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I Hope We Choose Love: A Trans Girlas Notes from the End of the World
I Hope We Choose Love: A Trans Girlas Notes from the End of the World | Kai Cheng Thom
What can we hope for at the end of the world? What can we trust in when community has broken our hearts? What would it mean to pursue justice without violence? How can we love in the absence of faith? In a heartbreaking yet hopeful collection of personal essays and prose poems, blending the confessional, political, and literary, Kai Cheng Thom dives deep into the questions that haunt social movements today. With the author's characteristic eloquence and honesty, I Hope We Choose Love proposes heartfelt solutions on the topics of violence, complicity, family, vengeance, and forgiveness. Taking its cues from contemporary thought leaders in the transformative justice movement such as adrienne maree brown and Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha, this provocative book is a call for nuance in a time of political polarization, for healing in a time of justice, and for love in an apocalypse.
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xicanti
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I made a Trans Rights Readathon recs grid for Instagram and figured I‘d share it here too. Most of these are by trans and nonbinary (or agender) creators, with a couple of selections by cis people with trans loved ones. Some engage deeply with transness; some are just good stories by trans folks. Individual titles tagged below. #transrightsreadathon

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Kazzie
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Beautifully written, insightful and honest reflection

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Robotswithpersonality
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Many of the essays take the form of questioning current circumstances and complexities, to open discussion that will hopefully result in community acknowledgement and healing.
There is a through line of personal experiences relayed that emphasizes the fight for recognition and respect is ongoing for trans women, particularly trans women of colour. The poems included are a concentration of these ideas. Sex/sex worker positive.
⚠️SA, suicide.

Robotswithpersonality Occasionally gave me 'The Body is Not an Apology' vibes - clear but compassionate talk from a former social worker/therapist. 1y
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Robotswithpersonality
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"...transformative justice that differentiates the concept of punishment from accountability and healing...We will have to transform systems that centre getting even into systems that prioritize getting better." ?♥️

Singout Wow, what an amazing shift. Love it. 1y
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Robotswithpersonality
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Props to publishers for hopping on the 'Botanicals with Black Background' train which has been chugging along since 2019 (all books shown here published 2019 or later).
I dig the aesthetic. 👍🏻🖤💐

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Bibliophibifemme
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Been waiting for the right time to read this one. Think that time is now.

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kalivha
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Look what came in the mail! I had accidentally ordered this when it was out of stock and didn't check when it would be back in stock, so receiving it today was a bit of a nice surprise.

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wonderflood
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“if you should start to think forbidden thoughts
then come for me

the end of ever after is the beginning of the truth”
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MegaWhoppingCosmicBookwyrm I love your nails! 😍 3y
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xicanti
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Kai Cheng Thom‘s punk roots show in this essay collection. She challenges readers to interrogate the dominant paradigm, in queer community and elsewhere; to understand that people act in context, not at random, and to consider that even effective systems need frequent upkeep and occasional reinvention if they‘re to benefit the people who live within them. It‘s powerful, relevant stuff.

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xicanti
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I cooked, and sat down later than everyone else, and ended up all alone at the table with my second sweet potato pie. Good thing I had my book to hand.

I HOPE WE CHOOSE LOVE is great so far. Kai Cheng Thom discusses similar issues to the ones I‘ve found in my current audiobook, THE ART OF HAPPINESS IN A TROUBLED WORLD by the Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler, too; a nice bit of synchronicity.

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Lindy
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Fierce, compassionate and thoughtful essays and poems about interpersonal relationships within the social justice movement and queer communities. Kai Cheng Thom advocates for nuance where, too often, issues are seen as either right or wrong. #trans #lgbtq #Canadian

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We must encourage love—love that is radical, love that digs deep. Love that asks the hard questions, that is ready to listen to the whole story and keep loving anyway. […] Love for the community that has failed us all. We live in poison. The planet is dying. We can choose to consume each other or we can choose love. Even in the midst of despair, there is always a choice. I hope we choose love. #lgbtq #manifesto

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Lindy
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And, cynical, crazy East Asian transsexual that I am, I have to believe that another way of seeing, of speaking, of being with one another is possible. That compassion and forgiveness and generosity might join justice and accountability and survival as core values of our movement. #lgbtq

DrexEdit Amen to that! 4y
Lindy @DrexEdit 😊👍 4y
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Lindy
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When it comes to trans folks, people are always talking about gender dysphoria—dislike or hatred of the body or self. I want to talk about gender euphoria—the state of joy or delight in your being, your gender presentation.
[Internet photo. It was hard to find one where Thom (on the left) looks happy.]

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Lindy
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I have been stalked, by someone I had never met or spoken to, because they perceived me to be “abusing” them by not responding to a Facebook friend request.

LibrarianRyan just one of the many reasons I do not do FB anymore. 4y
Megabooks I am so sorry. I got off fb in 2015. They don‘t police the platform well, unfortunately. 4y
Lindy @LibrarianRyan @Megabooks This line is from the title essay in the tagged book. I like the connectivity of Facebook but I am wary of its pitfalls and shortcomings. 4y
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Cathythoughts Oh dear! I gave up FB a few years ago ... I found it too invasive... I like to keep a low profile as much as possible.. I like the “ privacy “ of Litsy & Instagram... FB to much of an open book for me 4y
Leftcoastzen That‘s awful.I never signed up for it. 4y
Lindy @Cathythoughts I like the greater privacy of Litsy too. 4y
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Lindy
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I‘ve tagged the 4th title in 8 months with queers on a roof: “We went to parties together & we did drugs together & we lay on my rooftop & drank spiked lemonade together in the shimmering heat of the Montreal summer.” Dang! I‘m always alone on the roof, just up there to clean the eaves troughs. (Oh! And should I count Emily & Ilse yelling on the roof in Emily of New Moon?)

Butterfinger Ty and Kit were sitting on the roof a few pages ago in Queen of Air and Darkness. I love them together. 4y
Lindy @Butterfinger Ha! Thanks for sharing that. 4y
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you are allowed to leave
a relationship. a friendship. a partnership. because it is not working out for you. because they are hurting you. because you are afraid of hurting them. because there is no trust. relationships should never be based on fear. should never be based on “ they will kill themself if I leave.” […] leaving is not abuse. getting out is not abuse. freedom is not abuse. freedom is never abuse.

Cathythoughts This title ✨✨✨✨✨i hope we choose love too 4y
Lindy @Cathythoughts 😊❤️👍 4y
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This was an interesting read because I've read Kai Cheng Thom's work and was blown away by her in previous years. This essay collection pulls back the curtain to the trauma that accompanies fame whether that comes from the work or being a SJW on the internet (self-declared, since I think of this as a negative term), questions the assumed safety inherit in queer communities, and proposes a few approaches of restorative justice moving forward.

Cathythoughts A knockout title 👍🏻♥️ Love 5y
Lindy I‘m really looking forward to reading this. 5y
ReadingEnvy @Lindy It was difficult in some ways because Kai has really been through a lot. 5y
Lindy @ReadingEnvy I‘m prepared for that. She was at the Edmonton Poetry Festival last year and spoke very well. 5y
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