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Sissy
Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story | Jacob Tobia
A heart-wrenching, eye-opening, and giggle-inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're (a) a boy, (b) a girl, (c) something in between, or (d) all of the above. "When the political reality facing this country seems dark, we need shinier, sparklier thinkers in the public eye. With a signature style matched only by their wit, Jacob fits that bill perfectly." --Alan Cumming From the moment a doctor in Raleigh, North Carolina, put "male" on Jacob Tobia's birth certificate, everything went wrong. Alongside "male" came many other, far less neutral words: words that carried expectations about who Jacob was and who Jacob should be, words like "masculine" and "aggressive" and "cargo shorts" and "SPORTS!" Naturally sensitive, playful, creative, and glitter-obsessed, as a child Jacob was given the label "sissy." In the two decades that followed, "sissy" joined forces with "gay," "trans," "nonbinary," and "too-queer-to-function" to become a source of pride and, today, a rallying cry for a much-needed gender revolution. Through revisiting their childhood and calling out the stereotypes that each of us have faced, Jacob invites us to rethink what we know about gender and offers a bold blueprint for a healed world--one free from gender-based trauma and bursting with trans-inclusive feminism. From Jacob's Methodist childhood and the hallowed halls of Duke University to the portrait-laden parlors of the White House, Sissy takes you on a gender odyssey you won't soon forget. Writing with the fierce honesty, wildly irreverent humor, and wrenching vulnerability that have made them a media sensation, Jacob shatters the long-held notion that people are easily sortable into "men" and "women." Sissy guarantees that you'll never think about gender--both other people's people's and your own--the same way again.
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Soubhiville
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I wound up with a surprise day off today, so I guess it‘s fall cleaning day. #AudioCleaning

It doesn‘t feel like fall here yet- 82 F when I walked the dog at 8:30, looks like highs will still be in the mid to high 90‘s all week. I‘ll just pretend it‘s crisp out, since it‘s October. Lol. (Not that I mind, I enjoy the heat.)

MicheleinPhilly We just have to get through tomorrow and then it will finally feel like Fall! I can‘t wait! 2mo
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Soubhiville
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#7days7covers #covercrush Day 3

Posting covers I love for 7 days, no explanation needed. Tagging someone new to play each day.

@Julsmarshall would you like to play?

Julsmarshall Ooh yes, so fun! but I‘m out town for the next few days. I‘ll do my best 😄 Thanks for the tag, @Soubhiville ! 2mo
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Sue
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My library got these in for me. I‘m very excited to read them, and happy that other readers in the region will be able to read them too!

#librarylove

Megabooks Sissy is so good! 3mo
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Megabooks
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Love Jacob. Love this book. #transrights #transequality 💪🏻💙💕

KatieDid927 I received an ARC, I need to get to it soon. 3mo
Megabooks @KatieDid927 it‘s the best memoir by someone under 30 that I‘ve read this decade, easily! His writing has a maturity beyond 27 years, but he doesn‘t lose what makes being young and queer unique with his generation. 3mo
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alekreads
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Away from the internet, I don't talk much about my own gender - except for my partner, I don't think many people in my family know that I prefer neutral pronouns. But Jacob's story makes me feel less alone in the world. And the letters that they wrote to their parents at the end of the book had me CRYING.

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alekreads
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I'm about halfway through this book currently, and as someone who's gone back and forth with their own gender over the years, I feel really grateful that Jacob Tobia decided to tell their story. It's nice to not feel alone.

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24in48
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WEEKEND ESSENTIALS FOR #24in48: (1) many books from many genres (2) caffeine of choice (3) merchhhhhhhh (4) bookmark options (5) SNACKS. Have you signed up to join us in just over two weeks?! If not, fix that at 24in48.com! 🗣 If you‘ve joined us before, share your tips for readathon success in the comments below or use #24in48!📚
📷: image shows a collection of books, spines up, a mug of coffee, T-shirt, stack of bookmarks, and a pile of snacks)

bridge12 First timer! I‘ve been stuck on a book all summer I‘ve got to read for work so I‘m thinking this‘ll be the perfect excuse to finish it.... as well as others! ❤️ 4mo
janeycanuck Audiobooks! For when your butt gets numb or when you have to be a functioning human that gets errands runs and chores finished. 4mo
LibrarianRyan @bridge12 Give your self breaks from the book you have to read and be sure to pack in some brain candy even if it is just something quick like a graphic novel. 4mo
bridge12 @LibrarianRyan absolutely! I have two holds waiting for exactly this at the library 😉 4mo
BookFreakOut I've got Bluetooth speakers and headphones this time to improve my audio listening. My laptop and phone aren't quite loud enough for when I'm multitasking. 4mo
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More 2019 reading.

As a gay man I thought that I knew and understood about trans/gender non conforming issues. I didn't.

Read this. It's so much more than choosing to be 'a man' or 'a woman', or matching your outside with your inside.

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emtobiasz
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Realized this book is due back at the library tomorrow, nonrenewable as others are waiting for it, and I hadn‘t started it yet 😬 So I read the first couple chapters to make sure it was worth getting back on the holds list for, and it totally is. I just want to keep reading.

Still stamping up a storm! It feels good to be crafting again after a long hiatus. Too many moves made it clear how much crafty crap I was hoarding...

Caterina Oh I saw their interview on The Daily Show with Trevor Noah, makes me really want to read the book! https://youtu.be/qo3rCzl_JB4 6mo
Megabooks I had to let it go once, too, but definitely get it back! Very good book. 6mo
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Megabooks
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Loved this look at a genderqueer young person. They have (has?) done an amazing job of taking #TheBestofBothWorld of having male and female traits. Their earring and brooch collection is amazing!

TBoBW is one of the most iconic TNG episodes in which Picard is turned into a Borg. The whole team on the Enterprise really comes together to get Picard back. I can tell you it was the longest summer cliffhanger for me! No internet! #StarTrekSummerMay

MrT I‘ve got this on order. Should arrive today. 6mo
Megabooks @MrT I hope you enjoy it as well. 6mo
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Librarian199509
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So I liked most of this book. Jacob is a great writer and open and honest about their life up to college graduation. (I'm not sure why the book stops there or why grad school wasn't ever an option but it's their book). The one disappointment I have with it is that for a book about gender nonconforming and gender as a construct it maintains the feminine/masculine binary which just galls me.

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This is a fantastic book about a #youngandbeautiful genderqueer person. I wanted to learn more about individuals of this orientation. As with any human, each is different, but I feel a special kinship that he went to Duke as well, & I got a lot of the references. #yesterday (12 years before him) when I was there, it was somewhat difficult to come out as gay, much less genderqueer. He helped forge a path for others, & that makes me very happy! 4⭐️

JackOBotts I finished their memoir last month and thought it was honest and funny and important. Also: Happy to find another #Dukie! #classof2004 🙌🏼 7mo
Megabooks @JackOBotts They wrote a great memoir for sure! #classof2003! Did we know each other?? 7mo
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JackOBotts Lol! I don‘t know! 🤔 It‘s possible?! 🤷🏻‍♀️I was in an a cappella group and lived in Mirecourt. No sorority affiliation; was a cultural anthropology major...any overlaps? Despite being a smallish school, it‘s still “big” enough. My sister and I were there together for a year and only saw each other when we made plans. 7mo
Eggs Nice combo! 7mo
Megabooks @JackOBotts I was a cultural anthropology minor 👍🏻👍🏻, but I only started taking those classes the last two years. I took a class one summer because my best friend did and got hooked! I can‘t sing at all! 😂😂 I wrote for The Chronicle all four years. I vaguely knew Dan Mallory (one who wrote tagged book), but wasn‘t in his department until he was nearly gone. 🤔 We may have crossed paths. 7mo
Megabooks @Eggs Thank you! 😊 7mo
Reggie Looks like I‘m not the only one multitasking. Lol nice!! 7mo
Megabooks @Reggie Thanks!! 👍🏻 7mo
Cinfhen Well played and memoir sounds entertaining and informative 7mo
Megabooks @Cinfhen It was both! I definitely recommend it! 7mo
rohit-sawant Great pick! Stacking! 7mo
Megabooks @rohit-sawant I hope you enjoy it! 7mo
JackOBotts Dang! Chances are I saw your byline, then, but that may be the extent of it! 😁 LOL. Even so, fun to find another alumna on Litsy! I haven‘t been back to campus in over a decade 🤦🏻‍♀️; with all the new bldgs and renovations, it‘ll probably feel so foreign if/when I do get there! 😩 Woman in the Window is on my TBR...I love Hitchcock‘s Rear Window, so I think that book may be right up my alley. 7mo
Megabooks It is fantastic to find you!! I was at Duke Hospital this summer and drove around the campus a bit. (As much as you can drive around Duke!) I mainly go to the off-campus places I like such as The Regulator, The Duck Shop, and I have a new favorite restaurant Arepa! @JackOBotts (edited) 7mo
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Megabooks
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I‘m loving this. As a cis-gendered person, I was having trouble understanding people who are non-binary gender. I think, as he wrote in the introduction, his story provides an interesting counterpoint to a binary trans story.

Kinda wishing I had bought a physical copy because it has glitter!!

QueenJen The glitter alone makes it a keeper! 😉🥃 7mo
Megabooks @QueenJen Right? 🙌🏻🙌🏻🎉 And I love that despite the fact he is writing about something serious, he also said in the beginning that he was he was going to balance the traumas and the joys he‘s experienced. And he has. I‘m really glad he feels comfortable doing that. And I‘m really glad that he‘s has found joy and safe spaces, even as a child. 7mo
QueenJen @Megabooks hmmmm, I might have to move this one up 7mo
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SkeletonKey
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Reading Sissy while hanging out at Spring-O-WEEN today.

If you‘re around Richmond, Va, come check it out! Halloween fun in the springtime.

hermyknee I love your art! ❤️ 7mo
SkeletonKey @hermyknee - Hey thanks!! 7mo
monalyisha What a cool concept! If I lived nearby, I'd totally be there. 7mo
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Karkar If I lived close I would totally be there! 7mo
SkeletonKey @monalyisha @Karkar - Wish you could come! 7mo
Karkar @SkeletonKey do you by chance have an Etsy store? 7mo
SkeletonKey @Karkar - I do but it‘s closed right now 😫 7mo
mreads Your booth looks awesome 😀👍. Wishing you lots of sales 7mo
SkeletonKey @mreads - Thanks so much! 7mo
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JackOBotts
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💜Read this book! 💜 I finished Jacob‘s memoir a few days ago and have been struggling to find the “right” words.

They tell their story without hesitation. Jacob doesn‘t pretend to sugarcoat their experience or who they are; they tell their story, share their experiences with frankness & honesty: the bad, the ugly, the better. And they do so with humor and intellect.

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1. Jacob Tobia‘s Sissy
2. To NY on Saturday for a family Easter celebration; “relaxing” at the house on Sunday
3. Yes! Something I‘ve come to appreciate as a grownup
4. Alicia or Ronnie (Veronica) or Frankie
5. 🙌🏼👍🏼🤗
@howjessreads #friyayintro
Happy #Easter and #Passover to those celebrating this weekend!

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Lauren.Archer
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Fantastic memoir. Tobia is a brilliant writer along with just being brilliant in general. This memoir takes Jacob through his youth and college years and everything that they faced. Glad I got to read this very important memoir.

CKBrooke Thank you for tagging me! I‘ll have to add this to my TBR 7mo
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Lauren.Archer
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Next up!

Jeg Looks interesting. Will be interested to see what you think. 7mo
CKBrooke Tag me when you post your review! This does look interesting. 7mo
Sharpeipup That cover is so clever! 7mo
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SkeletonKey
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Another exciting trip to the fancy library!

#memoir #graphicnovel

JackOBotts Nice library haul! Looking forward to reading your review! 7mo
SkeletonKey @JackOBotts - I‘ll try to remember to write them! 7mo
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JackOBotts
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Best footnote ever?! #RIPToysRUs

tournevis Fun fact: Toys'R'Us lives on in Canada. 8mo
xxjenadanxx Yup, only the ones here in the States went under. 8mo
JackOBotts @tournevis say what?! 🤯 So envious! @xxjenadanxx my son visited one near us just once before they closed. 8mo
tournevis @JackOBotts Different country, so different company. 8mo
xxjenadanxx Yeah we visited ours a bunch before it closed, just for the sake of nostalgia. Luckily my bestie lived in Egypt and the one there is still open so when I visit her I can check it out! 8mo
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JackOBotts
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Looking forward to reading Tobia‘s memoir. Their voice is smart, funny, and honest. This is sure to leave a mark.

SkeletonKey I really want to read this one too. 8mo
JackOBotts @SkeletonKey I‘m on page 23 and recommend already. They‘re telling their story in their way; they have a great voice, and it comes through. No b.s., no speaking for the community at large. One person sharing their trauma, their growth, their truth. Their personality sparkles. 💜 8mo
SkeletonKey Requested it at the library! Can‘t wait. 8mo
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Next up....

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bookishkris
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Friday waiting for a haircut reading. We were going to go to the supermarket, but got sidetracked by a long lunch, discussions about my disability back pay, and a trip to Costco.

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Can‘t wait to dive into this one! #treatyoshelf #bookmail #queerbooks

KatieDid927 Oooo yay. I have an ARC I haven‘t gotten to yet. 8mo
Megabooks I love the glitter on the cover! 8mo
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Underatree
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Loving Sissy: A Coming-of-Age Gender Story by Jacob Tobia, great reading/signing with Left Bank Books and MTUG last night!