Litsy

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men | Lundy Bancroft

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I never posted my review on here for this book I read. 2012-2017 was around the time that I was trying to be friends with my ex boyfriend. Someone in a narcissistic abuse support group I‘m in on Facebook recommended this book. This helped me see that my ex boyfriend was a narcissist. I never looked at him the same way after reading this book. Maybe I need to reread this book because I got a lot out of it. As they say, knowledge is power.

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iread2much

Men Who Hate Women & the Women Who Love Them | Susan Forward

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I was extremely disappointed in this book - I learned more on the topic from the author‘s interviews than I did reading. I appreciate that the author wanted to work through her trauma but I didn‘t want to read the trauma dump and not understand the WHY of this timely and impotent topic.
0/5 listen to the interviews about this book and you‘ll learn more about the rising danger of the manosphere and the deadly consequences of misogyny

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GingerAntics

Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men | Jane Ward

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Straight men, are you okay? Straight white men, are you specifically okay? This entire book is an ode to the idea that it‘s about damned time we abandon our insistence on a binary view of life, love, sexuality, attraction, and gender.
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GingerAntics This book is also very clear on how the toxic masculinity that harms women actually turns on itself in hazing rituals, ultimately using that violence and domination over weaker members of the group to reiterate and perpetuate itself. There is nothing healthy going on here. No, men are not okay. Straight men are not okay. Straight white men are absolutely not okay. Sadly, they are the ones most fervently fighting to keep things this way. 5mo

GingerAntics #JaneWard #NotGay #men #whitemen #straightmen #masculinity #ToxicMasculinity #gay #straight #binary #genderbinary #sexualbinary 5mo

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GingerAntics

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality | Jane Ward

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#JaneWard #TheTragedyOfHeterosexuality #men #women #weneedproof

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GingerAntics

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality | Jane Ward

This seems so obvious, and yet it‘s just not true for A LOT of men. I‘m certainly not saying every man, but the loudest, most vocal, most powerful men certainly. Not to mention all the men who look up to those men as the ideal of manhood and masculinity.
#JaneWard #TheTragedyOfHeterosexuality #men #women #intowomen #forwomen #manhood #masculinity #simple

TheBookHippie A man attaches himself to woman - not to enjoy her, but to enjoy himself.
SIMONE DE BEAUVOIR 5mo

GingerAntics @TheBookHippie she was actually comparing heterosexual ideals to queer ones. That in heterosexual culture it‘s about what is most pleasurable to the man, not is pleasurable for the woman, ever. In queer culture it‘s how much pleasure a body can experience. Full stop. She was baffled by a survey where every straight man said sex was over when he came. She said “I can‘t imagine sex with my wife being over just because either of us came.” 🤣😂🤣 5mo

GingerAntics @TheBookHippie basically, the whole books can be boiled down to “straight men think they are entitled to sex” and “heterosexuals, are you okay?” 5mo

TheBookHippie @GingerAntics exactly. Men think sex is for them. That‘s it. Women are an object to achieve it whether they want it or not. 5mo

GingerAntics @TheBookHippie yup! I loved this book. It was just a little snarky, just a little funny, but very poignant and important. 5mo

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GingerAntics

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality | Jane Ward

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#JaneWard #TheTragedyOfHeterosexuality #men #women #queer #lovewomen

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GingerAntics

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality | Jane Ward

WHAT THE ACTUAL FLYING 🤬?!
Sadly, given the state of affairs between men and women these days, I think this has just become the quiet part we don‘t actually say out loud. “Men‘s latent cruelty in courtship and women‘s receptivity to pain and domination as core heterosexual impulses.”
#JaneWard #TheTragedyOfHeterosexuality #eugenics #men #women #disturbing #oddlytrue #stilltrue

GingerAntics The Five Love Languages is a continuation of this theme! I KNEW I hated that book.

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

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fredthemoose

Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do about It | Richard Reeves

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⭐️⭐️⭐️ I‘m torn on this one. The author highlights important areas where boys lag behind girls (rates of maturation, educational attainment) and ways particularly Black boys experience discrimination and the structural issues they face in school and society. He‘s careful to make clear he does not want to improve outcomes for boys and men at the expense of women. He loses me when talking about how now that women don‘t “need” men, ⬇️

fredthemoose … men are now adrift and don‘t know their roles. I have a hard time thinking of other groups who are waiting for society to present them with their unique, valued role instead of just rolling up their sleeves, figuring out how to use their talents to make a contribution and getting to work. 🤷‍♀️ (edited) 7mo

willaful Nicely put! 7mo

quietlycuriouskate 🎯 7mo

fredthemoose @willaful @quietlycuriouskate thanks. I really struggled with what to think of this. It did make me think and I want to be fair to it. The author was careful never to say it, but it seemed like implicitly a lot of the problem is that men are no long implicit the top of the hierarchy just for existing and that is hard for them and I‘m not the *most* sympathetic to that. (edited) 7mo

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