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Redefining Realness
Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More | Janet Mock
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New York Times Bestseller Winner of the 2015 WOMEN'S WAY Book Prize Goodreads Best of 2014 Semi-Finalist Books for a Better Life Award Finalist Lambda Literary Award Finalist Time Magazine 30 Most Influential People on the Internet American Library Association Stonewall Honor Book In her profound and courageous New York Times bestseller, Janet Mock establishes herself as a resounding and inspirational voice for the transgender communityand anyone fighting to define themselves on their own terms. With unflinching honesty and moving prose, Janet Mock relays her experiences of growing up young, multiracial, poor, and trans in America, offering readers accessible language while imparting vital insight about the unique challenges and vulnerabilities of a marginalized and misunderstood population. Though undoubtedly an account of one womans quest for self at all costs, Redefining Realness is a powerful vision of possibility and self-realization, pushing us all toward greater acceptance of one anotherand of ourselvesshowing as never before how to be unapologetic and real.
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Macnjen
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Quick read about the author's transgender transformation. I learned a little but overall the story was a lot of what a negative childhood the author had. More science would have been interesting, and less about the background.

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Next book club book. I heard her speak at a college graduation this past December and was intrigued with her speaking style and story. I hope this is just as good.

Smrloomis I really loved this when I read it and at the time I had no idea who she was. Hope you enjoy it too. 3mo
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mirsophie
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I read this for my gender and communication class and I loved it. it opened my eyes to another part of the LGBTQ+ community. I found it not only educational but highly entertaining and inspirational as well.

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So many feelings. Her writing is amazing, her storytelling is fantastic, and it resonated so much with me. Even though so much of my life has been very different — I‘m white, afab, non-binary trans, with a different kind of family dysfunctions — I felt so seen and validated reading this book.

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klbwriting
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It took awhile to finish due to the holidays but this was an amazing read and really helps you understand what some transgender people grow up dealing with and can be helpful for those trying to learn more to understand a trans friend or family member's struggle. Highly recommend.

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This book has been on my TBR since I first saw Janet‘s interview with Oprah on Super Soul Sunday. This is my first book about a transgender person.
I listened to the audiobook version because she narrated it and I knew I would experience more listening to her speak her truth. There are trigger warnings (sexual abuse). For that reason I had to stop the audio from time to time. I am really glad that I finally read this book and highly recommend it.

Riveted_Reader_Melissa It‘s such a powerful book, and I agree I think it meant even more in audiobook in her own voice. 1y
BellaBookNook @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Definitely. She is so brave to be so open about her experience. Books can help us grow and I feel like this one did just that for me. 1y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BellaBookNook I know exactly what you mean. I love a great story, told in their own words. I think it‘s what makes readers much more compassionate and empathetic, we have lots of experience through reading putting ourselves in other people‘s shoes. 1y
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HeatherBookNerd
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Finished this one for book club this week and it‘s terrific. There are certainly some difficult things to wade through reading about her journey, but it is pretty amazing to see her personal determination to create the life she wanted. The book also highlights many of the particular difficulties faced by trans women of color and those with financial limitations.

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I finished this last night when I couldn‘t sleep.

Janet Mock has not had an easy life and I‘m so glad that she‘s had so much success now. It just makes me sadder that what‘s often considered a best case scenario/outcome is often preceded by things that are so, so difficult. Looking forward to reading her new book.

#transbooks #lgbtq

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Well that was fast. Started this audiobook yesterday and was utterly riveted. I love this memoir. I‘m discovering that, as with Born a Crime, my favorite memoirs contextualize their individual experience within a greater social or societal construct. The stories are personal, but the message is broad. At times heartbreaking, this was a beautiful story of resilience, courage, and self love. Looking forward to reading her second book. 💜💚❤️💛💙🧡

readordierachel Good to hear! I have an audio copy of this waiting to be read. 2y
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Starting this audiobook today. I like to use June as an excuse to really dive into #LGBTQ authors.

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

#pridereads

Riveted_Reader_Melissa Great book! 2y
cocomass @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I loved it! Have you read her second book? 2y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @cocomass Not yet, but I‘ll get to it.....eventually. (I know famous last book reader words) 2y
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So it‘s Pride Month! I have a rough relationship with June and a lot of Feelings. That usually equates me ignoring it all together. But this month I‘m going to try to make most of my reading LGBTQ+ related and look those feelings in the face.

It‘s amazing how different it feels reading stories you relate to without having to translate those feelings from a cis/het perspective.

#lgbtq #transbooks #pride #trans #queerbooks

lovelybookshelf I read all trans and enby authors in April, I think it was. It was so refreshing, it was actually kinda hard to start reading cishet authors again. 2y
SkeletonKey @lovelybookshelf - I can see why, it‘s pretty wonderful so far 💜 2y
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• Parents who abandon their children! 😠 •

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• Mock‘s descriptions of people are incredibly visual. Random side note: I love when physical characteristics are compared to food! Can‘t you just SEE this woman? 😆 •

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“...I couldn‘t give him me while wrapped in secrets—stories I‘ve never told. They trap you, and you become so wound up in your own story, in the pain inflicted on you in the past that you‘ve worked hard to keep at bay...that you don‘t know what to believe anymore. Most important, you lose touch with yourself: The self you know, the you deep inside, is obscured by a stack of untold stories.”

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Mock writes beautifully and descriptively...

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“My ultimate goal with Redefining Realness is to stand firmly in my truth. I believe that telling our stories, first to ourselves and then to one another and the world, is a revolutionary act. I hope that my being real with you will help empower you to step in to who you are and encourage you to share yourself with those around you. It‘s through my personal decision to be visible that I finally see myself.”

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“We need stories of hope and possibility, stories that reflect the reality of our lived experiences. When such stories exist, as writer and publisher Barbara Smith writes, “then each of us will not only know better how to live, but how to dream.“

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“Being exceptional isn‘t revolutionary, it‘s lonely. It separates you from your community. Who are you, really, without community? I have been held up consistently as a token, as the “right” kind of trans woman (educated, able-bodied, attractive, articulate, heteronormative). It promotes the delusion that because I “made it,” that level of success is easily accessible to all young trans women. Let‘s be clear: It is not.”

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ElizabethAndino
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5 stars, an incredibly inspiring story. I learned so much!

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ElizabethAndino
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Just starting to dig into this one. Memoir #4 of this year!

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Matchkim
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A great memoir to give a glimpse of what her life was/is like.

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• how do we grow as humans? by educating ourselves and opening up our minds to other experiences. I can‘t say “I understand you” until I‘ve honestly tried to listen... I‘m indulging a genuine interest in transgender identities and issues—not out of pure curiosity but also out of concern for my fellow human beings and their unique struggles. we all deserve our version of happiness. it shouldn‘t matter to society what that looks like •

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theinfophile
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Day 7 of #riotgrams is Black Authors

Janet Mock is mixed, as am I

#bookstagram #books #bookish #bookaholic #lgbtqia

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"I believe that telling our stories, first to ourselves & then to one another & the world, is a revolutionary act. It is an act that can be met with hostility, exclusion, & violence. It can also lead to love, understanding, transcendence, & community. I hope that my being real with you will help empower you to step into who you are & encourage you to share yourself with those around you."
#FierceFeb #ModernGirl
#AnticipatedNonFic
@Cinfhen @batsy

batsy 🙌 Amazing quote! 2y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa Such a great book 2y
Cinfhen Nice!! I NEED to read this memoir 2y
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batsy Same, @Cinfhen ! I think I'm gonna be saying that a lot this month :) 2y
Cinfhen Just watch your TBR EXPLODE!!!!!! @batsy 2y
readordierachel Great choice! I have this languishing in my tbr. Really need to get to it. 2y
Cathythoughts 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 2y
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RealLifeReading
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#uncannyoctober day 24: #diversenonfiction
There are plenty of nonfiction books out there that I want to read. Yet I always just automatically turn to fiction when in search of my next read. I'm going to try to read at least two of these before the year is up though! Have you read any of these books?

gossamerchild Sherman Alexie's memoir is fantastic. He's such an amazing writer. 2y
xicanti REDEFINING REALNESS is wonderful. 2y
Lacythebookworm Redefining Realness 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 2y
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BarbaraTheBibliophage Redefining Realness is the only one of these I‘ve read. Janet Mock reads the audiobook, which I really liked! 2y
ReadingEnvy Nomad is very good, and I really want to read the Alexie. 2y
moranadatter I don‘t think so, but 3 of them are on my TBR already. What‘s the book in the top left corner? 2y
emtobiasz This one (top left) is fantastic, and also super short: (edited) 2y
RealLifeReading @moranadatter aha @emtobiasz has provided the title for you! Thanks! 2y
RealLifeReading @gossamerchild I love his work! 2y
RealLifeReading @Lacythebookworm @xicanti looking forward to it! @BarbaraTheBibliophage thanks! I'll have to go see if my library has the audiobook 2y
gossamerchild @RealLifeReading this one is especially spectacular. You get poetry, prose, and wicked sense of humor. 2y
RealLifeReading @ReadingEnvy I enjoyed Infidel although I read that quite a few years ago but only just today found out she has other books! 2y
moranadatter Thanks! @emtobiasz Thanks! I‘m curious how pointillism would work outside of art. Stacked! 2y
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#5fordinner

I chose five women whose true stories have inspired and changed me. Having dinner with these women would be an amazing and empowering experience.

🔹Janet Mock
🔹Susannah Cahalan
🔹Amanda Lindhout
🔹Manal Al-Sharif
🔹Paige Rawl

Cinfhen Nice group🙌🏻 2y
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mhillis
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My #tbrbingo card in fall colors 🍁🍂
My first book will be Redefining Realness. I wanted to read it when it was a choice for @LitsyFeministBookClub but I've just been able to get a copy.

WhatDeeReads I'm in love with Janet Mock, 2y
kathedron Hello! Rather later than I intended (sorry!) there's now a penpal letter on the way to you. 📝 2y
mhillis @River_Voice Thank you so much! I'll be looking for it📮 2y
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mhillis @WhatDeeReads Yes! So glad to have heard about this book on Litsy📚 2y
ChloeTallis Some great choices! @mhillis 2y
mhillis Thanks! A lot of them were kindle daily deals @ChloeTallis 2y
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Thank you @Alicia - this has been on my TBR forever!!

Alicia Omg yay!!! I was so worried you already had it... ❤️❤️❤️📚📚 I love having Pen Pals to share my books with!! 2y
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Christine
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Wow. What a writer she is! I have admired her presence in various media and am really enjoying her new podcast, so it was high time I read her first book. She writes so beautifully and has an incredible level of insight about her experiences and identity. Her audiobook narration is also excellent. 🏳️‍🌈

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#readingwomenmonth prompt #womenofcolor and #riotgrams prompt #booksthatmadeyoucry collide! It's been a while since I read a memoir, and I'm so glad I picked this one up. She speaks so candidly and thoughtfully about the hardships she's faced, always pausing to explain what they've taught her and the things she's learned since: she's kind with the way she educates her audience. I admire her more with every page, she's a wonderful role model.

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Ok, I had to add another here since I don't see her represented in #attractiveauthors, and how freaking adorable is Janet Mock? I haven't read either of her books yet, but I have this one and look forward to it. #junebookbugs

EvieBee She is!! 3y
MicheleinPhilly She's gorgeous and her book is SOOOO good! 3y
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Kerry Washington (💞), Cecile Richards (Planned Parenthood), Janet Mock & Tamron Hall on sparking a movement. #Redefinepower #ForbesWomensSummit

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JackOBotts
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I purchased Redefining Realness years ago, and it sat on my bookshelf patiently awaiting selection. Janet Mock shares her journey to become her true self. I'm so glad I finally read this, and I look forward to sharing it with others (and to reading her new book, as well)!

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Books are majestic!

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So glad to finally sit down with this memoir.

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Saturday night.

OSChamberlain Great tats! 3y
moarbookspleaze @OSChamberlain Thanks! They are my kitties names. 3y
OSChamberlain Even better 🖤 3y
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She was so sweet and so beautiful I'm dying.

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At the time this came out, it was one of only a few books from a major press written by a trans person about, well, what it's like to grow up trans in America. YES, we WANT books about trans women WRITTEN BY trans women--we really do!! There's no universal trans experience, which is why we need a multitude of stories, nonfiction & novels-thank you, Janet Mock, for setting the trail aflame for trans authors with your MOST EXCELLENT book. - Louise

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I loved Redefining Realness and can't wait to read Mock's next book! #LGBTQauthors #junebookbugs

CPhelps I'm so excited!! 3y
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Starting my work book club book.

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kissxxmyxxconverse
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This is an important book. It's not the best written, but it also doesn't just tell her story-it explains a little bit about the broader implications and consequences of different concepts. She's also very up front about her past, and relationships with her family. For sure glad I read this.

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Redefining Realness Discussion Question #6: What are your overall thoughts on this book? Did you like it, and if so would you recommend it? To whom would you recommend it?

8little_paws This is an all time favorite memoir of mine and I recommend it every chance I get 3y
kiminreverse Memoirs are my favorite genre, so I read a ton of them. I really loved this one and thought it was so well done in the way she wove her personal history and story with an awareness of intersectional issues. I'd definitely recommend it to people who need a specific human story to empathize with and understand a larger cultural issue. 3y
FairyHighRoad I absolutely loved this book. I would recommend it to people who are already supportive of the transgender community and those who might need to understand it better. (edited) 3y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa I really enjoyed this book, I listened to it on audio, which was read by the author, and was riveted by her story. I'd definitely recommend it, and have already. I usually recommend it to people that I think might be responsive to opening their reading horizons a bit, or just people that I think would like it. 3y
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Redefining Realness Discussion Question #5: Sex work is stigmatized in our society and yet in her memoir Mock talks about her time working in the sex industry. How do you feel her thoughts on sex workers can change the narrative?

TheNextBook I was shocked when I realized she had been a sex worker. Living on Oahu for five years, I knew that there were Mahus and prostitutes because they were prevalent in certain areas. Hearing a first hand account of that experience was very eye-opening. She was so upfront about the decisions she made and why. The conversations need to be had around why someone engages in sex work and why we perceive it so negatively. A lot of that stems from the way... 3y
TheNextBook ...we look and talk about sex in general. It's not something that is openly discussed in American culture at least not based on my own experience. And when people still have problems with women being sex positive and enjoying sex, it's harder to have a conversation about women becoming sex workers. 3y
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tea.n.books It's the way in which she talks about the sex work that helps change the narrative. She.. regrets is too strong of a word for it, but her sex work clearly wasn't a positive experience for her and wishes she (nor anyone else) had to "stoop" to sex work. Yet she still talks about it with grace and a sense of empathy for women who do sex work and are unable to be free of it as easily as she was. There is no judgement in her work... 3y
tea.n.books There's a quote I liked that I thought was particularly poignant: "I made the decision to engage in the sex trade full-time on Merchant Street...Many people believe trans women choose to engage in the sex trade rather than get a /real/ job. That belief is misguided because sex work /is/ work, and it's often the /only/ work available to marginalized women. Though we act as individuals, we can't remove ourselves from the framework of society." 3y
TheNextBook @tea.n.books very well said! 3y
FairyHighRoad Mock's description of sex workers really drives home the point that no one should ever judge a person who has done or is doing sex work. No one truly knows what another person is going through until you're in their shoes. Instead of judgment, we should offer help and compassion. 3y
kiminreverse Yes! There's so much judgment around sex work due to a combination of morality policing regarding sexuality and also the deep rooted misogyny in our culture. 3y
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LitsyFeministBookClub
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Here is some additional content that we would like to share with everyone. This article was published by Mock earlier this year and is both very interesting and enlightening. We hope you enjoy.
📎https://mobile.nytimes.com/2017/02/23/opinion/janet-mock-young-people-get-trans-rights-its-adults-who-dont.html

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