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A Grief Observed
A Grief Observed | C.S. Lewis
A Grief Observed comprises the reflections of the great scholar and Christian on the death of his wife after only a few short years of marriage. Painfully honest in its dissection of his thoughts and feelings, this is a book that details his paralysing grief, bewilderment and sense of loss in simple and moving prose. Invaluable as an insight into the grieving process just as much as it is as an exploration of religious doubt, A Grief Observed will continue to offer its consoling insights to a huge range of readers, as it has for over fifty years. 'A classic of the genre, a literary answer to the pain of loss.' Robert McCrum
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Michellesibs
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This is Lewis's journal observing his grief for his wife and while everyone's grief is unique to them, there's always stands you can pull out that relate to you and I definitely found strands of my own grief for my sister in these pages.

I'm not here to rate anyone's grief, it's a five star from me.

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Kerrbearlib
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“Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape.” #grief #loss

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Kerrbearlib
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“Grief is like a bomber circling round and dropping its bombs each time the circle brings it overhead; physical pain is like the steady barrage on a trench in World War One, hours of it with no let-up for a moment. Thought is never static; pain often is.”

#grief #mourning #death #loss

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Kerrbearlib
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“And no one ever told me about the laziness of grief. Except at my job—where the machine seems to run on much as usual—I loathe the slightest effort.” #grief #mourning #ebook #cloudLibrary

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Kerrbearlib
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“There are moments, most unexpectedly, when something inside me tries to assure me that I don‘t really mind so much, not so very much, after all....People get over these things. Come, I shan‘t do so badly. One is ashamed to listen to this voice but it seems for a little to be making out a good case. Then comes a sudden jab of red-hot memory and all this ‘commonsense‘ vanishes like an ant in the mouth of a furnace.” #grief

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KyrstinElizabeth
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For this is one of the miracles of love; it gives - to both, but perhaps especially to the woman - a power of seeing through its own enchantments and yet not being disenchanted.

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KyrstinElizabeth
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The sense that some shattering and disarming simplicity is the real answer.

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KyrstinElizabeth
A Grief Observed | C.S. Lewis

Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape.

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KyrstinElizabeth
A Grief Observed | C.S. Lewis

For in grief nothing ‘stays put.‘

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KyrstinElizabeth
A Grief Observed | C.S. Lewis

Still, there‘s no denying that in some sense, “I feel better,”and with that comes at once a sort of shame, and a feeling that one is under a sort of obligation to cherish and foment and prolong one‘s unhappiness…We want to prove to ourselves that we are lovers on the grand scale, tragic heroes; not just ordinary privates in the huge army of the bereaved, slogging along and making the best of a bad job.

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KyrstinElizabeth
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You can‘t see anything properly while your eyes are blurred with tears.

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KyrstinElizabeth
A Grief Observed | C.S. Lewis

Thought is never static; pain often is.

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KyrstinElizabeth
A Grief Observed | C.S. Lewis

This is one of the things I‘m afraid of. The agonies, the mad midnight moments, must, in the course of nature, die away. But what will follow? Just this apathy, this dead flatness? Will there come a time when I no longer ask why the world is like a mean street, because I shall take the squalor as normal? Does grief finally subsided into boredom tinged by faint nausea?

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KyrstinElizabeth
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And grief still feels like fear. Perhaps, more strictly, like suspense. Or like waiting; just hanging about waiting for something to happen. It gives life a permanently provisional feeling. It doesn‘t seem worth starting anything. I can‘t settle down. I yawn, I fidget, I smoke too much. Up till this I always had too little time. Now there is nothing but time. Almost pure time, empty successiveness.

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KyrstinElizabeth
A Grief Observed | C.S. Lewis

How can I hope that this will not happen to my memory of H.? That is not happening already? Slowly, quietly, like snowflakes — like the small flakes that come when it‘s going to snow all night - little flakes of me, my impressions l, my selections, are settling down on the image of her. The real shape will be quite hidden in the end.

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KyrstinElizabeth
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Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery‘s shadow or reflection: the fact that you don‘t merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer. I not only live each endless day in grief, but live each day thinking about living each day in grief.

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KyrstinElizabeth
A Grief Observed | C.S. Lewis

But go to Him when your need is desperate, when all other help is vain, and what do you find? A door slammed in your face, and a sound of bolting and double bolting on the inside. After that silence. You may as well turn away. The longer you wait, the more emphatic the silence will become. There are no lights in the windows. It may be an empty house. Was it ever inhabited? It seemed so once.

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PaperbackReader
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Watched Shadowlands last night with the hubby (if you haven‘t seen, I highly recommend the version with Sir Anthony Hopkins and Debra Winger) before settling down to read this. This week was the 10th anniversary of my Oma‘s passing and I‘m finding it a little hard. Perhaps this will help.

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Coleen_Nieto
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Not much reading today...but some projects were completed

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Emilymdxn
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The most unbearably beautiful book. I‘d barely read anything CS Lewis wrote for adults before and every page of it really hit me in the chest. I have no idea how a grieving widower jotting his feelings down in half full notebooks he found round the house managed to produce this

DivineDiana My best friend died of pancreatic cancer last July. A friend gave me this book, hoping it would bring some comfort. Beautiful. 2y
andrew61 Great review, I will try and find this as I remember the film shadowlands was heartbreaking. 2y
Crazeedi Just an excellent book, and truly an author for the ages 2y
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Coleen_Nieto
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1. I've often read the last paragraph or maybe the last page.
2. I haven't finished a book in months! I can't remember.
@TheSpineView #two4tuesday

Megabooks 💜💜💜 2y
TheSpineView You're a brave soul to read the last paragraph. Thanks for playing! 😊📚🤩 2y
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Coleen_Nieto
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Thank you so much for your thoughtful cards and this beautiful gift. #litsylove is such a great community and I'm so grateful to all of you. @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @ bookgoil 🥰

Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Sending you love, hugs, and prayers ❤️🙏🏻 2y
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Texreader
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GatheringBooks
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MamaGina
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Isn‘t it ironic, a vaccine is on the way but not soon enough for my beautiful grandmother, Gladys “Skippy” Stouder, who died of Covid earlier today...🕊🌸💕

Jaimelire So sorry to hear this. 2y
LeahBergen Oh, my goodness. 💔💔💔 I‘m so sorry for your loss. 2y
Trashcanman I'm sorry for your loss, may the happy memories of her bring you solace in this difficult time. 2y
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Chrissyreadit I‘m so sorry. 2y
Librarybelle So sorry for your loss 2y
Lcsmcat I‘m so sorry! Sending ❤️ 2y
MicheleinPhilly I‘m so sorry. ❤️ 2y
mabell I am so so sorry. She was lovely ❤️ 2y
Ruthiella I‘m so sorry for your loss. ❤️❤️❤️ 2y
Come-read-with-me I am so sorry for your loss. ❤️❤️❤️ 2y
Bookzombie I‘m so sorry. 2y
Reggie I‘m so sorry. 2y
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obviateit
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I‘m very late to #thoughtfulthursday , but I move in #spoonie time 😅. Thank you, @Gezemice for the tag! ❤️
1. I can‘t have candy anymore, but Hubby makes some bangin avocado chocolate pudding and pumpkin seed butter, that taste even better than Reese‘s when combined. 😍
2. The Strangers (2008) *shudder*
3. “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” -C.S. Lewis

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AvidReader25
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C.S. Lewis wrote this after the death of his beloved wife. Their time together was short, but it was all the more poignant because their connection was so intense. He was left wishing for all the years they might have had together. He is so honest about his pain making him question his faith.

“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.”

“Her absence is like the sky, spread over everything.”

Mistermandolin The self-examination is as relentless as the grief is deep. A wonderful book - by turns excoriatingly honest and incredibly profound. 3y
AvidReader25 @Mistermandolin I agree! It‘s such a hard time to be self-critical, but he manages it beautifully. 3y
Mistermandolin @AvidReader25 He was a keen student of the human condition. Piercing insight and relentless honesty - with himself especially. Have you read any of his other books? The Screwtape Letters has the same depth of insight as A Grief Observed: albeit in a very different context and about very different things. 3y
AvidReader25 @Mistermandolin Yes! I‘ve read most of his work, including his apologetics, sci-fi trilogy, etc. Such a gifted author. 3y
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limada
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"No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. I keep on swallowing."

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coatsnoe
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Definitely was an interesting look into C.S. Lewis‘ thought process as he grieved the loss of his wife.

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BellesGotGoodReads
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Such truth.

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Eggs
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Well, they say people come
They say people go
And I should but I can't let you go
And I know that you're with me and the way you will show
And you're with me wherever I go
And you give me this feeling, this everglow
What I wouldn't give for just a moment to hold
Because, I live for this feeling, this everglow

#everglow #julycoldplay

Cathythoughts ♥️ 4y
tammysue xx❤️ 4y
Eggs @Cathythoughts @tammysue ❤️❤️❤️ 4y
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EmMcKee
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"But there are two questions here. In which sense may it be a house of cards? Because the things I am believing are only a dream, or because I only dream that I believe them?"

CassieT Are you enjoying this? I love this book, but then I‘m a huge CS Lewis fan in general. I loved the Narnia books when I was young, but now I really appreciate his other works. He was brilliant. 4y
EmMcKee It was a great read, honestly. Despite any differences in beliefs and whatnot, he's got an incredible mind and I hugely enjoyed his intelligence!! Thanks again for suggesting it--if my friend were more of a reader I think it would provide her with a lot of comfort. 4y
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EmMcKee
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"Fate (or whatever it is) delights to produce a great capacity and then frustrate it. Beethoven went deaf."

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EmMcKee
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"It is hard to have patience with people who say 'There is no death' or 'Death doesn't matter.' There is death. And whatever is matters. And whatever happens has consequences, and it and they are irrevocable and irreversible."

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hwestfall
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A beautiful book CS Lewis wrote after the death of his wife.

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RachLovesTV
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I've been largely absent from Litsy since my dad passed away in November. I've kept reading for the most part, since reading fills the silence, but even the idea of social media was oppressive. But I've had #24in48 on my calendar since the last one, and this is the first in which I actually have very few plans for the weekend, so here I am.

I'm pretty sure I read this book years ago, but I didn't really feel it then. Now, every word rings true.

Melissa_J I‘m so sorry for your loss. 4y
Thndrstd I‘m sorry for your loss and I hope you find some solace and friendliness here. 4y
Slajaunie I am so very sorry for your loss. 4y
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Alfoster Sending hugs❤️❤️❤️ 4y
Librarybelle So sorry for your loss 4y
CouronneDhiver Welcome back ... and, of course, so sorry for the reason behind your time away 😕 4y
ErikasMindfulShelf Sorry for your loss. 💕💕 (edited) 4y
Bookzombie I‘m so sorry for your loss. Hugs. 4y
MaureenMc 💗💗💗 4y
cobwebmoth Big hugs to you. 4y
quietjenn 💙 to you 💙 4y
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brandymuses
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1. Not really food, but I needed all the tea this morning and, I put it in the biggest mug I own.
2. I think this completes my C.S. Lewis collection.
3. 40
4. I buy any aesthetically pleasing edition of a classic I find. I own 4 copies of Pride and Prejudice.
5. Not sure yet. If I do, it will be to Canada. (Currently planning a trip to England/Scotland/France for 2020.)
#humpdaypost

Klou Love the mug! 😍😍 4y
brandymuses @Klou Thanks! I got it at Universal when we went last month. 4y
Klou @brandymuses it's awesome ❤! 4y
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TheSpineView
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#quotsyjan19 @TK-421
Prompt: Process

Crazeedi ❤ CS Lewis 4y
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GatheringBooks
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#QuotsyJan19 Day 9: The #Process of grief is a constant and ongoing state. I have yet to read this book.

Crazeedi It's an excellent book 4y
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paulfrankspencer
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How cathartic to see such a great philosopher expose his unadorned grief completely. Ugh. To wrestle so raw with such great faith. I imagine there is no other book like this, as there is no other man like Lewis.

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paulfrankspencer
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"I do all the walking I can, for I'd be a fool to go to bed not tired."

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maraguitarra
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And just like that, my 2018 challenge is over... now to keep reading anyway 🤣

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shutupsmalls
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They say an unhappy man wants distractions—something to take him out of himself. Only as a dog-tired man wants an extra blanket on a cold night; he‘d rather lie there shivering than get up and find one.

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MirrorMask
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"There is a sort of invisible #blanket between the world and me. I find it hard to take in what anyone says. Or perhaps, hard to want to take it in. It is so uninteresting. Yet I want the others to be about me. I dread the moments when the house is empty. If only they would talk to one another and not to me.”

#LitsyClassics @Sarah83

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Brandoncannon
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A book I highly recommend to anyone who has had a loved one die. It was a special salve to me.

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GatheringBooks
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#QuotsyJune18 Day 29: The #Process of grief is always a solitary one. No map to it.

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DrSabrinaMoldenReads
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#QuotsyJune18 Repost griefspeaks on Instagram