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This book is so problematic, no one should read it. The most dangerous part was when he suggested that in the case of deformity or injury to an infant‘s penis, it was okay to perform surgery and raise the child as a girl. This is steadfastly wrong and against the human rights of that child. Period. This is never okay and the fact that this is suggested in this book discredits the entire thing. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻

GingerAntics Obviously Dr. Spitz is pro circumcision, but he could at least be honest about that bias. His arguments for circumcision range from the antithetical (circumcision decreases STIs, but the US, with significantly more circumcision has WAY higher STI rates than countries that don‘t circumcise) to the laughable (circumcision reduces the rate of foreskin-related problems - well, DUH! ... 3y
GingerAntics You can‘t have a problem with something you don‘t have. Logically, this should read “eliminates foreskin-related problems”). Even some of his own sources for this section (nih.gov) don‘t exist anymore, because new research negates what he used even though it was published the year before this book. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 3y
GingerAntics There are ridiculous gender normative moments within these pages. There is body positivity for men only, but women better keep the pounds off of their men will get ED. This is so repetitive (there are multiple whole paragraphs that are repeated verbatim 3 or more times) it‘s ridiculous. The word play was cute in places, but got old fast and simply deteriorated to immature in others. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 3y
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GingerAntics I wouldn‘t trust this guy with the health of a house plant. Forget letting him anywhere near the genitals of someone I love. #DrAaronSpitz #ThePenisBook #SexPositive2021 3y
GingerAntics Officially, sex positive 2021 is going TERRIBLY!!! 3y
TrishB Great review though 👍🏻 3y
Amandajoy Your reviews are fantastic! I found this article on Book Riot that might help you out, https://bookriot.com/best-sex-positive-books/amp/ they tend to be good at recommendations. I‘ve read one and a half from the list, and they‘ve been good. 3y
Eggbeater Maybe you need to write your own book if there's nothing good out there. 3y
GingerAntics @Amandajoy when I googled I did not find this list. This is exactly what I was looking for back in October and November. Thank you for this. I have some books from this list, luckily. So hopefully it will go better. It certainly can‘t get any worse. I‘ll look into more books from this list as well. 3y
GingerAntics @Eggbeater I fear that would be the blind leading the blind. The first book I read was certainly that. There are plenty of sex positive books out there, but I guess no one has written a sex positive guide to the parts themselves. 🤷🏼‍♀️ 3y
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OH MY GOD NO!!! NO NO NO NO NO!!!
When I was 11 years old, I watched an episode of 20/20 about a man who was raised this way. He always struggled with being a tomboy and liking girls, which wasn‘t allowed since he was being raised as a girl. He found out as a young adult that he was actually born a boy. He barely talked to his parents again, especially after they objected to him getting surgeries to have his body turned back to a man‘s body. 👇🏻

GingerAntics This had a PROFOUND effect on me as a child. This was when I realised, with my logical, over thinking, child‘s brain (see, it‘s not that complicated folks) that gender is not how someone is raised and the people someone is attracted to has nothing to do with how someone is raised. It‘s innate, so if someone is gay, get over it. If someone is in the wrong body, get over it. Be supportive or shut up. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 3y
GingerAntics I also realised that day all those years ago now, the pain and suffering people go through when they feel different on the inside than their outside body says they are supposed to be. I didn‘t know the word “transgender” back then and wouldn‘t even hear it until I was out of college, but I certainly understood the concept. Knowing there was a word for it seemed perfectly logical once I did hear it. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 (edited) 3y
GingerAntics Perhaps the most important thing I learned that day is that forcing someone to be who they are not, forcing your will for someone on them with no regard for them (child or adult) does nothing by damage the relationship involved.b👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 3y
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GingerAntics I get that I wasn‘t a stupid child by any stretch of the imagination (20/20 and Primetime Live were among my favourite TV shows in middle to upper elementary school after all), but this shouldn‘t be as big of a deal now as it is. This is 2021. Praying away the gay and acting like transgendered people just have mental disorders is barbaric and pathetic. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 3y
GingerAntics THIS IS DANGEROUS!!! THIS SHOULD NOT BE IN A BOOK WRITTEN IN 2018!!! THIS SHOULD NOT BE IN A BOOK WRITTEN AFTER 1996 WHEN THAT EPISODE OF 20/20 AIRED (and probably before that, admittedly)!!! There are people who will say I never should be seen that episode. There are people who will wonder where my parents were while I was watching that episode. The answer is, IT DOESN‘T MATTER!!! 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 3y
GingerAntics That was quite possibly the most formative moment for me as a person, for me as a human being, for me to become a loving, caring, open hearted and open minded person. I remember that episode SO vividly, because the pain was so evident in this man‘s voice (his face was blurred out as I recall). This should not be in this book. It angers me and breaks my heart that any such suggestion exists in 2018, that any such suggestion ever existed. (edited) 3y
GingerAntics Okay, I‘m off my soap box now. 3y
TrishB I hear you ♥️ 3y
quietlycuriouskate WTF?! That's horrific! 3y
Amandajoy Well, won‘t be picking this book up. 3y
GingerAntics @Amandajoy it is an instantaneous deal breaker, isn‘t it? 3y
GingerAntics @kathedron so many new parents, especially young ones trusts their doctor‘s explicitly. If a doctor told them to do this, they wouldn‘t ask questions, they would assume this was the best choice and just do it. It‘s overwhelming and heart breaking to wonder how many little boys were raised as little girls, living their entire lives in desperation and confusion, because of this mentality. Sadly, as far as I can tell, no one has kept statistics on it 3y
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This is three sentences away from the last quote. How did we go from gender normative out dated madness to such open minded modern thinking? And how in the bloody hell did it happen SO fast?! This bit is actually quite interesting when not distracted by his other blather.
#DrAaronSpitz #ThePenisBook #SexPositive2021 #transgender

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What bloody year did this research come from? So as a child that enjoyed both propelled toys and nurturing toys in equal measure, where do I fall in this little example? As for the slack all reasoning bit, so all those female engineers, computer programmers and video game designers and players, they‘re just men trapped in women‘s bodies?! WTF
#DrAaronSpitz #ThePenisBook #SexPositive2021 #WTF

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Did he just say what I think he just said?
“Your man might not need viagra. It might just be that you need to lose some weight, fatty.”
So much for body positive. REALLY falling out of love with this book.
#DrAaronSpitz #ThePenisBook #SexPositive2021 #whatjusthappenedhere

Chrissyreadit Interesting that it does not say: your partner may demonstrate a lack of desire due to your weight gain- I‘ve noticed even the obnoxious body shaming is always toward women. 3y
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit right? It‘s just his sexual issue. It mentions that women may have sexual issues, too, but only insofar as they‘re to blame for his. For the love. 🤦🏼‍♀️🥃 (edited) 3y
RamsFan1963 Sometimes it falls the other way, the man gains weight and he no longer feels sexy or thinks a woman will find him attractive. Insecurity of his looks effects his desire for sex, fear of rejection. 3y
GingerAntics @RamsFan1963 that‘s true, but that was absolutely never mentioned. It was mind blowing. I‘m sure the whole feeling desirable or sexy or not, fear of rejections effecting things is similar on both sides. Blaming either side really doesn‘t help, though. 3y
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Falling out of love with this book now. He‘s pro-circumcision, and I‘ve heard the opposite from other sources. Naturally, I checked his sources. Some of them don‘t even exist anymore at their .gov locations because new data (available before this was published) now shows otherwise. I then did some basic research of my own and his reasons have fallen apart.
1. Only if the uncircumcised penis is not kept clean.
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GingerAntics 2. Well DUH! If you don‘t have a foreskin, it can‘t have complications. This is like saying women have reduced rates of penis-related problems. (edited) 3y
GingerAntics 3. Actually, America has far more circumcised men and WAY more STDs and STIs than Europe where far fewer men are circumcised. The graph of this was truly terrifying. I may never have sex with an American man again. (edited) 3y
GingerAntics 4. Funny how it works out, penile cancer has highest prevalence in third world countries. It‘s about a 50/50 shot if each country routinely circumcises or not, so this is a wash until further research is done. Interesting note, men who move from those countries to other countries with lower prevalence rates, have lower prevalence rates, even though their status as cut or not has not changed. Funny how that works out. 3y
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GingerAntics 5. This MAY actually have some merit. European countries that have a low circumcision rate have higher rates of prostate cancer; HOWEVER, research released as early as 2017 (this book was released in 2018) shows that there are other factors at play because within those countries, even circumcised men have a higher risk of prostate cancer, lending credence to environmental factors being the cause. 3y
GingerAntics Never mind for his HIV argument he cited a long debunked pseudo-study funded by the Catholic Church in Africa in the 60‘s. Outdated much? Let‘s stop mutilating the genitals of all children immediately until there is concrete evidence that there is some sort of actual benefit to it? (edited) 3y
GingerAntics He also used the creepy “infants can‘t feel as much pain so it‘s okay to perform a surgical procedure on the most sensitive part of their body with little to no anaesthesia or pain medications” argument that has been debunked for about 20 years. 3y
Chrissyreadit Did he mention reduced sexual pleasure? I‘ve spoken with an intactivist who was circumcised and he broached the idea that anger and aggression begin to be taught with the pain ofcircumcision. It was a long time ago- but I did not forget the concept. I suspect that we should be lucky female circumcision was not used here to curb masturbation at this point - the insanity of this procedure and it‘s continuation floors me. 3y
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit he did. Apparently science was done that proved there was no difference in nerve ending responses between circumcised and uncircumcised men. Never mind, every man who has managed to experience both says there is a difference. He claimed that was just a placebo effect. I‘ve also heard the aggression/psychological argument. He mentioned it in passing in about a sentence. He didn‘t think it was worth really addressing. 🙄 3y
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit I‘ve read and heard accounts from neonatal nurses. They all know exactly which boys have been circumcised and when, because easy going, peaceful, happy babies are suddenly inconsolable, needy, and jumpy. I‘ve seen pictures from right before and right after, these babies faces will haunt you, and they say it all. 3y
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The most body positive statement was found in the Penis book, not the vagina one. He also took the exact approach I hoped for in the vagina book. “A small percentage of people are abnormal. If you think you might be, talk to your doctor.” End of discussion. 💙💙💙
#DrAaronSpitz #ThePenisBook #SexPositive2021 #BodyPositive

GingerAntics @monkeygirlsmama see, this one is so much better. Surely there is an OB/GYN who can take a similar approach to the female side of the street. 3y
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Going from one side of the street to the other with this one. Plus, I do love them. 😏😉 Hopefully this one is better than The Vagina Bible.
#DrAaronSpitz #ThePenisBook #SexPositive2021

Riveted_Reader_Melissa Good luck... 3y
Branwen 🤣😂🙊🍆 3y
GingerAntics @Branwen you have no idea. I‘ve said before, “I love penises.” 😂🤣😂 A friend of mine and I always greet each other in private chats with “PENIS!!!” instead of “hey.” 😂🤣😂 This book is fun. In fact, so far, it‘s what I was hoping the Vagina Bible would be. He‘s actually linked male arousal to their brains and their senses. That certainly was no part of the vagina book, but somehow the brain being important is in ever article for men about women (edited) 3y
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Branwen @GingerAntics That sounds super interesting! 😀 3y
GingerAntics @Branwen I‘m really only one chapter in, but so far it‘s been fun. 3y
GingerAntics @Branwen a few more chapters in and still stunningly fascinating. I had no idea how complicated the hormonal element was to proper function. We act like women are complicated hormonal hurricanes and men aren‘t, but really they both are. 3y
Branwen @GingerAntics I'm super intrigued! I'll have to see if my library has a copy! 🤔 3y
GingerAntics @Branwen fingers crossed. I couldn‘t find it at the library. 3y
monkeygirlsmama I'm intrigued. 3y
GingerAntics @monkeygirlsmama so far this one is a lot of fun. He mixed in some puns to keep even the dryer content interesting. He‘s approached it all very scientifically, without making it overwhelming or boring. This is honestly what I wish the vagina Bible had been. 3y
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