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Not That Bad
Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture | Roxane Gay
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Edited and with an introduction by Roxane Gay, the New York Times bestselling and deeply beloved author of Bad Feminist and Hunger, this anthology of first-person essays tackles rape, assault, and harassment head-on. Roxane Gay is the brilliant girl-next-door: your best friend and your sharpest critic. . . . she is also required reading.People In this valuable and revealing anthology, cultural critic and bestselling author Roxane Gay collects original and previously published pieces that address what it means to live in a world where women have to measure the harassment, violence, and aggression they face, and where they are routinely second-guessed, blown off, discredited, denigrated, besmirched, belittled, patronized, mocked, shamed, gaslit, insulted, bullied for speaking out. Contributions include essays from established and up-and-coming writers, performers, and critics, including actors Ally Sheedy and Gabrielle Union and writers Amy Jo Burns, Lyz Lenz, Claire Schwartz, and Bob Shacochis. Covering a wide range of topics and experiences, from an exploration of the rape epidemic embedded in the refugee crisis to first-person accounts of child molestation, this collection is often deeply personal and is always unflinchingly honest. Like Rebecca Solnits Men Explain Things to Me, Not That Bad will resonate with every reader, saying something in totality that we cannot say alone. Searing and heartbreakingly candid, this provocative collection both reflects the world we live in and offers a call to arms insisting that not that bad must no longer be good enough.
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natalieebloom
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I am Roxane Gay‘s biggest fan, so I had this anthology on my to-read list for a while. If you enjoyed Bad Feminist or Hunger, you‘ll want to read this too. As anyone may have guessed by the subject material, it was hard to read, but necessary.

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ChaoticMissAdventures
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Excellent and necessary. But not easy.

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ChaoticMissAdventures
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Audio version of this intense book.

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ilyssa.g
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Such a phenomenal anthology! All the essays are very emotional. It opened my mind up to a lot of different perspectives on rape, misogyny, feminism, and society at large. I think this is a pivotal read for anyone who wants to learn more about rape culture.

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Lindy
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Another deserving book that was recognized at the Lammys yesterday. 🎉🎉🎉 #LGBTQ

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Megabooks
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#Violations was probably my first introduction to rape, & I think, at 11, I was too young to understand it.

When I rewatched the series at 25, this was one of the harder episodes for me to watch. I still don‘t watch it often.

I read Missoula a couple of years ago. It was hard also, but no longer shocking. I want to read Not That Bad, but I have to be in the right mindset, & I just haven‘t been there yet.

Curious to see what other Trekkies think

GlassAsDiamonds Not at all tempted by the Gay (wasn‘t a fan of anything other than the Bad Feminist essay in Bad Feminist, for all that that one essay was spectacular) but devoted Trekkie. I‘m conflicted over the episode - You always knew they‘d push the boundaries where possible so it‘s often not “mindless” entertainment... but it was a well done episode. Hmm 🤔🤔🤔 6mo
Megabooks @GlassAsDiamonds I am a big fan of Roxane Gay‘s nonfiction. I liked Bad Feminist, and I loved Hunger. I think this was definitely a boundary-pushing episode as far as what they‘d put on TV, but I think it‘s also very 90s as well. The conversation about consent, etc. has changed so much in 30 years. 6mo
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tournevis @GlassAsDiamonds It was well done, true, but I'm never watching that epi again, which means not seeing the great Keiko scene, but there you go. 6mo
Megabooks @tournevis @tournevis The Keiko part was definitely the best part! 6mo
tournevis @Megabooks Such a good scene! 6mo
GlassAsDiamonds @tournevis yeah, I won‘t be rushing to re-watch it either (but Keiko forever!!!!!!!!!). I‘m impressed on reflection that the victims weren‘t “just” female, especially for the age of the show. @Megabooks I don‘t mind that the conversation has changed (but I‘m an avid reader of 1800‘s pulp fiction & a tad obsessed with context). I am a little concerned that just how ground breaking it was could be lost on a 2019 audience using a 2019 lense? 6mo
tournevis @GlassAsDiamonds Good point about the gender of the victims, although 2/3... And you're right about consent. Troy is the only one to explicitly say no don't in this. I'm just tired of Troy and O'Brien getting abused and assulted. It was rape Troy and torture O'Brien. Could they not find another story to tell? 6mo
GlassAsDiamonds @tournevis Troy does seem to be the sacrificial lamb for a good number of storyline‘s doesn‘t she.... 🤔🤔🤔🤔 I cant remember enough of the O‘Brien storyline‘s! 6mo
tournevis @GlassAsDiamonds PTSD on top of PTSD on top of near death experiences on top of prison torture. 6mo
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Billypar
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I'm going to echo what a lot of reviews have said: absolutely essential reading for anyone who isn't a survivor of rape. There's a haunting similarity in the accounts of how others respond when the authors described sharing their stories. Many reactions are cruel or callous, but others are well-intentioned and it's important to hear why those responses are not the support survivors need.

Leftcoastzen Nice review.An essential read. 7mo
jveezer Reading her Difficult Women right now. Will have to check this one out too. 7mo
Billypar @jveezer I haven't read that one yet- or any of her fiction for that matter: I have An Untamed State on my shelf. Looking forward to it based on how great her nonfiction is. 7mo
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Mem_ugh
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I started listening to this one while at work and had to turn it off after an hour, the stories told were heartbreaking and made me angry. Angry at the state of the world, angry at our patriarchal society, angry at people who think they can lay claim to our bodies. Just anger.

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Jeannineth
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This book!!! This book is a collection of short stories about the rape culture. It is hauntingly reminiscent of what we women have come to endure. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ this is a must read for all young women and men .

Jeannineth Highly recommend the audiobook. 8mo
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MsLeah8417
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MsLeah8417
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...because my angry vagina rendered me mute.

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youneverarrived
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I‘m glad I listened to the audio but I think I‘ll be purchasing a copy of the book too. Some essays resonated more than others but every single one is important, heartbreaking and infuriating 😔 Something needs to change and soon. The last essay just says it all.

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Leftcoastzen You summed it up well . This is an important book. 9mo
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SamAnne
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Listening to women‘s stories is important. Some essays in this collection are both powerful stories and phenomenal writing.

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EleniKara
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This was a hard read, but incredibly well put together. A series of essays by various contributors who have all been victim to a form of sexual assault.There doesn‘t need to be a lesson or moral in each chapter, these stories don‘t exist for our pity, they are here for these women to tell their stories and for someone to listen. That is all there is to it and that in itself is important.

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youneverarrived
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An hours walk yesterday by the river and 20 mins in town today. The pub is called The Artful Dodger 👍 #animal #nameinabook #litsywalkers

Kaye Very cool ! Great job. 9mo
youneverarrived Thanks @kaye 😁 (edited) 9mo
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youneverarrived
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Another hour and a half walk to town and back, and a bit wander around the shops.

This book is just making me angry and sad 😔 #litsywalkers #flag

Kaye Good job 👍🏼🌟 9mo
TrishB It made me angry and sad too 💔 9mo
MyBookSwapClub Beautiful high street pic :) 9mo
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Kalalalatja I feel you! 💔 9mo
youneverarrived @kaye 😊😘 9mo
hilded What a nice street 😊 9mo
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youneverarrived
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An hour and a half walk round town today and went to the book sale at the library. Love this little independent bookshop 🍏 #litsywalkers #greenitem

Avanders That store looks amazing... 9mo
Cathythoughts How gorgeous 💚💚💚 9mo
Kaye Great job. Cool@place to walk Good job on the green item. 👍🏼 9mo
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julesG ❤️❤️❤️ 9mo
hilded What a sweet shop 😊 9mo
DarcysMom Awesome! A nice, long walk and a book sale! 9mo
UwannaPublishme 😍😍😍 9mo
Libby1 Beautiful! I hope you‘re well. 💕 9mo
IamIamIam So cute!!! 9mo
Linsy What a cute little shop! 8mo
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EleniKara
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This quote really stood out to me seeing as I went to a college just like this and it is so painfully real.

Megabooks It is! 9mo
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SamAnne
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LOL. A little pointed levity while reading a heavy book.

Suet624 I just cut that out of the magazine to tape on to the envelope of my outbound letter! 😀 9mo
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Hollie
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The audio version of this book is phenomenal, with each poignant essay read by its author. The essays cover rape and rape culture from a wide variety of experiences. It will piss you off and make your heart hurt, but it is an important read. I would recommend, as long as you‘re emotionally ready and willing to check in with yourself throughout to provide self care if triggered. 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

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Julsmarshall
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I didn‘t hit 24 but I finished 2 books and made a big dent in 2 more and had a blast! I do ❤️💕❤️ a Readathon! #24beforeMonday #24in48

erzascarletbookgasm Great job! 9mo
sprainedbrain Woohoo! 🎉🎉 9mo
GypsyKat You did great! 👏👏👏 9mo
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Kalalalatja Well done! 9mo
Megabooks 👍🏻👏🏻👍🏻👏🏻🎉🎉 9mo
Librarybelle Great job! 9mo
hes7 Nice! 🎉 9mo
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Hollie
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I started this one on audio this morning for my commute and though I‘m only 3 essays in, I know this one is going to be heart wrenching and difficult.

Cinfhen Are the essay‘s read by RG?? 10mo
Hollie @cinfhen She reads the intro and her essay but so far each essay is read by the author of that essay (edited) 10mo
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Is your tbr list up to date 🧐🤔 10mo
Hollie @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks yes, I think so! 10mo
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @Hollie 🙌🏻📚💗 10mo
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TrishB
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Made me very sad and very angry. Well done to all the contributors for being able to speak out. Truly f in awful that all this still happens in any society.

Kalalalatja Yep. It is horrifying 10mo
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TrishB
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Train reading today. Family meet up in York to visit son 😁 This is not light reading!!
Got my list of bookshops that I may be able to persuade people to visit from the lovely @squirrelbrain

jhod Ooh @squirrelbrain could you pass that list to me please? I go to York every couple of months for work! Have fun Trish!! 10mo
RachelO Have fun! 10mo
AmyG York! What a lovely place. Enjoy. 10mo
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JennyM Ee-bah-eck, enjoy Trish! ... give the minster a wave 😘 10mo
youneverarrived Have a good time 😁😘 10mo
LeeRHarry Have fun in lovely York - @JennyM 🤣 10mo
Kalalalatja Have fun! And no, that book is definitely not light, but so good! 10mo
Amandakay Heavy but great read! 10mo
Tanisha_A Fun times! 😎 10mo
squirrelbrain Have fun @TrishB - hopefully you‘ll get to visit at least one or two! @jhod I‘ll photocopy the list at work tomorrow and send it to you.... 10mo
jhod Amazing @squirrelbrain thank you! X 10mo
batsy Sounds like a lovely day 💕 10mo
TrishB @jhod @RachelO @AmyG @JennyM @youneverarrived @LeeRHarry @Kalalalatja @Tanisha_A @squirrelbrain @batsy had a lovely day thanks 😘 nearly home now and remembering I need to do all the get ready for work stuff..... (edited) 10mo
squirrelbrain Never mind getting ready for work, we need to know if you made it to any bookshops?! 😜 10mo
Caroline2 I hope you have a lovely day! 💖 10mo
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samjmitchell
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Roxane sheds light on rape culture by letting others tell their story. She acknowledges that there are so many other books at this time documenting the same subjects, but hopes that as we look back on this time, her writing is part of what is to be sure a bigger movement. 4/5

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enidkeaner
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Roxane did a great job of curating this collection as the folks represented here are varied - white and non white, straight and queer, men and women, trans and cisgendered. It‘s well crafted and the essays are well written. It‘s just so rage inducing and sort of makes me want to go on a murderous rampage. This is a very important read. The truly heartbreaking thing is that it‘s unlikely to be read by those who need to read it the most.

Weaponxgirl I‘ve had this book for a while now. I love Roxane gay and know that it will be an important read but I just haven‘t been able to bring myself to read it yet as I know I‘ll be an angry emotional mess at the end. 10mo
enidkeaner @Weaponxgirl it‘s a great collection but it‘s draining. You‘ll definitely be angry but I remember feeling so proud of each writer for coming through the trauma. 10mo
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ElizaMarie
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This was such a hard book go read. A lot of what these writers said resonated with me on a deeply painful level.

They were able to articulate thoughts and feeling I thought I only had. Because of this... I encouraged my husband to read it as well (he starts it tomorrow).

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TieDyeDude
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It might be a bit strange, but this concept affected me the most...

DivineDiana Makes me want to take a night stroll! 10mo
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ElizaMarie
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First book for my challenge for 2019 is Not That Bad

But I‘ll be reading other books in between and during this challenge.

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ClairesReads
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A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading.

CoffeeK8 Beautiful photo 10mo
Redwritinghood Lovely place to read. 10mo
ClairesReads @Redwritinghood it‘s a delight 10mo
ClairesReads @CoffeeK8 thank you! 10mo
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ClairesReads
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True

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ClairesReads
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“How is the (un)dead raped child supposed to write, even if she survives?” - So Mayer

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ClairesReads
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An essay anthology #readharder2018

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Lauren.Archer
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Thanks again @irre for this recommendation. One of the most important books any person can ever read. These essays were so moving and I appreciate their bravery with telling each of their stories. #NewYearWhoDis

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dawn-pInk
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If you have any basic understanding of rape culture, you can already guess that this would be a rough one. An amazing of array of personal essays, some exceptionally poetic, from diverse pov on the many varied negative impacts of rape culture. An important read for anyone who feels we can use more empathy, and awareness of the way our culture views consent and sex, which I think is all of us. 5 out of 5 on GR

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Lauren.Archer
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Have the day off and have a couple of hrs to start this one. Thanks @irre for the recommendation, looking forward to reading this one.
#NewYearWhoDis

irre It‘s great but I had to break it up in small chunks. Not easy reading. 11mo
Djspens I love Roxane Gay 😘 11mo
Christine11 Not pleasant but such an important book. It was pretty harrowing but these stories are so eye opening - I wish everyone would read this book! 🙂 11mo
TrishB It‘s on my please Father Christmas list! 11mo
nikirtehsuxlol I liked this collection. Must read for me. 11mo
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Kathrin
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Besides the horrendous and difficult stories that were shared in this collection, I thought it amazing how diverse the collection is and how it sheds light on rape culture from every possible angle.

As a side note: I started it out on #scribd and they took it off the catalog around the halfway mark. I ended up using an #audible credit to finish. I hope this was just a fluke, because I just dropped the money for an annual subscription.

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Slajaunie I loved be this!!! 11mo
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InLibrisVeritas
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Listening to this today while I play Elder Scrolls Online. Such a difficult listen

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enidkeaner
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#friyayinto
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1. Visit Iceland! But first, I‘d need to renew my passport...
2. Finally going to the movies to see Widows, cleaning, reading and being lazy. Maybe do the laundry?
3. Sugar cookies! I love those awful things 😁
4. Not That Bad. It‘s horrifying.
5. @Emilymdxn

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dawn-pInk
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Next audio
“Anger is the privilege of the truly broken, and yet, I‘ve never met a woman who was broken enough that she allowed herself to be angry.”

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Valeka
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So difficult to read. But something everyone should read.

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Clare_Riley
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This is an important book. I don‘t think I have any other words that would adequately explain this. I will say that some of these stories are harrowing, others are disturbing in that the behaviour seems to be normalised. Society and the world in general really needs to take a long, hard look at itself.

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trazo
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So good! I am greatful to all of the people who shared theirs stories! I love this essay collection! 💙 Happy Thanksgiving Everyone 🍂🍁 🦃

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Twocougs
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A book everyone should read. It will break you, make you angry, and give at least some hope. Be in a strong place before reading.

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ReadingEnvy
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Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. Also valuable to people who haven't been able to share their own stories but can find comfort in not being alone. These personal essays are not all by straight women either, so that adds a necessary diversity to the picture.

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My library hold list has a terrible sense of humor.

Ashley_Nicoletto 🤣🤣🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ 13mo
Suet624 You‘re right. 13mo
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