Fascinating new topic for me.
Fascinating new topic for me.
In some ways, the slow increase of ace representation in books feels similar to the increase of vegan options in the world. If you‘d have told me I could have my pick of plant-based meats at the supermarket 12 years ago, I‘d have been skeptical. So I have to believe something similar is coming in book options!
#asexuality #asexual #acesoflitsy
I felt seen, I cried, I learned... This is a book written by someone under the ace umbrella sharing stories from other aces under the umbrella. Also with discussing why people are obsessed with sex. It‘s everywhere! But as ace, we don‘t get that. The story of the religious man fighting between his feelings vs what he‘s told he‘s obligated to in marriage hit close. Same with this above quote. Feel educated to talk to my s/o much better now
This is a great book about the diverse umbrella term that asexuality really is. What‘s nice about being able to see that is that the author has gone out and spoken to a wide array of people under different terms. It‘s so nice to hear there‘s other people down here. Especially the “no sex till marriage” young man. That one hits close to home. #lgbtqa
I find that Chen sums up this book best herself when she writes “The goal of ace liberation is simply the goal of true sexual and romantic freedom for everyone. A society that is welcoming to aces can never be compatible with rape culture; with misogyny, racism, ableism, homophobia, and transphobia;”
A brilliant book I think will be eye-opening for both ace and allo (not ace) readers, providing a look at what it means to be ace. The book explores asexuality through many perspectives and experiences, providing narrative examples as well as philosophical and psychological. The challenges aces face give a lot of insight into how the elevation of sex and sexual / romantic relationships above all else in modern society causes problems for everyone.
I did this one on audio, and the narration was excellent. There‘s a lot to learn and a lot to think about in this book. I‘d recommend it whether you identify as Ace or Aro, or if you‘re just wanting to learn more about these terms and the widely varied spectrum of human sexuality.
Sietje listened with me in the car. She may not have learned as much as I did. 🐶❤️📚
"The parent who asks one five-year-old boy which classmate he wants as a girlfriend asks another five-year-old ace or gay boy how they can already know their sexuality."
This book has so many gold star quotes!
A little lunchtime reading
One of my favorite things: sitting incorrectly in a chair, curled up around a good book! ? "Compulsory sexuality" is an important addition to the conversation about sexuality and sex, inspired by Adrienne Rich's "Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence." Ace (asexual) discourse has a lot to offer to understanding the full range of human sexuality and desire better!
Another virtual reading party with my love. 🥰 2 very good books being read! @CounterfeitNickel
I have today off before my 12 hour overnight on-call shift at the hospital, so I'm taking it easy and resting up! Had a little virtual reading party with @CounterfeitNickel on the porch in which we did more quote-sharing than reading. 🥰
This was a really engaging read that taught me a lot! Much re: asexuality, about which I was pretty uninformed. But I also learned (and stopped to think) a lot more about things like the complexity of consent, the medicalization of desire, and how the primacy of romantic and sexual relationships is normalized. Expanded my vocab with concepts like compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity, too.
My town held its first annual Pride celebration this morning! While I didn‘t go, I was pleased to see such an event here. I couldn‘t help but wonder if any aces were there.
As a heteroromantic ace, I‘ve seen so much gatekeeping regarding whether we‘re part of the queer community. As if 1% of the population identifying as acespec isn‘t minority enough for a place at the table. When ACE came out last year, it was a joy to see a mirror held up! 👇🏻
You know how when you‘re reading and highlighting passages, and all of a sudden you realize you basically have the whole book highlighted? That‘s me reading Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen. I‘m learning so much about asexuality, but also about the compulsive and compulsory sexualization of society. Everyone should read this.
I learned so much about being ace and the ace spectrum! I enjoyed seeing things from different perspectives and I really appreciated all the intersectionality through the whole book.
A great intro to asexuality and a starting point for the much needed critique on western society's compulsory sexuality. The obsessive ideas about sex actively damages so many types of relationships, many of which are more important than sexual-dependent ones. As the author notes, there is a lot to understanding what asexuality is and can't be covered in one book. But this one covers enough to dispel stereotypes and ignite critical thinking.
This is one of the most important, incredible books I have ever read. I so deeply appreciate her ability to clearly articulate topics and issues that can be extremely confusing and difficult. Everyone should read this book. I don‘t think I ever would have run across this book if it weren‘t for the community on here, so thank you to those of you who have posted about it!
"Society does center sexuality. In the West today, sexuality is considered an essential part of identity. Sexuality is not merely what you do, it is a part of who you are, part of the truth of you."
Asexuality flips the script and shows that what people assume is "natural" or "normal" has a lot more to do with social and cultural influence than biology.
This is an excellent book. Angela Chen examines what asexuality is and is not through an intersectional lens. She explores the nuances of desire and passion and how we as a society have created a hierarchy of love, where romance is considered superior to friendship. Our culture isn't just one of compulsory heterosexuality but one of compulsory sexuality at its core.
Excited to start this book my partner gave me for Christmas! He knows me well.
I‘m trying to get back in the habit of reading nonfiction at lunch instead of shoehorning it in wherever (and, often, skipping it for a few days). Onward through ACE! I‘m only three chapters from the end now.
Today‘s lunch was the last of the fish curry. There‘s usually some broth left after the fish is gone, so I add a bit of rice to it and make it into yummy soup.
Throwback to last night, when I ate spicy egg drop soup while I read ACE. This one‘s a total #BlameItOnLitsy case, and I‘m so glad the ace community here talked it up. It‘s excellent.
September Wrapup! The best of the month were definitely Ace and Transcendent Kingdom. Good month overall. I read more than I thought I‘d be able to. 👍🏻
1. We always put out mums. Unfortunately, we weren‘t able to get out and buy any this year, but one of our friends sent us one from a florist.
2. This recent read I‘ve tagged.
3. I usually track them in my notes app on my phone, but this year I decided to track them in notebooks that I haven‘t kept up in for two months. Ugh!! Definitely back to notes in 2021!!
Thanks for the tag @Eggs 😘
I‘ll tag @RamsFan1963 @Moonprismpower and @CoffeeK8
Great new episode of The Stacks with Angela Chen, the author of ACE, a new book aaaaaall about asexuality and the conversations surrounding desire, identity, sexual attraction and relations. On the immediate TBR 👌
If you use Spotify ---> https://open.spotify.com/episode/2lyxeFupHzV8xBwBHZhHEf?si=rIevU4iWQvGFXYKuzTCnz...
I wrote a long, gushing review on Goodreads, which I can‘t possibly sum up properly here. Suffice it to say, I‘ve never felt so seen by a book—or any piece of culture or media—in my life. And the ways this book saw me, represented me, understood me, are so rare that it makes it all the more meaningful. The author did a brilliant job covering every angle, every nuance, every voice & experience. I‘m verklempt. I needed this & it delivered. 5/5 🌟
I kept waiting for my sexual attraction to awaken & I‘m just old enough that I didn‘t think to look at the internet to find answers. My sexuality & romantic orientation have never fit in a neat box and I feel if I hadn‘t waited and I had more books like this available in my formative years, I‘d have been less confused.
This is a great resource for aces, those that care about aces, and a good resource for people looking to navigate sex in general.
The disabled community has spent a long time fighting the idea that disabled people are, or should be, asexual. The ace community has struggled for as long as it has existed to prove that asexuality has nothing to do with disability. A disabled ace woman complicates both these political agendas, and it is perhaps in a situation like this that the questions of legitimacy and in-group loyalty are most acute.
These groups—women, people of color, [and] disabled people—can find it very difficult to claim asexuality because it looks so much like the product of sexism, racism, ableism, and other forms of violence. The legacy of this violence is that those who belong to a group that has been controlled must do extra work to figure out the extent to which we are *still* being controlled.
The result is that anyone who isn‘t sexual enough or sexual in the right way becomes lesser. The label of asexual should be value neutral. It should indicate little more than sexual orientation. Instead, asexual implies a slew of other, negative associations: passionless, uptight, boring, robotic, cold, prude, frigid, lacking, broken. These, especially broken, are the words aces use again and again to describe how we are perceived and made to feel
Disabled aces can have trouble fitting into either community, wondering where their disability ends and their asexuality begins, and whether finding that border should matter.
Legit almost cried when I got this. I‘d never clicked WANT TO READ on Goodreads faster than when I heard about this book earlier this year. And of course this had to be the longest damn work day ever, but now it‘s time to read and feel *seen* 🖤🤍💜
I‘m feeling very SEEN by this book. I‘m not hurrying through it, even though it‘s my last #bookspinbingo square. It‘s just been a very emotional read for me so far.
Dad, Mom, and I sat on our deck in the shade of our big maple this afternoon. Mom and Dad played on their phones while I read. Remind me who‘s older?? 💖💖🌳
I‘m super excited to read this one, out today.
Here‘s an interview with the author: https://mashable.com/article/ace-book-angela-chen/
#asexual #asexuality #acesoflitsy