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The Course of Love
The Course of Love: A Novel | Alain de Botton
The long-awaited and beguiling second novel from Alain de Botton that tracks the beautifully complicated arc of a romantic partnership, from the internationally bestselling author of On Love and How Proust Can Change Your Life. We all know the headiness and excitement of the early days of love. But what comes after? In Edinburgh, a couple, Rabih and Kirsten, fall in love. They get married, they have childrenbut no long-term relationship is as simple as happily ever after. The Course of Love is a novel that explores what happens after the birth of love, what it takes to maintain love, and what happens to our original ideals under the pressures of an average existence. You experience, along with Rabih and Kirsten, the first flush of infatuation, the effortlessness of falling into romantic love, and the course of life thereafter. Interwoven with their story and its challenges is an overlay of philosophyan annotation and a guide to what we are reading. This is a Romantic novel in the true sense, one interested in exploring how love can survive and thrive in the long term. The result is a sensory experiencefictional, philosophical, psychologicalthat urges us to identify deeply with these characters, and to reflect on his and her own experiences in love. Fresh, visceral, and utterly compelling, The Course of Love is a provocative and life-affirming novel for everyone who believes in love.
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amber_ldsmom
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Day 15: #newtoyouauthor #auldlangreads Never read anything by this author, and this book was given to me. I did find a quote by this author that I loved, so I‘ll be reading this one sometime soon.

OriginalCyn620 Love the cover! 1mo
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I love the cover!! 1mo
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Moray_Reads
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There's no such thing as #unconditionallove in Alain de Botton's brilliant meditation on love an marriage. #NoFemmeBer @Cinfhen @Billypar

jenniferw88 Hi Moray, can you please check your porch/drive/wherever your post is left - i sent your #ConanDoyleSwap on Thursday first class so it should have arrived by now! 1y
Billypar Love the quote! It's kind of a dilemma as a reader- on the one hand, I know it would be great to have more stories that focus on marriages and long-term relationships in a realistic way. But if I'm choosing a book to read now, I'm likely to pick something else 🤷 Guess I need to try and resist that impulse more because this one sounds really good. 1y
Cinfhen So much truth!!! 1y
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Moray_Reads @jenniferw88 it arrived this morning! Thank you so much, sorry I forgot to post x 1y
Moray_Reads @Billypar I really recommend this one, it's just brilliantly done and so insightful but it does bring up all the emotions! 1y
jenniferw88 @Moray_Reads thanks, just wanted to make sure after the first attempt at sending! 😊😂 1y
thewallflower0707 Hello, did you get my e-Mail? 1y
Moray_Reads @thewallflower0707 oh wait, yes! Sorry, for some reason it went through to my spam folder! I will treat and reply imminently 😊 1y
thewallflower0707 @Moray_Reads okay, can you contact me? I have a question about the Blind Date Books Swap. 1y
Moray_Reads @thewallflower0707 your #blinddatebookswap package is on its way to you! 1y
thewallflower0707 @Moray_Reads wow you are fast! I‘m afraid I‘m still working on filling yours 😊 1y
Moray_Reads @thewallflower0707 I'm not usually do I made a special effort 😂 1y
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Moray_Reads
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SilversReviews Wow on 33 books...that is amazing. 1y
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Becker
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This was essentially a manual about long term relationships camouflaged as a fictional story about a couple. It covers the relationship of Rabih and Kirsten from when they first meet and follows the ups and downs of their marriage for many years. I think most people will see themselves in at least some aspect of this book, but whether that makes you laugh or cringe is unpredictable. 😆

Kalalalatja Great cover! 1y
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Moray_Reads
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Astonishing. De Botton's intimate, forensic (de)construction of his characters' relationship is one of the most clear-sighted, honest investigation of marriage I've ever read. It's half love story half how-to manual and while it focuses on marriage it has so many insights valuable to all relationships. I definitely recognised patterns and mistakes I've made with friends and family. I was rooting for Rabih and Kirsten with everything in me.

Jee_HookedOnBookz Love this book too! 1y
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Moray_Reads
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An interesting and unexpected confluence of ideas from two recent reads. The to write is from the tagged book and the bottom is from Smoke Gets in your Eyes by Caitlin Doughty

jmofo I love it when this happens. I can‘t wait to read When Smoke Gets in Your Eyes! (Also, I love when you never properly get mad at the world for reading a book that you probably should have just put down, but, no, everyone loves it so you should at least finish it but the next book you pick up from your tbr is very interesting and fun to read.) 1y
ImpliedNonsense I love that last phrase: “...someone to distract us from the fact of our animal existence.” 1y
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GatheringBooks
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#HeatOfJuly Day 15: This is a #CrazyInLove book which, accdg to Iphigene in her review of the book, alternates between a story of love and marriage and a commentary, that reads like a “how to” in love. It is sobering, it‘s the splash of reality to our romance-drunk notions of love, something we all need. - Full review here: https://wp.me/pDlzr-hex - still unable to tag hosts!! 😭😭

Cinfhen Same!!!! Not able to tag anyone either!!! What‘s going on!?!?!! 2y
CarolynM I'm having that problem too! 2y
TrishB Same! 2y
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deathmetalcardigan
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the rule-breaking scenarios[...]--all offer opportunities to investigate wishes that are far from being simply peculiar, pointless, or slightly demented. They offer brief utopian interludes in which we can, with a rare and real friend, safely cast off our normal defenses and share and satisfy our longings for extreme closeness and mutual acceptance--which are the real psychologically rooted reasons why games are, in the end, so exciting.

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ComradeMao
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Some exquisite passages from the book.

rightasrain13 I have rarely seen the miracle of our existence so beautifully written... Wow! 2y
ComradeMao @rightasrain13 This is just one of the many beautifully written passages in the book. 2y
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ComradeMao
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Been a while since I posted! Book 26 for the year.

Suet624 Wow! It‘s been a year???? 2y
ComradeMao @Suet624 Exactly! 😥😥😥hahhaa 2y
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ARoseByAnyOtherName
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Sunshine and gelato and a noisy playground and my favourite book 😍 appropriately reminding us to be as kind to the hearts of adults are we are to the hearts of children

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ARoseByAnyOtherName
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Chocolate hearts and a book about love. Perfection.
This book is so profound. It is not long but I am taking forever to read it. Digesting every word. Contemplating every page. No book has affected me so much before.
I think this book is THE ONE 😍

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ARoseByAnyOtherName
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I ❤️️❤️️❤️️ EVERY PAGE OF THIS BOOK..... It speaks such profound truth

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ARoseByAnyOtherName
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Sunday afternoon in Spring drinking chinotto and reading about love in an old wooden cinema in zurich .... #imahopelessromantic #butofcourse . I love this book from the first chapter.

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ARoseByAnyOtherName
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Let's see if I can learn a thing or two........😆🙈

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erzascarletbookgasm
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What comes after ‘I do‘? A married couple finds that the demands and stresses of everyday life...work, domestic chores, financial worries, raising children..have made them irritable and argumentative. This book offers a glimpse into the essential truths about the nature of love.
#thetruthaboutlove #tuneintonivember

Cinfhen 👍🏻 sounds good and certainly #thetruthaboutlove 2y
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sundriedkaraoke
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So I think I'm bailing on this month's book club pick, 'The Course of Love'. 90-odd pages in and it's fine enough (de Botton's writing is quite lovely at times), but I just don't care enough about what happens to these characters. #alaindebotton #thecourseoflove #bookclub #abandoned

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Beckys_Books
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I started this book before our move over Labor Day weekend and now I can't find it! I thought it was in a bag of personal items we moved ourselves but I'm afraid it's in a random box of stuff that I won't find for years. I was really enjoying this book, too. 😓

Libby1 Oh no! I hope you'll find it soon! 2y
DivineDiana It will show up when you least expect it! 😉 2y
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WordsandNerds
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I loved loved loved this book! Part fiction part philosophical essay this book has so many truths I had to put it down and breathe a number of times because I thought de Botton was inside my head or had Big Brother cameras in my house! If you've ever loved, or are in love, or plan to love this book is for you. Insightful, beautiful, honest and terrifying. The Course of Love is a must read 📚

Sace Love him! I haven't read this one but I've read How Proust Can Change Your Life and Consolations of Philosophy. 2y
Bookcation74 This one has been sitting on my bookshelf for way too long! Must move it up the TBR list! 2y
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LaurenSovarabia
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I am reading this to my husband. Quite lovely.

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halfdesertedstreets
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What can I say about this book? I am in raptures. I love it so much that I'm giving it five stars even though I fundamentally disagree with de Botton's stance on sex and fidelity. He'd say that was romanticism; I'd say it was my Judeo-Christian worldview. We'd chuckle and clink our champagne flutes together and agree to disagree in the lightest of ways.

Yes, I love this book and its earthy, funny, warm wisdom.

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halfdesertedstreets
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"The love of flowers is a consequence of modesty and an accomodation with disappointment. Some things need to go permanently wrong before we can start to admire the stem of a rose or the petals of a bluebell. But once we realise that the larger dreams are always compromised in some way, with what gratitude we may turn to these minuscule islands of serene perfection and delight."

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BamBamSushi
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This book was beautiful, intelligent, moving and life changing. This is the story of love that is rarely told, after the first kiss, after the proposal, afterthe wedding. I firmly believe reading this with an open mind and open heart could save a marriage. I will reread this over and over again.

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BamBamSushi
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I am looking for more books like this that explore love and marriage after the "honeymoon" is over. Any suggestions?

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Fernoppy
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"Whereas we can say something sensible and polite to any stranger, it is only in the presence of the lover we wholeheartedly believe in that we can dare to be extravagantly and boundlessly unreasonable." So much of this book is speaking to me ... not quite sure what that says about me ?

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Fernoppy
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"We don't need to be constantly reasonable in order to have good relationships; all we need to have mastered is the occasional capacity to acknowledge with good grace that we may, in one or two areas, be somewhat insane."

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amvs1111
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An engrossing look at how relationships, and we who are in them for years, evolve. I adored the accurate explorations of psychological theories sprinkled through this novel of one couple's journey past initial infatuation. Beautiful. (Also, shameless share of my grandparents who weathered so many decades together.)

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amvs1111
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Beautiful read on the hammock following a breezy nap.

JazzFeathers So envious. I'm at work and l'm melting 😵 3y
amvs1111 @JazzFeathers I hope a hammock and a book is in your near future! 3y
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CogsOfEncouragement
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After finishing a long series and enjoying a cozy, I'm ready to dig in.

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ThirdCoastReader
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We don't need to be constantly reasonable in order to have good relationships; all we need to have mastered is the occasional capacity to acknowledge with good grace that we may, in one or two areas, be somewhat insane.

Fernoppy Four months later, this is exactly the quote I chose to share as well! 3y
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This is probably best read by people who have been in (or are currently in) long term relationships but even with that resonance I skimmed the italicized lectures on relationship theory. A pick, for the right audience. #readathon #24in48 @24in48

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Interesting take on what makes a good communicator. Never thought of it this way.

#alaindebotton

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Been rocking with a 39c/102f fever, so glad to be out of the house for the first time in four days. Eyes open and reading!

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The quotables in this book are on every page!

#alaindebotton #bookclub

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TheLondonBookworm 💙💙💙💙💙 3y
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The new read for book club. Loving the cover art and ready for the next bookish adventure!

BooksForEmpathy We read this for book club too! One of our best discussions... definitely had a major impact! 3y
[DELETED] 2678557665 @BooksForEmpathy very excited to read and discuss. Seems very interesting. 3y
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giveitupforlentmom
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So beautiful prob my favorite passage

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giveitupforlentmom
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I'm pretty sure he's not being funny bc he's discussing an affair, but I laughed out loud!

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giveitupforlentmom
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LOL So true!!! I must send this to my husband!

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giveitupforlentmom
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This book is like a fine wine.

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giveitupforlentmom
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What's beautiful way to describe the monotony of married life. A smaller sieve to catch grains of interest.

Sapphire This is on my litsy a to z challenge list. Looking forward to it. 3y
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giveitupforlentmom
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True definition??

LauraBeth I got married when I was 31 and I can safely say I definitely knew who I was 😀 3y
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giveitupforlentmom
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That there is no one more likely to destroy us than the person we marry.

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giveitupforlentmom
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Omg truth! If only my heart and soul would bend to it!

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giveitupforlentmom
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That'll get you standing straight.