. I found she‘s just as captivating orally telling a story. A voice of a generation.

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Purrfectpages
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Only four more to go!!

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Bibliotini
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First time I‘ve reached my goal since starting reading challenges. Next year, I‘m going to change it up. Not focusing on a number but will attempt to read twelve classics from my list of shame (books you‘d think an English major would have read by now).

Chrissyreadit Congrats on meeting your goal! 13mo
Redwritinghood 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 13mo
Erinreadsthebooks Fellow English major with a very long list of shame 🙋 13mo
LauraBeth 🎉🎉🎉 13mo
sprainedbrain Congrats!! I love that ‘list of shame‘ title. 😂 13mo
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Mehso-so

After reading We Should All Be Feminists recently, Americanah quickly made its way towards the top of my TBR pile, but I came across this first. It‘s adapted from a letter answering the question; how do you raise a feminist daughter? This felt less relevant to me because it deals so specifically with contemporary Nigerian attitudes on marriage and children, that as a single American woman with no kids, I found surprisingly few points of resonance.

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sweetpealsd
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This was a quick and wonderful read! It had been on my list for a while. So glad I got to read it!

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tealwish
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"Be a full person. Motherhood is a glorious gift, but do not define yourself solely by motherhood."

BookwormAHN Welcome to Litsy 😺 1y
Naj Welcome to Litsy! You'll love it here 💜 1y
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tealwish @BookwormAHN Thank you!!! 🐶 1y
tealwish @Naj I think I will!! 1y
Trashcanman Welcome to Litsy, I'm the Trashcanman, pleased to meet you. 1y
tealwish @Trashcanman Hey, thanks! You have a memorable name. 😊😊 1y
mcipher Welcome to Litsy! 😊 1y
tealwish @mcipher Thank you!! 1y
ofclumsywords Welcome to Litsy! 😊 1y
LitsyWelcomeWagon Welcome to Litsy! Hope these #Litsytips by @RaimeyGallant http://bit.ly/litsytips and #LitsyHowTo videos: goo.gl/UrCpoU are helpful. There‘s so many fun things to do: book exchanges, buddy reads, photo challenges and more! Check out @LitsyHappenings for details. #LitsyWelcomeWagon 14mo
Eggs Welcome to Litsy 👋🏻 14mo
tealwish @LitsyWelcomeWagon Thank you for the tips! I will check them out! 14mo
tealwish @Eggs Thank you!! 14mo
Stacy_31 This quote really resonated with me, too. Welcome to Litsy!! 14mo
tealwish @Stacy_31 Yeah, I need to stop apologizing for being a working mom that's part of me being a full person. Thanks! :) 14mo
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KarenUK
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#NoFemmeber
Reading this lil‘ gem with my book club this month, and we are each going to try and add a 16th suggestion!
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie received a letter from a childhood friend, a new mother who wanted to know how to raise her baby girl to be a feminist. This is Adichie‘s letter of response: fifteen suggestions—direct, wryly funny, and perceptive—for how to empower a daughter so #SheWill become a strong, independent woman.

tjwill I love the idea of sharing a 16th suggestion! Share with us when you decide on yours! 1y
Billypar Perfect! She's been such a strong voice for feminism- I need to read this and We Should All Be Feminists. 1y
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Purrsistently
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#riotgrams October 16, Orange and Purple

JennyM Lovely pic. 1y
Linsy Loved this one! 💜🧡 1y
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sophierayton
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A short, concise, powerful book. This would make the perfect gift to the mother of a newborn girl because the book is based on a letter Adichie wrote to her friend after she had a baby girl. Very thoughtful and insightful.

KBlackScan This book is a must read for any woman, mother of daughters, and girl. LOVE 1y
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Croissonter

“Teach her that if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women”

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Croissonter

“The second tool is a question: can you reverse X and get the same results?”
It‘s only a short book, but it‘s packed with jewels.

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Megabooks
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This was last month‘s #nonfiction2018. It is the only month in years that I‘ve just read one nonfiction book.

I enjoyed the book, but I probably would‘ve enjoyed it more if I had children. Many of the suggestions were practical and come down to the basic premises that if you wouldn‘t tell a boy to do or not to do something do the same for a girl, give girls and boys equal opportunities, and share parenting equally.

Jess7 Loved this book! 1y
Megabooks @Jess7 It was very good!!! Very thoughtful 1y
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Schnoebs
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The words can‘t even explain this book. I knew I would enjoy it going into it but I never pictured it would be one I‘d keep far into the future or one I see myself gifting to my friends when they become mothers. This is going to stay with me. If you have the ability to set an hour of your time aside, read this (or listen to it). Please.

#feminism #love #motherhood #women #novela #strength #hope #inspirational #mpls #twincities

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Johanna414
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This is one I see myself returning to time and again as I try to raise a little boy and girl to both be feminists and strong, independent people.
I passed it right along for my husband to read as well.

Schnoebs I just read this driving back to Minnesota today. I haven‘t posted a review on it yet but I totally agree. I see myself constantly coming back to this. 1y
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Andrea313
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"We have a world full of women who are unable to exhale fully because they have for so long been conditioned to fold themselves into shapes to make themselves likeable."

YES. Sometimes you read a book and every bit of it is so important and so quotable that you don't know where to stop highlighting and underlining. This is one of those. #currentlyreading

Samplergal Omg that quote. So. True. I must read this book. 1y
Andrea313 @Samplergal Yes, definitely make the time for it! It's quite short, so it shouldn't take too long, but it's really impactful. 1y
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CKtheLibrarian
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ One of the best books I've read. I hope everyone reads this and is able to share their thoughts or give this book to everyone they meet. Re-thinking my board book go-to as a baby shower gift. Perhaps this needs to be added. After I tweeted a ton about it while I read last night, I gave it to my almost-16-year-old daughter to read. Please put this on your TBR today.

Samplergal Thank you. I am running to buy this. 1y
CKtheLibrarian @Samplergal I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did! 1y
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Johanna414
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And here‘s all the goodies that went along with the books! My hope is to get the kids to bed early so I can pamper myself with the moisturizing mask and chocolate tonight 😍
Everything is so cute! Thank you again, @HannaPolkadots
#teachercarepackageswap #tcps

@hermyknee @AndreaReads

HannaPolkadots I'm glad you liked it!😀 Enjoy 🧡 1y
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readingkitty
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"Teach her that the idea of 'gender roles' is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should or should not do something because she is a girl.
'Because you are a girl' is never reason for anything.
Ever."

5/5 ☆

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Schlinkles
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1. Tagged book
2. Dickens
3. Dogma
4. Doughnuts, deviled eggs, dill pickles, dumplings

#manicmonday @JoScho

JoScho Thanks for playing 😊💖 1y
britt_brooke Dogma - good choice! 1y
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shadowspeak17
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#AGameOfFavorites Day 2:

So, I don‘t really have a favorite #femaleauthor (I feel like I‘m going to be saying that a lot 😂), so I‘m going to go with Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie today since the two books of hers that I have read I‘ve really enjoyed and now I want to read more by her. Pictured are five of Adichie‘s favorites.

ErinSueMreads Lots of people are mentioning her and I somehow have never read anything by her! Need to expand my horizons! 1y
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Schlinkles
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The feeling when you love and connect with a book so much, you‘ve almost underlined the whole thing

rather_be_reading love when tht happens! 1y
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