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The Unexpected Joy of Being Single
The Unexpected Joy of Being Single: Locating happily-single serenity | Catherine Gray
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Having a secret single freak-out? Feeling the red, heart-shaped urgency intensify as the years roll on by? Oh hi! You're in the right place. Over half of Brits aged 25-44 are now single. It's become the norm to remain solo until much later in life, given the average marriage ages of 35 (women) and 38 (men). Many of us are choosing never to marry at all. But society, films, song lyrics and our parents are adamant that a happy ending has to be couple-shaped. That we're incomplete without an 'other half'*, like a bisected panto pony. Cue: single sorrow. Dating like it's a job. Spending half our lives waiting for somebody-we-fancy to text us back. Feeling haunted by the terms 'spinster' or 'confirmed bachelor.' Catherine Gray took a whole year off dating to find single satisfaction. She lifted the lid on the reasons behind the global single revolution, explored the bizarre ways cultures single-shame, detached from 'all the good ones are gone!' panic and debunked the myth that married people are much happier. Let's start the reverse brainwash, in order to locate - and luxuriate in - single happiness. Are you in? *Spoiler: you're already whole PRAISE FOR CATHERINE GRAY'S WRITING: "Fascinating." Bryony Gordon. "Not remotely preachy." The Times "Jaunty, shrewd and convincing." The Telegraph "Admirably honest, light, bubbly and remarkably rarely annoying." The Guardian "Truthful, modern and real." Stylist "Brave, witty and brilliantly written." Marie Claire "Haunting, admirable and enlightening." The Pool
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Birdsong28
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Good. Interesting take on how single people are perceived in society by not just culture but our friends and family. Not your normal self help book as it doesn't try to change your way of thinking but validates it.

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hermyknee
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Mehso-so

Eh. I skipped chapters A LOT. I think this book was mainly written for people who have trouble being without a partner for any length of time (not me), so I only related to / cared about half of what she wrote.

I love the research she did about why and how married people treat singles more often than not like projects or something to fix.

She broke down the stigma of being female and single - where it comes from, why, etc. vs. male singledom.

Weaponxgirl Happily single here too! Wouldn‘t mind a relationship sometimes but it had better be damn near perfect to get me away from how I‘m living my life now. I think I got this in a kindle deal sometime, may give it a read but thanks for the heads up 7mo
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hermyknee

When you‘re told that something is running out, it triggers a panic to bag one up RIGHT NOW.... It‘s why consumers stampede over fallen shoppers on Black Friday to nab a half-price flatscreen. It‘s why the frequently wheeled out line, “all the good ones are gone,” strikes fear into the heart of single people.... Dating is not a “get it before it‘s gone” sale. The single men and women are never going to run out, I promise.

tealwish I need to read this!! 7mo
hermyknee @tealwish she does some great work debunking the myths that there‘s something wrong with being single and looking at the sexism at how single women are viewed vs. single men (edited) 7mo
Birdsong28 I have not long bought this and I totally relate as I am nearly 30 and single. I need to bump this up my TBR!!! 7mo
hermyknee @Birdsong28 it‘s an alright read - some of the research and social stigmas she talks about is really interesting and great for quick quips when people get all in your business and are like, “why are you single?” But some of it is kind of self-indulgent and she talks about being a “love addict” and about her own life so much, parts of it read like a journal her therapist told her to write to work her sh!t out 😳 Parts of it were good though 7mo
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hermyknee
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#audiocooking 🦋 this book is interesting so far (although I did skip an hour long chapter called “the making of a love addict” because it was boring) - other than that, it has been good!

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