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If you want to build strong relationships, you‘ll need to be accepting of beliefs and views you don‘t agree with.

The region of the brain that‘s activated when you experience rejection is the same that registers emotional responses to physical pain

Emptiness of identity seems to be not knowing who you are, what you feel, or what you want. It‘s a hollow feeling, a nothingness. It‘s as if you‘re a puppet just responding to what‘s expected or what string is pulled.

If you view failure as an opportunity to learn, you can recognize that when you attempt a task but don‘t succeed, you usually still gain new skills and a better understanding of the situation

If you assume others are against you, then you‘ll judge their actions differently than if you assume others have your best interests at heart.

Acceptance isn‘t about agreeing with the way things are—it‘s simply an acknowledgment that reality is what it is

When you complain, you‘re focused on what‘s wrong rather than what‘s right with the world. Over time, if you complain a lot, you may find that you‘re focused more on what you don‘t like than what you like about your day. You may even ignore the positives and only focus on what didn‘t go well. In that way, your reality can become distorted and your suffering may increase.

So when you‘re at work, be mindful of your work. Focus your attention on one work task at a time. Then when you‘re at home, be at home. Leave work at work. When you‘re at worship, be at worship. When you‘re driving, be in the car and only drive. When you do one thing at a time, you‘ll lower your stress level, and that will increase your ability to manage your emotions.

Acceptance means letting the emotion happen while recognizing that you don‘t have to act on it.

Thinking that happiness is an either/or proposition—either you‘re happy or you‘re not—is like painting the complex and varied picture of your life in only one color.

The problem is that when you look to the future for happiness, you cannot be at peace in the present. Even when you obtain what you wish for, there‘s always something more to obtain.

Crying is a way to express different emotions. People may laugh until they cry. They cry for joy as well as fear, sorrow, and sadness. Some people cry when they‘re angry. Sometimes you may find yourself crying due to overwhelming feelings you cannot put into words.

Each time you experience the thought, you label it—“That‘s a thought”—and stop yourself from going down the “what if” path.

“I feel I tend to flip-flop. I try to be what others want, until the real me becomes invisible.”

“I‘m not sure who I am; sometimes I‘m who I need to be for that situation.”