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Unbound: Transgender Men and the Remaking of Identity | Arlene Stein
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A deep sociological portrait of a new generation of transgender men and of how they see themselves and the world, the dangers they continue to face, and the important ways in which they shape our culture. Ben, Parker, Lucas, Nadia are four patients of Florida's Dr. Charles Garramonepreparing to receive surgery to masculinize their chests on the same day. In the following years, they, along with more than a hundred others across the country, opened up to the award-winning professor of gender and sexuality Arlene Stein about how they conceive of their identities and sexuality, how they decided to transition, how they were received by their families and communities, and the joys and challenges they continue to face after transitioning. Weaving together the history of the transgender movement and the personal journeys of these transgender individuals, Stein sheds light on how transgender men tell their stories, make sense of their lives, and build communities in the face of skepticism, confusion, ignorance, and, often, violence. Because despite any progress we've made as a culture in accepting alternative identities, Ben and the others Stein meets continue to live in a world that is dangerous to them. In this moving, raw, intimate book about the lives of transgender men, Stein reveals how transgender men as a group, largely invisible in previous decades, today exert a significant impact on business, medicine, culture, and have drastically reshaped how we as a nation conceive of gender, sex, and identity. In so doing, Stein has also created an essential resource on female to male transitioning: for parents, educators, friends, and those who question their identities and seek further information.
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SkeletonKey
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Skimmed the last chapter or so due to disinterest.

The biggest problem seemed to be that the author, a self-described baby boomer, cisgender lesbian, filtered her thoughts on transgender men through that lens. Lots of misinformation and bias.

It‘s sad because we need more literature on this very subject... it would just be nice if it were accurate literature.

Returning to my pile of books by actual trans people now.

#transbooks

jmofo It‘s probably not high on your list, but I am going to NOT recommend Chaz Bono‘s book. Maybe read it after you‘ve read many, many others...I found it needlessly othering about queer or non-binary gender and judgey about many body types and not in a let‘s-unpack-it way. Super disappointing. 5y
SkeletonKey @jmofo - Sadly enough, it was one of the very first ftm memoirs heavily advertised and I read it before I began to accept myself... the thing I found so difficult to read was how much he rejected the feminine and embraced poor male stereotypes in order to fit in, so I refused to believe we had some things in common. It was so, so off putting for me. Feminine isn‘t a bad word, and I‘m still working towards a feminine/masculine balance. 5y
SkeletonKey @jmofo - That being said, it also allowed the first conversations to be had and was pivotal at the time for me and a lot of people to discuss these things in a more public way with family and friends so I can‘t totally throw it out. It‘s good to have more to pick from now. 5y
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jmofo @SkeletonKey I myself don‘t understand the binary thing personally but I understand it makes sense to pretty much every one else, seemingly. I want to read more about/by the folks who are less interested in embracing the stereotypes and more interested in expressing themselves as they are. I often try to suss out what the masculine and feminine umbrellas mean outside of modes of dress. The whole thing confuses me, pretty much since I was little. 5y
jmofo @SkeletonKey I hear you. Ms. Jenner being on the cover of a magazine did make it easier to talk about, even if the talk got complicated...I remember when the only book a person could think to recommend was Stone Butch Blues when Sister Outsider also existed. 5y
SkeletonKey @jmofo - Sister Outsider is so damn good. If you haven‘t read them, I really enjoy Kate Bornstein, Ivan Coyote, and S. Bear Bergman. They‘re less intent on the binary. I also bought a book called Delusions of Gender recently but haven‘t read it yet. Do you follow Alok Vaid-Menon? They have a chapbook out that‘s great. 5y
SkeletonKey @jmofo - Gender is weird. 5y
jmofo @SkeletonKey 👏 Yay recommends!!! I am excited about that! Thank you! I have the Delusions of Gender somewhere around here. I haven‘t read it yet either. I‘ve tangentially come across post colonial feminism & coloniailty of gender as ideas but haven‘t dug in yet. There‘s been some serious academic writing that intimidates me a bit. 5y
jmofo @SkeletonKey humanity is weird. 😅 5y
SkeletonKey @jmofo - Okay true 😂🤣😂 5y
kgriffith Thanks for the warning, marking as Bailed so I don‘t get tricked into stacking it ;) 5y
SkeletonKey @kgriffith - Happy to help 🤗 5y
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SkeletonKey
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Oh my god, if you don‘t understand, like or accept trans men please don‘t think you can write an entire book about the subject. This chapter is the worst.

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kgriffith What. The fuck. 😡 5y
SkeletonKey @kgriffith - Right? 🤯 5y
TrishMcCallister Woah.... 👎🏻 5y
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SkeletonKey @TrishMcCallister - I can‘t for the life of me figure out why she wrote this book. 5y
jmofo I‘m glad your surgeon wasn‘t thrilled with this author. I‘m glad your medical peeps aren‘t like this. 😒 5y
SkeletonKey @jmofo - Me too, I‘m pretty thankful for the experience I had after seeing some of the opinions in here 😮 5y
SkeletonKey @Clare-Dragonfly - Glad it‘s not just me that finds that totally inappropriate 🤯 5y
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SkeletonKey
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My surgeon just shut down this author 😂🤣😂

“He looks at me as though I live on another planet. ‘I don‘t view it that way,‘ he responds good-naturedly. ‘People want to feel comfortable in their skin‘ That‘s true of both trans and cisgender people..‘”

Some of this book is making me cringe but wow, that was worth it.

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SkeletonKey
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Currently reading.

And sitting next to my unfortunate TBR and art supply mess on the coffee table right now 🤦‍♂️

#tbr #transbooks #queerbooks

daniwithtea I‘ve heard not-great things about this book - I‘d be interested to hear your thoughts once you‘ve read it! 5y
SkeletonKey @daniwithtea - Oh no 😔 I was worried when I saw it was written by a sociologist and not a transgender person. If I start getting ookie feelings then I probably won‘t finish, but I‘ll definitely review it either way. 5y
lovelybookshelf Yeah, @daniwithtea is right. I don't know any trans folks who were happy about this book. Instead, they were disgusted and outraged, and said it also gets super TERFy. 😞 5y
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daniwithtea Yeah, that‘s more or less what I‘d heard, @lovelybookshelf 5y
SkeletonKey @lovelybookshelf @daniwithtea - That‘s depressing. Especially since there aren‘t enough books on the subject and I‘ve already exhausted my library. 😔 5y
lovelybookshelf I have an LGBTQ #ownvoices tag at the top of my site if that helps. Most of them tend to be by trans and nonbinary authors. Heath Fogg Davis's book is a great 5y
lovelybookshelf *great read (hit Send too soon) 5y
SkeletonKey @lovelybookshelf - I‘ve read that one, but thanks! I enjoyed it as well. 5y
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hoggman Did you ever read/finish this? How was it? 6y
NoFrigateLikeABook @hoggman I did not like it! It wasn‘t written by a trans author, and that shows. That‘s my short review, ha. 5y
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