Trying to be more empathetic and listening to others more
Trying to be more empathetic and listening to others more
Having read a lot of Brené brown before this book covers some familiar ground and tells stories she uses in other books, but applies it to leadership in thworkplace. Found the core values section and the section on thinking about the story you bring (is what you read into) someone‘s else statement to be insightful. Nitpick that got to me in the audio -The use of the word ârumbleâ for a tough conversation was irritating.
Although some stuff seems repetitive & from her past books, Brene Brown is always amazing.
This book is essential reading for management or any leaders, to be successful & have a happy team/company/employees etc.
My latest birthday book haul!
I‘ve been on this search to find/read books that have changed peoples lives. Deep, meaningful books that when someone asks âWhat book have you read that changed your life?â you can definitely answer.
I‘ve read thousands of books. Really amazing ones. But I‘m sad that I have yet to find one that when someone asks me that question I can immediately answer.
If anyone has rec‘s please let me know! I‘m hungry!!
Happy Friday, Littens! ð¥°
Listened to this and really enjoyed it. I would consider buying it in print and reading it again next year.
Power with, power to, power within.
Section 3: Rather than protecting n hiding our heart behind bulletproof glass, wholeheartedness is about integration...... It‘s putting down the armor and bringing forth all of the scraggly, misshapen pieces of our history and folding in all of the different roles that, when falsely separated, keep us feeling exhausted and torn, to make a complex, messy, awesome, whole person.
In the past, jobs were about muscles, now they‘re about brains, but in the future they‘ll be about the heart.
Tasks n ownership:
The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.
Quote by Madeleine L‘Engle :âWhen we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability.â
And just because someone failed to see the value in what we can create or achieve doesn‘t change its worth or ours.
Just because we didn‘t measure up to some standard of achievement doesn‘t mean that we don‘t possess gifts and talents that only we can bring to the world.
No person is ordained to judge our divinity or to write the story of our spiritual worthiness.
Just because someone isn‘t willing or able to love us, it doesn‘t mean we are unloveable.
When light and dark are not integrated, overly sweet and accommodating can feel foreboding, as though under all that niceness is a ticking bomb.
We don‘t fully see people until we know their values.
A brave leader is someone who says I see you. I hear you. I don‘t have all the answers, but I‘m going to keep listening and asking questions.
A brave leader is not someone who is armed with all the answers. A brave leader is not someone who can facilitate a flawless discussion on hard topics.
To opt out of conversations about privilege and oppression because they make you uncomfortable is the epitome of privilege.
Putting this here because I think it‘s a worthwhile exercise for all of us, but definitely need to remember to write it into my journal!
Because that‘s integrity-choosing courage over comfort; it‘s choosing what‘s right over what‘s fun, fast or easy; and it‘s practicing your values, not just professing them.
When we find the courage to share our experiences and the compassion to hear others tell their stories, we force shame out of hiding and end the silence.
Any assumption of perfection in other people is an empathic miss.
It‘s almost impossible to process emotion when we can‘t identify, name, and talk about our experiences.
But empathy isn‘t about fixing, it‘s about the brave choice to be with someone in their darknessânot to race to turn on the light so we feel better.
Empathy is not connecting to an experience. Empathy is connecting to the emotions that underpin an experience.
When we deny our stories of struggle, they own us. They own us, they drive our behavior, emotions, thinking, and leading. Daring leadership is leading from the heart, not hurt.
Only when diverse perspectives are included, respected, and valued can we start to get a full picture of the world: who we serve, what they need, and how to successfully meet people where they are. Daring leaders fight for the inclusion of all people, opinions, and perspectives because that makes us all better and stronger.
The hopeful news.
Oof. Needed that one. Probably 20 years ago, but I‘ll take it now.
We have to have the hard conversations even when we‘re not ready.
The magic people of the world. ð§ð»ââï¸â¨ðð§ð»ââï¸
Trust is the stacking and layering of small moments and reciprocal vulnerability over time. Trust and vulnerability grow together, and to betray one is to destroy both.
To love is to be vulnerable. ð
The courage to be vulnerable is not about winning or losing, it‘s about the courage to show up when you can‘t predict or control the outcome.
DNF around 30% in, a bunch of corporate mumbo jumbo about rumbles or something or another. I doubt these work in a lot of job situations. I‘ve heard great things about this author, but this was my first attempt at any of her work. Possibly I‘ll try another one and see if I like it.
I read this as part of a book club with others at my school. We have had powerful discussions that have helped me get to know some of my colleagues better and have helped me form a vision for where we need to go as a school. I am blessed to work with so many amazing educators who care passionately about our school, our kids, and our profession. I'm excited for next year!
Best book of hers I‘ve read. She combines her research from other books to give solid advice, particularly on sensitive leadership situations. However, sometimes she suggests adding a lot of extra work that I don‘t see a lot of businesses having the time for.