bailedI was so hoping I would finally make it through a book that was meant to be read over the course of the year. I‘ve had this book for almost three years now. In fact, if I kept reading for one more month I would have officially read every entry once, if not necessarily in a single year. But the 7 June entry brought me to a screeching halt. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
GingerAntics It was supposed to be talking about not being violent which is commendable and a discussion that should be ongoing for people of all ages. Instead, it blamed abuse victims for their abuse and claimed that really, as humans, we can‘t help but be violent. Excuse me? 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 (edited) 5y
GingerAntics “Violence initially stems from the thwarting of our will or desire; it is an instinctive lashing out against things we do not like. It‘s containment is made possible by mature self control and patience. Sudden outbursts of domestic violence are usually triggered by a succession of irritations that have built up until they are unbearable.” This is the most ridiculous response to domestic violence I have ever heard. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 5y
GingerAntics Up to this point I had a few things about this book that annoyed me (although I never had to contain a violent outburst), but this is the breaking point. This goes beyond annoying me. This angers me. This is easily triggering. This is disgusting. I have no patience for bull Shite like this. I have no time for idiocy like this. I still don‘t have to control any violent reaction, so there‘s her whole theory out the window right there. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 5y
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GingerAntics There is nothing mature about my reaction to this passage. My reaction to this passage is as instinctual as it gets, and here it is: I am done with this book and I will not be reading anything else by this author or her husband. I will not be contributing to the upkeep of this author in any way, shape, or form. Good riddance to bad rubbish as they say. #CaitlinMatthews #TheCelticSpirit #rubbish #nothappening #wtf 5y
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit I‘m going to have to rescind my precious recommendation. I do not recommend this book for any person. I‘m not sure where this particular entry came from, but one sentence ended my enjoyment and love affair with this book. It is going in the trash, literally. I honestly don‘t want this book ending up in someone else‘s hands. I want it to end up in a refuse pile at a landfill where it belongs. 5y
Eggbeater Wow! Wtf? I can't even. How are you supposed to use that to meditate? 5y
GingerAntics @Eggbeater no idea. None at all. The meditation was supposed to be on recognising our own violent tendencies and how to avoid them (nonviolence I think? 🤷🏼♀️), but totally failed at that. I don‘t know how someone could possibly meditate on anything after that. It took me over an hour to settle down after that and meditate. It‘s disgusting. 5y
Bklover I will most definitely avoid this! Thanks for the warning! 5y
Chrissyreadit Yes this is wacky- I wonder where it came from? This is the second time in a week that a book has blamed the victim for domestic abuse. I can‘t help but wonder if it is poor wording or an actual inappropriate response. Meaning that no one is responsible for someone‘s violence against them, but we are responsible for our own anger/aggression(normal stuff not abuse)and abusers are responsible for abusive action. 5y
Chrissyreadit On a second personal rant I had a teen client explain to me that feminism is angry women hating on men- and her google search had three posts stating that!!! When will women stop being treated this way???? 5y
Weaponxgirl @Chrissyreadit omg! I‘d be so frustrated if I was you and it would take all my restraint not to say well this angry woman is about to start hating on your opinion in a min. 5y
Weaponxgirl Good on ya, no point reading books that actually go against our values 5y
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit that‘s what I thought might be happening. That‘s why I posted the quote so someone would hopefully comment and say “I think it might actually be this...” but absolutely NO ONE saw anything else in it all. 5y
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit I just read an article about that yesterday. It‘s this thing by this angry group of men who believe women are forcing them to be celibate. Racism and sexism and violent language are rampant. They‘ve brought matrix pills into it, black pill and rape pill to be specific. It‘s pretty messed up. It‘s amazing the number of social media accounts that boldly proclaim that feminists are just angry women who hate men or feminazis or fembots. 5y
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit it‘s terrible. Apparently, sociologically, it‘s men (and an amazing number of young men) who don‘t like the status quo being disrupted. Apparently every social movement has its backlash and this is the backlash to female empowerment. Unfortunately they are now being targeted by far-right extremists and politicised. It was a long article, but it was truly eye opening. 5y
GingerAntics @Bklover you‘re more then welcome. I was totally prepared to recommend this thing to everyone, then bam. So weird. 5y
GingerAntics @Weaponxgirl I want to understand other perspectives for a lot of things, but this is not one of those things. This is a black and white matter that really only has one answer. I hope for the sake of the people around this women it is just poor word choice and she doesn‘t really think this, but I‘m not about to stick around to find out. 5y
Weaponxgirl @GingerAntics I‘m the same, I like to have my thoughts challenged but I have cut off points. Help me see things in a new way but some things are just harmful and wrong and I‘m not going to support anyone expressing those views. 5y
Weaponxgirl Are we talking about incels? And how they are still often classed as lone wolves and not domestic terrorists when they commit violence. Yet black lives matters and antifa will get called terrorists by certain people in power. 5y
Chrissyreadit @GingerAntics the status quo is scary. I‘ve heard recently that women will be the last to have true equality. When intersectionality is added that is just an insane concept of the way humans are valued. I‘m also struggling to stay hopeful in a country whose ideals I believed in until I learned they only count for a few people. 5y
GingerAntics @Weaponxgirl yup. Those are them. 5y
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit yeah, I think that‘s a dark day for every American female. The day you learn you‘re not actually equal to the men around you, even though 51% of Americans are female. 5y
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