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I Can't Date Jesus
I Can't Date Jesus: Love, Sex, Family, Race, and Other Reasons I've Put My Faith in Beyoncé | Michael Arceneaux
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In the style of New York Times bestsellers You Can’t Touch My Hair, Bad Feminist, and I’m Judging You, a timely collection of alternately hysterical and soul‑searching essays about what it is like to grow up as a creative, sensitive black man in a world that constantly tries to deride and diminish your humanity. It hasn’t been easy being Michael Arceneaux. Equality for LGBT people has come a long way and all, but voices of persons of color within the community are still often silenced, and being black in America is…well, have you watched the news? With the characteristic wit and candor that have made him one of today’s boldest writers on social issues, I Can’t Date Jesus is Michael Arceneaux’s impassioned, forthright, and refreshing look at minority life in today’s America. Leaving no bigoted or ignorant stone unturned, he describes his journey in learning to embrace his identity when the world told him to do the opposite. He eloquently writes about coming out to his mother; growing up in Houston, Texas; that time his father asked if he was “funny” while shaking his hand; his obstacles in embracing intimacy; and the persistent challenges of young people who feel marginalized and denied the chance to pursue their dreams. Perfect for fans of David Sedaris and Phoebe Robinson, I Can’t Date Jesus tells us—without apologies—what it’s like to be outspoken and brave in a divisive world.
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emileereads
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3.5/5 ⭐️

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alanacristin
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Seems like a good one to start on Easter 😍😂
#mommyreads #sudiobook #librarylove

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QueenJen
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Pickpick

Fantastic!

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QueenJen
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Off to a fantastic start!

wordzie 💝❤😂❤ 4mo
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Megabooks
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Pickpick

Y‘all, I really enjoyed this. I found it cruising my library‘s Overdrive. From the title and prologue, I thought it would be about the intersection of being gay and being a Christian, but he deftly wove in race, being from the South, and pop culture. He even touched on politics, see names for a certain world leader above. He hit the right note between serious and funny. 4.5⭐️

#Nonfiction2019 #somethingthatturnedoutunexpectedly

Weaponxgirl I really loved this book. I was really touched when he talked about his difficult relationship with his dad. 5mo
Megabooks @Weaponxgirl Yes, and the intersection of his sexuality and his mom‘s religion. I‘m really glad he has a great group of friends around him and a solid sister! 5mo
Weaponxgirl @Megabooks yes! I‘d recommend this book to almost anyone, so much to learn from and also it was so relatable. 5mo
Megabooks @Weaponxgirl Agreed!! 5mo
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Omg, I totally remember these! Does anyone else? I remember them being so scary. Now I know they‘re ridiculous, but as a kid 😬😬😬

SailorMoon I'm not sure it was Nostradamus's prediction, but I distinctly remember being so scared of the "millennium bug"... remember that back in 1999 we were told that all technology would shut down due to the change of the millennium, and that the world seemed about to end??? I was only 12 so of course I believed it ? 5mo
Megabooks @SailorMoon I was a bit older, and I remember thinking why would a computer care if it were 99, 00, or 2000? I never understood why it was a big deal 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ Then I remember reading/hearing that Russia hadn‘t corrected their missile silos and I was all 😱😱 On January 5, 2000 a weird winter tornado went my town and the prep for Y2K ended up being useful. 👍🏻👍🏻 All I remember from Nostradamus is people saying Hister was really Hitler. 5mo
Megabooks @SailorMoon Like, whoops! He misspelled Hitler a lot. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ 5mo
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SailorMoon @Megabooks that's a lot of stuff I did not remember!!! I only remember being so scared that on Dec.31st 1999 I locked myself in a room and wrote a page of my diary hoping that, if any new population should ever come to Earth and find it all destroyed, maybe they would know what had happened through my diary LOL my brother still makes fun of me because of that 🤣 5mo
RainyDayReading I remember watching these! Particularly as 2012 was creeping closer. I remember seeing all these people saying that the world was going to end because the Mayan calendar ended in 2012. It definitely freaked me out a bit but thankfully I watched a lot of documentaries and for every one that said the world was going to end there were two others that said otherwise 🤣 definitely a weird time to be growing up in. 5mo
madamereadsalot1 I remember those, and then my parents also listened to these super religious rapture programs where all they did was discuss the signs of the end times and how Jesus was coming back any day now. As a kid, all I could think was how shitty it would be to never get to experience growing up. Now I'm a grown up and know how awful adulthood really is. Total bummer. 😂😂 5mo
Megabooks @SailorMoon lol! I think that‘s sweet! Now that I‘ve started The Lost City of the Monkey God, the author was talking about using ground-penetrating radar to look at Civil War sites for archaeology, so you never know! 🤷🏻‍♀️😊 5mo
Megabooks @RainyDayReading It really was! There were a lot of odd predictions then. For some reason I remember this one man, who seemed to be shouting into the wind, that this interpretation of the Mayan calendar was wrong. One odd thing that always soothed me as a kid was that other societies, from towns to empires, had felt the same way and they were all wrong. (edited) 5mo
Megabooks @madamereadsalot1 Lolololol! Yup! Adulthood can be a huge bummer. 5mo
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I too am a southerner whose faith has been worn away by those that would prefer to beat you with a Bible than love like Jesus. I also feel very at home at the altar of Beyonce, so Michael Arceneaux's book called to me. Arceneaux is funny and honest here in a broken open kind of way. Reading this felt like belonging, as though seeing someone work through the shit of life with grace and wit proved it's possible for us lesser mortals.

Riveted_Reader_Melissa Ok, that sounds like a great read! Stacking! 5mo
everlocalwest @Riveted_Reader_Melissa Awesome! I'm sure you'll enjoy it!! 5mo
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Pickpick

All of Arceneaux's grappling with religion, faith, and its implications on his identity as well as its impact on his relationship with his family were very relatable. Here for his wit and his rage. #24in48

Weaponxgirl I loved this too ❤️ 6mo
SamanthaMarie Stacked!! 6mo
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Weaponxgirl
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Pickpick

This was a great mix of essays. Combining funny and moving and from a voice we hear from so rarely. A working class, gay black man who grew up in a religious household.
This sounds like it should be all doom and gloom yet whilst touching he will also hit you with a zinger that will make you laugh out loud. I don‘t have enough space here to say why I liked this so much so maybe just give it a go.

Weaponxgirl Him talking about his complicated relationship with his dad is an amazing chapter and really did affect me. For anyone with complicated relationships with parents this will really strike a nerve. 6mo
Weaponxgirl @GingerAntics I think you‘ll find this memoir interesting 6mo
GingerAntics “Why I‘ve put my faith in Beyoncé” ??? 6mo
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Weaponxgirl @GingerAntics he has great bit where he is talking about trying to reconcile himself with a religion which will only tolerate him. And yea beyonce! 🖤 6mo
GingerAntics That‘s sad. I don‘t understand how any parent could do that to their child. I always have. I was the weird “Catholic/Christian” who thought we should just love people. As a kid I remember asking my grandmother repeatedly, “If they‘re born that way, then God made them that way. So how are they sinning?” She never had an answer. 6mo
Weaponxgirl @GingerAntics it‘s a really interesting dynamic that is covered well in this book. A lot of love and a lot of pain too. I like hearing how individuals navigate their own life and conflicts. 6mo
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Weaponxgirl
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My book choices are often inspired by what is happening in the world. I follow a few feminist blogs and the Kevin Hart thing is still happening with a rare misstep from Ellen. I decided to listen to a book by someone those sort of comments do affect and I have to say it‘s interesting.
I‘m not religious so hearing about it from someone who felt their religion sometimes tolerated them is hard going for me.

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Kathrin
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Listen to my #audiobook while hanging out with the cat. #catsoflitsy

Texreader 😻❤️ 7mo
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Owlizabeth
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Today‘s little #libraryhaul is all about the essay.

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saguarosally
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1. I need to clean my keyboard.
2. Yes, probably. That could always change.
3. Black.
4. What‘s a bedroom? I‘ve gone so minimalist that I no longer even have a bedroom.😂
5. The ham and sides my sister made last night.
#HumpDayPost @MinDea

julesG You have a cupboard under the stairs? 😱 7mo
saguarosally @julesG I don‘t even have stairs! Have suitcase, will travel. 7mo
julesG 🙈🙈🙈 7mo
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julesG Is it at least similar to Mary Poppins' bag, or Newt Scamander's suitcase? 7mo
saguarosally @julesG I wish! I also wish it was only one bag! 7mo
QuietlyLaura @saguarosally @julesG Or it could be the Luggage that follows Rincewind around the DiscWorld! 😊 7mo
saguarosally @QuietlyLaura I better not be on the back of a turtle. 7mo
QuietlyLaura HaHa! I forgot about that bit. 😊 7mo
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SW-T
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That #dedication 😂

sprainedbrain That‘s awesome! 🙌🏻 9mo
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Smrloomis
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Placed a hold on this. I just listened to his NPR interview and enjoyed it: Fresh Air with Michael Arceneaux On Growing Up Black, Gay & Catholic In Texas http://rssr.link/fLHq

WhatDeeReads I am 4th in line. Very impatiently waiting. 9mo
Smrloomis @WhatDeeReads you‘ll have to let me know how it is. I have 6 weeks until a copy will be available! 9mo
WhatDeeReads @Smrloomis Loved it. Had to push through the beginning. It was a little uncomfortable. Rest of the book was great. I LOL a lot. 8mo
Smrloomis @WhatDeeReads Awesome, thanks for letting me know! I still have two weeks to go and am looking forward to getting it finally. 8mo
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Expandingbookshelf
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Pickpick

I loved this book. I‘m sure Beyoncé loved this book. What more do you need?

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Nitpickyabouttrains
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Mehso-so

I have enjoyed Arceneaux‘s essays in the past, but this collection did not do it for me. Some essays were great but most seemed self indulgent to me. He was not speaking to me or trying to connect at all with my demographic.

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Sometimes you just read the dedication and know you‘re going to love the book...