In an effort to clean out, I decided to try to read only books I own this year. TRY being the key word there...I‘m sure I will fail miserably!! And won‘t be too upset about it! 😂
@WriterAtHeart @Melismatic @TheReadingMermaid
This is my pick for this non-fiction cycle!
Quote 2 of two “quotes“ I promised in my review:
Already in young years JR adopts a useful and witty mantra (I think from his mother) which I would like to keep in mind for further smaller and bigger times of trouble in my own life:
“I will not worry about something that won‘t happen.”
Quote 1 of two “quotes“ I promised in my review:
JR‘s mother once tells him she has an “affair” with the truth and that sometimes that “affair” requires, like in all relationships do, the will to compromise. Lies, so is her attitude, are no bigger sin than to turn the volume of the radio down to protect him, JR, from the voice of his father that comes out of the loudspeaker.
By doing this his mother only turns the truth a little bit lower.
The blurb: A lie. It‘s no book about a boy growing up in a bar. I feel betrayed. As well because what forms the protagonist never ever is his time at the bar – even if he makes his audience believe so.
Apart from two „quotes“ I will post hereafter I won‘t keep much of the book in mind. Technically it‘s well done and that species of „barstoolers“ seems well portrayed, too.
But I resent the wrong expectations created by the marketing department.
The story reminds me of Elizabeth Strout‘s „Das Leben, natürlich“ which is also told slowly and has no real suspense curve. That alone doesn‘t matter to me but I can‘t get rid of the impression that the real important things that happened to JR in his own retrospective – which this book is although it took me long to notice this – are not given the significance they actually have had for him and his life. This he hides between the lines. ?
How to have a sleepless night professionally:
1) Turn on your audiobook
2) Set a sleep timer
4) Fall asleep while listening, as intended
5) Wake up when the sleep timer has counted down and the “noise” stops
6) Start again with 1).
Buuuut – by using this method I got ahead with the story quite well.
Meanwhile it has lost some intensity. It does not really drag but it also has no suspense curve.
Apart from that unlikely richness of details I really like it. It‘s, intendedly, I suppose, a kind of “boy‘s-book”. To me as a woman those wannabes whose only purpose in life seems to be hanging on barstools are not very attractive …
But I can understand why the lack of male idols pulls the boy almost magnetically towards them. In this aspect the book is well written although I cannot quite follow his prompt fascination for the “Dicken‘s”.
I am not informed well enough to judge if this is supposed to be one of those “great big US-American social novels”. Anyway, it‘s the first time I really realise how unrealistic such (coming of age) stories sometimes are. I mean, I can‘t remember so many detailed passages of my life between the age of seven and nine years. Can you❓
Goal for today: Call it a night early and finally notably proceed with this one.
I am still convinced it will do great as an audiobook because I like the plot setting. But to really find a “valid” opinion it would be great to make more progress than 10 minutes here and there. 🤷🏽♀️
Sleepless. The last three days completely crashed my day-night-routine.
So I‘ll figure out if I remember enough of the story so far to find back in.
À propos, I‘d have an alarm clock ⏰ that will go off in a few hours time. Anybody interested in giving it a temporary home❓? Let‘s say – until the end of March❓?
Having a real hard time the day before Christmas Eve.
Watching the ones you love suffer huge pain and not being able to help is 🤐. Not sure if the medication prescribed by standby duty 👩🏽⚕️ helps. 🥴
I am nervous and uneasy and don‘t dare to sleep. That‘s why I chose this audiobook. I feel really bad. I am not very religious but if prayers ever helped I will be heart-felt thankful for everybody willing to send good wishes for health.
I‘m a day behind, but I loved the idea of #adventrecommends so I‘m doing a two-for today! A Tree Grows in Brooklyn is my all time favorite and The Tender Bar is right up there. I love New York settings so much!
A book I think needs to be in the spotlight for more Littens to read is The Tender Bar. It is an all-time favorite that I have read at least 3x. It‘s a poignant coming of age story dealing with masculinity, drinking, New York, and best of all...BOOKS! I love it, and know that littens will, too!
Congrats, @BarbaraBB on your milestone!
These are just a few of my #unforgettable books. Though I don‘t have the print copies handy at the moment for a photo, I would add A Man Called Ove, Between Shades of Gray, and The Nightingale to this list. #decdays
"While I fear that we're drawn to what abandons us, and to what seems most likely to abandon us, in the end I believe we're defined by what embraces us."
One of my favorite #quotable books. #spookyoctober
I ordered this #signed book and the bookseller sent me one that was not signed. When I complained they just said "you can send the book back." That's it. Just that. They didn't even address me in the email. So, after another email about how that didn't solve the problem of me not getting what I ordered, they have finally sent me this. Poor customer service, but I am happy to put this on my shelf!
Growing up with an absent father, JR learned to be a man from a group of surrogate #fathers at the bar where his Uncle Charlie worked in Manhasset, NY. This coming of age story is beautifully written, poignant, and memorable. Since JR grew up to be a writer, it is also full of bookish moments as well. It is one of my all-time favorites. #junebookbugs
This book has been with me for almost ten years, three states, and five moves. Better late than never on finally starting it, right? Am only about ten pages in and I am already in love. I just really dig the "regular person memoir" genre.
I've had TWO exes in two days text me out of the clear blue, both asking for book recs. I blame the full moon/icepocolypse. I recommended this for both men, for different reasons. It's compelling and amazing, but one of these men grew up w/o a bio dad and has a drinking problem, so it has messages he can relate to. The writing is very masculine, but also beautiful. I may need to re-read again!
"People just don't understand how many men it takes to build one good man. Next time you're in Manhattan and you see one of those mighty skyscrapers going up, pay attention to how many men are engaged in the enterprise. It takes just as many men to build a sturdy man, son, as it does to build a tower."
This is by far the most #memorablememoir. I recommend this book to everyone. He's dealing with universal struggles that everyone can relate to, but in such intensely beautiful writing. I always re-read this book when I am between books. I love it more every time. #booktober
One of my favorite genres and one of my favorite memoirs, a beautifully-written and brutally honest coming of age story about his uneasy path from the Long Island neighborhood bar to becoming a writer. #memorablememoirs
My #firsteverlitsypost was a quote, followed by another quote, and it didn't even include a fun picture. I was so excited to have found this community of readers on #litsy and wanted to share 2 of my fav #quotes within one of my fav books. I ❤️ the tender bar and I love Litsy! Happy Sunday! #booktober