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There Is No Good Card for This
There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love | Dr. Kelsey Crowe, Emily McDowell
The creator of the viral hit "Empathy Cards" teams up with a compassion expert to produce a visually stunning and groundbreaking illustrated guide to help you increase your emotional intelligence and learn how to offer comfort and support when someone you know is in pain. When someone you know is hurting, you want to let her know that you care. But many people dont know what words to useor are afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. This thoughtful, instructive guide, from empathy expert Dr. Kelsey Crowe and greeting card maverick Emily McDowell, blends well-researched, actionable advice with the no-nonsense humor and the signature illustration style of McDowell's immensely popular Empathy Cards, to help you feel confident in connecting with anyone experiencing grief, loss, illness, or any other difficult situation. Written in a how-to, relatable, weve-all-been-that-deer-in-the-headlights kind of way, There Is No Good Card for This isnt a spiritual treatise on how to make you a better person or a scientific argument about why compassion matters. It is a helpful illustrated guide to effective compassion that takes you, step by step by step, past the paralysis of thinking about someone in a difficult time to actually doing something (or nothing) with good judgment instead of fear. There Is No Good Card for This features workbook exercises, sample dialogs, and real-life examples from Dr. Crowes research, including her popular "Empathy Bootcamps" that give people tools for building relationships when it really counts. Whether its a coworker whose mother has died, a neighbor whose husband has been in a car accident, or a friend who is seriously ill, There Is No Good Card for This teaches you how to be the best friend you can be to someone in need.
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sdbruening
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I loved this book. The title says it all but I would also add that it‘s just great empathy and social guidance. Funny, honest swearing like “recalling an instance when, say, you were a chickenshit coward and didn‘t come to this party last year.” Good balance of information, examples, reflective prompts, and advice. Fun mix of fonts and sizes and colors with the text. I appreciate that infertility and miscarriages are included in grief situations.

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JackOBotts
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Yes. 💜💜💜💜💜

An easy to digest guidebook to being a supportive human to those in need. It‘s hard to know the “right things to say,” but showing up and being there are often what the person needs. Bring those listening ears…

PhyllisH Sounds like a good one. I‘ll be adding this to my TBR list. 3y
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JackOBotts
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My reading intentions for July are askew, but I‘m delighted to have seen this title come up on a Litsy/Goodreads pal‘s thread. My best friend/work wife is dealing with a gut-wrenching loss, and I‘m forever the awkwardly uncomfortable human that I am. I‘m hoping the advice and takeaways in this read will help me be there for her (and others).

TrishB I think the fact that you care enough to think this means you‘re doing fine ♥️ 3y
Bookwomble I agree with @TrishB You're a good friend and your work-wife will know it 💗 3y
JackOBotts @TrishB & @Bookwomble Thank you! 💜 She has a hard journey ahead of her, and I hope she feels support from those around her continually. 🤞🏼💜 (edited) 3y
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alysonimagines
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A delightful discovery, this colorfully illustrated book offers sensitive, compassionate advice for how to show your support to people who have been through really difficult experiences.🔸#aprilreads2021

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TheDaysGoBy
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Crossed another book off my December TBR. I‘d had this on my list for a while and picked it up on a whim browsing at my local library. It was good! While I don‘t know anyone in crisis at the moment, I still feel I learned some good tools on how to hopefully respond should a hard situation come up.

#wintergames #teamreadnosedreindeer

@StayCurious

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MCYmermaid
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Puddin‘ and I are big card senders/ givers. But sometimes... #dogsoflitsy

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WellReadCatLady
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Great book to learn how to not be a socially awkward weirdo to people who are going through something rough. There Is No Good Card For This goes over the different ways to show your condolences and care at a variety of levels so you can reach out to close friends to that person you see sometimes that you don't know their name.

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WellReadCatLady
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Been meaning to read this for awhile, even checked it out 2 times before.

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JoyBlue
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I've run out of renewals on this: I *have to* give it back on Saturday. So, I'm trying to get a feel for whether it's worth requesting again in the future. I liked this illustration of a preschooler's prescription for what to say to a friend in need. #OutOfTheMouthsOfBabes #WorksForMe

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Krisjericho
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An easy, but important, read. Everyone will eventually be on both sides of difficulties - either you will be in the depths, or you will be the friend or loved one wondering what to say and do. There is practical advice and an explanation of empathy. Many people mean well, but say or do nothing for those struggling or do damage through saying hurtful things. Other than egregious things, it is better to err on the side of trying to listen and help.

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Krisjericho
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I love sharing blurbs and quotes from this book because I feel like empathy is a skill that is so important and way too rare. When I have gone through tough times, I remember those who tried to reach out, and I remember those who didn‘t.

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Krisjericho
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I have a feeling I am going to be posting a lot from this book.

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For anyone who has grieved, or knows anyone who has grieved. So, everyone.

TrishB 💝💓 7y
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Lea
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I echo all the comments that say this should be required reading for humans. I lack compassion sometimes and can have a hard time finding empathy. I do send a lot of cards though, that's my strength. This book already has me saying "how are you, today?" #readwomen

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2cowsread
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This is a great introduction to the art of active listening. Too often when someone is dealing with loss (loved one, relationship, health, job) we fear doing the wrong thing and opt out instead. The truth is that we are programmed for kindness and even the author's preschool age daughter was able to sum things up. I don't 100% agree with the "I'm sorry" , but I know that's my own experience.

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Equinm
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I agree with another reviewer that this should be required reading for humans! This author gives practical suggestions for responding with compassion and grace when others are facing difficult circumstances. Well done ❤️.

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Mindelan
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I read this because I felt like I didn't always have the experience to do or say the right thing in tough situations, and it was really helpful. (Surprise! There is no right thing! Just show up, listen and be kind!) It has a practical approach that I liked, with lots of suggestions for dialogue in tough situations, being a better listener, and big and small actions you can take. It made me laugh, and I think I'll do a little better next time

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kathyellendavis
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Amazing. A great book to help all of us be a better support for our friends and family. A lot to use in here.

Daisydo Hey! I need this book. I never know what to say. 7y
kathyellendavis @Daisydo when I get back to work we'll have one at Hicklebee's. I'm hoping to spotlight it for the adult preview at the end of April. 7y
kathyellendavis @Daisydo and that would be today; Rosemary is coming to work with me from 2- 230ish (until Danny gets done and can get her) and I stay until 6. 7y
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Laura317
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Looking forward eventually getting into these! #bookmail

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kdwinchester
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We interviewed Emily McDowell on @thereadingwomen's website! I loved this book—both as a #spoonie and as a person trying to figure out how to comfort my loved ones in pain. And, of course, the illustrations are gorgeous. Have a look!

https://www.readingwomenpodcast.com/reading-women/2017/2/23/reading-women-newsle...

Laura317 I just bought this the other day. It sounds great. 7y
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thereadingwomen
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Today we have a sneak peek newsletter interview with Emily McDowell. All of us struggle to know what to say when life is unfair and awful to someone we love. This book helps you understand and empathize with others in their times of need. Emily has kindly given us an exclusive interview where she goes into more detail about writing and illustrating the book. We hope you love Emily, and the book, as much as we do! https://goo.gl/4ptMEp

hollytucker I know what you say: this looks great 7y
Laura317 Stacked! Thanks for adding the interview, too. That sealed the deal for me. 7y
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Rlweasley
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I didn't really realize what this was going into it, but I really enjoyed it. It had a lot of good reminders about how to really be there for someone. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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SarahScheffert
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This was quick and smart. A good reminder that just showing up for people makes all the difference as well as practical advise on what to do and say (and what not to.)

ErinBumG This came to my kindle this week! I want to start it soon. I'm glad to hear you liked it. 7y
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BethwithBooks
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So excited that this book is finally out! Emily McDowell is the empathy queen - her cards and artwork are honest irreverent and uplifting. Hoping this book will be the same! (Case in point my new bookbag for the new semester that started this evening)

Notafraidofwords Love it. 7y
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