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The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober: Discovering a happy, healthy, wealthy alcohol-free life | Catherine Gray
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Ever sworn off alcohol for a month and found yourself drinking by the 7th? Think there's 'no point' in just one drink? Welcome! There are millions of us. Catherine Gray was stuck in a hellish whirligig of Drink, Make horrible decisions, Hangover, Repeat. She had her fair share of 'drunk tank' jail cells and topless-in-a-hot-tub misadventures. But this book goes beyond the binges and blackouts to deep-dive into uncharted territory: What happens after you quit drinking? This gripping, heart-breaking and witty book takes us down the rabbit-hole of an alternative reality. A life with zero hangovers, through sober weddings, sex, Christmases and breakups. In The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober, Catherine Gray shines a light on society's drink-pushing and talks to top neuroscientists and psychologists about why we drink, delving into the science behind what it does to our brains and bodies. Much more than a tale from the netherworld of addicted drinking, this book is about the escape, and why a sober life can be more intoxicating than you ever imagined. Whether you're a hopelessly devoted drinker, merely sober-curious, or you've already ditched the drink, you will love this book.
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What an eye opener this book is! Anyone who is considering reducing their alchohol intake or giving up completely , i would highly recommend reading this book.Catherine drunken experiences are so relatable, and her simple coping techniques have helped me on my way of accomplishing my goal of a year sobriety! #sober#addiction#soberjourney

wanderinglynn Welcome to Litsy! 👋🏻 6mo
Eggbeater I'm in recovery too. So is @hermyknee ❤ 2 months 20 days sober so far! Welcome to Litsy! We can support each other. 6mo
laura26 @Eggbeater thats so good, congratulations! I'm four months sober..how are you finding it so far? Any self help books you would recommend? 6mo
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Eggbeater I liked this memoir, although it's not really a self help book. I found parts of the Narcotics Anonymous book helpful, though I never could do the God thing. I'm in AA, but I don't use their literature much currently. 6mo
hermyknee Hey! Yes, I‘m here, too! I didn‘t go to AA at the beginning of my sobriety, but I am planning to start going to meetings this summer to ensure I maintain it and have people to talk to about it. @Eggbeater has been amazing support! I have a few recommendations you might like: 6mo
hermyknee I liked this book, but I know @Eggbeater didn‘t; I think it depends upon your approach to sobriety. I haven‘t read it since getting sober, but reading it did lead me down the path to getting sober 6mo
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This one is just a so-so for me. Part 1 was interesting and relatable as were several of her pieces during the getting sober process; however, a lot of the scientific information was redundant as I have read some of the books she cites from. The narrative parts were interesting though not quite as funny as Clare Pooley (The Sober Diaries), and not as informative as This Naked Mind. I really enjoyed certain parts, but found myself skipping others.

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I treated myself to some gorgeous bookmarks from Ink & Wonder Designs recently! They just came in today! Here is the Taurus print in her “Inkstrology” series 💖✨🌻

#bookmarks #inkandwonder #taurus #treatyoself #bookmarkhaul

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I just finished Part I of this book and it scared me half to death. Maybe a little too much of it resonated with me (scary), but I‘m also glad (and grateful) I haven‘t ever reached the same depths. The scary thing is that progressive addiction can happen to anyone who drinks, then drinks habitually, then drinks dependently, then drinks addictively. So good on you, Catherine Gray for giving me this swift kick in the ass should I become complacent.

Hestapleton Adding this to my list! Alcoholism runs in my family and I have a hard time saying no, so 2019 is the year I make sure I don‘t set myself up to go down the path my great grandfather and other relatives did. 11mo
hermyknee @Hestapleton 💕 I‘ve really liked this one so far. There are a few other really good ones you might want to check out - I‘ll tag them below! 11mo
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AmyG Wishing you all the best. May 2019 be a clean and successful year for you. 11mo
hermyknee @AmyG thank you!!! (edited) 11mo
Hestapleton @hermyknee thank you so much!!! 11mo
saguarosally Here‘s to the best going forward! 11mo
Daisey Wishing you all the best as you continue on this journey! 11mo
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Merry Christmas, Littens ❄️♥️☃️ I‘m celebrating my first sober Christmas in a long long time 🥰

For those of you not celebrating, have a wonderful day filled with peace, prosperity & love.

I‘m here for #joinin if anyone needs to chat ♥️

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hermyknee @SkeletonKey congratulations! Today is day 51 for me 😊 11mo
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saguarosally @hermyknee How‘s day 52? 👍 11mo
hermyknee @saguarosally it‘s going great! Longest I‘ve been alcohol free in a decade, so that‘s exciting. Thank you for checking in 😊🥰 11mo
saguarosally @hermyknee Cool! Keep on keeping on! 11mo
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Nute Way to go! That is a wonderful accomplishment. I can‘t wait to hear that day-count number keep increasing. You can do it! And it sure does look like your Litsy Family is behind you.❤️ 10mo
hermyknee @Nute thank you! 10mo
saguarosally And day 60? (Well, I finally realized that my capacity for really stupid decisions fueled by alcohol was going to cause some problems. Day 5. It‘s nothing right now, but that‘s because my problems come from drinking excessively more than habitually...) 10mo
hermyknee @saguarosally Day 60 is amazing! I‘ve spent the past three days deep cleaning my apartment - was able to take two car full loads of clothes and kitchen wares to the local charity shop and made $42 today selling books to Half Price! 5 days is a really big deal! Congratulations! One of the books that I found most helpful early on (I read it several times during several false starts, but it really opened my eyes!): 10mo
saguarosally @hermyknee See, I was totally convinced there was no problem because I could go weeks without alcohol, no problem. But when I have one, I can either have a few and enjoy, or too many and end up forgetting time, wandering down dark alleys, or heaven forbid, driving. 10mo
hermyknee @saguarosally blackouts are scary. From what I‘ve read, they start to get worse as time goes on and memory can be affected in the long term (was definitely the case with my own decline) - This Naked Mind has a lot of good research-based information for you. I‘ll tag some more books that have great information here. I‘d recommend starting a journal so you don‘t discard how you feel now later on. For dependent drinkers, the first 11 days your body g 10mo
hermyknee @saguarosally goes through physical withdrawal, so you are lucky if your body isn‘t used to habitual drinking. You may just need some way to remind yourself later on that it‘s not safe for you to drink at all esp. since blackouts occur. I found information in the following books really helpful: 10mo
hermyknee @saguarosally And some of my favorite recovery books are: (edited) 10mo
hermyknee @saguarosally And I‘ve heard really good things about (edited) 10mo
saguarosally @hermyknee That‘s it, because it never became habitual the physical problems aren‘t there. It also masked that there was a problem at all. I thought this was normal. It may be normal but it‘s also a problem. It‘s also time for reading and reprioritizing my TBR. 10mo
saguarosally @hermyknee Blackout scared me. I‘ve actually only blacked out twice, but my other problem is that the bad things happen when I‘m in places that aren‘t familiar. 😳 10mo
hermyknee @saguarosally I think reading has been a big help. Also, telling people I wasn‘t drinking anymore. My (real) friends have all been supportive and my mom is beyond thrilled. She said me choosing to get sober is the best Christmas present she‘s gotten (I really set a high bar, huh? My poor parents). And there are more Littens in recovery than you might think— all here to support you in your journey ♥️ 10mo
saguarosally @hermyknee I‘m not really convinced anyone will ever know. With my luck I‘ll talk about this to someone whose best friend got killed by a drunk driver last week or something equally horrible. :| I don‘t do openness? 10mo
hermyknee @saguarosally do you have audible? Download The Sober Diaries by Clare Pooley! She didn‘t tell anyone for quite a while, but she blogged anonymously and it was a huge help for her. I think she still runs her blog “Mummy Was a Secret Drinker” 10mo
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I preordered this book ages ago, and I‘m so happy to be 43 Days alcohol free when it finally arrived today!

Leftcoastzen Congratulations to you! It‘s hard work and I‘m so happy you are being successful at an incredibly difficult task! 11mo
AmyG 43 and counting. 🎉 11mo
Suet624 Congrats! At least 12 years for me. It‘s hard work but gets easier. 11mo
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hermyknee @Leftcoastzen @AmyG 🥰 thank you!! @Suet624 wow! You rock! I hope to be there, too, one day 😊💕 11mo
dariazeoli Congratulations! 11mo
Suet624 I found out who I really was. 🙂❤️ you will too. 11mo
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Freespirit That's great. I gave up alcohol several years ago when I had a inherited liver disorder diagnosed. Christmas parties aren't quite the same...but it makes you realise how silly everyone else becomes😂😂😂 11mo
SW-T Congrats and happy reading 😊 11mo
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