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Are You My Mother?
Are You My Mother?: A Comic Drama | Alison Bechdel
From the best-selling author of Fun Home, Time magazines No. 1 Book of the Year, a brilliantly told graphic memoir of Alison Bechdel becoming the artist her mother wanted to be.Alison Bechdels Fun Home was a pop culture and literary phenomenon. Now, a second thrilling tale of filial sleuthery, this time about her mother: voracious reader, music lover, passionate amateur actor. Also a woman, unhappily married to a closeted gay man, whose artistic aspirations simmered under the surface of Bechdel's childhood . . . and who stopped touching or kissing her daughter good night, forever, when she was seven. Poignantly, hilariously, Bechdel embarks on a quest for answers concerning the mother-daughter gulf. It's a richly layered search that leads readers from the fascinating life and work of the iconic twentieth-century psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott, to one explosively illuminating Dr. Seuss illustration, to Bechdels own (serially monogamous) adult love life. And, finally, back to Motherto a truce, fragile and real-time, that will move and astonish all adult children of gifted mothers.
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megnews
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Mehso-so

Meh. I saw Fun Home a few years back and decided to check this out. It took me a long time to finish as you can see I started before Christmas. Her story of her relationship with her mom and her writing was interesting. All the psychoanalysis references, not so much. That just wasn‘t my thing.

KathyWheeler I loved Fun Home, but this one bored me to tears. 6d
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megnews
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Story of a mother‘s life!

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allureofbeauty
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And here‘s where “Are You My Mother?” went to when I finished it.
#areyoumymother #alisonbechdel #graphicnovel #littlefreelibrary #summersendreadathon @Clwojick

Clwojick I love bringing books to the #FreeLittleLibrary in my neighbourhood 5mo
allureofbeauty @Clwojick I love dropping ones off at the little free libraries. I have a hand full of them in my neighborhood. 5mo
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allureofbeauty
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Panpan

#summersendreadathon @Clwojick

I wanted to like this. But alas. I started skimming towards the end. Part of the issue might be that it reminded me a bit of an ex of mine.

#areyoumymother #alisonbechdel #graphicnovel

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allureofbeauty
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Clwojick I wasn‘t crazy about this one. How are you liking it so far? 5mo
allureofbeauty @Clwojick im not really lol 5mo
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BookHermit
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Another gut-punching panel.

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BookHermit
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So sad. No one is ever too old to be kissed goodnight 💔💔💔

TrishB Nope, agree. 6mo
Andrew65 Who said this is only right for the very young! We all need love and affection. 6mo
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spirituells
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Pickpick

I picked this up again and honestly Alison Bechdel is a genius and rereading her stuff during pride month is a great choice!

It's been a little while since i posted on here since the library i work at has been keeping me super busy but i hope everyone is having a nice weekend! 💙

mommyincolor I've attempted to read this but could not get into it. Glad you enjoyed it! 7mo
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azulaco
Bailedbailed

I couldn‘t get through this one. I wanted to, because I was interested in learning more about Alison Bechdel‘s family after reading Fun Home, but this turned out to be more about Bechdel herself and her therapy journey. Which I may be interested in reading, at another time, but I wasn‘t in the headspace for it currently.

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LibraryCin
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Panpan

This was not only an analysis of the author‘s relationship with her mother, but an analysis of her therapy. Or, that‘s what it felt like, anyway. There were plenty of references to Virginia Woolf and a psychoanalyist, Donald Winnicott, as well as quotes. Cont in comments...

LibraryCin In fact, most of the book felt more like that than looking back at her relationship with her mother, though there was some of that. For that reason, I wasn‘t a fan, though I remember really liking her “Fun Home”, so I was disappointed in this one. 13mo
esurient I felt very similarly about this one. 13mo
LibraryCin @esurient glad im not the only one! 13mo
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ladybrightscales
Pickpick

I wish more books 📚 were written like this. ☺

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Gezemice
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Mehso-so

I have loved Fun Home, and had high hopes for this one - alas, I was disappointed. Where Fun Home was profound and revelatory, this book is whiny, self-absorbed and without a clear narrative. I almost gave up about halfway through; thankfully the second half flows better.

“Are You My Mother?” is about Alison‘s therapy sessions; coming to terms with her codependent relationship with her emotionally distant mother. ⭐️⭐️/5
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Gezemice It is a complicated book, it is hard to review briefly. Full review: https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2514684127 1y
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Gezemice
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Hmm, wtf? There is a reason Freud is out of style - it is all hokey mumbo-jumbo. Alison, get yourself a modern therapist who teaches you how to calm yourself, not overanalyze.

I loved Fun Home, but this is not working for me. I feel like dnf-ing but it has been on my tbr for so long... what to do, what to do?

KathyWheeler I too loved Fun Home but did not care for this one. I finished it, but that‘s about all I can say for it. 1y
Annashep Fun house was great ... I‘ve read some of this one but not all of it 📚 1y
Gezemice @KathyWheeler @Annashep I am still reading it but not too enthusiastically... 1y
Bookzombie I loved Fun Home, but bailed on this one. 1y
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azulaco
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I was so busy in September! The start of school and kids‘ activities knocked everything sideways! Returned books on time to the library today -yay me! - and got the next three volumes in the cozy mystery series I‘m reading...plus an Alison Bechdel graphic novel. I‘m eclectic.

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SaunteringVaguelyDownwards
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Pickpick

Final beach read! This feels very different from Fun Home, and definitely performs Bechdel's own journey to try and put her relationship with her mother into a narrative.

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Weaponxgirl
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Pickpick

This isn't going to be for everyone and it's not as good as her first but I liked this. There is a lot of psychoanalysis in this and I don't know much about it but it resonated with me. I use novels how she used psychoanalysis, to try to understand myself a bit better. The complicated relationship and what it has done to your own psyche also hit a nerve. It made me think long and hard.It's not what you expect but I'd say give it a try.#read harder

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Deborah42
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Pickpick

A graphic memoir companion to Fun Home (in which the author explores her relationship with her dad). In this one, she takes on her relationship with her mother.

More intellectual than some other graphic memoirs I‘ve read, there are many literary references and an exploration of psychotherapy that shifts perspective back and forth between both sides of the couch.

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Annashep
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Really fancied getting started on another graphic novel ..... Fun house was a really good book so looking forward to this 😊📚

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LaviniaG
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Pickpick

Very insightful, still a bit less interesting than Fun Home (for me, that is).

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JillPill
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Mehso-so

I loved Alison Bechdel's Fun Home so I thought this book would be an instant love also. However, it was far from it. So much psycho babble and analysis that it really turned me off. The last half of the book was better than the beginning but I can't really recommend this one.

Also bonus background cat!

#AlisonBechdel #AreYouMyMother

Gezemice I am reading it and feel exactly the same. 1y
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JillPill
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Trying to work through this one today. It's nowhere near as good as her first book though :/ I'm about a third of the way through but I'm struggling to finish!

#AreYouMyMother #AlisonBechdel

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britt_brooke
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The Bechdels are for me, of course. I‘ve read Fun Home, but it‘s been a few years, and I don‘t think I appreciated it fully first time around.

#libraryhaul #bookhaul #raisingreaders

Natasha.C.Barnes I adored fun home, but if you start reading Are you my mother and think "oh god I hate this, maybe it will get better?"-I'm warning you, it will not. ? 2y
LoveToReadLiveToRead Oooo, what is the ET book?? So cute! 2y
britt_brooke @Natasha.C.Barnes 😆 Thanks for the heads up!! 2y
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Natasha.C.Barnes @britt_brooke You may love it, you never know, but always good to known if a book is consistent! 2y
britt_brooke @Lovetoreadlivetoread It‘s very cute! It was published last year and is based on the movie. The illustrations are adorable! 2y
britt_brooke @Natasha.C.Barnes I agree! I‘ll definitely let you know what I think. 👍🏻 2y
LoveToReadLiveToRead @britt_brooke oh cool, I‘ll have to try and get my hands on that, it looks lovely! 2y
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LiteraryJackalope
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After reading Fun Home for an LGBTQ+ Book Group in college, and loving it, I thought this would be a slam dunk. I‘m currently about half way through, and it‘s okay bordering on ugh. It just doesn‘t have the story telling quality that I so loved in Fun Home... and a lot of psychoanalysis and psych terminology that is flying right over my head! I‘m determined to finish it, though.

RaimeyGallant Interesting. Welcome to Litsy! #LitsyWelcomeWagon Some of us put together Litsy tips to help new Littens navigate the site. It's the link in my bio on my page in case you're interested. :) 2y
UrsulaMonarch I liked this one but I agree it's pretty different from ! 2y
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mrozzz
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Two of my favorite #graphic novels I got into in college thanks to one of THE best English teachers including Fun Home in our curriculum. #30daysofreadathon
Still love Alison and her story. ✏️🖍

readordierachel I saw the musical based on Fun Home earlier this year. Highly recommend seeing it if you get the chance! It was awesome. 2y
mrozzz @ReadOrDieRachel really?? Where is it? (edited) 2y
readordierachel @mrozzz It's on tour throughout the US right now. I saw it in San Francisco, but I think it's moved over toward the East Coast now? 2y
mrozzz @ReadOrDieRachel woooo I'll look it up 😄 2y
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Leftcoastzen
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Pickpick

I loved it ! Other Littens have reviewed and it is heavy into psychological material, yet some parts are darkly funny.Alison is a complicated person with complicated parents .What I love about modern graphic novels is that they may be almost any topic these days,fantasy, autobiography, history... the list is endless . We are lucky to have the brave Ms.Bechdel.Interesting things about Adrienne Rich and Virginia Woolf as Alison searches for meaning.

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Leftcoastzen
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#graphic #sizzlinsummerreads So weird that after loving "Fun Home "never read "Are you my Mother?"Just realized I had not looked in graphic novel section of my library for a long time,was excited to find the Cass Eliot too!

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whatthelog
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Mehso-so

Alison Bechdel's slightly lesser known memoir, Are You My Mother? I thought it was less interesting than Fun Home, unfortunately. And it contained a lot of psychoanalysis, which just isn't my thing.

#womenwriters #lgbtqia #graphicnovel #diversebooks

Bibliogeekery I also wanted to like this one more than I did and I'm a psychotherapist, so you'd think I'd dig all the psychoanalysis! #queerbooks 3y
whatthelog @Bibliogeekery huh, interesting! Why didn't you? 3y
ReadingEnvy It's pretty heady! I definitely ended it wanting to read 3y
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Lindy I love this so much I've read it 3 times. Something new in it each time. 3y
Bibliogeekery @whatthelog I think it was a little too heavy on the psychoanalysis for me - which is not to say that I disliked it, I just wanted to like it more. 3y
Bibliogeekery @ReadingEnvy Drama of the Gifted Child is so good! 3y
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alternatina
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Mehso-so

So torn on this book. Had great ideas, but I feel like it was too big? The final panel was amazing but it took too long to get there. I think my expectations were too high because Fun Home is one of my favorites of all time.

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LitDrivenGirl
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We are headed to see Beauty and the Beast. @biblio_ginger is far braver than I to be reading in the back seat. I always get car sick 😫😣. I think she's reading 'Are you my Mother?'. #carrides #booksgowithusalways #readersread #sisters

biblio_ginger I am! :D Not braver but reading Are You My Mother ;) 3y
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TNbooklover66
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#bookhaul with a #mojiemoje photobomb. Thought you weren't buying anymore books this month Mom! 😂📚🐶 Also I need some work on my sticker placement 🙄

TrishTheBibliophile I've had The Graveyard Book forever! I need to read it. 3y
EricQiao ❤️ the Graveyard Book! 3y
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angrylilasian
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Mehso-so

Bechdel analyses & dissects her relationship with her mother by going through journal entries, recounting therapy sessions & researching theories on mother/daughter relationships. She's nothing if not honest and thorough. But I found it tedious at times. Halfway through I found myself skipping over any mention of Freud or Winnicott. Revelations like the above kept me going but I don't know if I would recommend this book the way I did Fun Home.

CaseyTheCanadianLesbrarian Yeah, I felt similarly after loving Fun Home. Too much psychology mumbo jumbo in Are You My Mother?. 3y
NCNY It was way too meta for me. Basically a book about writing a book became the final book. 3y
LiteraryinLititz Good to know. I liked Fun Home and wasn't sure whether to read this one. 3y
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emtobiasz I found it worth reading because Fun Home really made me curious about her mother. Fun Home is still better. 3y
angrylilasian @CaseyTheCanadianLesbrarian @NCNY But if you skip over those parts, her relationship with her mother and how she works through the issues are really interesting. It made me reexamine my relationship with my mother. 😆 3y
angrylilasian @LiteraryinLititz If you like psychology, you might like it. The people who loved the book found it fascinating. But it seems most people felt like I did. 3y
angrylilasian @emtobiasz Fun Home is better. I think Alison is a great writer. I'll read anything she publishes. 😄 3y
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kimberly.burke
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A large dose of psychoanalysis with Alison Bechdel on this lazy Christmas Eve morning.

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melissa.in.books
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I'm staying at a friend's place in Toronto and it's cold outside, but I'm keeping warm inside with these books. These are just some of her books. #lucky

acorter Looks so cozy! 3y
RadicalReader @melissa.in.books I would be in absolute heaven if someone had a collection and this was only some of the colossal collection 3y
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virtual_allison
Pickpick

More 'academic' than Fun Home (lots of musings on the nature of the self, psychology etc. ) but still really wonderful.

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Betty
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Panpan

Had to skim fast to get through this; too much talk about her psychotherapists, a pediatrician-psychologist Winnicott, and many quotes from Virginia Woolf. Yawn.

WanderingBookaneer After loving Fun Home, I was disappointed in this one. 3y
ReadingEnvy I read this one first so Fun Home was a breeze. 😋 3y
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Giabow
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A little surprised to see this panel. I used to work there! #boalbarn

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MaryK_171
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I went to the library to return "Fun Home" and decided to pick up Alison Bechdel's other graphic novel. Looking forward to reading this!

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Lupita.Reads
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Pickpick

Bechdel leaves no stone unturned or more like no thought unthought-of? in this part memoir, part diary, part internal examination of her relationship with her Mother. I found myself having to rate this five stars simply for the bravery to look so inwardly and most importantly to share this journey with her readers. Definitely one to remind me that reading makes you feel less lonely and at times understood ❤️📚

whatthelog Definitely need to give this a reread now that I've done some feminist/psychological theory - how she expresses such deep concepts through such relatively simple comics is just beyond me! 3y
read_diverse_books Part memoir, part diary? How interesting! I'm glad you loved this one. It sounds important and affecting. 3y
Lupita.Reads @whatthelog completely agree! Really just stunning. 3y
Lupita.Reads @read_diverse_books it's so personal is feels like your reading someone's diary and YES really did love it. 3y
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gibbsne
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Pickpick

"While engaged in some sort of home-improvement project, I inadvertently block my exit from a dank cellar." #firstlines #mother #itsallinyourhead

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smccallum
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Pickpick

A sort of follow up to Fun Home with the focus on Bechdel's mother and it more chronicles the period during which she is writing and publishing Fun Home. It is a little more cerebral than her previous memoir which does make it slightly harder to access however I learnt a lot and there is something incredibly admirable and courageous regarding the honesty with which Bechdel writes about her family. I do prefer Fun Home but still well worth a read

MrBook Great review 😎👌🏻 3y
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Dedebimp
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This bug got smooshed in an Alison Bechdel memoir. What book would you choose to be smooshed in?

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Guiltyascyn
Bailedbailed

I feel so bad, but I can't do it. There is so much psychology talk that it just bogs down the narrative and gives me a headache. I thought the book would be about Bechdel and her relationship with her mother, but she spoke more about her relationship with her therapist and her obsession with psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott more than anything. Maybe I'll come back when I have a little more patience.

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M_landis27
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I won't quite make #24in48 due to prep today and a trip tomorrow, but I can use it as an excuse to read some graphic memoir!

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Bookzombie
Bailedbailed

I know! I know! How can you bail on a graphic memoir? I loved Fun Home and the art is still wonderful in this book, but I just couldn't get into it. I felt like I was trudging along and decided I would rather move on to something else.

brendanmleonard This was a rough slog! I don't blame you! 4y
GatheringBooks aww... too bad. it isn't as riveting as fun home, that much is clear. 4y
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razmanda
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Pickpick

So, so great. Don't let the format scare you off.

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razmanda
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Getting some reading in while my mama cuddles my baby.

Yossarian At any point does someone say to Bechdel, "I am not your mother. I am a snort!" 4y
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TeaRainBook
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0/5 stars. Art was amateurish at best and the content was full of author's self-absorption and neurosis. Fun Home was good, but skip this!

Night_Reader Concur 100%. 4y
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