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No Visible Bruises
No Visible Bruises: What We Dont Know About Domestic Violence Can Kill Us | Rachel Louise Snyder
A seminal and breathtaking account of why home is the most dangerous place to be a woman . . . A tour de force. -Eve Ensler "Terrifying, courageous reportage from our internal war zone, a fair and balanced telling of an unfair and unbalanced crisis in American family life." -Andrew Solomon, National Book Award-winning, bestselling author of The Noonday Demon, Far From the Tree, and Far and Away Gut-wrenching, required reading.-Esquire An award-winning journalist's intimate investigation of the true scope of domestic violence, revealing how the roots of America's most pressing social crises are buried in abuse that happens behind closed doors. We call it domestic violence. We call it private violence. Sometimes we call it intimate terrorism. But whatever we call it, we generally do not believe it has anything at all to do with us, despite the World Health Organization deeming it a global epidemic. In America, domestic violence accounts for 15 percent of all violent crime, and yet it remains locked in silence, even as its tendrils reach unseen into so many of our most pressing national issues, from our economy to our education system, from mass shootings to mass incarceration to #MeToo. We still have not taken the true measure of this problem. In No Visible Bruises, journalist Rachel Louise Snyder gives context for what we don't know we're seeing. She frames this urgent and immersive account of the scale of domestic violence in our country around key stories that explode the common myths-that if things were bad enough, victims would just leave; that a violent person cannot become nonviolent; that shelter is an adequate response; and most insidiously that violence inside the home is a private matter, sealed from the public sphere and disconnected from other forms of violence. Through the stories of victims, perpetrators, law enforcement, and reform movements from across the country, Snyder explores the real roots of private violence, its far-reaching consequences for society, and what it will take to truly address it.
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It took me a couple weeks to read this. I absolutely believe everyone should read this. We‘re all touched by domestic violence somewhere in our lives. Such heavy subject matter but necessary to read. It tried to tackle questions such as why do victims side with their abusers? Why don‘t they leave? Can abusive partners change?

guinsgirlreads This one‘s taking me awhile to read too, but so far from what I have read, I believe the same! Everyone should read this book. Great review! 👍🏻 3mo
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In a study released in October 2018, the researcher April Zeoli looked at states where anyone served with a restraining order is automatically required to relinquish guns, and found there was a 12% drop in intimate partner homicides, yet only fifteen states required that guns in such instances be turned in.

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Nonfiction time #amreading

Slajaunie I could never read this book. Good for you! 4mo
guinsgirlreads @Slajaunie It is a tough one at times, but she‘s relaying a good message. 4mo
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Chrissyreadit Yes. 4mo
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Lcsmcat So is your opinion changing as you read more of this? 4mo
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What do you do if a bear is coming at you? Do you rear up and scream to make yourself big or do you play dead? You certainly don't sit and consider the wildlife protection services that might be available to you if the bear would only give you a little time to gather yourself together. And there's this: the bear isn't just coming at you. It's coming at your children.
Victims stay because they know that any sudden move will provoke the bear.

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Over and over I asked, during the years I was researching this book, whether a violent man could be taught to be nonviolent. The answers almost always fell along these lines: police officers and advocates said no, victims said they hope so, and violent men said yes. This last response felt less to me like a theory and more like an expression of their willingness.

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I have to believe if the tables were turned--if women were beating and killing men in such vast numbers--fifty women a month in the United States are killed by their intimate partners using guns alone--the problem would be on the front page of every newspaper in this country. Vast pools of funding would surface for researchers to figure out what's wrong with women today.

megnews Really? I think our soundbyte society is so desensitized to violence of all kinds against everyone. 4mo
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I hate this argument. First of all, animals have no voice. Second, we don't dump women in homeless shelters and then murder them within 48 hours if we can't find them a home. I'll bail on this book if she continues to prove that she doesn't know how to think.

Floresj Stick with it....it has some flawed parts, yes, but overall a very thought provoking book! 4mo
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I started reading this book because I work with children and I thought this might give me some context for what some of them unfortunately go through and witness. This book does a whole lot more than give a little context. Everyone should read this.

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This is heavy, but well done. The first portion explores domestic violence from the victims‘ POV and the reasons “why they stay”. The second portion investigated the abusers and programs to rehabilitate them. Can a violent person truly become nonviolent? The third portion showcases systems to lower homicide and the people who dedicate their lives to helping this epidemic. Really interesting, thought provoking read.

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cookreadsleep

I listened to the beginning of an interview with this author on Fresh Air recently and had to stop because the conversation was exclusively talking about men abusing women in heterosexual relationships. I feel like an author who doesn't recognize that men can be abused by women and that there are lots of relationships with other gender arrangements doesn't have authority to discuss domestic violence. #lgbtq

Floresj She does in her book. She explains why she uses the pronouns she does as she talks about this topic...it‘s for the reader to be able to follow the information. Albeit I‘m only 1/3 of the way in, but I find it an excellent book. 6mo
cookreadsleep @Floresj Thank you for the feedback! I was very surprised when I heard her talking about it the way she did. I hope you enjoy the rest of the book! 6mo
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