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You Will Not Have My Hate
You Will Not Have My Hate | Antoine Leiris
#1 INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER "On Friday night you stole the life of an exceptional person, the love of my life, the mother of my son, but you will not have my hate." On November 13, 2015, Antoine Leiriss wife, Hlne Muyal-Leiris, was killed by terrorists while attending a rock concert at the Bataclan Theater in Paris, in the deadliest attack on France since World War II. Three days later, Leiris wrote an open letter addressed directly to his wifes killers, which he posted on Facebook. He refused to be cowed or to let his seventeen-month-old sons life be defined by Hlnes murder. He refused to let the killers have their way: For as long as he lives, this little boy will insult you with his happiness and freedom. Instantly, that short Facebook post caught fire, and was reported on by newspapers and television stations all over the world. In his determination to honor the memory of his wife, he became an international hero to everyone searching desperately for a way to deal with the horror of the Paris attacks and the grim shadow cast today by the threat of terrorism. Now Leiris tells the full story of his grief and struggle. You Will Not Have My Hate is a remarkable, heartbreaking, and, indeed, beautiful memoir of how he and his baby son, Melvil, endured in the days and weeks after Hlnes murder. With absolute emotional courage and openness, he somehow finds a way to answer that impossible question: how can I go on? He visits Hlnes body at the morgue, has to tell Melvil that Mommy will not be coming home, and buries the woman he had planned to spend the rest of his life with. Leiriss grief is terrible, but his love for his family is indomitable. This is the rare and unforgettable testimony of a survivor, and a universal message of hope and resilience. Leiris confronts an incomprehensible pain with a humbling generosity and grandeur of spirit. He is a guiding star for us all in these perilous times. His messagehate will be vanquished by loveis eternal. From the Hardcover edition.
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kspenmoll
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#NeverForget #RedRoseSeptember

Heartbreaking read. Author‘s extraordinary response to Losing his wife in a terrorist attack. Antoine Leiris lost his wife Helene in the Bataclan theatre in Paris. His response to this horrifying, instant loss was to challenge the perpetrators by not allowing their hate and evil to define the his new life and that of his infant son‘s. A book and a man I will #neverforget

arlenefinnigan I love this book. 3mo
Cinfhen This was such a heartbreaking read 💔 3mo
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AkashPhoenix
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It stirrs you from deep within! What if you lost someone who you cant imagine life without! Life goes on but how do you move on or do you ever move on? A book like this cannot be reviewed. Life is a puzzle with everyday a new piece to uncover!

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No appropriate words.

Just respect.
For his skills and ability to explain to his son what happened in a way that he – as it seems – was able to understand. Maybe that‘s what parents do all over the world but to think of which needs a child almost unable to talk does have and to meet those needs in an assuring way seems almost superhuman in a situation where oneself as an adult surely needs support, and maybe sometimes, guidance.

Authentic.

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Buechersuechtling
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I definitely should not only go to bed but also _sleep_. *sigh*

Unfortunately, I‘m not tired at all. 🤷🏽‍♀️ (Raise your hand 🙋🏽‍♀️ if you know this.) So I squeeze in the famous one more chapter and if I‘m lucky it consists of all the 78 pages that this read shall have in total.

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Buechersuechtling
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I don‘t know if it‘s just to say “Let‘s see if I also jump on the hype train.” when this book is obviously about how a man deals with the loss of his loved ones who were murdered by the Paris terror attack. 🤐

What I really want to say, I think, is, that after all those years I finally also managed to get my hands on a copy.

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JenniferEgnor
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Who knows what I‘ll become tomorrow, when my grief has let me fall? My body will abandon me, but there will still be my mind. Given a suspended sentence, so I can watch myself sink.

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JenniferEgnor
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Waiting is a feeling without a name. It is distress, hope, sadness, relief, surprise, dread.

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JenniferEgnor
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Even when there was nothing left to look for, we kept going. I needed to escape. To get away as far as possible, not to turn back.

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"On Friday night, you stole the life of an exceptional being, the love of my life, the mother of my son, but you will not have my hate. I don‘t know who you are and I don‘t want to know. You are dead souls. If that God for whom you blindly kill made us in his image, every bullet in my wife‘s body will have been a wound in his heart.

So, no, I will not give you the satisfaction of hating you."

— Antoine Leiris, You Will Not Have My Hate

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kspenmoll
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“There is no name for this.”
#MakeMeReadIt

WanderingBookaneer I loved this one. It gutted me, but I loved it. 1y
kspenmoll @WanderingBookaneer Yes. Every word. 💔💔 1y
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RandomBrunette79
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What can I say? As emotional and heartbreaking as you would expect it to be.

Highly recommend.

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GondorGirl
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On November 13, 2015 Hélène Muyal-Leiris was killed by terrorists while attending a rock concert at the Bataclan Theater in Paris. It was the deadliest attack in France since WW2.

Three days after losing his wife Antoine Leiris wrote an open letter to her killers on Facebook. That message resulted in this book- a slim volume of love, grief, and courage.

I cried over the audio book in the bathroom at work. Highly HIGHLY recommended.

Bookishthoughts 😢💔 1y
JennyM It was an emotional read for me, too ❤️ 1y
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Libby1
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As beautiful and as heartbreaking as you‘d expect it to be.

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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Weaponxgirl
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A short heartbreaking book. The author can really write and it had me welling up several times.

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LaLecture
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What a book! This is basically the thoughts of a man whose wife was killed in the 2015 attacks in Paris and it‘s sooo emotional. He has a son who wasn‘t yet two years old when his mother died and the moments between him and his son that he describes are extremely touching. Leiris‘ famous letter after which the book is named and the letter he wrote to his wife in the name of his son made me cry. Also I‘m proud to have read a book in French again😁.

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RandomBrunette79
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Definitely take after my dad (proud owner of a LOT of books)

Another 3 books added to the pile of books I'm yet to read.... Still, they make a good decorative feature!

First up from the new pile (alongside the book I'm already reading)....

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BooksAtNight
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An amazing look at grief and the strength it takes to overcome tragedy. It is short but it says so much.

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3Gee
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Heartbreaking but strong. How someone can turn hatred into love.

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ScorpioBookDreams
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This was such a brilliant choice to complete my Goodreads target of 150 books. It‘s a devastating and beautifully powerful book about grief and I‘d definitely recommend reading it.

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tricours
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As sad as expected.

Reviewsbylola This still makes my stomach flip and I read it months and months ago. 2y
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tricours
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Taking a break from the tragedy I'm reading about to read about some more tragedy 👍

Cinfhen I read this one, very moving 2y
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BookishFeminist
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Leiris lost his wife in the terrorist attack at the Bataclan Theater in Paris, leaving him to raise their only son. I read this in one sitting & cried my eyes out. Leiris writes a moving testament to love, grief, positivity, and happenstance with precision & purpose. Every day, he puts one foot in front of the other & finds a way to carve out the best life for his son & keep his wife alive through memory & action. A truly powerful book. 🌹

8leagueboot I might need to be alone to read this one. 2y
BookishFeminist @8leagueboot That's what I did. At least it only takes an hour or two. Well worth it. 2y
monkeygirlsmama I think this one is already on my GoodReads #wanttoread list, but stacked just in case. 💜 2y
BookishFeminist @monkeygirlsmama 💙 you won't regret it! 2y
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RealBooks4ever
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Honest and touching, this is the immediate aftermath in Antoine Leiris' life when his wife, Hélène, was killed in the massacre at Bataclan Theatre in Paris.

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Cinfhen
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A heartfelt love letter from a husband to his murdered wife. While his grief is consuming, Antoine Leiris is brilliantly able to convey his loneliness and sense of loss & love. A short & deeply moving read.

Cinfhen @TrishB I think you will be able to read through this book without going through a box of tissues. 2y
TrishB Thanks ❤ I will add to the list - it does sound really interesting. 2y
RealBooks4ever Sounds good! Just borrowed it through Libby on your recommendation! 😺 2y
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Cinfhen
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I can tell ~ This book is going to destroy me💔 such gorgeous prose for such an ugly tragedy

TrishB 😢😢 2y
Reviewsbylola You're picking up the saddest books lately! 2y
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Cinfhen
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#jubilantJuly Two books #setinFrance one I haven't read, the other I read and loved (Sarah's Key) ???Antoine Leiris wife was murdered during the horrific terror attack in Paris. His book offers a glimpse of the days & weeks following the ordeal and a powerful message "hate will be vanquished by love—is eternal."

TrishB I don't think I could read that 😢 2y
Cinfhen I know @TrishB it's definitely going to be an #InfiniteTissueRead 2y
TrishB I remember seeing him on the telly not long after the attacks and that made me cry! So dignified and determined, so much respect for him. I may buy just to give him the proceeds - knowing it's highly unlikely I could ever read. 2y
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Cinfhen @TrishB I thought this book would destroy me....Did u read 2y
TrishB Nope! I can't read true life stories like that. Sounds selfish - but they just upset me too much. Cowardly I know 😔 2y
Jaimelire Wow! You will not have my hate....just the title alone is powerful. 2y
Cinfhen I need to read that book @RealLifeReading thanks for putting it back on my radar! 2y
Cinfhen I completely understand @TrishB definitely NOT cowardly 2y
emilyhaldi I am with @TrishB - just thinking about it tears me up! I'm too weak to read that but I'm sure it's a beautiful book ❤️ (edited) 2y
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Jenbug68
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Powerful . Heartbreaking . And ultimately hopeful .

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arlenefinnigan
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This is so, so sad. He describes both their life together and his grief so beautifully, it's poetic. Do NOT listen while driving.

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JenReadsAlot
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What a heart breaking book. Antoine's memoir of the night his wife was killed in a terrorist attack in Paris.

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arlenefinnigan
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LisaC
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But the most beautiful moments of our lives are not those we stick in photograph albums. I remember all those moments when we just took the time to love each other. Seeing an old couple and wanting to be like them. A burst of laughter. An empty morning, lounging in the comfort of our sheets. It is the most insignificant moments, where there is nothing to show, nothing to tell, that are the most beautiful. Those are the ones that fill my memory.

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Leigh0906
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Tonight's reading 📖

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javadiva
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Those of us who have grieved a close loved one can see the raw honesty in Leiris words. It is a brief account, making it bearable to read. And a "sobber," but not in a pitying way. I felt Leiris love for his wife and son in each word. That is what left the deepest impression on me.

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keithmalek
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A love story like any other. We were just sane enough to realize how lucky we were, and crazy enough to gamble everything on it.

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keithmalek
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Don't do this to yourself, especially if you're feeling suicidal. And if you're not feeling suicidal, you will by page two.

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JulietteGF
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A very moving book recounting the daily life of the author and his son from the night of the attack at the Bataclan (during which his wife died) to the day following her funeral. To read with tissues within reach...

Anna40 It sounds very moving! 3y
JulietteGF @Anna40 Yes, it is. 3y
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Jas16
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Less than a hundred pages but devastating.

Reviewsbylola I read this in one sitting and it was very powerful. 3y
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Wellreadtraveler
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What a beautiful tribute to a loved one lost to the shooting in France. A very short, easy read. Antoine Leiris wrote this book about his wife Helene and there son who who left without a mother.

Reviewsbylola His reactions are an inspiration to me. 3y
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TheBookHippie
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Amazing
Heartbreaking

Reviewsbylola This one is such a 💔💔💔 3y
TheBookHippie @Reviewsbylola I know. No words. 3y
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Floresj
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A short book that packs a powerful punch.... "We will never return to our life of before. But we will not build a life against them. We will move forward in our own life." Gifted writer who chronicles his processing of his grief after his wife was murdered at the Bataclan Theater in Paris.

Made me rethink my words when people I know have tragedy occur to them...

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melissajayne
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Really good. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ #litsyatoz #lettery

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Erin01
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this was a difficult book to read, but its also a really important one & I'm so glad I read it

Reviewsbylola I really enjoyed this but it broke my heart. 3y
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Erin01
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so excited to finally get these from the library
#libraryhaul #TBR

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Reviewsbylola
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Book no. 2 for #24in48 took me less than an hour to read. Antoine Leiris lost his wife in the terrorist attack in Paris and wrote a Facebook post a few days later that went viral. This book is a testament to the days following his wife's death, as he struggled to come to grips with her death while raising their toddler son. It will break your heart but his resolve was very inspiring to me. And the thought of the life his wife missed out on--💔💔💔

kiminreverse I loved how spare this was. 3y
Reviewsbylola Yes I agree. It really worked. @kiminreverse 3y
emilyhaldi Ugh, I don't know if I could read it 🙈 3y
Reviewsbylola It was definitely sad but not unbearable. @emilyhaldi 3y
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WanderingBookaneer
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Every so often a little book comes along & makes an impact on the reader. This book about grief, so simply written & tracking just ten days of the author's life, has left a crater in my heart. It starts the night he learns about his wife Hélène's death at the hands of terrorists during an attack in Paris and ends the day after her funeral. Nestled among its pages we find the Facebook post that went viral and a heartbreaking story of loss & coping.

Reviewsbylola This sounds heartbreaking and compelling. 3y
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WanderingBookaneer
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This small book packs a powerful punch. This is a picture of the author's wife, Hélène Muyal-Leiris, with their child, Melvil, taken before terorists attacked the Bataclan Theater in Paris on November 13, 2015 and killed her.

Desha Wow...I had heard of him at the time of the attack but did not know he had written a book. Thank you for sharing about it. 😥🙏🏻❤️📚 (edited) 3y
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WanderingBookaneer
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vivastory Yes! 3y
drokka Why work at it. Buy a vest for yourself and they can do the avoiding Hahha 3y
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