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Unmentionable: The Victorian Lady's Guide to Sex, Marriage, and Manners
Unmentionable: The Victorian Lady's Guide to Sex, Marriage, and Manners | Therese Oneill
A scandalously honest guide to the secrets of Victorian womanhood. "If "Unmentionable" does not secure the Pulitzer Prize for Most Fascinating Book Ever, the whole gig is rigged. Therese Oneill opens the doors to everything we secretly wanted to know about the Victorian era, but didn't think to ask. Knickers with no crotches? Check. Arsenic as a facial scrub? Check. The infrequency of bathing and the stench of the Victorian human body? Check mate. "Hilarious, horrifying, shocking and revelatory, "Unmentionable" is for every girl who pictured herself running through a field of wildflowers in a silk dress and Little House on the Prairie boots, only to discover she has nits in her hair, her clothes have never been washed and she sleeps with her poop under her bed in a bowl. A miracle of a book and one of my favorite reads ever, "Unmentionable" will be my go-to gift this year. All hail Therese Oneill for uncovering all of that dirty, dirty laundry." -- Laurie Notaro, #1 "New York Times" bestselling author of "It Looked Different on the Model "and "Housebroken"
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RedxoHearts
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I'm always a sucker for a book with random facts and tidbits. This one did not disappoint. Unmentionable gives insight on what life was like for the women of the Victorian era past the surface of what is usually talked about in history. It's written in a funny sometimes snarky tone and will definitely make you happy to be a modern woman.

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LauraJ
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Pickpick

Busts some popular Victorian myths and informs with icky detail the reality of what daily life was like 150 years ago. Audiobook is excellent! Looking forward to her next book, Ungovernable.

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Erie
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It just occurred to me as I was returning this that I never got around to stating how much I enjoyed reading it, but I very much did. It's an endless barrage of truly horrifying facts that had me ranting to my friends for days afterward told in arguably the best way to get through without losing your mind: unrelenting sarcasm.

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xxjenadanxx
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Pickpick

Equal parts entertaining and eye-opening. I have a tendency to romanticize, well most things, and this book did it‘s best to burst my bubble by shedding light on the undesirable parts of the Victorian age. While I‘m definitely thankful for indoor plumbing and modern medicine, I‘ll always love those big, smelly, impractical dresses.

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xxjenadanxx
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Perhaps there is still time to get your perfect beach body before summer!!

cookreadsleep 😝 6mo
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Brie
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Pickpick

This was a fun, humorous, slightly horrifying glimpse back into the Victorian era in the realms of fashion, medicine, and etiquette as it specifically referred to women of the period. Let‘s just say I‘m glad I live in the 21st century, even with its many flaws.

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Erie
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Flawless reasoning 😂

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Reviewsbylola
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Victorians had some wild ideas about how to #fixyou. #anglophileapril

MicheleinPhilly 😂😂😂 7mo
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Mdargusch Crazy! 7mo
emilyhaldi That photo says a thousand words 7mo
Cinfhen This book cracks me up, EVERY TIME 7mo
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BarbaraTheBibliophage
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Mehso-so

If you enjoy history, especially about women‘s lives, this is densely populated with information. Its comedic attitude helps the bitter realities go down more easily. I thought it was funny. Until it was just overwhelmingly sad and depressing. The misogyny, people.

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BarbaraTheBibliophage @Gezemice Oh well, it‘s no problem really. I think some books are dependent on the timing of when you read them. And I have some weird baggage with all that Victorian language from the quotes. The cult / religion I grew up in used a book full of gobbledygook in that style. Every time I read language like that, I feel blocked and triggered. Just figuring this out after being out of that cult for 30 years. Go figure. 7mo
Gezemice @BarbaraTheBibliophage Oh I am sorry! Yes, I understand, I sometimes cannot read some books because they are too painful for some personal reason. Such as rage or calling people names like the r word. I could not finish “The Man Who Took His Wife For a Hat” for that reason. 7mo
Gezemice @BarbaraTheBibliophage I am listening to “The Woman in White” and it seems like this book in action - how full a control a husband exerted over his wife, and how much a woman was to the mercy of men - guardians, husbands - is at the core of this otherwise exciting mystery. 7mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Gezemice It‘s all good. I sold the book to my fav used book seller and have moved on! 🤪 Thanks for the heads up on The Woman in White. I‘ve got it on my Audible shelf—now I know to wait for a while before tackling it! (edited) 7mo
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jpmcwisemorgan
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#LitsyPSA: For anyone who has seen the recent posts hashtagged #NFBuddyRead and thought, hey, that book sounds interesting, you can get the ebook for $3.99.

BarbaraTheBibliophage Good point!! 7mo
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Gezemice
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After finishing this book, this still stands out to me - under a bajillion layers of clothing, the Victorian lady went commando in the crotch area, like Paris Hilton. It apparently had to do with the impossibility of lifting those skirts to go to the bathroom. Who would have thunk?
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa Right, can‘t get all those layers off in a hurry! It made me think of the old one piece long underwear with a seat flap. 7mo
Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Just to think they did not even use much during their periods! Madness! And the comment about the Moulin Rouge... I had no idea! 7mo
Slajaunie 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 7mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice Yes, I honestly had never thought of that either....my innocent self thought it was all those high kicks and ankles and legs showing, like the Rockettes.🤪😱😂 7mo
Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Yep, they always tell you that the sight of an ankle was scandalous. But ne thinks a lady falling over was way more scandalous back then than it would be now... I wonder if the period costumes in movies allow the ladies to go to the bathroom... 7mo
Crazeedi This looks like a rather interesting book!! 7mo
Gezemice @Crazeedi Well, who would not be interested in crotchless drawers? 😉 7mo
Crazeedi @Gezemice exactly, lol😁😁 7mo
GingerAntics Well you also have to remember, underpants are a modern invention. No one worn them, for the reasons we now wear them, until rather recently. Probably the last 100 years-ish. 7mo
Gezemice @GingerAntics I did not know that, but gross. 7mo
GingerAntics 🤣😂🤣 actually, underpants aren‘t even universal. When you can barely afford clothes, underpants aren‘t really important. Most countries still don‘t wear underpants. It‘s a western thing, really. Why is it gross? It‘s actually healthier, especially for females, to not wear them. They just create humidity where you really don‘t want it. 7mo
Gezemice @GingerAntics It is amazing to have historians around. Love it! But still gross. All sorts of fluids leak out if you are not wearing them. And get on your outer clothes. And things you might sit on. Which might get into your lady parts. And who knows who sat there before... Ugh. Nope, gross, thank you! Although I concede the humidity thing in hot climates. I did do some googling though... and tgey do wear loin cloths! 7mo
GingerAntics Yeah, loin cloths do sometimes function as something similar. Someone dared me to run commando once, dude it was freeing. No wedgie and absolutely everything evaporates through the “cool 360” wicking fabric. 😆 when it‘s too cold I don‘t do it, but especially when it‘s 100 degrees outside, it‘s a game changer. 7mo
GingerAntics Where are you sitting with no trousers/jeans/skirts on that you‘re concerned with who sat there last? 😂 7mo
Gezemice @GingerAntics I‘ll just call you Paris Hilton from now on. 😉 7mo
Gezemice @GingerAntics I think most of my clothes would feel gross after I sat down and then I got up... Also, miniskirts! And if you are wearing your jeans without underwear, you better wash it every day. I don‘t. Not to mention the clothes that are dry clean only. As far as sitting, this explains why women in India who are menstrating are banished to the grass hut. Tgey sit on the floor while cooking!! 7mo
Gezemice @GingerAntics When I had to wear pantyhose to work (Victorians were not the only ones with torturous underwear) I did the concession to stockings with garters and long, loose skirts in the summer months, and indeed it was freeing. But that‘s as far as I got in that arena... I am just glad pantyhose is mostly a thing of the past. (edited) 7mo
GingerAntics Oh I would never do jeans, that would be a bit rough, I would think. I generally wear underwear, I just don‘t find anything wrong with choosing not to. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I don‘t know about the mini skirt thing. If your skirt is so short it doesn‘t cover your butt when you sit, it‘s probably too short. 7mo
GingerAntics Oh god I hate pantyhose. I must be allergic to something in those and tights. They always made me itch. The pantyhose less than the tights, but still. 7mo
Gezemice @GingerAntics Miniskirts are long enough to sit. But the view... 7mo
Gezemice @GingerAntics It‘s the material - pantyhose makes you sweat. I hated the smell of my own feet! I never had such smelly feet in socks or bare feet. Tights don‘t give me a problem if they are mostly cotton, but all sythetics is bad. 7mo
GingerAntics I‘ll give you that on the view. Yeah. That would be creepy. Pantyhose do make you smell weird. I remember that. I don‘t know if I ever had cotton tights. I probably would have been okay with those...maybe. It didn‘t help that my grandmother insisted I wear tights, so to “help” me she would lather me with lotion and then put baby powder on top. I was basically pasted into these things. It was gross. 7mo
Gezemice @GingerAntics Ouch! Thankfully no one insisted that I wear tights as a child. I do it occasionally nowadays although I am mostly for jeans. But they go well with a miniskirt in the winter. I would never wear them on their own like so many do nowadays. I feel like that‘s too much public info about your butt. 7mo
GingerAntics We may be talking about two different things. I‘ve never seen anyone wear just tights (like pantyhose but thicker, and very popular for little girls in winter when dresses are required - I had to wear them at Christmas and for my First Communion). Leggings are the thin, stretchy pants things. People are wearing leggings alone now, especially the workout ones. I love how now they‘re being called “jeggings.” No idea what the hell is up with that. 7mo
Gezemice @GingerAntics Well they are the same thing here. Kinda confusing. Jeggings are keggings that are jeans patterned or jeans material. 7mo
GingerAntics 🤦🏼‍♀️ dear god why smh 7mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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I quite enjoyed this snarky look at the past, It‘s so interesting to look into a past we continually romanticize (and some what to return to those glorified eras), but I love these looks back with modern eyes, and the stark reminder that not everything was rose-tinted. Life was hard and progress, with the science, knowledge, and understanding that created it, isn‘t something we should ever wish away.

#NFBuddyRead

Gezemice I thought it was great that it was written with lots of humor. It would have been rather depressing otherwise. On the other hand, we don‘t normally get the lowdown on what it was really like in any historical era. I am quite sure the Tudor court was way worse. 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice I‘m betting the further back, definitely...then you were beheaded if you didn‘t produce a male heir, because of course, it was the lady‘s fault. 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice But yes, the humor bit about outing the era‘s issues to a person of the modern era really worked for me. It reminded me a bit of Anthony Bourdain‘s Typhoid Mary book, historical and honest, but snarky and fun as well. (edited) 7mo
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Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Typhoid Mary sounds fun, did not know it was humorous. But Get Well Soon was about plagues, and it was humorous, too, even had Typhoid Mary in it! It is interesting that many choose humor to talk of disgusting things. 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice I think it‘s a way to make them more palatable. I‘ll definitely have to check out Get Well Soon. I wouldn‘t say Typhoid Mary was meant to be humorous, but the author‘s snark and as a cook putting himself in her shoes just made it a great take on an otherwise heavy subject. 7mo
Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Kitchen Confidential is on my list. He sounds like a good author to check out. 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice It‘s on my long list too. 7mo
Megabooks Hey! If y‘all do any more of these, can I join in? (edited) 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Megabooks You most definitely can! We are running a bit behind, this was March‘s pick...April‘s book is White Rage which we‘ll get to, hopefully before May.🤞 7mo
Megabooks @Riveted_Reader_Melissa My library doesn‘t have that, but I‘ve requested it. It was on my TBR already! 👍🏻 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Megabooks Great! That‘s actually how @BarbaraTheBibliophage and I made our list when we started this Nonfiction books that had been sitting on our shelves and TBR lists for way too long. I‘m so happy you are interested in joining in! 7mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I wish I‘d been able to keep my feelings on the humorous side. After about 100 pages, I just got depressed for all these women. And also for how far we haven‘t come. Sure, we aren‘t forced to live in a filthy house with dirt floors (although globally, plenty of women still do). But the misogyny was just utterly overwhelming for me. I wanted to cry, even though the author was trying to make me laugh. 7mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Megabooks Yes, please join us! I can invite you and @Gezemice to the Google doc we have with our list. As long as I remember after I get home from work today ... 🤪 7mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Gezemice I thought Bourdain‘s Typhoid Mary was funnier and less forced. It was also shorter, which worked in its favor. I‘ve listened to him narrate his book Medium Raw, and loved it. 7mo
Gezemice @BarbaraTheBibliophage An invite would be great! Thank you! And it is lovely for you to join, @Megabooks ! (edited) 7mo
Gezemice @BarbaraTheBibliophage I definitely understand that some books just make us upset. I like history and I know this is part of history and I can deal with it. I am less able to deal with current things - so I will be skipping White Rage. I am quite ok with Victorian mysogyny but current rage about anything is too real. I am trying to block it out but still finds its way in daily... I am rather for finding peace nowadays @Riveted_Reader_Melissa 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice I can understand that...I‘ve been trying to balance by alternating around. I don‘t expect every book to be for ever one. 7mo
Megabooks @BarbaraTheBibliophage @Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Thank you for the warm welcome! 🥰 I didn‘t find Typhoid Mary funny as much as touching, but it‘s been about 10 years since I‘ve read it. The audiobook of Unmentionable makes it a bit more fun than the print, but you miss out on the illustrations. I‘m with Marta as far as being able to digest far past struggles better than current ones. 7mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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And divorce men who hurt us. And do whatever work we want or need to do to make our lives as we would have them.”
(...)
“Come on. We‘ll grab some fat-free froyo, text our partners to remind them they promised to make stir-fry tonight. We‘ll fill a shopping cart to spilling with safe, effective ibuprofen and tampons and shampoo. Just because we can.”

Best Conclusion! 😂👍

Keep nudging ladies, together now!

#NFBuddyRead

Gezemice Oh yeah, great, fun look-ahead. To put things into prespective. 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice She has another book coming out soon about child rearing at that time, I may have to check it out...eventually. 7mo
Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Neat! I will have to take a look, too! I am on a history kick now. 7mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice I love the fun and funny history books. Have you ever read Packing For Mars? 7mo
Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa No but I recently ran across it somewhere and noted it under “might read”. I am not surprised you recommending it :) I think might be Hoopla. I discovered I can get five books a month - not much but no waiting... and not too many books but some look pretty good. And a good selection of classics on audio. 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice You finally got Hoopla! I read a lot of my comics from there...I just read the newest Walking Dead and the new Sleepless. 7mo
Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I saw the newest Sleepless! But I said only five so I gotta pace myself. 7mo
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Gezemice
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In this snarky look at the Victorian underbelly, or rather, underskirt, Therese O‘Neill tells us all a lady needs to survive in this romantic era of filth, diseases, complete subjugation of women, and crotchless underwear. We learn (or rather, are told by Victorian men), how to menstruate, stay innocent until wedding night, cope with our husband‘s syphillis, flirt with a kerchief, and where to put our forks at dinner. Lots of fun. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Gezemice Enjoyable history, very snarky, easy read with many illustrations. #nfbuddyread @Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BarbaraTheBibliophage @Weaponxgirl (edited) 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa I enjoyed it and finished today too! 7mo
Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Awesome! What was your biggest surprise? Mine was the crotchless underwear. Really! With that much clothing! 7mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice Right! It‘s because all those clothes were impossible to get out of in a hurry or often. 😂. So that and that the whole movie Hysteria lied to me!🤪 7mo
Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa what movie? 🤔 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa It was called Hysteria and starred Maggie Gyllenhaal https://m.imdb.com/title/tt1435513/ 7mo
Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Sounds like fun! But yeah, sounds like lying, too... 7mo
Slajaunie Yeah...it‘s history. 7mo
Gezemice @Slajaunie I love history. 😊👍 7mo
Slajaunie I do as well! @Gezemice 7mo
Gezemice @Slajaunie Awesome! Nice to find other history lovers. What‘s your favorite era? Mine is medieval and ancient Europe, especially Britain and the Tudors. 7mo
Slajaunie Love the Tudors, French Revolution, The Romanovs. @Gezemice (edited) 7mo
Gezemice @Slajaunie Awesome! Lots of intrigue and madness. 7mo
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BarbaraTheBibliophage
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Okay, so pinching is not massage. And I should know, since I‘m a fancy board-certified massage therapist. Not the other, either. But, hey, if massage solves what ails us, I guess that‘s better than a lot of the other Victorian cures.

p.s. @Riveted_Reader_Melissa , I did power through today and finish. 👊🏻🤸🏼‍♂️🤸🏼‍♀️🤸🏼‍♂️🤸🏼‍♀️🤸🏼‍♂️

Riveted_Reader_Melissa I finished today too! 7mo
Gezemice Glad to hear you finished! 7mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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It is good to know that the whole you can‘t win no matter what you do, there is no perfect middle ground really, “dammed if you do, damned if you don‘t” has always been baked into the female ideal.

I fell like this whole section backs up what we read in The Beauty Myth and then takes it back another 100 years! @BarbaraTheBibliophage
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BarbaraTheBibliophage Yeah, these are the underpinnings of The Beauty Myth. Honestly, I‘m just so disgusted with the men of that era right now. I‘m struggling to finish because of it. And the men of today aren‘t any less frustrating. (The audiobook I was listening too wasn‘t the same time period, but had so many chauvinistic moments.) 7mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage Okay, I‘m closer to the end than I thought. I can power through. But this book stopped being funny about 75 pages ago. Now I‘m just depressed. 😰 7mo
Gezemice @BarbaraTheBibliophage I thought it was funny all the way, although the subject gets more and more depressing indeed. 7mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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...”The presence of a single married lady, who may or may not be a crone, will mitigate this, and you then may walk as a group. Although you really ought not, unless you can get your brother or father to come, too. It can‘t be your cousin, because although eugenics is a booming area of study, intermarriage of first cousins is considered acceptable and cannot be considered otherwise as long as Victoria,” (cont. below)

#NFBuddyRead

Riveted_Reader_Melissa ...”who bore her (first-) cousin-husband Albert nine inbred children, still reigns over the greatest empire on earth.” 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa Have you got all that straight, don‘t forget it, or you‘ll be a “walker of streets” 🤪 7mo
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And now you know, through all the centuries that woman were supposed to do, well not a lot, they were expected to be good cooks! It was vitally important.

She goes on to say: “A slice of burnt toast in the morning could trigger a terrifying series of events. It makes one wonder how many lives might have been spared if just one of Genghis Khan‘s concubines had known her way around a kitchen.”😂

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Texreader 🤣🤣🤣 I can‘t wait to get this book and read it. And here‘s another reason why... of course I hew to the belief that a full belly for every human (burnt toast-which I love with butter-or otherwise) would solve so many of this earth‘s ills. 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Texreader It‘s so informative, but she writes it with such humor! It makes me think about how the future people will right about our time. 7mo
taraWritesSci Holy crap, I had no idea I wielded such power! *burns every meal* 😜 7mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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Just in case you thought the hygiene and social status of woman was overlookable in your quest to get to the “romantic” 19th century, think about the food. 🤢

#NFBuddyRead

Karkar I think about these thing every time I read Outlander. 7mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Karkar You might enjoy this book, it‘s so interesting in that context. 7mo
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Dorianna
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Did you ever wonder what Victorian women did with their periods or if it‘s possible to flirt using handkerchief sign language? Curious about the state of Victorian toilets? This is the book for you. It‘s both interesting and fun to read and I can‘t wait to read her new book coming out next month.

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BarbaraTheBibliophage
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Flirting will ruin you and shorten your life, whether you‘re male or female. Worse effects for females though. No flirting!

Quite a few good laughs in tonight‘s reading. I have no wish to time travel any earlier than 1960.

#unmentionable #NFbuddyread @Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa

UwannaPublishme 😂👍🏻 8mo
Gezemice The struggle is real. 😉 8mo
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And not only is it dirtier and stinkier than you thought, wow the racism....you know why you can feel all this, because you are not hardened by....hardship. Those others, who can not complain about it, obviously don‘t feel it either. 🙄

And hey, this is some of the same thinking that still leads Black Women to get less care, be taken less seriously, and have worse outcomes in our medical system today.

(Continued)

Riveted_Reader_Melissa ... but mind you, this works great both ways. You, delicate flower, touch nothing, do nothing without a “doctor‘s” permission...it‘s injurious. Don‘t be silly, the maid can do x, y, and z and she IS fine. Well that‘s because she has had hardship her whole life so it is not injurious to her.🙄. #NFBuddyRead (edited) 8mo
Graywacke 😲 8mo
jpmcwisemorgan I think I want to be sick. 8mo
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ScientistSam Oh geez 😞 8mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage These are great quotes from the book, even though the racism and sexism is rampant. I started it and then got sidetracked trying to finish a fiction book. 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BarbaraTheBibliophage That‘s ok, we‘re in no rush. I‘m not even halfway yet. 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BarbaraTheBibliophage and I have a fiction going at the same time too and another due back at the library soon.🤪 8mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I have Mayor Pete‘s book as well. And we have the Midtown talk on Wednesday!! 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BarbaraTheBibliophage Yes we do! A busy week, but lots of great stuff in it. So yes, if we don‘t finish this one until early in April sometime, don‘t sweat it. 8mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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So if you are crabby and “fairly insane against your husband” during your time, it‘s because you aren‘t having your period properly! Obstinate lady, do it correctly and everything will be fine!🙄

#NFBuddyRead

Eggbeater 😂 8mo
Emory I forgot how funny this book was. I might need to reread it soon. 8mo
Swe_Eva 😂😂😂 8mo
Naj I'm loving all your posts for this book! 8mo
Laura317 Whew! I‘m glad that “insanity” is behind me! I‘m both cracking up and shaking my head over your posts from this book. 😂 8mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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Well... I understand the whole town in the movie Footloose so much better now, and maybe those people who were aghast that AOC danced in college and found it disqualifying. 😱 Just trying to save them from a ”feeble middle life”...gotta save the ladies from themselves and their primitive instincts.🙄

#NFBuddyRead

BarbaraTheBibliophage Childhood crushes? Who doesn‘t have those? So much ridiculousness. 🤪 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BarbaraTheBibliophage Apparently only future spinsters who fade early! 😂 8mo
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“Wow betide the unfortunate trifler!” 😂

Sorry this chapter is sad and cracking me up, so glad distinguished doctors (like phrenologists) were around to tell women the right way to go about this natural process.

#NFBuddyRead

Eggbeater I don't know what I'd do if some man didn't explain to me how to handle my monthlies. I might take a cold bath and freeze to death. 😂 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Eggbeater This whole chapter is basically that...and in summary, no matter what you are doing for yourself during that time, you are doing it wrong (according to the expert men). 8mo
Laura317 Thank goodness we no longer have to hide ourselves as unclean now! 8mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage The original mansplaining! 8mo
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Why are the dresses so intricate, because they are NEVER washed🤷‍♀️

Swe_Eva Yeah, but they HAVE TO start smelling eventually. 🤔🤣 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Swe_Eva The earlier chapter was about how dirty everything really was in this time, raw open sewage, horses, basically mud and muck inches deep, and people bathed very infrequently (they thought it was unhealthy), and wore strong perfumes to cover it all up....so in that environment, probably wasn‘t very noticeable. 8mo
Swe_Eva @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Yum. 😨 I'll try to forget that next time I watch a romantic movie that takes place at that time... 😂 8mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Swe_Eva 😂That‘s what makes this so funny to read, the reality of the time versus how romanticized we‘ve made it in books and films. 8mo
Swe_Eva @Riveted_Reader_Melissa True, I think I‘ll have to check this one out. 👍🏻 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Swe_Eva It‘s quite entertaining, and she‘s very sarcastic about the material and our delusions about the time period, which I am really enjoying. 8mo
Swe_Eva @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Sounds excellent! 😁 8mo
xxjenadanxx This is a book I‘ll have to read. 8mo
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Yay for Scott! 😂

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Things to remember when touring old castles! 😂

#NFBuddyRead

Tadams4 That is so awesome! 8mo
GingerAntics 🤣😂🤣 8mo
Swe_Eva 😨😂 8mo
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This book is horrible (thank god we didn‘t live then) and horribly funny!

The History of the pre-indoor plumbing era:
“How much poorer history would be if there hadn‘t been so many artistically talented perverts in days gone by.” 😂

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GingerAntics 🤣😂🤣 8mo
Texreader Great quote!! 8mo
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Starting this one tonight, and I‘m loving the snarkiness already! This might be just the NF shift I was looking for after a bunch of earnest political candidate reads! 😉

#NFBuddyRead

taraWritesSci Oh man, I love this start! Show me the gritty! Or... maybe not too much because reality is icky enough in current times. I can't wait to read your quotes and commentary. 😄 8mo
Naj ?? Stacking for the "pa-PA". 8mo
Gezemice It is really fun although I got sidetracked with The Wars of the Roses. It‘s Shakespeare‘s fault 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice Best excuse ever!! 8mo
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I‘m very glad to be in my super comfy (and a little goofy looking) pajama pants while I read about outhouses, corsets, and super dirty streets. And wine because I want it. Not because it‘s safer than massively contaminated water.

#nfbuddyread #unmentionable

LeahBergen 😂😂 Right? That‘s how I felt reading this book. 8mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @LeahBergen Oh yay—it‘s not just me! 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa Sounds great! Let‘s definitely move forward and not go back again to that! 8mo
Gezemice You are not wearing your corset at home? How dare you be so slovenly. This can ruin your life! (there is a story about that later) 8mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Gezemice I‘m definitely a slattern. Proud of it! 👊🏻🤣 8mo
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#blameitonlitsy both have been on my radar and I just finally gave in, after so many different posts. Plus I hadn‘t realized the black lagoon one had come out! I wasn‘t going to buy any books until I had a serious dent in my pile BUT 2018 was a low non fiction read year and it kind of bummed me out. I barely have any non fiction in my stack so I I really just had to get these to make sure I had some non fiction in the mix this year.

Kelican17 @Wife the tagged book. 8mo
Wife @kelican I bailed on that one. The author tried to be too humorous and it got old quickly. I skimmed the rest for facts and pics before returning it to the library. 8mo
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Mansplaining ca. 1890.
“The highest [best] type of bosom... is not only placed well upon the chest, but can be best described as of slightly pine-apple form.”

@Weaponxgirl @BarbaraTheBibliophage @Riveted_Reader_Melissa

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I have started reading Unmentionable for the #nfbuddyread. I also wanted to show off my tulips. It is still cold but if we have tulips, spring could not be far away, right?
@Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Weaponxgirl

Riveted_Reader_Melissa Beautiful photo and tulips! I want spring so badly, but here it‘s still cold, windy..and generally dismal looking.☹️ 8mo
Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Same here, it sucks! But you can always get some tulips... 8mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage I started it today. It‘s so zany ... and a little depressing. 8mo
Gezemice @BarbaraTheBibliophage Yeah, it certainly takes the romance off the era... 8mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Gezemice For sure. I‘m glad it‘s not all totally new to me. Imagine how disillusioned someone would be ... 8mo
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Mehso-so

Meh. This is one of those books that‘s not bad but you don‘t love it either. The whole humour is based of the idea that you wanted to live like these heroines and that was flawed for me. I‘m very fond of voting, contraception, painkillers ect. I know I don‘t want to live in the past already so sometimes the humour fell flat. It did though make me laugh on occasion too and it‘s very quick and easy to read. It‘s ok

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Yea, sorry to be that person but a book that‘s trying to dispel our rose tinted glasses about the past went full on beer goggles for our own.
If this was true a living wage wouldn‘t even need to be discussed and people in essential roles for society wouldn‘t be treated like they were idiots and unskilled in certain professions.
#nfbuddyread

GingerAntics 🤣😂🤣 8mo
Gezemice I think what she is saying that in America we don‘t have a hereditary aristocracy... we do have people who inherit wealth but you can also make your own fortune if you are talented. Many billionaires started in their garages. There is class but it is not like lords vs. commoners. 8mo
Weaponxgirl @Gezemice I think she went on to talk about the difference between Europe and a America class system but honestly the wording here just made me think about how some people in job roles are definitely not treated with respect. Such as in the service industry where tips are essential to making up your money to any kind of decent wage. 8mo
Gezemice @Weaponxgirl Yeah, not everyone is respected, but I think I understand what she means by that working for your livelihood is a respected state to be. In fact, if you are wealthy but do not work, people would look at you funny. Even wealthy people work nowadays, they run companies or their social media empires. 8mo
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Talking about Jezebel and makeup 😆

GingerAntics That‘s actually kind of creepy. 8mo
Weaponxgirl @GingerAntics I guess it‘s what you get for making makeup out of delicious lard? I‘m glad that‘s not our only option cosmetics wise today 8mo
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Maybe that explains it then?

Weaponxgirl Forgot to tag as #nfbuddyread 8mo
GingerAntics I call BS!!! I adore a nice hot bath. As hot as I can stand it is just right. 💙💙💙 (edited) 8mo
Weaponxgirl @GingerAntics I do like looking like a lobster afterwards 8mo
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Megabooks This is such a funny book! And I love a good hot bath. 🥵 8mo
Weaponxgirl @Megabooks it‘s definitely one that keeps making me smirk! 8mo
GingerAntics 🤣😂🤣 I just like how relaxed I feel and how relaxed my muscles are. It definitely leads to better sleep if I do it right before bed. (edited) 8mo
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Started this for #NFbuddyread and it‘s very snarky.

Riveted_Reader_Melissa Oh good, I like some snark. After last month‘s read which was very serious, that will be a great shift for me. 8mo
Weaponxgirl @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I was following your read last month and it looked super heavy but important. I‘m liking this but for me the premise is slightly flawed in that I‘ve never really wanted to live in a earlier time period and thought it romantic. I really like anaesthetic, antibiotics, birth control, tampons and the ability to own my own property plus numerous other perks of living in a 1st world country in this century. 8mo
Weaponxgirl @Riveted_Reader_Melissa even though sometimes it looks like a dumpster fire politically atm 8mo
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Gezemice I started it, too, it is funny and very gross. But in an educational way, lol. 8mo
Weaponxgirl @Gezemice I work in care and several of my friends are nurses so I now find it really hard to know what other people find gross who don‘t. 8mo
Weaponxgirl @Gezemice I had the same problem with the plague book I read! I have to be careful what funny stuff I share when out with other people. 8mo
Weaponxgirl @Gezemice it was indeed that book! One of my favourites from last year. 😊 8mo
Gezemice @Weaponxgirl Yeah, it is really great! Not something you‘d think is funny, but she has a great sense of humor. 8mo
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Just a reminder, @BarbaraTheBibliophage and I are starting a laid back non-fiction Buddy Read. Here are our picks for March and April, anyone who wants to join in, grab a book, request it from the library, and post under the tag anytime you post about the book during the month, and we can discuss as we go.

#NFBuddyRead

Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Gezemice In case you are interested in joining us in April too. (edited) 8mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage Yes, please come join us if you‘re interested! 8mo
Reagan-reads Ooh White Rage ❤️ 8mo
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Weaponxgirl I have access to both of these so I may join you if I have time with everything else I need to read first. 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Weaponxgirl please feel free if you can, we are picking from our own huge TBR piles, so we completely understand! 8mo
Weaponxgirl @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I don‘t think I will ever make a real dent in my tbr! One I own so I should really make the effort! 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Weaponxgirl I fully endorse that! Honestly that‘s how @BarbaraTheBibliophage and I came up with our list for buddy reads, we both write down all the nonfictions we owned but hadn‘t read, and any we had in common became a list that we are picking from for this year. 8mo
Weaponxgirl @Riveted_Reader_Melissa that‘s such a great way to do it! 8mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Weaponxgirl It‘s hard, but I bought so many good ones, usually on kindle sales last year, and somehow they kept getting pushed back for library books, Litsy reads, etc...so we tried to make it its own Litsy reading group. 8mo
Weaponxgirl @Riveted_Reader_Melissa that‘s exactly what I do, I‘ve got so many awesome books I really want to read in sales. I‘ve been trying to think of a way to organise how I read my backlist and this sounds like a great way to do it. 8mo
Gezemice Thank you! I am ready for Unmentionable. I am going to skip White Rage - I feel that there is already enough rage in the news... (edited) 8mo
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@BarbaraTheBibliophage and I started a little non-formal #NFBuddyRead to catch up on some of the books we already had on our TBR lists or sitting on our shelves (a bunch that we picked up on various kindle sales). Right now we are reading The Color of Law, and for March we are going to read Unmentionable.

If anyone is interested in joining us, please feel free to dig out your copy or request it from the library. We‘d love to read with you.

BarbaraTheBibliophage Great idea, M!! 9mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BarbaraTheBibliophage I know we had talked about it awhile ago, I just never got around to posting something until now. 🤷‍♀️ 9mo
LauraJ Great reason to finally read this! 9mo
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Gezemice I have picked it up from the library! I am ready! @BarbaraTheBibliophage @Riveted_Reader_Melissa 9mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Gezemice I‘m one book behind on our buddy reads (The Color of Law). Hopefully you have this for three weeks instead of two. 9mo
Gezemice @BarbaraTheBibliophage I have it for four! And it looks like there are no holds on it so I can renew it, too. 9mo
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Gezemice Yay—that‘s so long! 9mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BarbaraTheBibliophage @Gezemice I‘m so jealous of that check out length!!! 9mo
Gezemice @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Really? I did not know it was not normal. Four weeks, except for new books which are two weeks. 9mo
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Lizpixie
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#NonFiction2019 Just taking a minute to catch up with all my challenges, so far I‘m very happy with my progress. Six down with this one & I have books lined up for at least another 6. Looks like 2019 is my #YearOfNonFiction

Riveted_Reader_Melissa Great progress!!! 9mo
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Pickpick

Well. Apart from being slightly disgusting & that awful chapter at the end about hysteria & a females lack of having a say about her body or future, it was an hilarious read. I don‘t think it would work as well on audio, it‘s the pictures that make it so entertaining. 4⭐️ #NonFiction2019 #SomethingThatMadeYouLaugh #MountTBR2019 #Bk6 #LitsyAtoZ2019 #LetterU & #LittenLoveBingo #LLB19 #BookPickedByALittenYouAdmire

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As amusing as the rest of the book is, the last chapters are mostly about the realities of how bad it could get for females at that time. Especially if you, god forbid, had a mind of your own. The fact that the man who invented cornflakes is also preaching female circumcision is just barbaric. And this was also for girls who had the misfortune of hitting puberty early.

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This just keeps getting better! Seating arrangements for the 19th century house. Even having friends over needs the plotting of a major-general.

Bklover I wonder what happens if I just march in and plant myself in the chair by the fireplace just like I own the place! 9mo
Lizpixie @Bklover you‘d probably be sent to Dr Kellog for hysteria and end up with electric shocks, ice baths and female circumcision.😳 9mo
Bklover Lol, now that you mention it, I‘ll just sit over here by the door!! 9mo
Lizpixie @Bklover much safer! I‘d probably run away to live in a shack on a remote island, far away from anyone. Being a hermit seems a much safer lifestyle🙅🏻‍♀️ 9mo
CouronneDhiver What‘s crazy is how many of these habits are passed along through colonization ... I was taught many of these growing up without every being presented as “rules” 9mo
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This book is hilarious! And also makes me so very very glad I wasn‘t born before the 20th Century!

“Unnatural positions will cause derangement and bearing down of the womb...and sometimes will originate tumors and fungi in the private parts.” 😳🍄

Laura317 🤣🤣🤣 alrighty then! 9mo
WhatWouldJaneDo Does this one talk about the wandering uterus? That's my favorite insane Victorian gynecological theory. Where is it wandering?! It should write a travelogue. 9mo
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Up next is another book doing multiple entries in challenges. This is for #NonFiction2019 #SomethingThatMadeYouLaugh its also #MountTBR2019 #Bk6 my #LitsyAtoZ2019 #LetterU & finally #LittenLoveBingo #LLB19 #PickedByALittenYouAdmire thank you @scripturient for your review! I‘m doing well with the challenges so far,only have 1 left for this season of Booked2019 & I have 6 books done for the other 4.And that‘s with needing a magnifying glass to read!

Cathythoughts Well ! That‘s amazing ! Fair play to you. I‘m doing my very first ever book challenge this year booked2019 😊. I don‘t think I‘ll ever reach your dizzy heights , well done 👏🏻👏🏻💕 9mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa Great choice! @BarbaraTheBibliophage @Gezemice and I are reading that next month in a buddy read! I hope you enjoy it! 9mo
Gezemice That‘s a lot of challenges! Great job! Yes, I am reading this too very soon. Looking forward to everyone‘s opinion! @Riveted_Reader_Melissa (edited) 9mo
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This book was fun. The former academic in me wanted more detailed information and research - I felt like I already knew a lot of the things that were in this book. It's definitely a light, entertaining romp through the subject matter and pairs nicely with mojitos and the beach!

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Poolside reading 👙

BookishMarginalia Enjoy! 10mo
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Pickpick

A lighthearted, quick read about a woman‘s world in the 19th century. If you are at all familiar with the Victorian era there won‘t be too many surprises, but it‘s worth a read for the pictures and humorous captions at the very least!

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