Home Feed
Home
Search
Search
Add Review, Blurb, Quote
Add
Activity
Activity
Profile
Profile
American Girls
American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers | Nancy Jo Sales
Instagram. Whisper. Yik Yak. Vine. YouTube. Kik. Ask.fm. Tinder. The dominant force in the lives of girls coming of age in America today is social media. What it is doing to an entire generation of young women is the subject of award-winning Vanity Fair writer Nancy Jo Sales’s riveting and explosive American Girls. With extraordinary intimacy and precision, Sales captures what it feels like to be a girl in America today. From Montclair to Manhattan and Los Angeles, from Florida and Arizona to Texas and Kentucky, Sales crisscrossed the country, speaking to more than two hundred girls, ages thirteen to nineteen, and documenting a massive change in the way girls are growing up, a phenomenon that transcends race, geography, and household income. American Girls provides a disturbing portrait of the end of childhood as we know it and of the inexorable and ubiquitous experience of a new kind of adolescence—one dominated by new social and sexual norms, where a girl’s first crushes and experiences of longing and romance occur in an accelerated electronic environment; where issues of identity and self-esteem are magnified and transformed by social platforms that provide instantaneous judgment. What does it mean to be a girl in America in 2016? It means coming of age online in a hypersexualized culture that has normalized extreme behavior, from pornography to the casual exchange of nude photographs; a culture rife with a virulent new strain of sexism and a sometimes self-undermining notion of feminist empowerment; a culture in which teenagers are spending so much time on technology and social media that they are not developing basic communication skills. From beauty gurus to slut-shaming to a disconcerting trend of exhibitionism, Nancy Jo Sales provides a shocking window into the troubling world of today’s teenage girls. Provocative and urgent, American Girls is destined to ignite a much-needed conversation about how we can help our daughters and sons negotiate unprecedented new challenges. From the Hardcover edition.
Amazon Indiebound Barnes and Noble WorldCat Goodreads LibraryThing
review
gradcat
post image
Panpan

#Booked2019 (Spring—Social Media Focus)

While I wouldn‘t recommend this book (unless you‘re a helicopter parent with a lot of time on your hands), I did learn a lot from it (thot, thighbrow, finsta, OTP, anyone?). Seriously, though, the book is long on anecdote and short on analysis, so that the reader gets quite bogged down in the pages & pages of interviews, which are often repetitive, and to my mind, not reflective of society. Most of Sales‘⬇️

gradcat ⬆️ interviewees (with, literally, a handful of exceptions) are white, upper-class girls with both parents living at home. Plus, it‘s hard to believe that all teenagers are carrying on in this way (sending nudes, having random sex, watching porn constantly). So much of this stuff makes me sorry for girls today, but not shocked. I‘m no innocent, and I taught school until a few years ago. But I am sorry. Some things haven‘t changed since I was a ⬇️ (edited) 1mo
gradcat ⬆️ girl (slut-shaming, whore/virgin dichotomy, guys‘ fear of female intelligence), but in other ways, these girls are quite a bit more sophisticated, and thus I have hopes for continued progress. This book was written pre-#metoo (even though that movement mostly applies to women in the workplace), so maybe things will get better (and louder) in the feminist public square, and young girls will not feel forced to do anything they don‘t want to do. 1mo
Cinfhen Great review. I worry for young girls today 🙁 1mo
See All 8 Comments
gradcat @Cinfhen That book would defo make you worry! Thanks for commenting!! And for emailing! ♥️ 1mo
4thhouseontheleft I often find books like this to be short on analysis, which is frustrating. Great review! 1mo
gradcat @4thhouseontheleft Thanks for commenting...kind of silly that I wrote such a long review for that kind of frustrating book, isn‘t it? 😂 1mo
4thhouseontheleft No, not at all! I think some of my longest reviews are for books I don‘t like. And as a parent of a girl heading to middle school next year, your review was helpful! 1mo
gradcat @4thhouseontheleft Thank you 😉 1mo
83 likes1 stack add8 comments
blurb
gradcat
post image

1. Bewitched 📺
2. To move to the UK 🇬🇧
3. I‘m sort of following the prompts from #Booked2019 + the odd book that I just have to read RIGHT THIS INSTANT! 📖
4. Salman Rushdie‘s “The Satanic Verses.” It arrived with such baggage, that I figured it would be a big letdown. It wasn‘t. And Rushdie has never let me down since. 📚
5. Do you live in your hometown? Or did you leave, vowing never, ever to return?
@Crazeedi @EadieB
#FriyayIntro

Velvetfur I don't live in my home town, but am planning to return, and then I'll probably be off again a few years after that, as I so often have done 😂 2mo
Velvetfur Oh and I know exactly what you mean about when you just have to read it right now! I'm like that when I finally find a book that I'd wanted for ages and it was hard to find, is it like that for you too? 2mo
Addison_Reads I left my hometown and try to only return a few times a year to see family. I loved growing up in a small town, but I have no desire to move back there. 2mo
See All 28 Comments
Nessavamusic I left my hometown and so did all of my family so I never get back 2mo
TheSpineView It's been years since I made it back to my home town. All the family has moved away so no reason to go. 2mo
TheLibrarian I left but go back to visit family. My hometown kinda sucks so I wouldn‘t want to live there again. 2mo
Crazeedi Thanks for tag! I left my hometown at 17, then came back to a town 1/2 hr from where I grew up. 2mo
CouronneDhiver It‘s planning a move to UK in a few years too. 👍🏽 2mo
gradcat @Velvetfur Or when something new comes out, and all of the sudden everyone is raving about it—yes! I, too, moved home and away, home and away, & home and away....guess there‘s always something that pulls you back like gravity pulls you down! 😂 2mo
AsYouWish Yes I live in my hometown. 2mo
gradcat @CouronneDhiver Really! Wow...I don‘t know anyone else who is doing that...I‘m excited to know someone else with the same interest in the UK that I have...we‘ll have to get together over there...😂😂😂 2mo
gradcat @Addison_Reads @Nessavamusic @TheSpineView @TheLibrarian @Crazeedi @AsYouWish I‘ve moved away so many times, only to return. Now I‘m back since (before) my father died, living with my mom (my best friend). But the weather kills me, so we‘re moving as soon as we can get it together. I need low humidity & cool weather & four seasons (not asking for much, am I?)! 😂😂😂 2mo
Velvetfur @gradcat I like your comparison with gravity, that's cool and makes sense to 😁 2mo
paulfrankspencer Still in PGH, PA... too much family to justify leaving without a very good reason. 2mo
xxjenadanxx I don‘t feel like I have a hometown, although the town I live in now feels like home. 2mo
Megabooks Left for 20 years, back now, so both! 2mo
gradcat @Velvetfur Thank you...you are the nicest person...you must have loads of people around who love you...at least, to me it seems that way. Hope you are doing well. 🥰❤️😊 2mo
gradcat @paulfrankspencer If I lived in Pittsburgh (is that PGH?), I would stay, too. It seems like a nice city with a lot to offer its residents. 👍 2mo
gradcat @Megabooks You sound like me...but I want to leave again!! 😂😂 2mo
gradcat @xxjenadanxx Where are you making your home at the moment? 2mo
paulfrankspencer @gradcat that's right. It's really improved in my lifetime I would say. Great place to live or visit. 2mo
Velvetfur @gradcat Aaww thank you Minette! Nah everyone I'm close to lives far away from me, although I have a close friend kinda nearby and I've finally made a good friend in this city after living here for two years, ha! 2mo
tracey38 I've moved away a few times but have kept coming back. 2mo
gradcat @tracey38 Seem to be a lot of us doing that same thing! 😂 2mo
gradcat @Velvetfur Good for you! Sometimes it just takes time. 🥰 2mo
gradcat @paulfrankspencer I was last there in the early 90s... I bet it‘s changed loads since then! 2mo
xxjenadanxx @gradcat Pensacola, Florida. My favorite place I‘ve lived! 2mo
gradcat @xxjenadanxx Pensacola was Spring Break destination number 1 for me back in high school! I loved it and I thought it was very beautiful & temperate climate-wise. I wouldn‘t know what it‘s like during the off-season, though...but I‘m glad you like it! 👍 2mo
65 likes28 comments
review
msubhasi76
Pickpick

Eye opening.

review
Megabooks
post image
Pickpick

It has to be hard to raise a teenage girl. This book shines a light on the stress social media places on girls 13-19. I just can‘t believe how much has changed in the 20 years since I was a teen.

She has a chapter for each age, and in each chapter she focuses on a particular problem. For example at age 13, she devoted space to sending nude photos. At 18, it was girls who were checking out of social media.

Very fascinating. 4.5⭐️ #nonfiction2018

CouronneDhiver Crazy! 😐 10mo
merelybookish I have a 12 year-old girl. 😬 10mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa This one has been on my to read list for awhile, just an interesting and really scary in many ways subject 10mo
See All 16 Comments
Zelma I am soooooo glad social media didn‘t exist when I was a teenager or in college. I shudder to think what I would have posted or been tagged in. 😬 10mo
Megabooks @merelybookish I‘m not a parent, but she makes some good points about things girls are exposed to and challenges they face in middle and high school and on into college. May be worth a read. 10mo
Megabooks @Riveted_Reader_Melissa It is scary! Young girls are so sexualized these days. It‘s s real eye opener! 10mo
Megabooks @Zelma Right?!? It just seems so much more scary now! 10mo
MelissaS I‘m a mom of boys and want to read this to see how I can assure that they don‘t feed the monsters these girls deal with! 10mo
Megabooks @MelissaS There is definitely some attention paid to boys in this book. I hope you find it helpful. 10mo
SandyW Sounds intriguing, and will probably add to my pile of reasons why I'm glad I'm not a parent! 10mo
taraWritesSci Boy do I need this book. 15 year old daughter is intense to navigate around. I seriously have no idea if I'm doing anything right. Adding this to the TBR 10mo
Megabooks @SandyW Tell me about it! It‘s something I don‘t plan on doing! 10mo
Megabooks @taraWritesSci Good luck! I have a lot of respect for parents of teens. I hope you find it helpful! 10mo
Chrissyreadit The pressure of social media on teens has been exhausting- but on the other hand the outreach and support with social justice has been amazing. My daughter has had some outstanding social media interactions as well as some terrible ones. How do we help them balance? 10mo
Megabooks @Chrissyreadit Yes, she talked about how it has been powerful in connecting people for good. She interviewed a girl active in the Black Lives Matter movement. But for every one of those, there‘s at least a couple of dick pics or unsolicited, unwanted attention or harassment. That‘s just really unfortunate. 10mo
99 likes9 stack adds16 comments
blurb
MelanieMefford
post image

If you have a pre/teen daughter, this is a must read. I'm taking mine into the deep woods without internet access. It's disturbing. 😞😳

quote
ceathorne
post image

"What do we mean when we talk about the culture of social media? I think it's important to talk about it, because, for most American girls, social media is where they live."

1 like1 stack add
blurb
Darthdad
post image

The most frightening book I saw in the library today. My daughter will be 13 next year!

Riveted_Reader_Melissa I have this one on hold at the library. It can't be worse than what I learned in Girls & Sex, right? 3y
britt_brooke 😂😳 3y
17 likes3 stack adds2 comments
review
KatyAliceReads
Bailedbailed

I bailed on this book for two reasons.
1. It turns out I'm not a fan of Nancy Jo Sales authorial voice (a little wandery and second-wave judgmental)
2. This one is shockingly similar to Peggy Orenstein's 'Girls & Sex' which I read two weeks ago, only it lacks the clarity and structure.

I may come back to it someday... But for now life's too short.

quote
KatyAliceReads
post image

So inspiring...

Megabooks Lol (not really) 😱😱😱 3y
6 likes1 stack add1 comment
quote
KatyAliceReads
post image

This is what future historians/alien invaders will ask someday...

OSChamberlain I'm crying 😂😂😂 3y
Well-ReadNeck I'm asking that now‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️ 3y
QuoteQueen Bahahahaha 3y
CharissaWeaksAuthor BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA 😂😂😂😂 3y
Megabooks Definitely!! 3y
14 likes5 comments
quote
KatyAliceReads
post image

This reading list keeps delivering heavy blows to my soul...

review
DrewRomero
Pickpick

This was a fascinating read and a frightening insight into the world of young girls having to grow up in a social media-saturated culture. I would recommend this book to parents with girls at home, and for young women. It will make you think twice before you purchase a smart phone, or give permission for unfettered social media access. Easy-read and engrossing subject!

quote
DrewRomero
post image

"Social media has given parenting a whole new dimension, and it has provided a publishing tool for parenting as performance."

MrBook Used to live next to Upper Montclair. 😊 3y
BookBabe And I've spent many of my waking days there. @MrBook 3y
7 likes2 comments
quote
DrewRomero
post image

Americans and technology at their worst. Ugh. How are my girls ever supposed to have a chance?

BookBabe Yikes. 😳 3y
8 likes1 comment
blurb
DrewRomero
post image

I just love deckle-edged books. I know some might find it annoying - but I'm crazy about them!

BookBabe Me too! 😊 3y
5 likes1 comment
blurb
DrewRomero
post image

Okay. Cracking the book in this one! It looks terribly, frighteningly interesting.

quote
RachelWeber
post image

14 likes1 stack add
review
HBug-Allen
Pickpick

I learned so much from this book! Is my generation that different from the current social media obsessed generation? Yes, no, maybe? You read and decide. Either way, I guarantee you'll learn the new meaning of thirsty.

blurb
MaryAnn1
post image

I am the mother of a tween. I'm preparing myself for the teenage years. I'll never be completely ready.

Louise Courage, MaryAnn! Courage! 💕 3y
Beckys_Books I have a 16 yr old daughter and now know why some animals in the wild eat their young. 3y
Sue @Beckys_Books Lol!! My daughter is nearly 14 and so far so good - still more interested in tea and books than boys. I'm sure the day will come though. 3y
See All 8 Comments
SusanInTiburon I got through my teens' years by remembering them as toddlers. Same struggles: so much they're trying to master, so much to say, but still lacking skills and language to do it all. Same solutions: respect for their struggles, unconditional love, and plenty of mac and cheese. 💖💖 3y
Vanessa My little one is eight. My commands to stop growing go largely ignored, so I cuddle her as much as I can and try not to worry about the years ahead. 😬 3y
MaryAnn1 @Vanessa I'm right there with ya. In a perfect world my son would be perpetually 5 and my daughter 4. 😕 3y
queerbookreader I just got out of my teens, officially. The best thing you can do for your teen daughter is to know when to be a mom, when to be a friend, and when to let her do her own thing &make her own mistakes. Don't yell at her too much. Hug her often. Don't just tell her you support her--show w your actions. 3y
MaryAnn1 @lemonlime799, you are so wise. Thanks for the reminder. I so want to do everything right for her. 3y
28 likes9 stack adds8 comments
blurb
alimarks
post image

Memorial Day weekend-ing with the guys.

quote
HBug-Allen
post image

I'm enjoying this book immensely. A lot of thought provoking and timely topics.

blurb
HBug-Allen
post image

When a person asks you to "SEND NOODZ", does that mean they think you're attractive?

blurb
alimarks
post image
blurb
HBug-Allen
post image

Just finished the Price of Salt and started my new book only to find...

blurb
alimarks
post image

This culture of scarcity shit freaks me the fuck out. And I do an awful job of modeling body positivity and the "enough" mindset for my freshmen girls. Sigh. #teacherproblems #fuckedupagain

HBug-Allen At least you're trying, buddy. I am sure you are reaching out to more young girls than you think. I admire your work! 😘 3y
2 likes1 comment
review
lowellette
post image
Pickpick

While this isn't shocking, I haven't considered how complicated it is for teens to navigate their social world with social media. Catfishing, nude requests from boys, trust issues, constant body comparisons, & cyber bullying are discussed. This esp does not paint American boys in a good light.

2 likes1 stack add