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When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times | Pema Ch๖dr๖n
Drawn from traditional Buddhist wisdom, Pema Chodrons radical and compassionate advice for what to do when things fall apart in our lives goes against the grain of our usual habits and ex pectations.--from back cover.
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I‘ve never been a big believe in self-help/motivational books. I have no judgement against them they just don‘t resonate with me. That being said, I‘m going through quite a lot right now and I could use some inspiration. Let‘s hope it‘s not a dud!๐Ÿคž๐Ÿป๐Ÿคž๐Ÿป

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This is a wonderful book. I gleaned (and will continue to revisit) so much wisdom from Pema Chödrön. Her approach is distinctly Buddhist, but no prior knowledge or adherence is required to understand and practice the principles set forth. Chödrön‘s writing is accessible, relatable, and pithy. I read this over the course of about a month and, each day, it was a balm for my weary soul. I‘m sure I will reread this many times.

Cathythoughts She is very good ! I like her too 5mo
saresmoore @Cathythoughts I love her compassionate & accessible approach. There are other teachers I‘ve come across who seem so distant and self-absorbed (ironically), but Pema is a lot like a wise, loving friend. 5mo
batsy This sounds wonderful and necessary. I've been meaning to read her for so long. I'm glad it was a balm for you ๐Ÿ’œ 5mo
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saresmoore @batsy I think you would really appreciate it. I‘ve read so much in this genre lately, but this one is far and away the most beneficial. 5mo
Bookwomble @saresmoore Thank you for the recommendation ๐Ÿ’— 5mo
TheReadingMermaid I loved this book so much! Have you read her second book in the series yet? It is just as wonderful โค๏ธ 5mo
saresmoore @TheReadingMermaid I haven‘t, but certainly will! Thank you! 5mo
Suet624 I‘m so glad Pema was there for you. 5mo
ReadingEnvy This is one of my go tos in difficult times. 5mo
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Definitely should have given this one more time, and I would if the library weren‘t demanding it back. Note to self: study Buddhism.

Leftcoastzen Pema is awesome. 6mo
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#falling #ANewChapter I don‘t think you have to be a Buddhist to get something from Pema Chodrons book.Life is full of difficult experiences and loss.Do not let yourself be defined by bad things that happen.An amazing book.

TiredLibrarian This is a great book. โค 12mo
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป 12mo
Leftcoastzen @TiredLibrarian I agree. I find reading her helpful when I can‘t tame my thoughts . 12mo
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"Don't be afraid to fall apart, because it's an opportunity to rebuild yourself the way you wish you had been all along" - Pema Chodron. To me, this book isn't just for when things fall apart. It's wisdom for every, single, ordinary day โค #pemachodron #booksthatchangedmylife

DivineDiana I bought this book right after the 2016 Presidential Election. 1y
non_material_girl @DivineDiana very pertinent โ˜บ 1y
Leftcoastzen She is so good! 1y
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Mine is tagged. It was a really good book and it helped me through a rough time in my life.
What's yours? ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

Bamazin Hi, can you resend my #halloweenhorror swap match email? To betsypowell3@gmail.com the package was returned to me and I have no idea why and can‘t find the original email! 1y
TheReadingMermaid @Bamazin sent ๐Ÿ˜‰ 1y
Bamazin Thanks so much you are the best!! 1y
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Aleida Circle of Friends by Meave Binchy. 1y
TheReadingMermaid @cathysaid oh I heard that one was good!!! 1y
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Received such a thoughtful bookmark today โ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธ

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โ€œWe might feel that somehow we should try to eradicate these feelings of pleasure and pain, loss and gain, praise and blame, fame and disgrace. A more practical approach would be to get to know them, see how they hook us, see how they color our perception of reality, see how they aren‘t all that solid. Then the Eight Worldly Dharmas become the means for growing wiser, as well as kinder and more content." Pema Chodron

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Next pick.. Great Expectations from this one..

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Love my afternoon ritual - outside under my huge backyard tree so it‘s not too hot. Love this book - yet another library book I know I must own :)

Vertabrain I read this book after my husband‘s cancer diagnosis, and it literally saved my sanity! ๐Ÿ’• 2y
MelAnn @Vertabrain I love this book! It‘s been a great thing for me as I continue to unpack my grief and my personal failures recently. 2y
Vertabrain It‘s definitely one I will go back to many times. 2y
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More truth!

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This quote really speaks to the current journey I am on. . . It‘s so true.

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Oh I am so loving this book. Another library book I know I am gonna need my own copy!

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This is very powerful. Made me stop and absorb that for a minute - have I ever stayed where I was? Maybe this is the key to clarity? I thrive in this space actually - but making myself stay there? That‘s a different monster entirely!

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Woohoo! This is good news!

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I'm typically always in the middle of two books. One self-help/inspirational/spiritual type book and the other is "hopefully" a great story I can get lost in. After listening to one of Oprah's podcasts, I knew I had to own these


Broken a/c on a hot summer day in Southern California is definitely disrupting my #24in48 #readathon bliss!! ๐Ÿ˜ก

riversong153 ๐Ÿ˜ฒ wishing you well, that is sooo wrong! 3y
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This is a photograph of Pema Chodron, a Buddhist nun. I bought this book the day after the Presidential Election to try and find something to help me deal with what I was feeling. Other required reading got in the way, but I finally finished it. I know that I will keep it close and return to it during trying times.

Susanita The pastor at my church used one of her poems in her sermon on Sunday. 3y
DivineDiana @ReadingEnvy Thank you for telling me and I will find her other book that you suggested. The power of books. ๐Ÿ“š 3y
DivineDiana @Susanita I didn't know that she wrote poetry. Will research! 3y
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The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.

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I've been fighting a bout of depression and have fallen behind on my reads and posts but being back on Litsy really cheers me up. I'm very happy to be part of this book loving community. Sending happy thoughts to everyone and wishing all very happy reads! ๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’œ

PennCage Best wishes to you and happy reads #keepfighting 3y
Faibka @PennCage thank you! ๐Ÿ˜Š 3y
moranadatter You are wonderful and we're glad you're here. ๐Ÿ’— back to you. 3y
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BookishMarginalia Big hug โค๏ธ๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๏ธ (been there; you are not alone) 3y
britt_brooke Hugs! ๐Ÿ’• 3y
Laura317 We are here for you!! ๐Ÿ’• 3y
DeborahSmall Sending hugs ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’– 3y
Eyelit ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ 3y
Well-ReadNeck That ๐Ÿ“ธ is lovely. Great self care. Take care of you. 3y
ScientistSam Happy thoughts and happy reads right back atcha! 3y
Suet624 So sorry. Please come back often and check in with us. 3y
[DELETED] 3323341091 much love headed your way ๐Ÿ’“๐Ÿ’“ 3y
stargazerblue49 Sending you Hufflehugs and well wishes! You are not alone! ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿช๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿช๐Ÿ’› 3y
CherylDeFranceschi Hugs and wishes for happiness! 3y
Tsubame Lots of love to you! I've been through a depression myself. You'll make it through, you can do this! No need to climb the whole mountain in one go, just take one step after the other, at your pace. One day you'll suddenly realize that you made it all the way to the peak and then you'll enjoy a stunning sunrise โ˜€๏ธ๐Ÿ’“ 3y
Jae You need a kitty snuggle. Works every time for me. ๐Ÿ˜ป๐Ÿ˜ฝ 3y
James Sorry to hear you're down. It's great you are getting out of that mental funk, it's tough. Glad you're back reading and posting. Is that an e-reader cover? Very nice. The mug is cool too! 3y
Faibka @kmdartist aww thank you so much!! ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’• 3y
Faibka @BookishMarginalia thank you! I know it will pass, big hug as well! ๐Ÿ˜„ ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’• to cheer up I've been working on my list of books to participate in Litsy A to Z! 3y
Faibka @britt_brooke thank you! ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’œ 3y
Faibka @Laura317 thank you so much! I feel a lot better looking at everyone's posts ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’• 3y
Faibka @DeborahSmall thank you! Sending more hugs your way! ๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ’œ 3y
Faibka @Eyelit thank you! Hugs! ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’• 3y
Faibka @Well-ReadNeck thank you! ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’œ 3y
Faibka @ScientistSam thanks! ๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ’œ 3y
Faibka @Suet624 thanks, I will, I love this community! ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’• 3y
Faibka @fern aww thank you fern! Sending lots of hugs ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ˜ธ 3y
Faibka @stargazerblue49 aww thanks!! Likewise! ๐Ÿ˜บ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’œ 3y
Faibka @CherylDeFranceschi thank you! Sending hugs ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’œ 3y
Faibka @Tsubame thank you so much Tsubame! ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’œThat's what I'm doing, I know it will pass, it just frustrates me that it's interfering with my reading, I just can't seem to concentrate ๐Ÿ˜” I need more Litsy time with wonderful people like you! โ˜บ๏ธ 3y
Faibka @Jae yes! I have been trying out some kitty therapy ๐Ÿ˜ธ and it's helping. Thanks! ๐Ÿ˜ธ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’œ 3y
BookishMarginalia ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿผ 3y
Faibka @James thanks! ๐Ÿ˜Š I'm doing my best to try to snap out of it, already feeling better thanks to everyone. And yes I ordered that cover for my Kindle, I like happy colors as you can tell from the Beatles mug ๐Ÿ˜ thank you! ๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ“š 3y
Tsubame ๐Ÿ’“If you can't focus on reading than that just means that you're supposed to be doing something else instead, which of course can be frustrating, since it takes away the option to run away from what you don't want to face. It is SO hard to work through a depression, but if you don't do it, then it'll get only worse ๐Ÿ˜”Still it's crucial to do things which make you happy, so Litsy is always a good idea ๐Ÿ˜˜ We're here for you โœจ๐Ÿ’“ 3y
Faibka @Tsubame thank you so much! ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•Your words mean a lot. I'm working through it and I'm sorry you had to go through this as well, you're right, we must do the work and the rest will fall into place. Reading and practicing more mindfulness and it's helping ๐Ÿ˜Š thank you!! ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ“š 3y
Tsubame Oh! Mindfulness, that reminds me of John Kabat Zinn and his body scan! It helped me a lot, especially when I wasn't able to sleep. Maybe you want to give it a try: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=LSYny7fTZP8 3y
Faibka @Tsubame oooh thank you! I've been having trouble sleeping as well. I'll give it a try tonight! ๐Ÿ˜ƒ ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ 3y
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The day after the election, I read an article that mentioned this book and decided I had to own it. #latestbookishbuy #photoadaynov16

MMenefee I love Pema Chodron's books! Her advice is easier said than done but it takes time to change behaviors. 3y
DivineDiana @MMenefee Thank you. This is my first book of hers, and I am looking forward to the experience. 3y
Kimzey I've listened to some of her talks through Audible.com, but not read any of her books. This is definitely timely! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ 3y
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DivineDiana @Kimzey That is what I was thinking! 3y
AmyWrites Love love love that book. It's my bible. And love her other, The Places That Scare You. 3y
ReadingEnvy This is my favorite book from Pema, so comforting to let events and emotions be what they are, so much power in it. 3y
DivineDiana @ReadingEnvy Thank you. if I only remember this. 3y
ReadingEnvy @DivineDiana I think we all need reminded. 3y
DivineDiana @AmyWrites Good to know! I will check out the other one too! 3y
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I'm finally less angry and sad after the terrible events of yesterday. Still scared and worried (and okay, angry and sad are still there too), but I'm working on turning it around in my head. I've done a decent bit of book shopping (more to come today), and sleep isn't a friend of mine lately, but this has lit a fire in me. It's a fire that was always there but I was too afraid to say anything for fear of offending anyone. Not anymore. ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿฝ

LauraBrook One of my book orders yesterday included several books that I've wanted to read but felt too emotionally raw to handle. They were for "later", when I could better process the emotional hurts that have happened the last few years. But now? Not so much. I'm looking forward to educating myself over and over and over again about all of the things I thought I couldn't handle. Because I, and we, have to handle this terrifying result. ?? 3y
[DELETED] 3216391035 #imwithyou. Going book shopping myself tomorrow. And am just trying to be the most positive, caring, open person I can be to combat all the fear that was peddled in this election cycle. 3y
LauraBrook And as much as it sounds nice to stay curled into my comfort zone forever, I am ready & willing to fight against intolerance and hate, and to help educate others, not only on facts, but on how to have an intelligent discussion with someone of a differing opinion without resorting to threats, dismissal, or violence. Love is love is love & I'm trying my hardest to โค๏ธeveryone now. It will get easier, it always does. But now a ๐Ÿ”ฅ is lit, & I'm ready. 3y
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BookishFeminist I'm right there with you. Going off 2 hours of sleep for the second night in a row. Yesterday I mourned but today I am raising hell. Some folks in my life are not going to be very happy with me and I don't care. ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ Litsy's all good though. So grateful for this community. Keep taking care of yourself & reaching out for strength as much as you need it. We're #strongertogether and have each others' backs. Hugs and love. ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ˜˜ 3y
OffTheBeatenShelf.com We'll fight this. And when we do, we'll do it with love and hope, not hate and fear. โค๏ธ 3y
CoffeeAndABook YESSSS!!! โœŒ๐ŸปStand strong ๐ŸŒฑ keep that fire burning ๐Ÿ”ฅ I'm sending courage & strength & faith from Germany โฃI feel far away right now, am half-American & wish I could do more (than vote from afar) but realize we have our own haters & bullies to fight here. Let's do this together, all over the world! 3y
OffTheBeatenShelf.com @BookishFeminist Raise that hell! I'm right there with you. I'm a writer, so I'm working on adding a political tab to my book blog, which may seem odd, but no one is safe from the Trumpanzees and we can't afford not to speak out. Let all the hell be raised! We're going to fight this. ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ 3y
BookishFeminist I've got a political tab on mine. It isn't odd at all. The personal is political. Raise. That. Hell. The more we brush it aside the more this utter disgrace to humanity is normalized, and I refuse to let that happen. We got each other and we got this. @OffTheBeatenShelf.com 3y
LauraBeth Never be afraid to stand up and voice your beliefs โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜€ 3y
LauraBrook @BookishFeminist @OffTheBeatenShelf.com @CoffeeAndABook Hell yes, ladies! #strongertogether #imwithyou #holdtheline #effthisess Logic, love, and compassion!!! โค๏ธ 3y
LauraBrook @LauraBeth โค๏ธThank you, Litsy sister. You're one of the people that convinced me that it was okay to do so. ๐Ÿ˜˜ 3y
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Susannah I'd love to know the books you bought if you feel comfortable sharing. 3y
LauraBrook @Susannah Absolutely! It's...a lot of books, mostly comfort reading. But I'll pull my #overthis books together and get those in one photo. Today most of my online orders came in, plus some used stuff I bought last week, and the 4 bags I've brought home from Half Price in the last 2 days... yikes. I owe my mail lady some chocolate or Icy Hot or something. ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜‰ 3y
Susannah A photo (or two, if necessary) would be great! Thank you. ๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ˜„ 3y
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For #recommendsday I'm going to recommend to myself more Pema Chodron:

"When there's a big disappointment, we don't know if it's the end of the story. It may be just the beginning of a great adventure."

KilgoreTrout One of my coworkers just quoted Chodron in an email sent out this morning! "only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible in us be found" โค๏ธ 3y
Linsy Love this! 3y
MMenefee @KilgoreTrout @Linsy โค๏ธ 3y
ReadingEnvy This book is good for all kinds of grief 3y
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I have never been so deeply ashamed, embarrassed, or afraid of my state and country in my lifetime. I have turned to Pema Chรถdrรถn during some of the darkest periods in my life, but I never imagined I would have to in this situation. Time to get centered and push back.

Friends, there are scary times ahead. I am in the St. Louis area if you need help, an ear, a getaway, anything. Get at me. I've got your back. And I have books, of course.

Librariana And I'm just across the river ๐Ÿ’™ I couldn't go to sleep last night/this morning... finally dozed off some time around 3:30... and I certainly never thought I'd wake up to this... ๐Ÿ˜” 3y
JoeStalksBeck My 9 year old is very distraught. I'm just stunned at the depths of ignorance this nation has fallen to 3y
LindsayReads @librariana I couldn't sleep either. It took all I had to get out of bed. Sending love. 3y
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LindsayReads @Book_Addict I am so sorry. Having to explain this kind of hatred to young people is heartbreaking. Love to you and your kiddo. 3y
JoeStalksBeck @lindsayreads thank youโค๏ธ love to you also 3y
UnidragonFrag I'm so ashamed right now too. Seriously :( 3y
princess_dennie_pants ๐Ÿ˜ญ 3y
LindsayReads @UnidragonFrag @princess_dennie_pants I hear you. Let's fight ignorance. 3y
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I am into the new cover for Pema Chödrön's When Things Fall Apart.

eva_lution This book is excellent and I frequently recommend it... beautiful cover. 3y
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Outstanding. Practical wisdom for thinking in new ways, when life feels like it is coming apart at the seams.

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And my other Bible. โค๏ธโค๏ธ (I think I go to this one more often than The Places That Scare You. But I love them both)

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