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Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? | Dr Julie Smith
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Pre-order your copy of Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? today! __________ Dr Julie Smith delivers in a big way in Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?... If you want to feel like you have a therapist sitting across from you, empowering you with how to be your best self, this book is for you! ? Nicole LePera, New York Times bestselling author of How to Do the Work Smart, insightful, and warm. Dr Julie is both the expert and wise friend we all need ? Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and co-host of the 'Dear Therapists' podcast __________ Drawing on years of experience as a clinical psychologist, online sensation Dr Julie Smith shares all the skills you need to get through life's ups and downs. Filled with secrets from a therapist's toolkit, this is a must-have handbook for optimising your mental health. Dr Julie's simple but expert advice and powerful coping techniques will help you stay resilient no matter what life throws your way. Written in short, bite-sized entries, you can turn straight to the section you need depending on the challenge you're facing - and immediately find the appropriate tools to help. From managing anxiety, dealing with criticism or battling low mood, to building self-confidence, finding motivation or learning to forgive yourself, this book tackles the everyday issues that affect us all and offers easy, practical solutions that might just change your life. __________
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RaeLovesToRead
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This is something that can be difficult to understand for people who are naturally cheerful, because what can be the harm in positivity, right?

Sadly, it can feel very lonely and alienating if it jars with your inner experience.

It's OK to stop trying to gaslight yourself.

I recommend cat pictures, self-deprecating humour, distraction, music, videogames, tea, ranting & light exercise instead.

Whatever gets you through!

You're not alone 🫂

Bookwomble Toxic positivity is toxic! ☣️ 1w
ImperfectCJ Reminds me of this book I read---and related to---years ago. It introduced me to the term "defensive pessimism." 1w
ImperfectCJ And this one (for a humorous option) 1w
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RaeLovesToRead @Bookwomble @ImperfectCJ Shout out to my fellow grumps! 😁💕 Don't get me wrong, there are many positive nuggets that I've drunk in and found comfort from over the years. It's nice not to have to put on a front all the time though. I find a sense of humour is the biggest blessing. 1w
RaeLovesToRead @Bookwomble @ImperfectCJ Someone posted this one the other day too and it made me giggle... 1w
kassandrik Toxic positivity is just the worst! All emotions matter if they are not leading to aggression and harm. Also, speaking out loud own worries sometimes works better if we want to reduce power of anxiety. 1w
Cuilin @Bookwomble So toxic! I think it‘s a way of communicating “Please don‘t tell me how you really feel.” As a neurodivergent I hate it!! 1w
RaeLovesToRead @kassandrik @Cuilin The absolute WORST affirmation is "happiness is a choice" ???? 1w
kassandrik “Just think positively. You choose the way you think. Negativity is in your head“ That's what I dislike to hear :(
Usually, when I hear these statements, I just want to remind people about the power of emotional validation. If someone is sad or unhappy, just be there and listen. It is much more empowering than “Be happy!“ attitude
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RaeLovesToRead @kassandrik Yes. And no two brains are alike. We're all sitting in very different emotional and cognitive environments to start off with. What works for one may not work for another 💙 1w
The_Penniless_Author 💯 We've discussed this topic before, so you know I'm in total agreement. Shout out to my favorite anti-faux-positivity book 1w
RaeLovesToRead @The_Penniless_Author Yup, although you are the cheery recipient of maaaaany miserable, ranty emails from Yours Truly so be careful what you wish for 😉😇 1w
Bookwomble @Cuilin Sad is a valid emotion that we ignore at our peril. As a fellow neurodivergent, I'm trying not to mask so much & to accept & learn from what my emotions are communicating. Feeling the loss of a public figure last week, I consoled myself by reading aloud, in my best theatrical voice, the Rubáiyát of Omar Khayyám, a poem about the fleetingness of life, the inevitability of death, the likelihood of oblivion, & felt much better for it! 6d
Cuilin @Bookwomble I‘ve been married for 26 years and I‘m just beginning to unmask around my in-laws. 😮‍💨 I‘m definitely checking out that poem. May I ask what public figure? And I‘m sorry for your sadness. 🥰 6d
Bookwomble @Cuilin I've only "come out" to a few people. Those who know me best said, "No shit, Sherlock!", so I've felt supported and accepted. I hope your in-laws are understanding ? It was a singer I like, Steve Harley. I posted about him at this tag #TuesdayTunes It activated some of my personal loss, too, but I think being connected with that is beneficial in processing it. I hope you like the Rubáiyát; it's one of my favourites, especially the 1st ed. 6d
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Santie
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I took my sweet time reading this book. It is written in clear and simple language and without a lot of the jargon that is thrown around unnecessary online these days. It‘s a realistic perspective on simple steps that can be taken to create a better life experience. 3.5/5 ⭐️

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Infinite_Adnan
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Pickpick

A wonderful and easy read. It's a simple guide for maintaining good mental health with different sections and different chapters on topics like relationships, anxiety, stress, the importance of self-compassion, gratitude and mindfulness. I really wish I'd read it in 2019, would've saved me a lot of time and tears.
I would definitely recommend it to anyone and everyone, especially if you feel concerned about mental health.

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Infinite_Adnan
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Yep! Teach a teenager about meaning...

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Santie
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At this point I‘m a recovering book buyer and aspiring book reader. But oh well. Always keep friends that buy you books.

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Sarahannereadsbooks
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I think the author has done a really good job in putting all this information into one book, as I feel like I've read a lot of this before, but in different books. It's so useful to have it all together in one book. It doesn't delve too deeply, but there is enough information to be useful.

Personally, I think it's a book I will go back to again and again for reference, as the many page tabs I have used would testify.

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Chelsea.Poole
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A bunch of this is common sense, but it‘s nice to read and help take yourself back down to earth during periods of struggle and uncertainty. Not sure how much I took away from my reading experience, but I can‘t say anything negative about it. Not life changing for me but might work well for others.

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