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Adoption Unfiltered
Adoption Unfiltered: Revelations from Adoptees, Birth Parents, Adoptive Parents, and Allies | Sara Easterly, Kelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard, Lori Holden
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Reveals the candid thoughts and feelings of those most directly involved in adoptions: adoptees, adoptive parents, and birth parents. Adoption Unfiltered authors Sara Easterly (adoptee), Kelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard (birth parent), and Lori Holden (adoptive parent) interview dozens of adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, social workers, therapists, and other alliesall sharing candidly about the challenges in adoption. While finding common ground in the sometimes-contentious space of adoption may seem like a lofty goal, it reveals the authors optimistic aim: working together with truth and transparency to move toward healing. Healing isnt possible, though, without first uncovering the hurtsstarting with adoptions central players: adoptees, who are so often in pain, suffering from what the latest brain science validates as the long-term emotional effects of separation trauma. By encouraging others to vulnerably share their stories, the authors discover that adoptees arent the only ones in the adoption constellation who are hurting. Birth parents regularly shut down after being shut out by adoptive parents. Adoptive parents often struggle with unique parenting challenges and hidden insecurity, feeling the need to hide the fact that they are not the Super Parents they led the agency to believe they would be. Across the industry as a whole, misinformed and even unethical practices abound. Adoption Unfiltered models the importance of adults in adoption working together in the spirit of curiosity and empathyto better support adoptees and their first and adoptive families.
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This is the first book I‘ve read about adoption. It isn‘t something I know a lot about, so I wanted to educate myself. I have two friends who are part of the adoption world—one who was adopted, the other faced two forced pregnancies which ended in placement and lots of trauma. As a clinic escort, I have heard every argument for adoption. As someone who grew up in a fundamentalist, white, evangelical, heteronormative household, I have ⬇️

JenniferEgnor heard repeated all the ‘sins‘ of the many situations in which someone might choose (or chosen for them) adoption. It is a highly stigmatized subject and too often, we don‘t hear the real voices of those who are most affected by it. This book is inclusive and covers all the gaps left behind. I learned a lot from it, and saw a lot of what my friend told me about her experiences, reflected in these pages. We need to have real, ‘unfiltered‘⬇️ 3w
JenniferEgnor conversations about adoption and everything it entails—and this book shows how to do that, starting with people who are these experiences. I am not a parent of humans, only dogs and cats—I never wanted to parent. I will ALWAYS support choices. I hope that we will see policy changes that will transform the spaces of adoption and all pregnancy outcomes, creating something beautiful for all of us. Because what we are living in is not it. ⬇️ 3w
JenniferEgnor Follow this instagram account for real stories: https://www.instagram.com/adoptiontruth?igsh=MXdmYXk5eW03dDRwNA== 3w
JenniferEgnor Older article from Ms. Magazine about adoption and choice: https://msmagazine.com/2023/04/05/adoption-abortion-forced-birth-supreme-court/ 3w
JenniferEgnor Another Instagram account to follow with heart wrenching stories about these intersections…: https://www.instagram.com/iwasprolifeuntil?igsh=cnBldGpybnNyZndu 3w
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